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My online Destiny experience is a sausagefest

Most of my friends who are girls that play online (2-3 play Destiny) refuse to pick up mics anymore and one has actually changed her psn due to guys stalking her/constantly harassing her.
 
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I do.

You'll never see me have a mic on with randoms, but I don't mind at all talking with Gaffers.
 
bananafactory said:
ITT I learned all the female gamers are playing MMOs
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Well not all obviously, but I have noticed that they're more inclined towards RPGs in general. (Strictly talking about gaming enthusiast girl gamers)

Those games tend to have female character creations... Who would have thunk it =p ?
 
I regularly play with a female friend. Other than that I believe I've only encountered one other woman in the game while raiding.
 
From what I've seen and read most girls avoid using mikes because the second people find out she's a girl they start:

A.) Hitting on her

B.) Catcalling and other juvenile crap.

C.) Both A and B
 
There's a few who regularly post in the Destiny OT's. I think you'll find that there's more men in online gaming than women for the majority of games, it's not a Destiny exclusive thing.
 
Ok?

How is this any different from other games? And there are few here from the OT that regularly play. Not sure if it's appropriate to call them out, though.
 
The group I play with every night has a couple females. They enjoy destiny. They wont talk to randoms online since most randoms get all crazy as soon as the hear a girls voice.
 
Im assuming OP isn't confusing the games matchmaking system with an actual matchmaking service?

But really, just because there online IDs aren't XXXGAMERGIRLXXX and theyre not yapping away on a mic desnt mean you havent being playing with them..... and I really don't see why it makes any difference to your experiance?

...I certainly don't care who im playing against/with as long as they're not some chucklefuck actively trying to ruin my game.
 
I know a couple of girls who play games, but one plays primarily single player RPGs, the other plays almost exclusively Nintendo games.
 
I've played with more females in one week of Destiny Beta than the entirety of the OP's Destiny career. Let that sink in, OP.
 
But the industry advocacy group told me more than 50% of gamers are women and the average age is 34.

You must be doing it wrong.
 
I have been playing games online since the 90's. It is hard to really say who is a women or not in games though unless you are voice chat with them. The game in which I played with the most women was in Quake believe it or not. There is more than likely plenty of women you play Destiny, you just don't know who they are.
 
All the ladies play the real mmorpg called FFXIV....and no I'm not kidding. They are amazing at that game...guild leader is one of the best controller users I have ever seen for managing that many skills....I use mouse and keyboard on ps4 lol.
 
My girlfriend played about 30 hours on my account, mostly PvP. Neither of us use a mic for PUGs, so you couldn't really tell.
 
BibiMaghoo said:
Maybe they just don't use mics.
Maybe, they don't use them for a good reason.
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Probably. I joined a random PSN friend and he was playing with his girlfriend. Maybe one other time there was a Raid I was in with one female. Don't think anyone spoke much that session anyway.

I wouldn't blame em. Interaction already takes far too much energy for me, can't imagine being actively annoyed all the time at the same time too.
 
Keep in mind that you don't talk to 95% of the people you play Destiny with anyway, since voice chat is disabled by default in both Strike Playlists and Crucible. So already your chances of running into a girl a pretty slim. You've probably played alongside quite a few and never known it.

My first Crota Hard Mode kill was with a female in our raid group. My newbie VoG run was with a lady as well.

Everytime there's been a woman in groups I've run, everyone has been super chill and respectful.

MissKissThis87 is a pretty popular Destiny streamer, who usually helps noobs in her chat channel run Nightfalls and Raids.
 
Shooting games are more of a guy thing. My mother always complains when I play "killing games." I've played many hours of COD and I've encountered a whopping 3 women that entire time. I think this number might be a bit higher if people used their mics more. Most players do not.
 
samuraidino said:
Im assuming OP isn't confusing the games matchmaking system with an actual matchmaking service?

But really, just because there online IDs aren't XXXGAMERGIRLXXX and theyre not yapping away on a mic desnt mean you havent being playing with them..... and I really don't see why it makes any difference to your experiance?
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Given that I'm married, no?

It makes a significant difference in the experience, if you've listened to young-college-age-guys-party-chat.wmv enough times, vs gender-balanced-mumble-server.wmv, you would understand.

To some extent it doesn't surprise me, so much as it saddens me, but even accounting for kneejerk gender preferences (not going to be as many women playing an fps/a competitive fps/blah blah), Destiny is still a huge, popular game with a lot of exposure. And it has a significant pve/cooperative component with no mandatory pvp (again, assuming you're buying into the stereotypes of preferences).

I went out of my way to add people in Destiny, because like a lot of people, my PSN friends list was small when I started playing. Even going so far as accepting cold invites from name__85853 in the tower. And yet despite that... nope.

So it's not 'holy shit, there's a lot of young guys that play Destiny?!', so much as it is 'holy shit, I added a fuckton of people and joined a lot of random parties, and I never* ran into any women'.

(*There may well have been a few in there that didn't use the mic, and aforementioned girlfriends/wives in the background, but no sustained, regular players in any of my groups or friends groups).
 
I play with female friends on there so yes there are women playing. They also use destiny lfg and other things to find parties.

However I know one of them has said they no longer want to use those services because the last few times have ended up with guys that bug them about being female.
 
Yep, I'm with you on this one. I have no idea why but every player I've "met", as in, gotten on voice chat with, has been male.

None of my female RL friends picked up this game and these were women that played COD, Halo, and GTA Online on the Xbox 360.
 
You might've bumped into a few who were scared of using their mics due to harassment etc
Also they might not use public fire team sites for the very same reason, so you wouldn't have encountered them "in the wild"
 
I'm not even a girl, and I refuse to use public fireteam chat.

Get heavily involved in raiding and custom groups and eventually you'll run into more women.
 
I hear guys go weird if they hear a female voice, given how easy it is to forgo the social aspect because the communication aspect is rather lacking in Destiny I'd fly under the radar myself if that happened to me too often.
 
Played some dungeons in FF14 with some girls and they were pretty nice helping a noob like me. Outside of that, i don't remember encountering random girls online. The ones i play are the ones i already know irl.
 
If you reveal yourself to be a girl in an online game you'll get one of three reactions.

1. Guys are going to be overly nice and start competing for your attention/wanting to help you out/try to give you things/'protect you'. Maybe they'll get in on that sexy time.
2. They are going to harass you/be dicks/annoying, 'grills can't play gamez. Get back in the kitchen'
3. They don't care and treat you like any other guy in the game, this is the least likely thing to happen.

This is just my observations through the years of online games so I understand why girls don't reveal their gender.
 
Check out the Twitch streams. Lots of females there playing, and if you're nice in chat they'll even let you join them in PVP or PVE.
 
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