Holding your SO's purse

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Yesterday while I was out with my SO she asked me to hold her purse, I say "of course" thinking she is probably just going to do something quick and ask for it back. But then she starts walking so I ask her, do you mean actually walk with your purse? When she says yes I hand her back her purse and tell her that if she doesn't want to walk with it or if it's too heavy we can go back to the car and leave it there.

She got pretty upset but I just didn't feel right walking around holding her purse. Today I asked a female co worker what she thought about that and she said she was most likely testing to see if I was willing to put aside masculinity for her. But she also said that doing so wasn't exactly in my best interest.

So my question is, what would or have most of you done when facing this situation, and was I really a jerk for not just holding my SO's purse? Also her purse really stands out this is what she has.
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Edit: to answer some questions that have been asked through out the thread. Her purse is not heavy by any means. She carries her hygiene products and her sunglasses. Her cellphone which has a case for her cards is usually in my pocket so her purse doesn't weight even a pound more than when it's empty. The reason I returned the purse was because the only reason she gave me to carry her purse was "I just want you to carry it for me".
 
I'm a lonely pushover, so I think I'd do it even though it'd make me feel really awkward due to my "please don't look at me" anxiety.
 
For a moment? To adjust herself or something? Yes.

Walking with it if she's perfectly healthy? No! She's a big girl.
 
If you're so concerned, don't put it over your shoulder or wear it like a purse, and just hold it like you'd hold anything...

You may not be a jerk, OP, but that's pretty childish.


That said, it's her bag, she should be carrying it. But image isn't the issue here.
 
Dude, fuck. That. Shit. As a dj I hated that. "Hey watch my purse" while I am djing at a club. So now I have to watch to make sure it does not get stolen I have to be responsible if anything is missing? It's in the booth so nothing ever got lost but still that annoyed me. Not the bag just being responsible for it.
 
I wouldn't mind holding the purse, but never by the strap. Hold it like you would hold a bunch of rolled up newspapers.
 
King Cobra said:
So my question is, what would or have most of you done when facing this situation, and was I really a jerk for not just holding my SO's purse?
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If she's doing something with her hands or would otherwise make it hard for her to carry, of course. Just because, nah, she can carry that shit.

Of course, the cardinal rule is: never hold the purse by the straps. It like makes you a chick or something.
 
Who gives a shit? Why wouldn't you help your SO for a little bit if they were tired? Do you not help carry the groceries in? If she didnt want to carry the groceries in, she shouldn't have bough them.
 
What kind of person would want to "test" someone by seeing if they would put aside their masculinity?

It's no big deal to hold it for awhile if she's doing something etc, but to expect someone to hold your bag for an extended period for no real reason is baffling. She should carry her own bag.
 
I always carry my SO purse when she gets tired from holding it after a couple of hours. What's the big deal its a damn purse won't make you less manly for carrying it.
 
My SO wouldn't ask to carry her purse just for fun, or testing my masculinity. So yeah, I'd carry it because I'd assume she has a good reason to ask.
 
I don't know why you care what a bunch of people you'll probably never see again think about you. They probably won't even remember that they saw you by the end of the day.

Though if she's just being lazy that's kind of a shitty move. I wouldn't carry it in that case.
 
Do not hold her purse unless she's going to the bathroom or something.

Tell her to wear something with pockets if she doesn't want to hold a purse.
 
As a man with experience, I can tell you that you gotta do your best to hold that shit like a man.

Don't put it over your shoulder, just choke up on the strap and hold it like its a bag of groceries. Trust me, it looks way cooler.

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Well, my SO would never have a purse so I'm safe from this quandary. That said, if this is accurate:

King Cobra said:
Today I asked a female co worker what she thought about that and she said she was most likely testing to see if I was willing to put aside masculinity for her.
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then that's pretty messed up. How old is your SO? Fifteen?

Obviously it's hearsay but it's kind of weird your SO would show up with a purse and not want to carry it. If you don't want it then you shouldn't have brought it. That said, holding a purse is a pretty inconsequential burden (for either party).
 
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I cannot believe there are men who still have this hangup in the year 2015.
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I wouldn't carry a male friend's bag either, unless there is poor health or physically unable.

Grown able body adults should carry their personal bags.

Carry again not hold. I don't mind holding bags.
 
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What is she carrying in that thing that makes her so tired?
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I dunno she puts a lot of crap on her purse that I wouldn't even think about carrying. Biggest thing I've seen in her purse is a mini-umbrella.

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Her usual things are stuff like her phone, makeup, keys, sun-glasses, reading glasses, stuff like that.
 
If your girl wants you to hold her purse who cares. I mean as long as your not holding it every time you go out it's not a big deal.

Your SO's opinion on it is really all that matters (within reason).
 
I'll hold it when she needs me told it but I ain't carrying that shit forever. I'm pretty childish so I'll wave that bag in her face till she takes it back lol.

The trick is to buy her a pricey one so she keeps it on her all the time as a fashion accessory.

Michael Kors is good.
 
It's the possession of someone you care about. I think it's more a slight against your masculinity to worry what others think over the act of holding the bag of your girlfriend.

If you're worried about appearances just hold the whole thing with one hand, no need to put on the strap, unless the bag is heavy. If it's heavy, carry it, and if you get a de-masculating look from another man, just shrug. Who cares?
 
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