LookAtMeGo
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Could you just move in for the duration of the lease? Convince one of the other roomates to trade places with you.
Girlfriend Stuck in 1 Year Bedroom Lease with Ex-Boyfriend: Advice?
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Oh snap! lol.
off duty ninja
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Looks like everybody is moving way to fast these days. That was an even crazier acceleration than op's! He likes to spoon so we KNOW rape is the next logical step.
Frozenprince
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Literally every aspect of this story, including your involvement, are weird and unhealthy.
This will not end well.
This will not end well.
Ninja Scooter
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She can't if he's on the lease. He's got legal right to be there.
The sleeping in the same bed thing is baffling, like, she can't put a blanket on the floor, even out of respect to her new "boyfriend"?
Aizen.S.Kennedy
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Why can't she kick rocks? She is the one who Ended the relationship and caused the leasing trouble.
These threads always side with the women tho. I was thinking this one wouldn't and most sane ppl would suggest she sleeps on the couch and make him pay his equal part of the 1000 a month.
snoopeasystreet
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the easiest solution is you paying 300 of the rent to your girlfriend and get in the middle as a buffer zone
Inferno313
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Getting your first GF is exciting, OP. I get it. Having the most basic of standards, like not dating someone who sleeps with another dude, might be a good idea though.
Reckheim
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This is the biggest red flag, it just doesn't make sense. She isn't being genuine with OP imo.
Ninja Scooter
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The Ex doesn't sound like he's going to make this easy. He sounds like he still wants her. Why the fuck would anyone willingly enter that sitiation? Nobody should ever be that fuckin thirsty. Have some self respect dude.
Ray Wonder
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This sounds real familiar to my situation. Except she wasn't stuck in a lease and she moved out within a week or so of me meeting her, and they didn't sleep in the same bed.
TBH I almost called it off because of the baggage, I even told her I was. It wasn't as bad as your situation. There's a lot more red flags with you. Like the "sleeping at that place because she misses her pets" sounds more like "sleeping at home because she misses her ex"
TBH I almost called it off because of the baggage, I even told her I was. It wasn't as bad as your situation. There's a lot more red flags with you. Like the "sleeping at that place because she misses her pets" sounds more like "sleeping at home because she misses her ex"
snoopeasystreet
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Maybe they leased the mattress too.
That's if he is actually her ex...
never change GAF.
OP are you fucking serious. Can you please read what you wrote out loud. You can't be that fucking dense.
Your "girlfriend" is straight up sleeping with another man every other night.
You sound like the oblivious idiot in some stupid rom-com. Man the fuck up and tell her to get her shit together if she wants to date you.
OP are you fucking serious. Can you please read what you wrote out loud. You can't be that fucking dense.
Your "girlfriend" is straight up sleeping with another man every other night.
You sound like the oblivious idiot in some stupid rom-com. Man the fuck up and tell her to get her shit together if she wants to date you.
lol, gold.
ghostofsparta
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Absolutely this. I hate to be a dick, but is this your first girlfriend? Im having a hard time understanding why you'd even entertain the idea of a relationship with her. Not just that, but going as far as letting her move in with you. I don't know you OP but you have to be better than this.
Earthstrike
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Have her move out into your place and stop paying the landlord altogether. The guy won't be able to afford the rent and therefore cannot do anything. When the landlord sues, she can simply settle for all the rent on the condition the boyfriend is out.
If they signed the lease, they are both responsible.
Also, if the guy is spooning and trying to kiss your girl and she doesn't want it, its pretty much sexual assault. She shouldn't allow herself to be sexually assaulted. Make it clear that starting immediately, she isn't in that situation.
If they signed the lease, they are both responsible.
Also, if the guy is spooning and trying to kiss your girl and she doesn't want it, its pretty much sexual assault. She shouldn't allow herself to be sexually assaulted. Make it clear that starting immediately, she isn't in that situation.
Aizen.S.Kennedy
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Lmao 😂. I choked on my lemonade thanks.
Bingo. The whole "she hates waking up with him spooning her in the twin bed they share" bit is absolutely absurd. Come on, OP.
onadesertedisland
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You should back off from this situation. It's not your deal to be fixing this for her. If she can't fix it. it's a bad, bad, bad sign.
LookAtMeGo
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OP needs to move in there and assert his dominance.
You're making a poor choice moving this fast, but I'll approach the situation like you're a platonic friend trying to help her out.
It all boils down to whose name is on the lease. With them both on it, she'll need to break it to get out from under it. Seems like it'd be worth it.
It all boils down to whose name is on the lease. With them both on it, she'll need to break it to get out from under it. Seems like it'd be worth it.
She is choosing to sleep with him in a cramped twin bed rather than any other viable option. She is failing to establish any kind of boundaries whatsoever. Guy probably thinks the relationship is repairable or doesn't even know he is an "ex" and she is lying to the OP.
FTFY
These comments are amazing, haha. I know it's a totally fucked scenario, and I'm really just reaching out to get an idea of the options she has as far as getting him out of the apartment, or at least getting herself out.
And we're not actually calling each other boyfriend/girlfriend yet; that's reserved for when we finally sort this out. I just wanted as simple a title as possible for the thread.
I know what she's going through; hell, it doesn't even come close to the shit show I had for the first half of 2016.
I've been there and beyond, and I got my shit sorted out, but not without the help of some friends (and friends with benefits) along the way. I'd like to help her through in a similar way to the ways in which my friends helped me through.
And we're not actually calling each other boyfriend/girlfriend yet; that's reserved for when we finally sort this out. I just wanted as simple a title as possible for the thread.
I know what she's going through; hell, it doesn't even come close to the shit show I had for the first half of 2016.
I've been there and beyond, and I got my shit sorted out, but not without the help of some friends (and friends with benefits) along the way. I'd like to help her through in a similar way to the ways in which my friends helped me through.
Teriyaki Blues
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If OP's story is legit and girl and ex are broken up, dude is already sexually assaulting her on the regular. It isn't uncommon for already abusive guys to do really bad things to women who try and end things romantically.
Again, this makes the huge assumption that the story OP is giving out is on the level. I don't understand why she wouldn't just break herself off the lease in that situation. I've done it myself for other reasons in the past, and paying three months rent is way preferable to living with someone you can't stand while paying twelve months rent.
So tell her to walk. If they're all on the lease, they're all responsible. If she bails, he has to pick up the slack.
Either that, or file a police complaint.
This.
If this is truly an issue for her, she'll do one of the above: walk or call police. If not, she's just not that into you.
Frozenprince
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Seriously. This screams DANGER WILL ROBINSON DANGER.
Bail out dude, it's not worth the hassle.
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