Brown-GAF can culture check me on this one, but I feel like I was always raised to be deferring to other people.
Like...in the culture I was raised in, even if you want something, you say no.  My mom used to tell me a story about how my father's cousin came to visit when I was born and my mom only asked her twice if she wanted some lunch one day.  My dad's cousin went back to Bangladesh and talked about how rude my mom was for not giving her any food.  I get in to this weird cultural clash with people because I'll get offered things I want and immediately say no thanks and they assume I didn't actually want it.
So with that sort of thing, I feel like I'm always in the background of social situations.  I'm incredibly passive in most things, so even when I'm out partying with friends, I feel like I'm there as part of a group behind other people rather than just me being there.
I think I realized recently that I live my life really passively but I also feel it's too ingrained in me to change easily.