Haha I don't know if you're be serious or not but this is a very entertaining post.
Look, he hasn't known her too long, and he really does enjoy her company. She wants to explain herself, and he wants to listen.
Thinking of yourself in an internal alpha/beta battle is reckless and prone to unleash your insecurities in all kinds of unproductive ways when you finally do fall in love.
Until that day, be civilized and manage your emotions well enough to move on without being abrupt, insecure, or hurtful.
I see nothing here that's not what I said. Also, funny how it's entertaining, and yet nothing's been counter-argued. I guess it's both funny and unarguable to you, and I can live with that.
What is that you want from OP though? You want him to stay friends with a girl he's physically attracted to? How is that emotionally and mentally stable? It's a self-destructive path, in which this girl will follow this poor fellow along. She'll want him there for moral support, be he'll be there clinging to something that will never be.
We are animals. Go read up on ethology and come back to me. Beta/Alpha are not made up words to describe the nice guy/bad boy, they are indeed social constructs. But these are moldable, and OP has a chance to snap out of his infatuation by distancing from her. Something only an Alpha does naturally. He just has to do it through encouragement.
He's not becoming an Alpha, he's simply borrowing its good traits.
There's no life manual for when you truly fall in love. When you fall in love, Alpha or Beta, that person will fall in love for who you naturally are. The task at hand is not letting OP believe this is it. And that probably won't happen any time soon. He comes first for himself, then others. Going to this meeting to listen to her doesn't make him "understanding", it will make him clingy, because she will offer a friendship his hopeful self simply cannot resist: being "good" friends with the girl he's physically attracted to until the off-chance she changes her mind.
Also note how I didn't tell him not to be friends with her. His distancing is nothing but a tool to help him get over her; to take him back a few notches if you will, to the level of relationship she can only accept. Having unbalanced expectations, the relationship is only recipe for failure, both physically and emotionally.
Where did I imply that?
He said he wants to remain friends with the girl. If it's going to cause him heartache he should explain that that to the girl before taking his leave. She would understand. I've had people just ignore me because I rejected them, and it's really rude. I've had more people become very cherished friends of mine after I explained that I was already in a relationship. They have girlfriends (I've even set some of them up) and we all hang out and it's great. Friendships can work, and I don't see a reason to just throw it away because the internet said that it's beta to befriend a woman. If he can't be friends with her then he should just tell her that and not be friends and that's fine. If he can get over his feelings and be friends why not? It's going to be hard ignoring her if they study together and hang out with the same group.
All the beta insults are making your argument kind of incoherent. I know there's a point int there somewhere but it all just reads like "you're a wuss if you meet up with this girl tomorrow and/or want to be her friend!"
Oh, good. Nice of you to agree with me, but disagree with two words I used. If I change "beta" in my previous comment with another word, will that make you feel better?
Those who associate being Beta or Alpha to positive or negative social constructs are damn wrong to assume so, because that's not what they are. Just don't think those terms were made up to affront socially-inept guys; to the contrary, they were made to describe, not insult. We are nothing but evolved apes, still subject to an eusocial framework. He's not becoming an Alpha, he's merely borrowing useful Alpha traits that come naturally to others. He'll still be who he is.
