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[demented]

In a club, a bar, a pub or a setting like that, after initial greeting and few sentences exchanged I talk about situational stuff or anything that comes to mind, but often nothing does which causes me to prematurely pull out and try to close, need more time to build attraction to number close or further so my question is when my brain lags wtf do I go to, what do I talk about? During the day and the dates I can usually figure shit up but sometimes it happens there too so yeah, what to talk about?

P.s. typos due to ipad in bed
Edit: reminder to weigh in on who pays topic tomorrow.

 

[MogCakes]

Alright GAF, i'm at a fork of sorts. There are two women in one of my classes that I'm attracted to for different reasons, and since the class is quite close (and small) if I go for one of them the other door will shut so to speak. One of them is pretty quiet and reserved, but cute (both personality and looks) and hella intelligent. The other is personable, comfortable to be around, and very attractive to boot. Who would you choose in my shoes? I've been around the first one longer (we shared a class previously) and one of my classmates is always trying to wingman me, I've just been hesitant (she has a poker face, impossible to read). The other girl is just straight up easy to make conversation with and incredibly attractive. What do?

 

[Magni]

Alright GAF, i'm at a fork of sorts. There are two women in one of my classes that I'm attracted to for different reasons, and since the class is quite close (and small) if I go for one of them the other door will shut so to speak. One of them is pretty quiet and reserved, but cute (both personality and looks) and hella intelligent. The other is personable, comfortable to be around, and very attractive to boot. Who would you choose in my shoes? I've been around the first one longer (we shared a class previously) and one of my classmates is always trying to wingman me, I've just been hesitant (she has a poker face, impossible to read). The other girl is just straight up easy to make conversation with and incredibly attractive. What do?

I have no idea, so I'll apply some math :lol

Let P, L, and I correspond to the importance you attach to personality, looks, and intelligence respectively. 0 ≤ P,L,I ≤ 1 and P + L + I = 1

From your post, you prefer the second girl's looks and personality, but consider the first girl more intelligent. You need to quantify how much more or less proportionally in each case: π = 0.X (first girl is π times as personable as second girl), λ = 0.X (first girl is λ times as good looking as second girl), and ι = 1.X (first girl is ι times as smart as second girl, could be 2.X if she's at least twice as intelligent as second girl, etc).

Then just plug in the numbers. If Pπ + Lλ + Iι is greater than 1, go with girl A, if it's less than 1, go with girl B. If it's exactly 1, flip a coin.

Spoiler

I'm not really serious haha, go with whatever your gut feeling tells you

 

[electricshake]

Alright GAF, i'm at a fork of sorts. There are two women in one of my classes that I'm attracted to for different reasons, and since the class is quite close (and small) if I go for one of them the other door will shut so to speak. One of them is pretty quiet and reserved, but cute (both personality and looks) and hella intelligent. The other is personable, comfortable to be around, and very attractive to boot. Who would you choose in my shoes? I've been around the first one longer (we shared a class previously) and one of my classmates is always trying to wingman me, I've just been hesitant (she has a poker face, impossible to read). The other girl is just straight up easy to make conversation with and incredibly attractive. What do?

Flirt with both and see who responds better - you'll probably have a better chance with her. Unless you know they both like you, in which case either go for the hotter one if you just want to sleep with her, or the one you think you'll connect with more if you want a relationship.

 

[anarckitty]

One of my best friends in college that I met when I started college a year and a half ago has been in a relationship for about a year and she always jokes about how she can't imagine actually spending her life with him but that that's totally a possibility now since its college and stuff and how that's really weird. So it sounds like she might break up with him at some point but I don't know and we had a nice time hanging out last weekend and just talking and so now I've got my hopes up when I shouldn't while also feeling like a total dick for hoping that she'll break up with him.

Jealousy is a bitch, Gaf, what do?

Hmm. Sounds like she isn't too sure of her relationship, and that she might actually be attracted to you. It's just one of those things that has to run its course though. You could always do some friendly flirting, but I wouldn't let her keep you from looking elsewhere. You deserve a girl who is totally into you and not just "testing the waters" so to speak.

In a club, a bar, a pub or a setting like that, after initial greeting and few sentences exchanged I talk about situational stuff or anything that comes to mind, but often nothing does which causes me to prematurely pull out and try to close, need more time to build attraction to number close or further so my question is when my brain lags wtf do I go to, what do I talk about? During the day and the dates I can usually figure shit up but sometimes it happens there too so yeah, what to talk about?

P.s. typos due to ipad in bed
Edit: reminder to weigh in on who pays topic tomorrow.

Is there anything you're passionate about? You could always ask what she thinks about that. Also, you could always ask what she does for a living, if she's going to school, what field she's studying in, etc.

Alright GAF, i'm at a fork of sorts. There are two women in one of my classes that I'm attracted to for different reasons, and since the class is quite close (and small) if I go for one of them the other door will shut so to speak. One of them is pretty quiet and reserved, but cute (both personality and looks) and hella intelligent. The other is personable, comfortable to be around, and very attractive to boot. Who would you choose in my shoes? I've been around the first one longer (we shared a class previously) and one of my classmates is always trying to wingman me, I've just been hesitant (she has a poker face, impossible to read). The other girl is just straight up easy to make conversation with and incredibly attractive. What do?

Hmmm. You really are at a fork. What type of personality do you like most in a girl? Is there any difference in how these girls interact with you, other than the incredibly attractive girl being easier to talk to? It may just be her nature to be more talkative and easy going no matter who she interacts with. I have no idea how this girl is, but some people are just like that with everyone they talk to.

 

[LosDaddie]

Have some standards and realize that you could have such an amazing abundance of opportunities that letting go of one is meaningless.

Totally, Broseph. You're the only one with standards here.

One of my best friends in college that I met when I started college a year and a half ago has been in a relationship for about a year and she always jokes about how she can't imagine actually spending her life with him but that that's totally a possibility now since its college and stuff and how that's really weird. So it sounds like she might break up with him at some point but I don't know and we had a nice time hanging out last weekend and just talking and so now I've got my hopes up when I shouldn't while also feeling like a total dick for hoping that she'll break up with him.

Jealousy is a bitch, Gaf, what do?

What do? Well, first you can start being honest with yourself that you're really not her "friend" at all. You're just waiting around/spending time with her in hopes that one day you get to smash and/or date her.

Don't feel bad, though. This is very common.

 

[mt1200]

There are several hot girls at the gym I began attenting to this year, two of them are from the same high school I graduated years ago, though they weren't on my same class but I can remember them. The bad thing is that those girls don't know me, I was a very silent/shy and let´s say unpopular kid back then, so i'ts normal that they didn't know who I was when I greeted them, in fact, one of them was quite nervous ( I'ts easy to tell, body language isn't too hard to read) which made me feel a bit like a creep.

I'm not sure about picking up girls at the gym, since most of them have very good physique, so I look like a weak pushover next to them, and those girls from my high school are probably not interested in anyone but those ripped gym instructors, besides I can't think in anything to talk about without being boring or annoying.

Besides, I always try to assume that every girl already has a BF, because in my experience that always happens, well, at least at my workplace and college.

So basically, that's what partially keeps me from picking up women at gym.

 

[Deleted member 47027]

Man, I hate when suddenly for a whole week you get signals that things may go somewhere and suddenly, poof, back to before.

Sucks.

It's possible that they were being misinterpreted, or something in her personal life may have come up that shuts that down. Don't get too hung up on it. Keep an open mind and don't get too baffled, there are many forces at work.

Alright GAF, i'm at a fork of sorts. There are two women in one of my classes that I'm attracted to for different reasons, and since the class is quite close (and small) if I go for one of them the other door will shut so to speak. One of them is pretty quiet and reserved, but cute (both personality and looks) and hella intelligent. The other is personable, comfortable to be around, and very attractive to boot. Who would you choose in my shoes? I've been around the first one longer (we shared a class previously) and one of my classmates is always trying to wingman me, I've just been hesitant (she has a poker face, impossible to read). The other girl is just straight up easy to make conversation with and incredibly attractive. What do?

Go with the person that makes sense. Don't get roped into some kind of confusing "I don't know what she means!" odyssey. Go with the second one. Make conversation. Don't bullshit. Be yo self.

There are several hot girls at the gym I began attenting to this year, two of them are from the same high school I graduated years ago, though they weren't on my same class but I can remember them. The bad thing is that those girls don't know me, I was a very silent/shy and let´s say unpopular kid back then, so i'ts normal that they didn't know who I was when I greeted them, in fact, one of them was quite nervous ( I'ts easy to tell, body language isn't too hard to read) which made me feel a bit like a creep.

I'm not sure about picking up girls at the gym, since most of them have very good physique, so I look like a weak pushover next to them, and those girls from my high school are probably not interested in anyone but those ripped gym instructors, besides I can't think in anything to talk about without being boring or annoying.

Besides, I always try to assume that every girl already has a BF, because in my experience that always happens, well, at least at my workplace and college.

So basically, that's what partially keeps me from picking up women at gym.

HIGHLY recommend not EVER picking up girls at the gym. They're there to work. Abandon this idea unless you are approached. I spend a lot of time at the gym and I've never, EVER seen this go well, even with attractive brahs talkin to ladies. The gym is a place for self improvement, not picking people up. Just don't do it my dude.

 

[mt1200]

HIGHLY recommend not EVER picking up girls at the gym. They're there to work. Abandon this idea unless you are approached. I spend a lot of time at the gym and I've never, EVER seen this go well, even with attractive brahs talkin to ladies. The gym is a place for self improvement, not picking people up. Just don't do it my dude.

Well, the same could be said for several places like office or college, I don't go out to clubs in fact I dislike them, so I don't have too many options to meet people.

I'd discard college due to the fact that I study through distance learning, so I rarely go there, and I avoid online dating because of things like this

 

[Deleted member 47027]

Well, the same could be said for several places like office or college, I don't go out to clubs in fact I dislike them, so I don't have too many options to meet people.

I'd discard college due to the fact that I study through distance learning, so I rarely go there, and I avoid online dating because of things like this

Alright well godspeed if you still do it, there's always a chance it will work. I also don't recommend office dating for what that's worth same with picking up waitresses.

 

[Magni]

Well, the same could be said for several places like office or college, I don't go out to clubs in fact I dislike them, so I don't have too many options to meet people.

I'd discard college due to the fact that I study through distance learning, so I rarely go there, and I avoid online dating because of things like this

What about pubs/bars? Also, I've no experience with online dating, but you have to admit a tourist getting kidnapped in Colombia isn't the most common thing...

If you really want to try your chance at the gym, ffs do NOT disturb them while they're working out, wait until they're done and try your luck on the way out.

 

[PflargBlarg]

One of my best friends in college that I met when I started college a year and a half ago has been in a relationship for about a year and she always jokes about how she can't imagine actually spending her life with him but that that's totally a possibility now since its college and stuff and how that's really weird. So it sounds like she might break up with him at some point but I don't know and we had a nice time hanging out last weekend and just talking and so now I've got my hopes up when I shouldn't while also feeling like a total dick for hoping that she'll break up with him.

Jealousy is a bitch, Gaf, what do?

Another point is that it sounds like you're just hanging out with her and being 'nice' on the off chance that she breaks up with him and goes to you. If that's really how it is you need to be aware of that, because it's easy to build up resentment and make it a weird situation.

 

[ZombieFred]

Well tonight has certainly been interesting with a girl I have only been going out for three months and I don't know how what to do (interesting that I can give good advice but not on my own self!), but basically I have got a close family friend wedding coming up in March and I not thought much on about it and forgot and then she comes across the card and gets offended why she wasn't invited and so fourth. I wasn't good at answering but I expressed that it's just a wedding and don't see it as a big deal and not to sure on the whole thing as not into the wedding scene and happy to stick to seeing family and by myself since I am like that a little in the shy way (if it's close family but when hanging with friends I am so out there) and she just found it awkward and gave me the silent treatment and went home.

Am I in the wrong here for not seeing it as much as a big deal with how she got offended on me being thoughtless on the whole thing? We've only been going out for three months and I thought my answer why was justified.

 

[Deleted member 47027]

Well tonight has certainly been interesting with a girl I have only been going out for three months and I don't know how what to do (interesting that I can give good advice but not on my own self!), but basically I have got a close family friend wedding coming up in March and I not thought much on about it and forgot and then she comes across the card and gets offended why she wasn't invited and so fourth. I wasn't good at answering but I expressed that it's just a wedding and don't see it as a big deal and not to sure on the whole thing as not into the wedding scene and happy to stick to seeing family and by myself since I am like that a little in the shy way (if it's close family but when hanging with friends I am so out there) and she just found it awkward and gave me the silent treatment and went home.

Am I in the wrong here for not seeing it as much as a big deal with how she got offended on me being thoughtless on the whole thing? We've only been going out for three months and I thought my answer why was justified.

People have different expectations when you get invited to a wedding. Just tell her that inviting people to weddings sometimes scares them off, and you didn't want to make a scene - but if she's honestly cool with it, do it up. Stress you didn't want to drive her away, but don't make her feel unimportant.

 

[Astral]

HIGHLY recommend not EVER picking up girls at the gym. They're there to work. Abandon this idea unless you are approached. I spend a lot of time at the gym and I've never, EVER seen this go well, even with attractive brahs talkin to ladies. The gym is a place for self improvement, not picking people up. Just don't do it my dude.

I personally agree since I myself would be very annoyed if anyone talked to me at the gym. If it's a cute girl maybe not initially, but after I realize how much time has passed I'd probably get a little pissed. Anyway, there's this one girl at my school gym who is often hit on. She's fucking gorgeous. Her proportions don't even make sense. I watched as some guy went up to her and they started talking. For 45 minutes. In the same fucking spot. After it was over I tried to read her face to see if she was angry but she looked pretty content. I'm guessing it went well because they started working out together for about 3 weeks and looked like they were having a good time. Then I never saw them together again. It's just her again now. The same thing happened with some other guy but I payed less attention to it. I'm not sure what point I'm trying to make. Just sharing a story I guess.

 

[ZombieFred]

People have different expectations when you get invited to a wedding. Just tell her that inviting people to weddings sometimes scares them off, and you didn't want to make a scene - but if she's honestly cool with it, do it up. Stress you didn't want to drive her away, but don't make her feel unimportant.

Well she seems pretty fine after getting a tax with a happy face and saying she is back so I guess she understood where I was coming from. Weird.

 

[Deleted member 47027]

I personally agree since I myself would be very annoyed if anyone talked to me at the gym. If it's a cute girl maybe not initially, but after I realize how much time has passed I'd probably get a little pissed. Anyway, there's this one girl at my school gym who is often hit on. She's fucking gorgeous. Her proportions don't even make sense. I watched as some guy went up to her and they started talking. For 45 minutes. In the same fucking spot. After it was over I tried to read her face to see if she was angry but she looked pretty content. I'm guessing it went well because they started working out together for about 3 weeks and looked like they were having a good time. Then I never saw them together again. It's just her again now. The same thing happened with some other guy but I payed less attention to it. I'm not sure what point I'm trying to make. Just sharing a story I guess.

Yeah. One of the shitty things about hitting on someone in the gym and it NOT happening is that in your mind, you both will say "Well fuck, I can't come back to this gym anymore or else I have to deal with the person who hit on me. goddammit" so it's best to keep it outta there.

Well she seems pretty fine after getting a tax with a happy face and saying she is back so I guess she understood where I was coming from. Weird.

no harm no foul, but hey now you got a backup reason.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

Okay...

so she e-mailed me and kinda stole my opening line in that "Hey, it's weird that a total stranger is e-mailing you" was the gist of it.

I'm trying to think of a good reply.

heyyyyyyyyyyyyy, what if she turned out to be reading this thread on GAF? Trippy.

 

[Minamu]

Okay...

so she e-mailed me and kinda stole my opening line in that "Hey, it's weird that a total stranger is e-mailing you" was the gist of it.

I'm trying to think of a good reply.

heyyyyyyyyyyyyy, what if she turned out to be reading this thread on GAF? Trippy.

Continue playing off the idea that she is a stranger. Maybe you need a restraining order? As long as you keep it light hearted, it should be fine.

 

[beat]

heyyyyyyyyyyyyy, what if she turned out to be reading this thread on GAF? Trippy.

Then reply with sunsetplane.jpg.

 

[freshair]

In a club, a bar, a pub or a setting like that, after initial greeting and few sentences exchanged I talk about situational stuff or anything that comes to mind, but often nothing does which causes me to prematurely pull out and try to close, need more time to build attraction to number close or further so my question is when my brain lags wtf do I go to, what do I talk about? During the day and the dates I can usually figure shit up but sometimes it happens there too so yeah, what to talk about?

Are you asking her questions too? It's pretty easy to build conversation and keep it going if you listen to what the other person is saying and pick up on cues.

Also remember that a bit of silence is acceptable. It'll either give her a chance to resume the conversation or for you to think of something else. It isn't an immediate sign that you should bail.

I'm not sure about picking up girls at the gym, since most of them have very good physique, so I look like a weak pushover next to them, and those girls from my high school are probably not interested in anyone but those ripped gym instructors, besides I can't think in anything to talk about without being boring or annoying.

Not impossible, but the general consensus is that people there to work and they're sweaty and usually aren't in the talkative/receptive state of mind. It can happen though.

Well, the same could be said for several places like office or college, I don't go out to clubs in fact I dislike them, so I don't have too many options to meet people.

Unless you're exclusively attempting to ask people out in the library (which I could consider analogous to the gym), I'd say it's not a really apt comparison. After the gym, you go your separate ways and go home. After studying/classes, you're still in the same "area" and can transition into a more receptive atmosphere.

But since you mention you're a distant learner, that doesn't apply to you. If you don't like clubs, there are bars. If you don't like bars, there are lounges (more intimate and quiet than bars). If you don't like those type of outings, there are meet up groups. Find an interest you like and go to one. If you have anxiety, there's a meet up for people with social anxiety. I think you just need to be more comfortable around people and limit the excuses.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

Then reply with sunsetplane.jpg.

I have a Banderas gif and reverse Banderas gif for this.

 

[TheExodu5]

I haven't played a game in 3 weeks.

Being in a relationship is changing me.

 

[Kopite]

Funny thing happened today. I've always been too chicken to ask girls out and instead sort of think about and plan it weeks in advance and never go through with it. Well today I was hanging out with a few friends near an atrium with people I couldn't see playing a piano below. Then suddenly they started playing a new song and I instinctively got up and moved towards the stairs. Must've moved a few feet before I realised they were playing To Zanarkand.

Long story short, I went and met these two girls playing the piano without even thinking about it and after a long chat about JRPG's and Dissidia FF I got a number(not for a date though, at least not yet). Might be a one off but I never expected a random conversation like this it to be that easy.

 

[MogCakes]

Might be a one off but I never expected a random conversation like this it to be that easy.

It's much easier to chat up a girl when you're not feeling the pressure of trying to get with her. You weren't actively trying to get something from these girls, you were just chatting because you found something you could relate to in what they were doing. This netted you a number because they saw that you were genuinely interested in what they were doing and not trying to pick up or impress them, and at least one girl thought you were interesting enough to get to know as a friend or otherwise.

Anyway good for you mate. It really is that easy once you take the person off the proverbial pedestal and treat them as you would any other. You also get to really just be you.

Of course this doesn't apply if you're a player and know what to say and when to get the results you want

 

[bigfunkychiken]

I haven't played a game in 3 weeks.

Being in a relationship is changing me.

quick, get out while you still have a chance!

 

[Bisnic]

I haven't played a game in 3 weeks.

Being in a relationship is changing me.

Find a girl who likes video games and nothing will change. Look at me! Playing games everyday just as much as in the past and I got a girl with me this time!

 

[anarckitty]

I haven't played a game in 3 weeks.

Being in a relationship is changing me.

You'll be back.

They always come back.

 

[zeemumu]

I haven't played a game in 3 weeks.

Being in a relationship is changing me.

Teach her to play. Legend of Zela or Super Smash Bros are great starting points.

 

[Deleted member 47027]

I haven't played a game in 3 weeks.

Being in a relationship is changing me.

Is the desire to play gone or are you shameful-cover-up-style gaming? Cos don't cover it up, that shit will cause problems later.

 

[Oxn]

I haven't played a game in 3 weeks.

Being in a relationship is changing me.

So you think youre better than us now?



Jk

 

[PflargBlarg]

I just play different games now. I always wanted to play some Rayman Origins but I don't have a console and I thought it would be better co-op. I was correct.

 

[Servbot24]

got food poisoning right before a promising date

she said we can do it next week, hopefully it works out. tends not to when you plan something a week out though.

 

[TheExodu5]

Is the desire to play gone or are you shameful-cover-up-style gaming? Cos don't cover it up, that shit will cause problems later.

Nah, I'd never cover it up. She knows that games are a passion of mine and she knows I'm LANing all weekend next weekend, so I'm not trying to hide it. Just haven't had the desire, really. At least I'm getting a lot of stuff done in the meantime! I've been completely open and honest about who I am...no sense in hiding anything when it will just cause problems down the road.

And yeah, I'm sure I'll be back sooner rather than alter. I can't resist the call of Dark Souls 2.

As for getting her into gaming...she's pretty alien to the whole thing outside of a few Wii games. She likes comedy a lot though and likes South Park so I might play through The Stick of Truth with her when it comes out.

 

[Deleted member 47027]

Nah, I'd never cover it up. She knows that games are a passion of mine and she knows I'm LANing all weekend next weekend, so I'm not trying to hide it. Just haven't had the desire, really. At least I'm getting a lot of stuff done in the meantime!

And yeah, I'm sure I'll be back sooner rather than alter. I can't resist the call of Dark Souls 2.

As for getting her into gaming...she's pretty alien to the whole thing outside of a few Wii games. She likes comedy a lot though and likes South Park so I might play through The Stick of Truth with her when it comes out.

Good. Don't try to push someone into gaming. I know a lot of people are like WELL WOULDNT IT BE AWESOME IF THEY no...it really isn't. Especially if you try to force it. Let it be different. Glad things are working.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

She e-mailed me her number for texting purposes and that once again, she knows nothing about me. What do I say? There is nothing interesting about me.

It's like this, but I don't have the luxury of being Kevin Bacon.

 

[anarckitty]

Good. Don't try to push someone into gaming. I know a lot of people are like WELL WOULDNT IT BE AWESOME IF THEY no...it really isn't. Especially if you try to force it. Let it be different. Glad things are working.

And no, it isn't awesome either. Both my husband and I love to game. I can't tell you how many arguments we've gotten into over it. I finally decided to buy my own Smart TV and just game in my office/workout room.

She e-mailed me her number for texting purposes and that once again, she knows nothing about me. What do I say? There is nothing interesting about me.

It's like this, but I don't have the luxury of being Kevin Bacon.

Surely if you have interesting posts then you must be an interesting guy.

 

[Night Hunter]

GAF, I had a mindblowing experience today. I have always been really shy around girls, at least when it's about dating. Everywhere else I am quite confident. I can talk to girls, no problem, but as soon as it comes to asking someone out I just fall apart, which has led to more than a few awkward experiences throughout the years. At first it was always hanging out or vague shit like that and later the whole friendzone thing. That's been pretty much the story of my life, until today.

I am a student and there was this girl in my course, today was the last class for the semester so I thought fuck it, I'm going to ask her out. If she says no the worst thing that could happen is that I pass her in the hallway someday. Went up to her after class, asked her if she wanted to go to dinner with me, she laughed and said she'd love to, gave me her number. BOOM. The only thing that's kinda bad about this situation is, that she said she was busy for the next two weeks with university stuff, but I should call her then.

But still, after the whole thing was done I walked away and couldn't believe what just happened. She's pretty, intelligent, seems witty. I would consider myself intelligent (at least if I want to be), but I'm not that good looking and have a general aura of I don't give a fuck. As soon as I asked her I was thinking to myself "shit, what have I done, she is way out of my league and I'm standing here in my weird outfit of Converse, Jeans and Dream Theater shirt", so when she said yes it was like

I still can't believe she said yes and I feel like I have learned some kind of magic trick. Seems like all the advice giving people on GAF were right all along. Just going up to a girl and asking her out really does work best and saves you a lot of headaches.

 

[stn]

@Night Hunter

Not to shit on your parade but don't get too excited until you're actually out with her. One thing I've learned is that words are empty and mean ZILCH. Even when a girl says "Yes" it means nothing until you're on the date. I'm only remaining cautious because "I'm busy for ____" always makes me stutter for a second.

There is much good stuff, however. Good for you for coming out of your shell! Even if she doesn't end up going out with you, you got the confidence now to approach other women. That's the positive in all of this.

 

[TheExodu5]

She e-mailed me her number for texting purposes and that once again, she knows nothing about me. What do I say? There is nothing interesting about me.

It's like this, but I don't have the luxury of being Kevin Bacon.

Ask her what she's doing and go from there?

 

[Tawpgun]

I haven't played a game in 3 weeks.

Being in a relationship is changing me.

Its the best and its the worst.

I still have to teach my girl to like video games. She's one of those girls that says games are dumb and then goes home to netflix My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding and other shitty TLC reality shows

She's got a long way to go

 

[Kung Fu Jedi]

@Night Hunter

Not to shit on your parade but don't get too excited until you're actually out with her. One thing I've learned is that words are empty and mean ZILCH. Even when a girl says "Yes" it means nothing until you're on the date. I'm only remaining cautious because "I'm busy for ____" always makes me stutter for a second.

There is much good stuff, however. Good for you for coming out of your shell! Even if she doesn't end up going out with you, you got the confidence now to approach other women. That's the positive in all of this.

I agree with this. As much as I hate to say it, when someone tells you to call in two weeks, they're really hoping to put you off long enough that you either won't call, or it'll be easier to say no over the phone. I really hope it works out, but such a long delay is pretty tough.

 

[Night Hunter]

@Night Hunter

Not to shit on your parade but don't get too excited until you're actually out with her. One thing I've learned is that words are empty and mean ZILCH. Even when a girl says "Yes" it means nothing until you're on the date. I'm only remaining cautious because "I'm busy for ____" always makes me stutter for a second.

There is much good stuff, however. Good for you for coming out of your shell! Even if she doesn't end up going out with you, you got the confidence now to approach other women. That's the positive in all of this.

Yeah, I know, I know. Even if I don't go out with her in the end, it doesn't really matter. I'm just glad to have made the experience of actually asking someone out. Learning by doing.

And about the busy thing. Well, could be, that it was just a ruse to be nice but still get me off her back. But the last week of the semester is coming up and everyone is pretty busy with papers or exams and stuff like that. Not only that, but she is also doing her Doctorate besides some classes and being a research assistant. Well, hope for the best, prepare for the worst.

All in all I will consider this a learning experience, whatever happens.

 

[TheExodu5]

Its the best and its the worst.

I still have to teach my girl to like video games. She's one of those girls that says games are dumb and then goes home to netflix My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding and other shitty TLC reality shows

She's got a long way to go

Thankfully my girl doesn't really have a problem with it. She respects my choice to play video games. Though, I'm the type of person that would never let games get in the way of other things. After quitting WoW, I made it a rule to never pass up on social interaction because of videogames.

 

[Oxn]

After quitting WoW, I made it a rule to never pass up on social interaction because of videogames.

Hey, youre just like me

 

[bigfunkychiken]

Its the best and its the worst.

I still have to teach my girl to like video games. She's one of those girls that says games are dumb and then goes home to netflix My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding and other shitty TLC reality shows

She's got a long way to go

I'm glad you respect her so much.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

And no, it isn't awesome either. Both my husband and I love to game. I can't tell you how many arguments we've gotten into over it. I finally decided to buy my own Smart TV and just game in my office/workout room.



Surely if you have interesting posts then you must be an interesting guy.

I have interesting posts?

Ask her what she's doing and go from there?

I asked how her day's going and mentioned that I suck at guitar.

Why on earth would I say that.

 

[FutureZombie]

Anyone else experience wild changes in how their penis performs? Last week, I got two blowjobs and I lasted about 2 minutes each time. Tonight I get two blowjobs- the first one lasts about 2 minutes, but the second one takes 30 minutes! It went from blowjob, to handjob, to me finishing while she watched. WTF? It's happened with sex before as well, where I usually last 2 minutes, but then all of the sudden I'll go for 20-30 minutes. Every so often when I masturbate it takes a really long time, too. It sucks and is really embarrassing. It's like 28 minutes of work that doesn't feel all that good, and then it actually kicks in for the last 2 minutes.

Certainly someone out there can relate. I do take medication for OCD and depression, so that may contribute, I think...

 

[GutsOfThor]

So I'm supposed to hang out with that girl from Tinder this afternoon and based on how my week is going, I'm 100% expecting the girl to actually be some fat old bald guy who just wants some company.

Any advice on what to wear? We are just meeting for some coffee at a cafe so should I just dress casual? Mind you, my wardrobe consists mainly of black cargo pants, blue jeans and metal band shirts.

 

[nullset2]

Hello, Dating-age. Been quite hesitant to post here but I'd like some feedback. Long time lurker.

There's this woman from college, we took a class together last semester and I got interested in her, super fun and sensible and fancy, but I was all sorts of awkward and never managed to ask her out. In perspective, we did only talk twice, and I'm busy as shit hell with work and college, but by goodness, when we did there was all sorts of good stuff happening, things in common, cool interaction, her laughing at my shitty jokes, the works. I'm totally her type, too, you just perceive that stuff from interaction. Since I didn't ask her out we fell out around half of the semester and she dated another dude. Sadface.

I found her at uni again this new semester, yet she no longer seems as reactive to me. Said hi to me and stuff and I struck small talk and such, but it wasn't long enough for me to determine anything in certainty. She's not dating right now, though, and I'm deffo still interested and totally want to still try, ask her for a chance and stuff, Question, would you refined gents drop it and save face, keep it friendly only and such bs, or go at it, see if it pans out? We're not taking a class together any longer, so I missed my chance there, but I plan on using the best of me to try to rekindle and ask her out. What would you gents do? Any women here who have been in a similar situation, would you go for it? What are my shots? To be fair it's still unexplored land, and she's single so it still has potential. I'm not getting anywhere otherwise.

Thank you in advance, I'll report back.

Any advice on what to wear? We are just meeting for some coffee at a cafe so should I just dress casual? Mind you, my wardrobe consists mainly of black cargo pants, blue jeans and metal band shirts.

Come on son. Are you older than 20? If so, that sort of wardrobe is unacceptable. Hell, for all ages that wardrobe is unacceptable, you need to learn the art of fitted shirts and pants.