Shit guys, this was a really bad decision on my part. More details later...but god damn it. Don't fuck with (or fuck) your exes when you're not over her.
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Formerly worldrevolution. The only reason I am nice to anyone else is to avoid being banned.
Pretty sure that's what everyone here tells people like you, but you guys just don't listen.
I know. I said it myself many times in this thread. Fucking alcohol
you messed it up. Learn from it and move on.
If it hasn't happened by now, it's not gonna happen at all. Sorry to say. Cut contact and remove thoghts from head, and move on.
This is very true, thanks. I hate myself for having missed out on all of that. I've worked my way through that disadvantage by now I think, but it has been rough from time to time to have missed all that. While it's hard to take teenage romances seriously as an adult, it truly is valuable as you say! I don't really agree with letting him pursue her though, no matter how old or young he is, but that's just meIt'd be better if he learned from the start not to do that stuff. Having romances though, that's obviously great.
Edit: Slight problem on my own! Not dating related really, but any thoughts on how to distinguish one twin from another? I'm having a really hard time separating one male twin from his brother at the club (they work there). And I'm usually frighteningly good at remembering faces and names, even of people I haven't officially met. Of course, they have their small facial nuances that separate them for example, but I can barely see the differences in the first place so it's not as helpful as it could be. And I can't really ask which one is which, simply because I talk to them often enough to appear like I know them personally, and I know their names and I've talked online with one of them. So bringing up the fact that I have no idea who is who would be embarassing at this point :lol Any ideas how to figure out who is who and make me remember it? I suppose I could try the tried and true method of introducing a friend to them so they're forced to say the name but that won't help make it stick when they're near-identical.
Well dude, they're twins. They're probably really used to people confusing them by now. Go up to him: Pete! No...wait...Mike! Mike? Pete! Crap...Steven? Make a joke out of it. Doesn't matter one bit.
Don't confess anything to her. As ALWAYS, actions speak louder then words. Invite her out for...well, whatever seventeen year old people do
not meant to be condescending, just have no clue. Then show through body language that you like her. And really, enjoy, have a good time. Just, yeah, you're probably not gonna marry her, and odds are you'll break up. But don't worry about that, and just enjoy. But don't tell her you like her out of the blue!Not much, but some updates on my LDR (think I last posted around the 19th if you want some context)...
I actually showed her this thread and we did talk about some of those things previously discussed. She was happy to have the discussions, and she liked the idea that we might get some advice. So yay I guess.
We still talk quite a bit everyday, though I think we both realize how foolish it is to withhold sleep from our bodies. I got sick initially, and now she's sick. Maybe a coincidence, but I don't think the lack of sleep helped our immune systems. In addition to the frequent IMing, we're trying a short phone call everyday (long calls on the weekends), though that has been difficult. We started taking photos of ourselves everyday (again, not those photos), and I tried recording a short video to show her today (we've tried more video chatting, but the Internet on her end isn't always so good). Hoping things like that will help keep things strong, despite the distance between us. We can still "see" each other everyday, and hear each other's voice.
We both told each other about our warts. Or our family warts (which seem worse than our own, depending on how you look at it). Don't want to get too specific with private info about her, but she is Asian (and thus, certain Asian customs are the "norm"). She still lives with her parents, which isn't actually a big deal to me. But her parents seem very controlling, and that might make things difficult. For example, there will be no way she could hop on a plane to see me here in the States (unless I wanted her parents to come along, and I'd have to pretend to be a friend). She actually wants to move out, but her parents aren't keen on the idea. When she mentioned getting this one condo, her dad thought it was a great idea. For the 3 of them.
So yeah, that will make things difficult, on top of the distance between us.
I still want to pursue this though. We're tentatively planning a trip for me in a few months (assuming things are still going well then). I'll have maybe 10-11 days to spend with her. We'll use that time (and the time before that) to figure out what to do next I suppose. She will be starting an ~18 month program to help her with working abroad (or working in general) after that. I think she already has some great work experience and education, but this will help her some more if/when she tries to relocate I think. So nothing will be decided (about us) before that is over. That will give us a test of what things will be like when she's VERY busy. I'll probably take a couple more trips to see her after that, if the first trip goes well, though unfortunately the expense will make it difficult to do very often.
I actually showed her this thread and we did talk about some of those things previously discussed. She was happy to have the discussions, and she liked the idea that we might get some advice. So yay I guess.
We still talk quite a bit everyday, though I think we both realize how foolish it is to withhold sleep from our bodies. I got sick initially, and now she's sick. Maybe a coincidence, but I don't think the lack of sleep helped our immune systems. In addition to the frequent IMing, we're trying a short phone call everyday (long calls on the weekends), though that has been difficult. We started taking photos of ourselves everyday (again, not those photos), and I tried recording a short video to show her today (we've tried more video chatting, but the Internet on her end isn't always so good). Hoping things like that will help keep things strong, despite the distance between us. We can still "see" each other everyday, and hear each other's voice.
We both told each other about our warts. Or our family warts (which seem worse than our own, depending on how you look at it). Don't want to get too specific with private info about her, but she is Asian (and thus, certain Asian customs are the "norm"). She still lives with her parents, which isn't actually a big deal to me. But her parents seem very controlling, and that might make things difficult. For example, there will be no way she could hop on a plane to see me here in the States (unless I wanted her parents to come along, and I'd have to pretend to be a friend). She actually wants to move out, but her parents aren't keen on the idea. When she mentioned getting this one condo, her dad thought it was a great idea. For the 3 of them.
So yeah, that will make things difficult, on top of the distance between us.I still want to pursue this though. We're tentatively planning a trip for me in a few months (assuming things are still going well then). I'll have maybe 10-11 days to spend with her. We'll use that time (and the time before that) to figure out what to do next I suppose. She will be starting an ~18 month program to help her with working abroad (or working in general) after that. I think she already has some great work experience and education, but this will help her some more if/when she tries to relocate I think. So nothing will be decided (about us) before that is over. That will give us a test of what things will be like when she's VERY busy. I'll probably take a couple more trips to see her after that, if the first trip goes well, though unfortunately the expense will make it difficult to do very often.
Don't confess anything to her. As ALWAYS, actions speak louder then words. Invite her out for...well, whatever seventeen year old people do
That's actually what I've been doing, I'm not my completely clueless middle school self! I think I was even touchy enough last time I saw her that a mutual friend said, "You two would be a cute couple" somewhat out of the blue! I've been following philosophies from this thread like what you said, I'm out to enjoy myself first and foremost. Probably not gonna marry her, but she's worth my time!
I'm thinking I'll see her on Valentine's Day for another friend's senior recital which she will hopefully go to as well. I can't do anything exclusively one on one with her lest it be considered a date, but maybe I can treat it as such then. I'll make it clear I'm interested, try for a kiss, and state my intentions after that. After all, I can't leave it be like that when we both know the rules!
NeOak
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Don't confess anything to her. As ALWAYS, actions speak louder then words. Invite her out for...well, whatever seventeen year old people do
This.
When you're able to drop that obsession and really enjoy stuff as it comes, that's when things can happen.
I haven't posted anything about my situation because I'm going with the flow and id rather just enjoy the good times and let things be (obviously poking here and there), so I just don't care if I get her or not. I just enjoy the good times.
The Albatross
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I wrote an enormously long post and just erased it. long and short of it, I'm in a long term relationship (3 years, we live together) and for the first time.. I'm really just questioning it for a number of reasons. I question whether she's good for me. Don't really want advice, just want to state somewhere that "damnit, I'm conflicted."
No I strongly recommend against this, man
Only show your feelings at first, never say it out loud. You'll almost guaranteed scare her away or get friendzoned like this, statistically. Especially now when she isn't even allowed to date. Listen to Neoak and Idde for sure.Do you know for sure in any way that she's into you in the same way? Usually there are signals. Again, don't state any intentions, if you go for a kiss, which will be hard to do right in such a platonic environment, that'll be enough for her and you'll know within a few nanoseconds if she likes it or not. There's no reason to declare your love for her on your knees or anything. Just don't :lol Try pulling her to the side somewhere or at least hold her in your arms if you're that close to each other. "I'm trying really hard not to kiss you right now, you know" or something like that maybe
Hell, that's a pretty good way to tell if she wants you to, depending on the answer. If she doesn't like it, just say you were kidding and let her go.Gimme the deeeets!
I've done some stupid things recently as well, but not with my ex, we haven't spoken in more than a week.Haha yeah maybe. It'd be pretty weird to have that scenario happen every time though :lol I might see them tonight so we'll see if I try anything. Some lady friends can tell them apart by haircolor but I sure can't.
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If you confess just don't be a weirdo about it. There is no such thing as a friendzone so don't worry about that. If she doesn't feel the same there is NO reason to continue barking up the wrong tree. Get it over with and move on if it's not gonna happen.
And no, you can't "be around" someone and wait for them to love you. That shit doesn't happen and turns you into someone suffering. Move along my dude.
And no, you can't "be around" someone and wait for them to love you. That shit doesn't happen and turns you into someone suffering. Move along my dude.
After two months of no contact, we decided to catch up. At first, it was fine and platonic. And then after the alcohol started to kick in, things got carried away and we started to talking about how we missed each other and all the good times. And then she started to say how I was so much better than this current guy she's seeing (Red flag, I know. She told me they weren't serious yet and hadn't had any exclusivity talks.) Regardless, it went from emotional confessions to physical intimacy.Gimme the deeeets!
The next day, when we're sober again, I ask her if all the stuff she said last night was true. She says yes. Then I ask her if she's going to continue this thing with the other guy. She says yes. I say fuck it and peace out. Shit sucks.
At least I got sex..
I assume you want her back, or did?
That must suck, man. I've had several of those conversations sober with my ex and THAT doesn't work xD I'm supposed to think about how I want to deal with our situation, and well, I'm getting bored with pursuing her. Too many fish in the sea as the saying goes. In your case, maybe she'll come around again if you back off.Man I'm not even sure what I wanted. I loved knowing that I was better than this current dude, but going back to her? I can't answer that. I enjoyed being more than friends last night, but I'm not sure I want a relationship as serious as ours became. Doesn't matter either way since I'm not going to mess around with her when she's seeing someone else.I assume you want her back, or did?
update - blown off. felt like saying "this gives me time to finish my okcupid and beat Last of Us for the 5th time.
bigfunkychiken
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Do you know for sure in any way that she's into you in the same way? Usually there are signals. Again, don't state any intentions, if you go for a kiss, which will be hard to do right in such a platonic environment, that'll be enough for her and you'll know within a few nanoseconds if she likes it or not. There's no reason to declare your love for her on your knees or anything. Just don't :lol Try pulling her to the side somewhere or at least hold her in your arms if you're that close to each other. "I'm trying really hard not to kiss you right now, you know" or something like that maybe
I think that line should NEVER be used unless maybe you KNOW the other person feels the same way.
depths20XX
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Yeah, no lines need to be uttered before the kiss really, especially that one.
You'll know if it's the right time. Just go in for it.
You'll know if it's the right time. Just go in for it.
Sounds about right. Thanks, I'll keep that in mind for my own upcoming battle xD
To each his own
Uh oh. What are you planning?Sounds about right. Thanks, I'll keep that in mind for my own upcoming battle xD
To each his own
OfWhiteSkinOnRedLeather
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Holy shit. No one ever, ever, ever say anything like this. It's so awful on so many levels that I'm embarrassed just reading it.
Haha no nothing serious like that I guess xD But depending on what I say to my ex, we are either gonna continue to talk or it's good bye for good. It's not gonna be a very fun conversation either way, she's like the final boss of conversations.
Come on, it's funny xD You gotta have a sense of humor and it's cute. Granted, I'm not American so maybe the sentiment is different over there.
What kind of talk? Let's try to be friends or let's try again?
Its embarrassing enough that a girl would consider it cute and funny even if it was neither, but it's definitely a line I'd only throw around if we're on really good terms or if she's into me like bigfunkychiken said. Luckily, I'm fairly certain both are true. I'd definitely consider it, it might just be up my alley and that alley has treated me exceptionally well so far.
I'm pretty sure we're on the same page for the most part Minamu, I just wasn't expressing what I intended to do properly. Rather embarrassing too, as I mostly intended to get what I had in mind off my chest.
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No, but it helps a lot with human interaction in general, trust me. Went from having barely friends at all to a solid set and it's a completely different life alltogether. So much better.
How are you doing with your recent breakup btw?
I have friends, but everyone is so far apart from each other that I need local ones (i.e. new friends).
Dating life seemed easier in college. Unfortunately, I didn't take advantage of it.
It's a test.
Well I told her I already made reservations and she said "just tell me to shutup next time". lol
Had a talk with my friend about "telling a girl you like her". I kinda told him how I confessed to the last girl I went out with, and how that was a bad move. Because I told her I liked her after our second date, I was, in some way, "manipulating the situation" to be more romantic and pretty much cornering the girl by being so abrupt, and that's why she rejected me.
He told me that I should stick to strictly "showing" how I feel about her. Just flirt, hold her hand, and all that...
I told him that I did do those things, but I just didn't feel like pussyfooting around by just dropping hint after hint. I feel I did good by actually confessing, but now I'm over-thinking everything too much and am wondering if I confessed the "right way". What say you GAF? Is there a better way of just straight-up telling a girl you like her? Any girls here wanna share some experiences with that?
He told me that I should stick to strictly "showing" how I feel about her. Just flirt, hold her hand, and all that...
I told him that I did do those things, but I just didn't feel like pussyfooting around by just dropping hint after hint. I feel I did good by actually confessing, but now I'm over-thinking everything too much and am wondering if I confessed the "right way". What say you GAF? Is there a better way of just straight-up telling a girl you like her? Any girls here wanna share some experiences with that?
NeOak
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You're over thinking it. There is no magic recipe. Sometimes it works, other times it doesn't.
There's quite a lot of fun in flirting and messing around with innuendo. But personally, I want things to be pretty clear sooner rather than later. Then again, I told my boyfriend how I felt by telling him he made me wet so maybe folks shouldn't listen to me.
Really though, you have to be able to read the person and the situation. Dating isn't some formula where if you plug in the wrong numbers you're automatically out. If someone already likes you, chances are, they won't care too much about the method in which you let them know (within reason). I think a lot of people get caught up in doing things the "right way" and forget to have fun socializing with another individual. If there's a connection, you're going to be able to play off each other in ways that can't be artificially produced.
TurboLibre
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The problem is finding someone with that connection. I've gone my whole life without finding it, and was pretty much trying to force one with my ex. I preach the same "just go with the flow" attitude you mentioned and do a decent job following it, but it never seems to help me on the relationship front. That lack of progress can sometimes make me stress, and focus on whatever the "right way" is.
I've been trying to talk to her about getting back together for quite a while, and I think she is warming up to it, but a snail would laugh at her pace. She has admitted as much as she misses me and us, and that in itself is a major win for me. She's a tough nut to crack and I've been pretty zealous at trying to break her open so to speak. But she's like, there's a difference between missing someone, and doing something about it, especially when that someone has already dumped her twice, and she has a new fling going on that she is fairly comfortable with. So I'm caught between a rock and a hard place, trying to convince someone in a "relationship" to come back to me. I've done the best I can to show her that I've learnt my lessons and that my reasonings for leaving her were foolish yet logical, and that they and their situations aren't relevant anymore because they won't happen again. I know I'm right, and I'm very much in love with everything about her. But convincing her of this is something else entirely. So the talk would be about one final attempt at getting back together I suppose. If my love for her isn't enough, there are other girls out there and better things for me to do. I am of course offically single and meet a lot of girls in the meantime so it's not a problem either way to be honest. I haven't met anyone who can get my mind off of her though, not even during sex. And I'm getting close to that old saying "fuck 10 other girls" and she's still in my thoughts.
It was actually a pretty common suggestion given as an example in PUA circles back in the day, but eh, just a suggestion, nothing more
I prefer to say these things with body language anyway. Take our advice or don't, as long as you feel good about it and learn from it either way, and report back, I'll be happy 
bigfunkychiken
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Minamu, I think it's time to give it up. You've already made it very clear to your ex that you want to get back together, and she is obviously not feeling the same way. Look at your post from another's point of view and tell me that there is any hope
Maybe she'll want to get back together at some point, but do not let that thought define your status at the moment. Just cut the cord.
Agreed.
because there isn't.
Agreed.
Why did you break up with her twice? Putting myself in her shoes, I too would be hesitant to trust you again for fear of being hurt. Sorry if that hurts, but I'm just speaking as an outsider.
It's good though that at least you're aware of other single girls. Sucks that neither of them are helping you move on. Where are you meeting them at? I've found that girls at trashy clubs or dance bars never turn out to be what I'm looking for. Maybe you need to re-adjust.
Also, how long were you guys together and how long have you been apart? If you've been in contact with her during those breaks, even through just being social media friends, it'll be really hard for you to move on.
Back from my date with a woman I met via OkC. The moment I saw her, she was bloody smoking. Her personality and mine meshed extremely well. The date went far better than I expected. I even manned up and successfully gave a first kiss. So I'm pretty happy with my results tonight; if it doesn't turn out well, I know I have the confidence to execute first kisses.
grap3fruitman
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I still don't know how to start. Guys. I'm bummed. =(
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Hey Dating Age I've been lurking in the thread but haven't had a reason to post...until now. School's back in session for my final semester meaning that cute girls aplenty are back on my radar after a month and a half of having little social interaction with other humans in person other than on Twitter, GAF, and doling out advice to a college friend of mines via text (besides family) Apparently, the social interaction I have had with humans has makes me as excited as a dog happy to see his owner after having been gone for several days for being so reclusive. First week of classes has been solid what with bumping into friends in the halls; fantastic start to a semester.
Any way with all that being said, my social anxiety levels have been going off the charts these past days I've had classes; dry mouth, rapid speech, racing heart (I see a therapist for this). I've embraced it as a good feeling for when I talk to other people.
Let's get to the meat and potatoes of this post. Yesterday in my painting class (lots of attractive classmates), this very attractive British girl with grey eyes took a liking to me immediately.
In a Captain Oblivious moment---that I face palmed myself when telling my bro when I got home later that night--- we were in the painting rack room getting assigned a rack when my turn came up to get assigned a rack. I made fast friends with the 2 other guys in the class since it turned out we graduated from the same alma mater then transferring. I was expecting one of the dudes to pair himself up with me when the British girl volunteered to be my rack partner much to my surprise. The professor gave me a info sheet to fill out our names, class, etc. I was looking for a hard surface to write on when she offered me her back to write it on. Instead, I declined and picked a canvas board to write it on. I had a small epiphany in that moment but ignored it. She also took an interest to wanting to know what the acronym of our alma mater stood for. Also another sign of interest: when I told her my name, she asked where it was from to which I told her it's Spanish (hint folks: my real name is not Jipan).
Any way, so I somewhat awkwardly suggested we exchange numbers since I put a lock on our rack and she asked me when we could meet up to stretch our canvases and access the rack. So she took down my number in her phone. I got indecisive about picking a date and time which frustrated her so she told me she would hit me up when she decides when she wants to meet up before next class which seemed to lose a bit of points with her.
Also, in that moment it didn't occur to me to suggest going to a museum (MoMA in NYC) with her for the homework assignment that's due next class. My brother asked me if I was the darkest skinned person in the class to which I yes. He said the reason that she may have taken a fancy to me---to use the British word----is because I'm tan skinned (I'm Hispanic) and as a result, finds me exotic. Pardon my ignorance if I'm wrong electricshake and other Brit GAF members but I imagine there's a very small population of Hispanics in the UK (Spaniards don't count) if any.
I talked to another girl that was in my class for a while after the British girl left. It seems that I'm getting my mojo back despite my high anxiety which I shrugged off by making conversations and it feels good.
Oh and one other update. About 4 weeks ago I believe Minamu told me hit up the Spaniard girl who I had 3D Modeling/Animation with last semester via Facebook. I sent her a message in early January but it went to her Other folder because messaging someone you don't have added or is a friend of friend on Facebook is completely arbitrary. She didn't reply.
Fast forward to yesterday's second class later that night. Guess who I saw in that class after it ended? That's right, Spaniard girl but I didn't speak to and I don't think she noticed me watching her leave while I was conversing with a classmate. Are the stars aligned for me this year to give me a prosperous dating life? To be continued but as I said, women are coming in waves much to my astonishment.
Any way with all that being said, my social anxiety levels have been going off the charts these past days I've had classes; dry mouth, rapid speech, racing heart (I see a therapist for this). I've embraced it as a good feeling for when I talk to other people.
Let's get to the meat and potatoes of this post. Yesterday in my painting class (lots of attractive classmates), this very attractive British girl with grey eyes took a liking to me immediately.
In a Captain Oblivious moment---that I face palmed myself when telling my bro when I got home later that night--- we were in the painting rack room getting assigned a rack when my turn came up to get assigned a rack. I made fast friends with the 2 other guys in the class since it turned out we graduated from the same alma mater then transferring. I was expecting one of the dudes to pair himself up with me when the British girl volunteered to be my rack partner much to my surprise. The professor gave me a info sheet to fill out our names, class, etc. I was looking for a hard surface to write on when she offered me her back to write it on. Instead, I declined and picked a canvas board to write it on. I had a small epiphany in that moment but ignored it. She also took an interest to wanting to know what the acronym of our alma mater stood for. Also another sign of interest: when I told her my name, she asked where it was from to which I told her it's Spanish (hint folks: my real name is not Jipan).
Any way, so I somewhat awkwardly suggested we exchange numbers since I put a lock on our rack and she asked me when we could meet up to stretch our canvases and access the rack. So she took down my number in her phone. I got indecisive about picking a date and time which frustrated her so she told me she would hit me up when she decides when she wants to meet up before next class which seemed to lose a bit of points with her.
Also, in that moment it didn't occur to me to suggest going to a museum (MoMA in NYC) with her for the homework assignment that's due next class. My brother asked me if I was the darkest skinned person in the class to which I yes. He said the reason that she may have taken a fancy to me---to use the British word----is because I'm tan skinned (I'm Hispanic) and as a result, finds me exotic. Pardon my ignorance if I'm wrong electricshake and other Brit GAF members but I imagine there's a very small population of Hispanics in the UK (Spaniards don't count) if any.
I talked to another girl that was in my class for a while after the British girl left. It seems that I'm getting my mojo back despite my high anxiety which I shrugged off by making conversations and it feels good.
Oh and one other update. About 4 weeks ago I believe Minamu told me hit up the Spaniard girl who I had 3D Modeling/Animation with last semester via Facebook. I sent her a message in early January but it went to her Other folder because messaging someone you don't have added or is a friend of friend on Facebook is completely arbitrary. She didn't reply.
Fast forward to yesterday's second class later that night. Guess who I saw in that class after it ended? That's right, Spaniard girl but I didn't speak to and I don't think she noticed me watching her leave while I was conversing with a classmate. Are the stars aligned for me this year to give me a prosperous dating life? To be continued but as I said, women are coming in waves much to my astonishment.
Had a really stressful Wednesday and she met me for mini-golf that turned into beers and a really awesome talk. It was intimate and real and it traversed towards our feelings and where things are going.
We both like each other but we're taking our time. We're feeling it out. I really like where she's coming from and who she is and what she's about. She voiced similar to me before suggesting a movie night at my place on Sunday. It'll be her second night over here.
It was our fourth real 'date' or whatever and in the middle, pre-beers, mid-conversation - she just leaned forward and kissed me passionately across the table. Unprovoked, surprising - a moment, right before we returned to our conversation, a little more intimate.
Quite happy to have made a strong, confident, and beautiful friend.
We both like each other but we're taking our time. We're feeling it out. I really like where she's coming from and who she is and what she's about. She voiced similar to me before suggesting a movie night at my place on Sunday. It'll be her second night over here.
It was our fourth real 'date' or whatever and in the middle, pre-beers, mid-conversation - she just leaned forward and kissed me passionately across the table. Unprovoked, surprising - a moment, right before we returned to our conversation, a little more intimate.
Quite happy to have made a strong, confident, and beautiful friend.
Long story short, my dad was among friends talking about the children and one of them mentioned his daughter being single again and apparently mentioned me to her, and her reaction was that maybe we should date.
So, me finding this hilarious and first thought it was all a joke and I just said "Yeah sure" but apparently it's not, anyway she seems like a nice girl and I added her on Facebook because why the hell not.
What do I say though, just a "How are you doing" and see where conversation goes from there? This isn't how I usually meet women.
So, me finding this hilarious and first thought it was all a joke and I just said "Yeah sure" but apparently it's not, anyway she seems like a nice girl and I added her on Facebook because why the hell not.
What do I say though, just a "How are you doing" and see where conversation goes from there? This isn't how I usually meet women.
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Start what?
Don't try to sneak in a date for "homework". If you want to go to the Moma w her, just ask. Don't do it under the guise of some assignment
Pretty much. Ask her how she's doing. Ask her what she's doing, and you should be able to start a conversation from there.
n64coder
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You could ask:
- what kind of hobbies/interests she has
- does she like sports, what teams she follows
- any interesting movies/books she seen/read recently?
- and a billion of other typical questions you ask when getting to know someone
Congratulations, man! It takes a lot of guts to take the risk and just go for the kiss like that. I always love hearing about dating-GAF's successes. They give me a lot of hope, even though so far OKC has been kind of a crapshoot.
Welp, girl I was gaming whole night has bf (who I met later that night at the bar, didn't mention him till he came in), but she added me on facebook, time to do some fb game. And her friend who was into me but less cute is going for semester abroad >.>
Going out again, time to meet more people :3 Things are working out well, met this friend of a friend, who's only staying here for a while, but he's so on page with me it's super fun to go approach with him and do shit.
Going out again, time to meet more people :3 Things are working out well, met this friend of a friend, who's only staying here for a while, but he's so on page with me it's super fun to go approach with him and do shit.
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