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[Azelover]

Hi everybody.

I decided to make this thread out of frustration. Because I really have nobody to talk to about these things.

I have a sister that has both bipolar, and also has a borderline personality disorder. After my mom died we started living together, in the house we inherited from my mom. And its very difficult. I mean, she's always on my tail. I can't do anything by myself anymore without her watching.

Anybody have a similar experience?

 

[VlaudTheImpaler]

I have been a mentor to a guy who was bipolar since he was a kid. He went into the military and came out 10 times worse. After a lot of work and graduating from the school of hard nocks, he is now working a great paying job at a high tech factory that makes replacement joint parts. We can talk on discord if you want. Kind of a complex and personal situation.

 

[Azelover]

I have been a mentor to a guy who was bipolar since he was a kid. He went into the military and came out 10 times worse. After a lot of work and graduating from the school of hard nocks, he is now working a great paying job at a high tech factory that makes replacement joint parts. We can talk on discord if you want. Kind of a complex and personal situation.

Good to know that he got better. Of course it's a little different when you live with the person 24/7.

Of course the person isn't to blame. But in my case it's been many years and the situation never got any better. In fact, it's been getting worse.

 

[DESTROYA]

Is she taking any meds for her condition?

 

[Big-G]

I know its your family bro but its best not to live with a person like that. Its truly sad because its not their fault, they are like that.

 

[Bitmap Frogs]

My best friend, we knew each other since we were kids, went bipolar like 6 years ago.

I still see him, but whatever was him only shows up briefly.

I'm sad

 

[GeorgPrime]

Hi everybody.

I decided to make this thread out of frustration. Because I really have nobody to talk to about these things.

I have a sister that has both bipolar, and also has a borderline personality disorder. After my mom died we started living together, in the house we inherited from my mom. And its very difficult. I mean, she's always on my tail. I can't do anything by myself anymore without her watching.

Anybody have a similar experience?

Just get rid of those people. I had like 3 girlfriends with boderline and it destroyed my life up to the point where i had a mental breakdown. My last girlfriend, which had a really good life, just exploded out of nowhere and destroyed our relationship just before marriage with a huge ball of nonsense after 3 years. Late r learned that Borderline can break out every 3 years when they have the feeling that they are not feeling good anymore. Thats when they start destroying everything that is important to them just for a "Now i feel better" moment.

Iam not going to tolerate any person with borderline being close to me anymore. Doesnt matter if its family or not.

If a friend ever decides to get into a relationship with a woman who has borderline syndrome i will just avoid them.

The only alternative is to force them into a therapy which they attend on a daily basis.

 

[Mato]

Just point her to <purple forum>, she'll love it there.

Seriously though, I know someone who is borderline and everyday is a tragedy for her. She can be extremely difficult to deal with. I really feel for you.

 

[Mistake]

I don't know about the borderline thing, but my best friend is bipolar. Things were rough for a long time, especially after he joined the marines, but now he's with a great girl that cares a lot for him. Now there's almost never any issues except when he deals with dumb people or gets killed in video games

 

[Big-G]

Good to know that he got better. Of course it's a little different when you live with the person 24/7.

Of course the person isn't to blame. But in my case it's been many years and the situation never got any better. In fact, it's been getting worse.

Bipolar is the least of your worries. Someone with that disorder can be medicated and treated. People with BPD are extremely difficult to treat and there really is only one type of therapy that works with these kind of people but its still very difficult. People with this disorder can make it almost impossible to live with let alone have a meaningful relationship. That would explain why she has never had any improvement because its something that dose not often happen sadly. I was in a relatinship with a person with BPD and they can take a big toll on you.

 

[EverydayBeast]

I think everyone overreacts to borderline or bipolar disorders.

 

[Big-G]

I think everyone overreacts to borderline or bipolar disorders.

Why would you say that?

 

[I_D]

I have a cousin who has some type of mental disorder. She hasn't been diagnosed, for a variety of reasons, so I don't know what it is.
I have a fair amount of experience regarding psychology, so my guess is some type of bipolar disorder, or possibly schizophrenia.
She's a handful, to say the least.


OP, all I can recommend is to try to keep her happy. Her brain literally doesn't work in the same way that yours does. It's physically impossible for you to understand where she's coming from at any given moment; so all you can do is attempt to understand the thought processing, which won't work, but at least you can get a general idea of what's going on.
But also don't placate her. If you let her thoughts run wild, she'll get herself into trouble.
You have to find that balance between keeping her happy and also keeping her out of trouble and grandiose thoughts.

It's not easy, but it's doable, with practice.

 

[Ownage]

My ex wife has BPD and is bipolar. Highest IQ (booksmart) I ever met. And she was hot af, so it was like me being a fly landing on a Venus flytrap. Walked on eggshells around her at the end of the relationship. It's very difficult to be around this type. Best thing for you to do is distance yourself from them and give them very little data about your life for them to manipulate.

Love them, but brother, let them the fuck go.

 

[Azelover]

Thank you everybody. Unfortunately I have to be a little careful because shes always watching. It's a little jarring.

 

[DunDunDunpachi]

She's not willing to back off and give you space? Or does she flip out if you were to suggest that to her in a non-aggressive way?

In either case, my sympathies. I've dealt with intrusive family and it's hell.

 

[Chairman Tickles]

Hi everybody.

I decided to make this thread out of frustration. Because I really have nobody to talk to about these things.

I have a sister that has both bipolar, and also has a borderline personality disorder. After my mom died we started living together, in the house we inherited from my mom. And its very difficult. I mean, she's always on my tail. I can't do anything by myself anymore without her watching.

Anybody have a similar experience?

I had a bipolar uncle, he predictably hung himself. His daughter also inherited his condition. She's bipolar too. Her go-to hobby is to self-destruct financially every few months by going into heavy debt which she then pays off in subsequent months. She can get nice jobs but only holds them until she gets into another depressive episode then quits, gets into financial problems and starts again from the beginning.

You can't help people who refuse to help themselves. Don't even bother. If they are really close to you, i.e sibling, you run the risk of being dragged down with them.

 

[MaestroMike]

I think everyone overreacts to borderline or bipolar disorders.

people on weird as$ diets like no carbs/fat be on that crazy time (ive been there myself when I haven't eaten enough for a couple of days and been straight working)