Detective Gaf: I need help.

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Long story short: So I had a date on Saturday, it was amazing, but we both got really drunk. He lives an hour away, but insisted on driving that night. Had I been more sober I would have stopped him, but he was in a rush to get home.

I've called him sevral times, texted, left messages and nothing. I really just want to know that he made it home alright and I have a horrible feeling that he didn't. I left him a message stating that all I wanted to know was that he made it home OK, that's my MO right now. How would I go about trying to see that he's OK?
 
Do you know anyone that knows him?
 
If you know where he lives, you can try paying him a visit - maybe ask the neighbors if they noticed him getting home.
If you know members of his family, you could ask them.
 
If you know his name, look him up on facebook.

And you know his number too, so do a reverse number search to find his address.
 
Well, there isn't much to do. Unless you find an address online or something, but that's very stalkerish.
 
DR2K said:
Long story short: So I had a date on Saturday, it was amazing, but we both got really drunk. He lives an hour away, but insisted on driving that night. Had I been more sober I would have stopped him, but he was in a rush to get home.

I've called him sevral times, texted, left messages and nothing. I really just want to know that he made it home alright and I have a horrible feeling that he didn't. I left him a message stating that all I wanted to know was that he made it home OK, that's my MO right now. How would I go about trying to see that he's OK?
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stop now....a text then one call is plenty...

you already pushed it, back off, then if he ever does contact you laugh and make a joke....seriously, a date then multiple calls, text? just too much.
 
Lives an hour away, not returning calls, rush to get home. Date didn't go as well as you think it did.

If he was really drunk and in to you he would have made an excuse to stay over so he didn't have to drive home.
 
Ptaaty said:
stop now....a text then one call is plenty...

you already pushed it, back off, then if he ever does contact you laugh and make a joke....seriously, a date then multiple calls, text? just too much.
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I let him drive home drunk, I just want to know that he's alive. That's it, my "relationship" with him is the last thing on my mind.
 
Lactose_Intolerant said:
Lives an hour away, not returning calls, rush to get home. Date didn't go as well as you think it did.

If he was really drunk and in to you he would have made an excuse to stay over so he didn't have to drive home.
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Drove an hour to see me, took me to a expensive ass resteraunt, movie, and then multiple bars and drinks, we spent about 7 hours with each other(no sex, mutually agreed upon) and we spent hours talking on the phone prior. He rushed home because he had family issues that he we've been talking about for about a week. I let him drive home drunk, I'd rather he be blowing me off believe me, but that isn't consistant with how things went down. I just want to know that he's OK. And it just doesn't feel right.
 
Sadly I can't think of any advice other than wait and hope he contacts you. Maybe one of those number look up services will help.

Good luck OP.
 
Fisticuffs said:
You can check the county court website that he resides in and see if he was booked for a DUI.
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Do this. Check the police report in his town/towns across his route home, too... There's probably a live feed of it somewhere online. If there's nothing there, then his phone's probably just off.
 
DR2K said:
Drove an hour to see me, took me to a expensive ass resteraunt, movie, and then multiple bars and drinks, we spent about 7 hours with each other(no sex, mutually agreed upon) and we spent hours talking on the phone prior. He rushed home because he had family issues that he we've been talking about for about a week. I let him drive home drunk, I'd rather he be blowing me off believe me, but that isn't consistant with how things went down. I just want to know that he's OK. And it just doesn't feel right.
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edit: whoops, read this last night like he was a father in a family for some reason. i dunno
 
dojokun said:
Sweet. I'm going to look out for hot drunk chicks whenever I go out and follow them and try to find out what I can because I'm genuinely worried about them.
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Well to match my situation exactly that require going on a date and commencing an interpersonal relationship. It's not something you need to worry about.

I'm trying to find out if he's in a hospital or a jail cell because of my actions actually. If anything happens to him his death is going to be over my shoulders for the rest of my life.

I made this thread to see if there were any good search tools to find police reports, hospital records, etc. . . because I'm drawing blanks, thanks to how damn large my "city" is.

Thanks for whatever help you guys have been offering. So frustrating. . .
 
DR2K said:
Long story short: So I had a date on Saturday, it was amazing, but we both got really drunk. He lives an hour away, but insisted on driving that night. Had I been more sober I would have stopped him, but he was in a rush to get home.

I've called him sevral times, texted, left messages and nothing. I really just want to know that he made it home alright and I have a horrible feeling that he didn't. I left him a message stating that all I wanted to know was that he made it home OK, that's my MO right now. How would I go about trying to see that he's OK?
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Not to sound too negative or pessimistic, but if he was dead or arrested for a DUI or whatnot, it would be in the news papers, no?
 
DR2K said:
Well to match my situation exactly that require going on a date and commencing an interpersonal relationship. It's not something you need to worry about.

I'm trying to find out if he's in a hospital or a jail cell because of my actions actually. If anything happens to him his death is going to be over my shoulders for the rest of my life.

I made this thread to see if there were any good search tools to find police reports, hospital records, etc. . . because I'm drawing blanks, thanks to how damn large my "city" is.

Thanks for whatever help you guys have been offering. So frustrating. . .
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Try to google "arrest inquiry" or "inmate inquiry" for your county/the county the person lives in, you should be able to find something you can use to search a name under to see if they were arrested for anything
 
Teh Hamburglar said:
Are we sure he isn't playing the douchebag card and avoiding you?
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It's happened before, but I gave him permission to ignore me, just to let me know that he made it home. Ignoring is one thing, but this would be cruel and it just doesn't match up with the type of person that he is. He's just not the cowardly/dbag type. He's an asshole that just says whatever is on his mind. . .

Yeah I called him on a different phone just to see if he was ignoring me, but the same exact amount of rings into voicemail. (he usually called around this time)
 
I don't think DUI charges would get you into newspaper.

Just make sure you don't send 600 texts in 3 days like that 2ch guy.
 
DR2K said:
Drove an hour to see me, took me to a expensive ass resteraunt, movie, and then multiple bars and drinks, we spent about 7 hours with each other(no sex, mutually agreed upon) and we spent hours talking on the phone prior. He rushed home because he had family issues that he we've been talking about for about a week. I let him drive home drunk, I'd rather he be blowing me off believe me, but that isn't consistant with how things went down. I just want to know that he's OK. And it just doesn't feel right.
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Haha, I'm sorry. This made me laugh.

Hope he's ok, any updates?
 
Maybe it's our turn to start calling the OP.
 
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