Gamer friend has passed away :(

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I found out today that someone I have been gaming with almost everyday for 3 years disappeared recently and was found dead. im shocked , numb and sad. I was gaming when I found out and all I could do after was sit there in a daze staring at their screen name on my friendslist . Although I never met them in person we spoke personally even outside games all the time and they will be missed.

Goodbye, friend
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Huge hugs for your loss, man. It's hard, even if you've never met someone in person. There's a reason why guilds get so close. Even if it's only virtual, you're in the "trenches" with these people.
 
I went through the same thing, OP, although I hadn't talked to him in awhile. For some reason it hit me harder than some of the IRL losses I've experienced.

Best wishes, buddy.
 
There's someone terminal on my friends list and I know one day soon they will just stop replying and it will be super sad.
 
Worst thing about having internet-only friends. Sometimes they just disappear, weeks or months go by and you find out they died. Or you just never hear from them again and are left wondering.

Sorry about your friend. Has happened to me too.
 
echoshifting said:
Worst thing about having internet-only friends. Sometimes they just disappear, weeks or months go by and you find out they died. Or you just never hear from them again and are left wondering.

Sorry about your friend. Has happened to me too.
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Always fearful of this possibility, I've signed up for one of those services that'll send an email to specified addresses if you don't respond to its weekly emails after a month.

Sorry for your loss, OP.
 
Wow, dude. I'm so sorry. :(
 
Sad news. I'm sorry, beard. This happened to me, also. Someone I "knew" from another forum and played games with occasionally.
 
My condolences. Death is never easy to deal with, but not being able to see it personally to say, "This is it, I saw it myself," is... Almost as bad as being there when it happens I would imagine.
 
We tend to get to know these people better than we may people in our immediate lives. You can be 100% your self and not care. I have been playing with my online friends for almost 12 years, and some I've met in person. Some more than half a dozen times. I'm sorry to hear about your friend, because I know how hard it would be to hear about my buddies. Play your guys' favorite game in honor of him/her.
 
I went trough the same a couple years ago....

I played a lot of Lineage II during the day with a group, I will call him Roro, we formed a clan in one of those private servers and became one of the best clans in there. We were all friends and we knew each other, some times we went to PC bangs to play all nighters of L2 and always threw banter between each other but it was good times.

The day he died was weird, felt slow, and a friend who played with us on L2 and now plays with me on Destiny came to my house to tell me that Roro died, scratch that, he was killed by his cousin, they were drunk and got into an argument and his cousin used a rock to beat him up, and ended up killing him.

I felt numb, lost all energy, I knew that guy for years and because of some unfortunate circunstancies he died. Every time I play L2 now I get reminded of him, I remember his builds everything, I, just couldn't play the game anymore without bringing his memory. Now I just play the game and remember the good times together. Because we had plenty with the old clan.

Rest in peace buddy.
 
I imagine it's a pretty surreal experience and something the newer generations will experience more than older ones.
Sorry for your loss, OP
 
Sorry for your loss, OP :(

I know you can have a real connection with people online, I've been broken up over forum friends who have passed. It hurts.
 
echoshifting said:
Worst thing about having internet-only friends. Sometimes they just disappear, weeks or months go by and you find out they died. Or you just never hear from them again and are left wondering.

Sorry about your friend. Has happened to me too.
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I have a group of online friends I met on GameFAQs in 1999-2000 and still actively play stuff with. We lost one in 2014 to cancer and it was so fast he never even got a chance to let us know - we got worried after a few months of no contact, and ended up having to contact his family to find out. I know people say this often but he was literally without exaggeration the nicest person I've ever known. When we were in a high end WoW raid guild he put up with a lot of bullshit for his disability (he was deaf) but everyone loved him all the same. Just not fucking fair.

I didn't think it'd hit me as hard as it did, but it made me appreciate everyone I have left that much more. I've been keeping up with them much more often since then. I thought about trying to get a memorial for him in WoW like they have done for others but it probably wasn't my place to do it.
 
Sorry OP. It sucks, no other way to put it.

Experienced the same thing about 4 years ago myself. Was a friend from overseas who was seriously one of the best people I had ever met. Just so selfless and full of life, even though he knew he was going to die sooner than most (he had a form of cancer that was terminal). yet somehow he never let it get him down, and he had to go through so many crazy treatments most of us would just give up after.

He never mentioned how sick he was other than the one time sharing he was in fact terminal, so never knew where he stood. When he did pass away, I felt awful as it took me about 2 weeks to realize it.

Also not trying to be heartless by saying this, in fact quite the opposite as I never did so and literally just yesterday I saw his name, but you may or may not want to remove this person as a friend on your gaming networks. I did not as I said, so every-time I fire up Steam I see this person still represented digitally, and it bums me out majorly but it also servers as a reminder of him. I cannot bring myself to remove them myself. Just thought I would mention it as it is a real thing you will deal with even years later.
 
Sorry to hear this OP :(

jb1234 said:
Always fearful of this possibility, I've signed up for one of those services that'll send an email to specified addresses if you don't respond to its weekly emails after a month.
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I have thought about doing something like this myself, with people now living half their lives online, I have often seen people on other sites I am on just vanish without a word, did they become ill, die or end up in jail or something else, most if they know they have to leave due to a illness or family situation say something before they leave.
 
Playing games with someone online regularly becomes a kind of intimate thing. You may have not known him in person or really engaged in many ways outside of gaming, but it's still someone who was a part of your life. It's a tremendous loss regardless of the nature of the relationship.

I'm very sorry OP and condolences to the family. :(
 
echoshifting said:
Worst thing about having internet-only friends. Sometimes they just disappear, weeks or months go by and you find out they died. Or you just never hear from them again and are left wondering.

Sorry about your friend. Has happened to me too.
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This actually happened to me. When i was in HS I played a shit ton of Starcraft and I made a couple good friends. One of them got to the point we started playing other online games together until they just disappeared one day despite being online all the time playing tons of games in their spare time. We even talked about our actual lives and stuff and they seemed totally normal and with no serious issues so I suspect something fairly drastic happened for them to just suddenly stop coming on and never to be seen again. Still don't know whatever happened to them to this day.
 
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