Baron Aloha
A Shining Example
First some back story, this guy was my best friend from around age 10-15. They say that the friends that you have around that age always seem to be the best ones you'll ever have and truth be told even after our friendship deteriorated and the years have passed I still feel like he was the best friend I've ever had.
When he was 14 his parents went through a messy divorce (I mean really messy) and shortly afterwards he started using drugs. His personality completely changed in a matter of months. He became agitated, unpredictable, etc. It got to the point where I was no longer comfortable being around him. I tried to help comfort him about his parents divorce and try to convince him to stop using drugs but there is only so much that a, now 15 year old, person can do. We got into a big argument and I haven't seen him since (this was in 1994). Until last night that is.
My girlfriend and I went to a club as a show of support for another friend of mine who was DJ-ing there. As we all left the club and the four of us (me, gf, dj-friend, his gf) walked to our cars we came to an intersection and we had to cross the street. Sitting right at the corner next to another homeless person was my childhood friend. I am positive it was him. I instantly recognized the facial features, voice, hair color, and build.... and for a second there he looked at me and I could tell that he recognized me too. We didn't say anything to each other and I went on my way.
I'm really not sure how I should feel about this. A part of me really wants to help him but I know that he is not the same person that he was 10 years ago and that I would probably be opening myself up to all sorts of trouble. But he was my friend. He was a good person until his life basically fell apart. I'm really not sure what to do. I know that if our places were switched I would like someone to help me. I haven't told anyone that I know about seeing him. So I'm asking GAF for advice. What would you do?
When he was 14 his parents went through a messy divorce (I mean really messy) and shortly afterwards he started using drugs. His personality completely changed in a matter of months. He became agitated, unpredictable, etc. It got to the point where I was no longer comfortable being around him. I tried to help comfort him about his parents divorce and try to convince him to stop using drugs but there is only so much that a, now 15 year old, person can do. We got into a big argument and I haven't seen him since (this was in 1994). Until last night that is.
My girlfriend and I went to a club as a show of support for another friend of mine who was DJ-ing there. As we all left the club and the four of us (me, gf, dj-friend, his gf) walked to our cars we came to an intersection and we had to cross the street. Sitting right at the corner next to another homeless person was my childhood friend. I am positive it was him. I instantly recognized the facial features, voice, hair color, and build.... and for a second there he looked at me and I could tell that he recognized me too. We didn't say anything to each other and I went on my way.
I'm really not sure how I should feel about this. A part of me really wants to help him but I know that he is not the same person that he was 10 years ago and that I would probably be opening myself up to all sorts of trouble. But he was my friend. He was a good person until his life basically fell apart. I'm really not sure what to do. I know that if our places were switched I would like someone to help me. I haven't told anyone that I know about seeing him. So I'm asking GAF for advice. What would you do?