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So yesterday me and my girlfriend broke up. This is something I didn't want to do but I am moving away and she can't come with me because of her responsibilites here. We agreed mutually that it would be best to move on and eventhough I agreed then, I feel like im making a huge mistake. Yesterday we spent the whole day hanging out together and being a couple for the last time, and I was very happy. Today.. I feel like total shit. I'm trying to take my mind off it but it is very hard. Hell, i'm having trouble even eating.

The question I wanted to ask was: Should I consider a long distance relationship? I wanted to talk to her about it but I feel that maybe it wouldn't be fair for both of us and hurt us more in the long run. I don't think I can feel any worse than I do right now, though. Anyway, if a long distance relationship did happen, the most I could see her is maybe a few days out of every 2 months at most. This sucks, I really don't know what to do.
 
Distance sucks. I have been in long distance relationship off and on for three years, and as of yesterday it is off again. Trust me, it's probably not worth it.
 
Long distance relationships suck SO bad. That's about all there is to it. You have to be a very strong person, and very in love, to make it work for a long time. Even then, after a while it'll get to be a lot to deal with.
 
the biggest problem is that I'll be going to school full-time and working as well. She has two jobs at the moment and it's hard for her to get consecutive days off.
 
I've been in a long distance relationship for two years now, and it really isn't big of a distance. I'm in U.K. and she's in Belgium, we've been taking it slow and like every relationship we've had our ups and downs, but damn was it worth it, when I'm with her, nothing compares at all. I see her every month mostly and it works coz we love each other, plus its very cheap to go there, its practically next door, a 2 and a half hour train ride away. I'll be moving to Belgium this coming Christmas :) So it can work, if you really put your mind to it, but you have to be really strong too, there are times where you just want to give up, but don't! If you really love that person, any pain should be worth what you have with them...
 
If your in love then your strength should be able to guide you through the hard times that lie with being in a long distance relationship. I know all to well the added stresses and preasure one can put on someones life. Certain abscenes create new joys in life. As long as you love the person you should be ok.

Been in this relationship for 3 years now myself, making plans for later on in life that i might be able to move within the company i'll be working for to be closer to her.
 
Haha, I'm going about it ass backwards. There's this girl I knew that lived in my city who I was friends with, and I know she really liked me but I was stupid and was more interested in her friend. Anyway, long story short, I lost touch with her, but I recently found out she moved out of state for a year. So we've been talking via email. For some reason, I had this freaking dream one night that with her in it, and I couldn't stop thinking about her afterwards. Then I realized how great of a person she is, and how I feel like shit for blowing my chance the first go-around. I'm an idiot. And a hopeless romantic. Ok, a hopeless romantic idiot. Yeah.
 
No, do not bother. I tried (someone I actually met that moved away, not Internet dating thanks). It doesn't work. You're wasting your time and hurting yourself at the end of the day.
 
Diablos said:
No, do not bother. I tried (someone I actually met that moved away, not Internet dating thanks). It doesn't work. You're wasting your time and hurting yourself at the end of the day.
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Weaksauce total, sometimes things happen for a reason. Some of us are stronger and dont let things get in the way of that love we have for those we care about. Its hard but at the end of the day its not about us but about the ones we care for.
 
It does and absolutely can work. Like some have mentioned here, it's all a matter of how in love you both are with each other. If you really want it, and believe in what you have, then you'll make it happen. It may be one of the toughest things you both will ever endure, but set some goals for the future (like eventually being together, or at least being closer at some point in time) that you want to work towards. In the meantime, use technology to your advantage. Internet telephony, webcam etc.

It's tough as heck, but realistic. You just both have to really, really want it.
 
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Weaksauce total, sometimes things happen for a reason. Some of us are stronger and dont let things get in the way of that love we have for those we care about. Its hard but at the end of the day its not about us but about the ones we care for.
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It would depend on the situation, yes. It might work for some.
 
The person I'm seeing at the moment lives about 4 hours away on the train, so I guess you could call that long distance. We make sure we see each other every week, it can be hard sometimes (especially since I've never been in a long distance relationship) but I dunno, there's something about it that just makes me appreciate what I have even more, with the time we get together we always make the most of it. Sure it isn't ideal but if things work out then hopefully either one of us will make the move closer, but for now I'm just thankful for what I have. Hurrah.
 
How old are you both?

The biggest danger must surely be being around other people more than you're around each other. Let's face that... I don't think one of you would 'go off' the other without some increasing incentive. Now that could be the introduction of new people or it could be the pure hassle it would be to get together all the time. You should promise each other that if its not working, or something/someone new comes along, that you'll be honest. A lot of people probably feel that goes without saying, but maybe if people insisted on communicating properly things wouldn't necessarily hit the rocks.

If you're REALLY (as Brodie would say) retarded for one another, it can work.

How long would you be looking at? Years? Term time?
 
Been in one for 18 months, I'm so fucking happy in it. I'd rather see my significant other every other weekend than anyone else every day of the week. We talk on the phone every night, so we cope. Going to move in a few months hopefully. <3 It's really hard, but rewarding.
 
My girl is in Hong Kong right now, I'm in the US.
It sucks quite a bit.
But we weren't just gonna throw in the towel, things weren't changeable at the time, her visa expired and she had to go. But we're starting the stuff so she can get back over here.
I've had shorter long distance relationships that didn't work, but I was much younger. Age, well emotional maturity that is, and the people themselves play heavily into it.
 
Long distance relationships work as long as there is light at the end of the tunnel. If it's going to be communicating by phone/e-mail/aim and seeing the person once a month for a little while then it's fine as long as you eventually can realistically get back to a normal relationship scenario. But if it's just phone/e-mail/aim forever then eh I doubt that can work.
 
Like alot of people have already said, long distance relationships can work. It would be really difficult and painful at times.. but it can work.
 
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