Lemurnator
Banned
If you've ever read any threads relating to the issues my brother has had in the past along with the impact it has on the rest of my family, you might know that my brother is to say the least, very fucked up and may skip these paragraphs, run on sentences, and parts where I should devide up what I'm writing into what should be paragraphs.
The pressure has been building and building on my mother and stepdad to remove him from their house. His total lack of interest in moving his life forward. His current path of self destruction that he expresses no interest in getting off reguardless of the COUNTLESS opportunities presented to him. His pathological lying. His disreguard for other people and his quickness to place blame for things going unsatisfactory in his life on other people for inane reasons. His lack of respect for dare I say, "our" home. I live here too... so do I have the right to call the house my parents pay for "my" home? I dunno if my saying that will piss a few people here off... Amyways, for example: Catching his bedroom floor on fire. Leaving food to rot in his room. Pissing into cans instead of walking from his room to the distance of maybe 5 feet to use the toilet and then leaving the cans under his bed or on top of his dresser. All this and many other things I dare not even speak of here that defy the meaning of the word vile. He lives like an animal, and has many behavioral characteristics of say, a fully grown chimpanzee. OR a mentally, emotionally, and sexually disturbed 12 year old boy.
I have a 12 year old brother and he acts odd at times but according to my mom and many other adults I've talked to, not outside what's reasonable for a 12 year old boy to act. As shocking as that seems to me. He goes online and he meets girls who he doesn't really know. All of them obviously (just by LOOKING at them) have very low self respect and are grateful for any attention or any company a male is willing to offer them. This is the truth and this is sad. There have been a few cases where he's met people who can see who he truely is and promptly realize there's nothing for them in having a relationship with someone who relentlessly consumes and never gives anything back, in any form. He uses each girl for them to buy him things, to take him out, and to give them sex... until the resources they're willing to give him run dry and are no longer willing to be "another brick in his wall" so to speak.
It's so very hard to describe my brother in a way that a person outside the family could understand just exactly how far gone he is. He absolutely refuses to be an adult. This is made apparent in everything that his does. His attitude toward everything including how he feels he should be taken care of. It also comes across in how he talks. One girl my brother had contact with still has friendly communication with my mom from time to time. In their last conversation my mom had with this girl, she described how my brother had once told her about how when he "Grew up..." and this was followed by something that isn't as important so I can't remember what was said afterward... She had said to my brother at the time "You're already grown up." and something else.... this was information that was relayed to me from my mom who told me when she got off the phone with her. My brother is over the age of 18, he is an adult. He can legally purchase alcohol. He can buy cigarettes. He can buy porn. He can buy a firearm and has done all of these things. It's the fact that he still thinks of himself as something of a child at his age that I, my mother, and everyone else involved find every disturbing.
His lack of maturaty, akin to that of a 12 year old boy mixed with his being an adult with a history of sexual quirks is something that should raise eyebrows. He uses girls with low self esteem for sex. This much everyone knows. I don't know how to properly say this, but I would keep an eye on him for abusing children. The way he acts is just very suspicious. I believe that an ADULT, with an adult sex drive and desires paired in a person who absolutely refuses to grow up to be dangerious. It's mixing adult sexuallity with the naivety and immaturaty of a child. I have plenty of reason to believe that he might be someone who becomes an abuser in the future if he hasn't already without anyone else being aware. I am not the only person who things this. My mother, and several psychologists whom she has talked to have all thought of this as a scary possibility to keep an eagle eye out for... which is devistating to my mom.
Now you may have enough of an idea on the kind of a person my brother is to make your own psychological profile if him and apply that to what you think I should do in this situation.
The day before yesterday my brother was looking for his W2s or something like that so he could apply for his tax refund. These are details I don't quite understand and aren't quite relevant. Anyways, my brother had put them down somewhere and could not find them during the day. He had searched the house all over in order to find them. My mom had tried to help him find them. In his bitterness for losing his W2s he made a comment which made my mom snap. This would be the straw that broke the camels back. A comment which would represent everything she felt was wrong with my brother continuing to be a part of all of our lives living in the same house. He made a comment about how the house is so messy (which it really isn't) it's no wonder he can't find anything. My mom went off on him throwing his comment back into his face. How could HE of all people complain about other peoples living space being messy. This is coming from the guy who pisses in cans because he's too lazy to get up and go to the bathroom. She tells him he has until April 1st to move out. She's soon going to get this submitted in writing because my brother would NOT leave unless my mom were to get this notice which would perminantly ban him from what I understand from living inside our house. My mom realizes this and is going to follow up on her promise.
This is NOT something that just popped into her head. She's said this before and never followed up because as she's said to me privately her conscience would not allow her to kick her son out on the street in the cold reguardless of anything he had done short of abusing someone as he was an adult, or another extremely severe action. There's been a lot of tention between myself and my brother especially because he's to say the least the one person who's had the biggest negative impact in my life, and who I believe will be the one who has the longest lasting negative impact in my life. My mom knows this and it makes it hard for her to know how I feel about his presence at the same time she can't feel as though she can just kick him out on the street.
Either way, now is the end of the line for him and he knows it.
Today he knocked on the door to tell me he bought a gun. He said he was just going to use it for recreational shooting. I know he aquired it legally as he has done with other guns in the past (and later sold them back to the store who sold them to him due to him needing money for transportation). He asked if I wanted to go to the range with him and not to tell my mom or my stepdad. He is keeping the gun at his current flavor of the month's house. I was shocked. First of all I don't know why he would ask me since I don't even know if it's legal for me to even hold a rifle or shoot one or anything at a range. Especially without parental concent. I'm not sure what the laws are on that. D'uh... also... the fact that he bought a gun one or two days after my mom brings the hammer down on him blows me off my feet. Reguardless of his interest in the hobby. The timing is just down right scary and I'm not sure how I should handle the situation. If I am obligated to inform my mom that my brother now has a gun, especially given the current circumstances. I'm not sure what could happen and I'm afraid of what might. I'm afraid of what would happen if I told her how that would affect the environment in our house... I can't stand all the yelling... it has a horrible affect on me and I can't help but cry alone in my room when I hear that they're at it AGAIN.
It's so stressful. My mom is showing physical signs of being under extreme stress. Including ones none of us knew could be signs of high stress including for her excema, hair loss, and high blood pressure. For me it's extreme depression, anxiety, and lack of sleep and guilt for absolutely no reason yet I can't help but feel it and I can't control it. It's been especially hard on me also because I've been very, very sick recently which would account for my long periods of time without coming online. For my stepdad it would seem he's utterly enraged by the whole situation but doesn't know where he can come in and take a stand and really express his anger in front of me and my mom. It's been hard on everyone.
Knowing all this... do you think I should tell my mom, or at least all my brothers more normal friends about the gun? I suggested to my brother that he let this one friend of his hold onto it for him, mostly because I know where to contact this person if something comes up and I need to tell him to widthhold the gun from my brother... I don't think that my brother would do something insane like commiting a crime with a gun.
I also don't think I really know my brother well enough to make that judgement.
I apologize for the long winded explanation, poor grammar, spelling, angst, ect. ect. I had to write this somewhere where at least a few people have something relatively helpful to contribute or say. Some people who might know what they're talking about.
The pressure has been building and building on my mother and stepdad to remove him from their house. His total lack of interest in moving his life forward. His current path of self destruction that he expresses no interest in getting off reguardless of the COUNTLESS opportunities presented to him. His pathological lying. His disreguard for other people and his quickness to place blame for things going unsatisfactory in his life on other people for inane reasons. His lack of respect for dare I say, "our" home. I live here too... so do I have the right to call the house my parents pay for "my" home? I dunno if my saying that will piss a few people here off... Amyways, for example: Catching his bedroom floor on fire. Leaving food to rot in his room. Pissing into cans instead of walking from his room to the distance of maybe 5 feet to use the toilet and then leaving the cans under his bed or on top of his dresser. All this and many other things I dare not even speak of here that defy the meaning of the word vile. He lives like an animal, and has many behavioral characteristics of say, a fully grown chimpanzee. OR a mentally, emotionally, and sexually disturbed 12 year old boy.
I have a 12 year old brother and he acts odd at times but according to my mom and many other adults I've talked to, not outside what's reasonable for a 12 year old boy to act. As shocking as that seems to me. He goes online and he meets girls who he doesn't really know. All of them obviously (just by LOOKING at them) have very low self respect and are grateful for any attention or any company a male is willing to offer them. This is the truth and this is sad. There have been a few cases where he's met people who can see who he truely is and promptly realize there's nothing for them in having a relationship with someone who relentlessly consumes and never gives anything back, in any form. He uses each girl for them to buy him things, to take him out, and to give them sex... until the resources they're willing to give him run dry and are no longer willing to be "another brick in his wall" so to speak.
It's so very hard to describe my brother in a way that a person outside the family could understand just exactly how far gone he is. He absolutely refuses to be an adult. This is made apparent in everything that his does. His attitude toward everything including how he feels he should be taken care of. It also comes across in how he talks. One girl my brother had contact with still has friendly communication with my mom from time to time. In their last conversation my mom had with this girl, she described how my brother had once told her about how when he "Grew up..." and this was followed by something that isn't as important so I can't remember what was said afterward... She had said to my brother at the time "You're already grown up." and something else.... this was information that was relayed to me from my mom who told me when she got off the phone with her. My brother is over the age of 18, he is an adult. He can legally purchase alcohol. He can buy cigarettes. He can buy porn. He can buy a firearm and has done all of these things. It's the fact that he still thinks of himself as something of a child at his age that I, my mother, and everyone else involved find every disturbing.
His lack of maturaty, akin to that of a 12 year old boy mixed with his being an adult with a history of sexual quirks is something that should raise eyebrows. He uses girls with low self esteem for sex. This much everyone knows. I don't know how to properly say this, but I would keep an eye on him for abusing children. The way he acts is just very suspicious. I believe that an ADULT, with an adult sex drive and desires paired in a person who absolutely refuses to grow up to be dangerious. It's mixing adult sexuallity with the naivety and immaturaty of a child. I have plenty of reason to believe that he might be someone who becomes an abuser in the future if he hasn't already without anyone else being aware. I am not the only person who things this. My mother, and several psychologists whom she has talked to have all thought of this as a scary possibility to keep an eagle eye out for... which is devistating to my mom.
Now you may have enough of an idea on the kind of a person my brother is to make your own psychological profile if him and apply that to what you think I should do in this situation.
The day before yesterday my brother was looking for his W2s or something like that so he could apply for his tax refund. These are details I don't quite understand and aren't quite relevant. Anyways, my brother had put them down somewhere and could not find them during the day. He had searched the house all over in order to find them. My mom had tried to help him find them. In his bitterness for losing his W2s he made a comment which made my mom snap. This would be the straw that broke the camels back. A comment which would represent everything she felt was wrong with my brother continuing to be a part of all of our lives living in the same house. He made a comment about how the house is so messy (which it really isn't) it's no wonder he can't find anything. My mom went off on him throwing his comment back into his face. How could HE of all people complain about other peoples living space being messy. This is coming from the guy who pisses in cans because he's too lazy to get up and go to the bathroom. She tells him he has until April 1st to move out. She's soon going to get this submitted in writing because my brother would NOT leave unless my mom were to get this notice which would perminantly ban him from what I understand from living inside our house. My mom realizes this and is going to follow up on her promise.
This is NOT something that just popped into her head. She's said this before and never followed up because as she's said to me privately her conscience would not allow her to kick her son out on the street in the cold reguardless of anything he had done short of abusing someone as he was an adult, or another extremely severe action. There's been a lot of tention between myself and my brother especially because he's to say the least the one person who's had the biggest negative impact in my life, and who I believe will be the one who has the longest lasting negative impact in my life. My mom knows this and it makes it hard for her to know how I feel about his presence at the same time she can't feel as though she can just kick him out on the street.
Either way, now is the end of the line for him and he knows it.
Today he knocked on the door to tell me he bought a gun. He said he was just going to use it for recreational shooting. I know he aquired it legally as he has done with other guns in the past (and later sold them back to the store who sold them to him due to him needing money for transportation). He asked if I wanted to go to the range with him and not to tell my mom or my stepdad. He is keeping the gun at his current flavor of the month's house. I was shocked. First of all I don't know why he would ask me since I don't even know if it's legal for me to even hold a rifle or shoot one or anything at a range. Especially without parental concent. I'm not sure what the laws are on that. D'uh... also... the fact that he bought a gun one or two days after my mom brings the hammer down on him blows me off my feet. Reguardless of his interest in the hobby. The timing is just down right scary and I'm not sure how I should handle the situation. If I am obligated to inform my mom that my brother now has a gun, especially given the current circumstances. I'm not sure what could happen and I'm afraid of what might. I'm afraid of what would happen if I told her how that would affect the environment in our house... I can't stand all the yelling... it has a horrible affect on me and I can't help but cry alone in my room when I hear that they're at it AGAIN.
It's so stressful. My mom is showing physical signs of being under extreme stress. Including ones none of us knew could be signs of high stress including for her excema, hair loss, and high blood pressure. For me it's extreme depression, anxiety, and lack of sleep and guilt for absolutely no reason yet I can't help but feel it and I can't control it. It's been especially hard on me also because I've been very, very sick recently which would account for my long periods of time without coming online. For my stepdad it would seem he's utterly enraged by the whole situation but doesn't know where he can come in and take a stand and really express his anger in front of me and my mom. It's been hard on everyone.
Knowing all this... do you think I should tell my mom, or at least all my brothers more normal friends about the gun? I suggested to my brother that he let this one friend of his hold onto it for him, mostly because I know where to contact this person if something comes up and I need to tell him to widthhold the gun from my brother... I don't think that my brother would do something insane like commiting a crime with a gun.
I also don't think I really know my brother well enough to make that judgement.
I apologize for the long winded explanation, poor grammar, spelling, angst, ect. ect. I had to write this somewhere where at least a few people have something relatively helpful to contribute or say. Some people who might know what they're talking about.
