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My Mom has Cancer

Melon

Melon

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Hi GAF pals. I know I've been kinda spotty in terms of activity, but there's a reason for it. Life has been throwing so many fucking curveballs my way lately. Today is no different. I got a phone call from my dad today. I could tell something was wrong by the tone of his voice. My dad's always been more on the stoic side, so hearing a crack in his voice just showed something really bad was up. My mom has breast cancer. I currently live 1,000 miles away from them and honestly, I feel completely shattered. My mom and I have had a lot of fights over the years and we butt heads a lot, but she is my world. She sacrificed so much for me, and even just the THOUGHT of something happening to her sends me into a panic.


I've been crying most of the day, but right now I just feel broken. Yeah, I know breast cancer is one of the easier cancers out there, but that doesn't change how fucking horrifying it is to hear that the woman who gave everything for me is sick and hurting. I just want my mom right now, but that can't happen. I can't afford to visit right now. I just feel so hopeless and helpless. My boyfriend is obviously trying his best to comfort me, and I appreciate him for that, but I just want to be with her right now.
 
Prayers and good vibes to you, your mom and the rest of your family. I hope she gets too-notch care and you're able to visit soon.
 
How much does it cost to get home? You can drive 1000 miles in ~13 hours. Even with 3 days off and ~$200 you can make it happen if you have a car. Sounds like your boyfriend is supportive and open to helping too.
 
Melon said:
Hi GAF pals. I know I've been kinda spotty in terms of activity, but there's a reason for it. Life has been throwing so many fucking curveballs my way lately. Today is no different. I got a phone call from my dad today. I could tell something was wrong by the tone of his voice. My dad's always been more on the stoic side, so hearing a crack in his voice just showed something really bad was up. My mom has breast cancer. I currently live 1,000 miles away from them and honestly, I feel completely shattered. My mom and I have had a lot of fights over the years and we butt heads a lot, but she is my world. She sacrificed so much for me, and even just the THOUGHT of something happening to her sends me into a panic.


I've been crying most of the day, but right now I just feel broken. Yeah, I know breast cancer is one of the easier cancers out there, but that doesn't change how fucking horrifying it is to hear that the woman who gave everything for me is sick and hurting. I just want my mom right now, but that can't happen. I can't afford to visit right now. I just feel so hopeless and helpless. My boyfriend is obviously trying his best to comfort me, and I appreciate him for that, but I just want to be with her right now.
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So sorry to hear that.

Just like you, she'll be imagining the worst. Make sure you tell her everything you're thankful for, everything you love about her, every little thing she wouldn't even realise you love about her. Think about the regrets and mistakes you feel may have upset her and settle those concerns. It's not about self-help, but about making your mother feel better.

And have hope.
 
If it's caught early it's much better. My mum had cervical cancer back in 2002 but because I was 16, my older siblings and her kept it from me a lot, but it's stil terrifying.

She's still here..and wondering why I want to spend 500 quid on a PS5 console that plays football games better than a PS4 lol.

There's always hope. Try and stay positive sweetie!
 
Very sorry to hear that, Melon.

I lost my mother to cancer 6 years ago. The most I can say is to lend her your strength by being there for her and being by her side as you can. Even if you can't be there physically. Just stay in touch with her. You will be stronger for it, as will she. Try to stay positive, and try your bets not to dwell on the small stuff and the quarrels you two had in the past.

Hoping for the best for your mother, as well as you.
 
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I've had that news before and I empathise with anybody who hears it.

You cant ask too many questions regarding treatment, how people are, changes that happen, what people may need. Just because you can't be there physically, it doesn't mean that you cant be somebodies rock just by using the phone.

❤️
 
I am really sorry to hear that. My Grandma had breast cancer and had to have chemo and one of them removed, but she survived and she's still alive at 89 years old, so stay optimistic about your Mom beating this.

I wish her the best luck in beating cancer's sorry ass and living a very long and happy life with the people she loves... Like you. :messenger_grinning:

Keep us updated, Melon, and God Bless your Mom and your family in this time of need.
 
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I hope that you, your mother, and the rest of your family make it through these testing times quickly and safely.
 
Damn, sorry to hear that. Hoping she pulls through. My mom had breast cancer as well as another bout with a different cancer recently.
 
Sorry to hear that. Get checked yourself. It might be something your family has a history of. Good luck in the future with everything.
 
sorry to hear that. do you know what stage it is at right now? if caught early there should be be a very good chance of survival . if you can't afford to go back for visit, maybe call and talk? show support to her and it would help her fighting this.
 
I am so sorry Melon. I lost my mother almost 3 years ago.

I have a ton of regrets from my younger years. Being a shit head teenager was definitely one of them. I am extremely thankful I got to make up for it later on.
 
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I'm so sorry. I hope you get to spend time with her soon. I know It's hard to stay positive in times like this but do the best that you can. She'll need a strong support system to get healthy.
 
My Mom had cancer, she is in remission. Best thing you can do is be there for her and help out in anyway you can. Meals, driving to appointments, just hanging around with her asking if she needs stuff done.
You have my best wishes.
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Hang in there. Wish her the best and I hope she recovers to 100%. If you ever need anyone to talk to, I'm sure everyone here is willing.
 
I'm so so sorry to hear about your Mother, Melon :messenger_pensive:

May I ask why is it hard for you to visit your Mother these next few months? If it is financial, we, as the GAF community, can try to help as much as possible. I know we can!
 
I'm sorry to hear about your mom. When I was 15 my 55 year old mom had a ping pong ball sized tumor in her brain. They gave her about a 1 in 4 chance of surviving the operation but it had to be done. She pulled through just fine and is still doing well at 84 years old today. My point being, don't lose hope and do your best to be strong for your mom.
 
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I'm sorry.

My mom died from chemo treatment last year fighting breast cancer. Her body was really fragile to begin with, she didn't make it past round 2.

She lived a life of chronic pain from a botch back surgery and had many many strong drugs in her system 24/7 to keep her daily life adequate, lasted about 10 years.

Although I was heartbroken for her continuous pain and trying to keep it in with a smile, and her loss from breast cancer, I know she had the will to live and fought every minute of it until she couldn't anymore.

It was an odd blessing in disguise, because she was now eligible for hospice care, and lived her remaining days in comfort with family. It was either that or, without cancer, she would have lived a life of increasing pain with her internal organs failing from the massive pain medications she was on throughout her life.

I don't know how I can help comfort you, but I wish her the best with chemo and hope the cancer subsides.
 
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Melon said:
Hi GAF pals. I know I've been kinda spotty in terms of activity, but there's a reason for it. Life has been throwing so many fucking curveballs my way lately. Today is no different. I got a phone call from my dad today. I could tell something was wrong by the tone of his voice. My dad's always been more on the stoic side, so hearing a crack in his voice just showed something really bad was up. My mom has breast cancer. I currently live 1,000 miles away from them and honestly, I feel completely shattered. My mom and I have had a lot of fights over the years and we butt heads a lot, but she is my world. She sacrificed so much for me, and even just the THOUGHT of something happening to her sends me into a panic.


I've been crying most of the day, but right now I just feel broken. Yeah, I know breast cancer is one of the easier cancers out there, but that doesn't change how fucking horrifying it is to hear that the woman who gave everything for me is sick and hurting. I just want my mom right now, but that can't happen. I can't afford to visit right now. I just feel so hopeless and helpless. My boyfriend is obviously trying his best to comfort me, and I appreciate him for that, but I just want to be with her right now.
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Be strong for her sake my brother. Her diet and lifestyle has to be on point. There is no kidding around with cancer. You have to eat to live and fight every moment to make the right choice. That means the best quality water you can buy and a lot of it, great quality sleep in a very dark room with zero light, and a ton of antioxidant foods preferably leaning towards a vegan keto diet with plenty of raw foods. Limit carbs and sugars to the utmost degree; but I also once read an article about manuka honey that stated that many doctors would not forego chemo, but instead take makuka honey in its place....so that may be looking into

Both my parents live daily with bad habits, and it scares me to know that they're so stubborn. Maybe you can help your parents fight. I would say do your best, and at least try
 
That is incredibly sad news. I'm currently awaiting my dad to see a specialist within the next few weeks. He's been waiting since before Xmas. His prostate is enlarged, and from Last it was checked to now it has grown. He finds out in about 3 weeks exactly what it is and it's scaring myself, my 2 younger brothers and my mum. We are hoping for the best but his father passed from cancer as well and we just hope it's not the case with my dad.
Melon, I really hope your mum recovers. A world without either of my parents would just about kill me. Best of luck to your mum and really, fuck cancer.
 
Good luck and success for your mother's medical treatment. My mother had breast cancer among other things. Make sure that your mother really gets the best treatment for the type of breast cancer she has. Unfortunately, some doctors do not keep up with the times and prescribe older and more inefficient chemotherapy (if needed).

Don't let it get you down. When you talk to your mother, be positive and give her strength. The chances of a complete recovery are more than good for your mother.
 
Breast cancer is one of the more manageable ones to deal with. You should be more optimistic about her survival chances and worry about that medical bill instead.
 
Sorry to hear that Melon Melon

The good news is now you know and can spend time with her while she recovers, making good memories to think about when she gets better. Plus you have a good excuse to unshackle some of the other b.s. in your life, whatever it may be.
 
Just go, whatever it takes.
She will definitely feel better seeing you and vice versa, having a great support group during therapy is tremendous help.
 
It's never easy when you get terrible news like this and I sympathise with you deeply not being able to be close to your Mum at this time.

Now for some tough love.

You have to be strong for your Mum now and put your own feelings aside. Feeling sad about things isn't going to help your Mum in anyway.

She needs your love, strength and positivity more than you realise. Find ways to give her that and watch her kick the fucking shit out of this disease.
 
Sorry to hear that Melon. Hopefully, they caught it early on. My mother was diagnosed a few years back and had to have surgery, but thankfully managed to avoid chemo full but had radiotherapy instead. Treatment is very good these days.
 
I have some good news and updates about my mom. Her double mastectomy was successful, and she starts chemo soon. With that said, however, she has a long road ahead of her, and she will be missing work for at least 6 months.

I'm not one to usually ask for help, but if you or anyone you know would like to donate it would be appreciated. Please do not feel obligated to donate. But I just really want to help them. They've done so much for me.

Thank you guys for always being so supportive and nice to me. I love you all.

www.gofundme.com

Donate to Help Christy Payne Fight Breast Cancer, organized by Kaylee Payne

My mom, Christy Payne, is the strongest person I know -- she is an absolute warri… Kaylee Payne needs your support for Help Christy Payne Fight Breast Cancer
www.gofundme.com www.gofundme.com
 
Melon said:
I have some good news and updates about my mom. Her double mastectomy was successful, and she starts chemo soon. With that said, however, she has a long road ahead of her, and she will be missing work for at least 6 months.

I'm not one to usually ask for help, but if you or anyone you know would like to donate it would be appreciated. Please do not feel obligated to donate. But I just really want to help them. They've done so much for me.

Thank you guys for always being so supportive and nice to me. I love you all.

www.gofundme.com

Donate to Help Christy Payne Fight Breast Cancer, organized by Kaylee Payne

My mom, Christy Payne, is the strongest person I know -- she is an absolute warri… Kaylee Payne needs your support for Help Christy Payne Fight Breast Cancer
www.gofundme.com www.gofundme.com
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This is good news. I'm happy for your family. Glad you are there for support! I will see if I can donate when I get my check Friday. Seems like a good cause. Keep fighting Melon Melon mom ❤️🙏
 
My thoughts go out to your mother, you and your family.

My mother passed away from cancer when I was in my early 20s so I know it's rough.

Keep fighting, my friend.
 
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My thoughts go out to your mother, you and your family.

My mother passed away from cancer when I was in my early 20s so I know it's rough.

Keep fighting, my friend.
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I am so sorry for your loss, I can't imagine what you went through. I hope you are doing well. Thank you so much for your support, it means the world to me.:messenger_heart:
 
Melon said:
I am so sorry for your loss, I can't imagine what you went through. I hope you are doing well. Thank you so much for your support, it means the world to me.:messenger_heart:
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Thank you so much.

Yeah it really did especially my dad. He suffered a strokr and heart attack as a result.
 
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