Story time about life recently.

anthony2690

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Hey, neogaf it's been a while...

Anyway, about 5 weeks ago, I finally left an awful 8 year relationship, I had genuinely been so unhappy in that relationship for years, I think I probably checked out around 2020, after I got her a limited animal crossing switch at launch to find out she had had been telling some other dude she loved him 🥲 (they never even met, COVID madness she claimed)

And she would call me a fat cunt and always try and argue with me, and I'd grin every time what made her angrier at me, I'd just get nervous, I didn't want to argue & she would say mean stuff like I hope you die in your sleep etc.

Anyway, I stayed a lot longer than I should have, I was really passive and just tolerated her I guess?

There was no love, no affection, I avoided her, we literally just cohabitated, then two and bit years ago, I started walking and as some may know from previous posts, lost a lot of weight. (I have since lost over half my body weight now and building muscle)

Anyway, then I'd get comments like you think you're all that now you've lost weight, I couldn't win 😅

We got two dogs, I really adored the dogs and think I stayed cause I really loved them, they showed me nothing but unconditional love.

Anyway, I made a friend via Reddit, she is a lesbian, and is like my biggest hype man, really helped me build my confidence and supported me, as you can imagine she ex absolutely hated her and would accuse me of having affairs etc, was a nightmare.

And then a few months back I downloaded this friendship app and met the most beautiful woman I have ever seen in my life, she was literally on the retail park I work at, visiting a different shop there, and came and met me after work, and we hung out together and it was genuinely lovely.

Then she kept inviting me out, we would get dinner together, coffee, go on huge walks, beautiful country parks, hell she would bring me a drink when she met me up 🥺

And then my ex partner went away abroad & I booked time of off work, and I was home alone with the dogs, so I could literally see my best friend and this girl almost every day without hassle, I put my phone on do not disturb, so the ex couldn't hassle/interrogate me.

This friendship was pretty much a secret, as I knew I'd get so much abuse, and holy shit, I realised I had a huge crush on this girl, like proper falling.

The way she would look at me, smile at me, the way she would do cute poses, and get photos together/of each other, she would pose me for the pics, and get me to drink alcohol, I don't drink, but I would happily drink Asahi or hopical storm with her 😅

She would ask to come round mine when the ex was away and I'd cook for her and we would watch old Jim Carrey movies together like yes man and play this sonic racing game together :)

Hell she planned this trip to a country park I'd never been to before with her and it was incredible.

And then before I knew it my ex partner was coming back from holiday and I knew this would not happen anymore and I'd really miss it more than anything.

And as I treat my insta like a diary, I was looking at a picture of me and her together as I was uploading pictures of this country park and debating whether to upload this picture or not (I didn't)

But the ex saw the picture and absolutely lost her shit, and she packed my stuff up, and demanded I leave, so I went to the gym and met up with my best friend and then went back to grab my stuff, what she denied me, and made me go on absolute goose chase for about a week to get my possessions back, Not fun, she thought I'd beg to stay and talk to sort things out with her.

But honestly it was like the biggest weight lifted of my shoulders ever, I crashed on my best friends floor a few nights and then return to my parents in a different city.

I'd be on the phone to my best friend telling her I really like this girl I met, she said it was obvious that she liked me back and I was oblivious, because she is like no girl is going to go on a 20 mile walk with you if they don't like you, and she said when we all went to get dinner and went and got pizza from Peter pizzeria she said it was like her and other person were crashing our date 😅


Anyway, a week later I meet up with the girl I like, we go for a walk, go to two different pubs, and then she walks me to train station and she strokes my arm and asks if I want to stay at hers?

But makes me promise to be a good boy 😅

Obviously I oblige, I'd never dream of making a move and ruining the lovely days we have together.

We go hers, sit on her sofa and she seems upset and confides in me about something personal and hugs me, I feel really sad for her.

Then she she gets up and climbs on me, legs either side of me and clings on to me, with the tightest cuddle ever, I'm genuinely mad startled, and then she gazes at me with that look and she tells me she has been dreaming about us being together with our own place, and kisses me, I genuinely feel like I have pinch myself, like what the hell is going on. (I'd been dreaming of this, but never ever thought it would happen)

Anyway she leads me to the hand to bed and we are just cuddling and kissing and I accidently grazed her bum with my hand and moved it away super quick and she puts my hand back there 😳

And yeah it ended up being a really magically night, and we've been seeing each other for just over a month now.

It's honestly been the best time of my life, despite living in a different city, I desperately want to get back to the city I was living in.

She cooks for me, takes a genuine interest, she shows me so much love and respect, it honestly feels far too good to be true and when I'm not with her, I think about her all the time, I do kinda hate that as I'm not use too it, and it does worry me a little as it does seem far to good to be true.

I cooked for her the other day, that went really well considering I've never cooked fresh before, usually only frozen stuff, she does want to push/encourage me to better myself, like learning to drive and getting a better job, as she says she dreams about us having a family together one day and I'd need to be able to support that & I want to be able to do these things and not let her down, she says I wouldn't need to worry about mortgage or rent, as she can get a place outright in the future, I just need to worry about proving for her and the kids.

She thinks we are good together as she will encourage me to better myself and around me she can relax, be herself and is genuinely happy.


I'll probably delete this post later as I imagine my gaf brothers will rip the shit out of me 😅

But I really need to get my ass in gear and learn to drive, but due to everything going on, I'm broke and trying to sort a place out to live, I have a viewing tomorrow, but I am thinking if learn to drive the career opportunities it will open up for me will be great and I can really achieve great things 😊

Lastly she said she only made friends with me originally as I was in a relationship and I wouldn't be creepy towards her, and then when I became single and because I never once made a move, but she thought it was obvious I liked her, she had to make a move as she realised I never would due to me being oblivious 🙃


I apologise in advance if this worded insanely poorly, & lastly only banjo-chan, can see the girl who has taken me away from him 🥰 haha

Edit: dear diary that ended up being an essay/ramble!
 
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Thank you for sharing your little slice of heaven that you found

Keep it and cherish it and hopefully you both have found, that missing piece in your lives

Good luck ❤️
 
Bro lived in a horror game, glitched into a dating sim, and speedran healing in under 5 weeks

Good for you my mannn
Haha I feel like my hard work and dedication is being rewarded!

I really hope it lasts, as I don't think I've ever actually been this happy before 😅
 
Lastly she said she only made friends with me originally as I was in a relationship and I wouldn't be creepy towards her, and then when I became single and because I never once made a move, but she thought it was obvious I liked her, she had to make a move as she realised I never would due to me being oblivious 🙃


I apologise in advance if this worded insanely poorly, & lastly only banjo-chan, can see the girl who has taken me away from him 🥰 haha

Edit: dear diary that ended up being an essay/ramble!
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AWESOME!
You deserve it, enjoy it, and leave that other shit in the past where it belongs. Don't bring it up, don't dwell on it inside your own head, and FOR THE LOVE OF GOD do NOT reach out to "check on her".

She is probably hella co-dependent and hates herself. That is why she is such a shit to you...she is trying to process how to deal with the feelings she has about herself. (this coming from me...a giant asshole btw)

You sound like you are in a great place best of luck bud!!
 
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AWESOME!
You deserve it, enjoy it, and leave that other shit in the past where it belongs. Don't bring it up, don't dwell on it inside your own head, and FOR THE LOVE OF GOD do NOT reach out to "check on her".

She is probably hella co-dependent and hates herself. That is why she is such a shit to you...she is trying to process how to deal with the feelings she has about herself. (this coming from me...a giant asshole btw)

You sound like you are in a great place best of luck bud!!
Thank you so much for the kind words, after I got my possessions I blocked her on everything and have no interest or desire of ever checking up on the ex 😅

I feel like a series of fortunate events have all happened and worked out insanely well for me 🥰
 
It's one of the mysteries of the ages that you may seem to have a good thing going on with a woman, then you say/do one "wrong" thing and suddenly you're the worst shit she's ever met.
Then on the other hand, you have guys doing their very best effort to cockblock themselves, but no, she won't have it - or rather, she'll have "it" at all costs, your efforts be damned.

Enjoy your good moment, bro. And for the love of God, keep a friend around to tell you when you're trying to sabotage yourself, because judging from your story, it's something you unfortunately seem to have a penchant for. Godspeed.
 
Really happy for you and I really hope it'll stay that way. Just don't move too quickly into the new relationship, a lot of women and especially borderline personality disorder women tend to idealize the relationship and the man at the start of the relationship. The way you describe her, it could be possible, hopefully not.

Like keep living it, embrace it, just be careful
 
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Yeah I had an ex I 'had' to leave her dogs with, pissed me off to no end :messenger_unamused:

I still think of those dogs to this day. They didn't deserve that.
For the best.
Gives you a fresh start with no baggage or connection with your ex.

Congrats man, glad it is all working out for you!
Yeah you're right in that regard.
& Thank you :)

I imagine I'll still think about the dogs years later, I hope they are happy and well looked after 😊
 
It's one of the mysteries of the ages that you may seem to have a good thing going on with a woman, then you say/do one "wrong" thing and suddenly you're the worst shit she's ever met.
Then on the other hand, you have guys doing their very best effort to cockblock themselves, but no, she won't have it - or rather, she'll have "it" at all costs, your efforts be damned.

Enjoy your good moment, bro. And for the love of God, keep a friend around to tell you when you're trying to sabotage yourself, because judging from your story, it's something you unfortunately seem to have a penchant for. Godspeed.
Yeah, honestly I think when I was younger I was super confident and with illness and becoming mega obese all the happiness and confidence left my life and I ended up in a terrible situation, now I'm really happy and confident again :) life couldn't be better, I'm super focused ATM :)!

Really happy for you and I really hope it'll stay that way. Just don't move too quickly into the new relationship, a lot of women and especially borderline personality disorder women tend to idealize the relationship and the man at the start of the relationship. The way you describe her, it could be possible, hopefully not.

Like keep living it, embrace it, just be careful
I just want to enjoy the moment, and I genuinely hope it lasts/works out :)

If it doesn't, sure I'll be sad, I won't lie, but I have a lot of incredible people in my life that are happy to see me and hang out, leaving my prior relationship made me realise how many people actually want to see me and care about me 🥺

I feel very fortunate :)
 
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