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Cops Pulling Over People to Hand Out Ice Cream Is Dangerous, Not Funny
It's important to really get why people roll their eyes at pickup basketball games and cookouts in place of actual police reform bolstered by new policies.
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I remember the first time a man let me know that he could kill me if he chose to.
I was 19 years old. My fiancé and I had just finished an argument. I had flinched at his rage. He noticed my fear, and he told me a story.
My ex told her family that she thought I was going to kill her, he said, I mean, Im really strong. I could hurt people really bad if I wanted to. Ill punch holes in walls if I have to. He pulled a sword off of the wall and casually twirled it around while he looked at me, But I wouldnt have hurt her. I wasnt abusive. She should see what real abuse is.
Today, when I saw this video which has gone viral these past few days as a feel-good cop story, I finally made the connection. The video is of a black woman being pulled over by police. There is terror on her face as the officer walks up to her car. His gun is at her eye level. But the officer doesnt reach for the guninstead, he reaches for two ice cream cones to hand over to her and her passenger. Her terror gives way to the almost tearful relief that she is not going to come to harm at the hands of these officers. At least not today.
Watching this video, I was suddenly 19 again, trying not to cry while my boyfriend toyed with a sword and told me that I was lucky hed never hurt me. And I was also the scared mother I was a few months ago, flooded with relief that the cop who followed my baby and I had let us get to the store alive. Watching this video I understood what these feel-good video and picture campaigns put on by police departments really areabuse. They are designed to remind us that they are in charge, and that they are capable of taking our lives in an instantbut if we are good and they are feeling benevolent, they wont.
These videos, combined with the countless videos of black men and women and children shot dead by cops, serve to remind us that we should both fear and love them if we want to survive. And if we dont survive, we have nobody to blame but ourselvessee how capable of not killing us they can be?
Anybody who has been in an abusive relationship will recognize this behavior. Its a raised hand that might be a slap but then lowers for a pat on the shoulder. Its a friendly warning thatthis timethey arent going to get really mad. A reminder that what you are experiencing right now isnt really abuseyou know what real abuse looks like.
The woman in this video was pulled over and terrorized just to let her know that they could. And she was given ice cream to let her know that she should be grateful. And the video was broadcast so that we would all know that we should feel the same.
Its disgusting.
The time and money spent terrorizing citizens with ice cream cones could have been spent retraining the police force on how to confront their implicit biases and deescalate potentially dangerous situations. Or it could have been spent doing anything other than pulling over unsuspecting black women and scaring the shit out of them for laughs.
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No, the police cant pull over drivers to give them gifts
But heres the catch: A lot of these stops are unconstitutional. When the police pull over a car, thats a Fourth Amendment seizure of the driver, any passengers, and everything inside. To justify that seizure, the police need at least some cause either that a driver committed a traffic violation or that a person in the car is involved in a crime or wanted in connection with a serious crime. If the police have that cause, they can stop the car regardless of whether they want to write a ticket, investigate a crime or give the driver an ice cream cone. But the police cant pull over the car without any cause, even if they want to do something nice, such as give the driver a gift.
Cops Pulling Over People to Hand Out Ice Cream Is Dangerous, Not Funny
To the untrained eye and ear, the black woman captured in the video sounded full of joy. But to black people everywhere, we know what loud, uncontrollable relief looks and sounds like. That relief that Maya Angelou once talked about that black women have perfected. That relief that forces you to laugh because you havent had the space to cry just yet. That relief every time we interact with police officers because we never know if we will leave that interaction alive.
In an attempt to better relations with community and police officers, the video does the exact opposite. It further highlights the fear that black people carry with them the moment they see flashing lights in their rearview mirror. Not only is this supposed lighthearted humor a complete waste of resources and tax dollars, but its also dangerous to stop a driver for no apparent reason other than to show how good a cop one is. Its tone-deaf and out of touch with our reality and experiences as black people.
Perhaps police officers often forget the names of Sandra Bland, Freddie Gray, Mike Brown and, most recently, Philando Castilewho was killed after being in the same car with his girlfriend (ironically the same configuration as the one shown in the video)but black people never will. We know what getting pulled over by the police can mean for us. We know what accidentally saying Maam to an egomaniacal, hypermasculine guy cop can mean for us. We know what can happen in a matter of seconds. And we recognize that all of this can occur anytime we step into a vehicle.
It's important to really get why people roll their eyes at pickup basketball games and cookouts in place of actual police reform bolstered by new policies.