Shifty1897
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GAF, listen to my story. I am the de-facto leader of a friend group that imploded yesterday after an altercation happened between two members. Let's call them Mark and Harry. They are married with kids. Mark and Harry get permission from the wives to go on a golf trip this past weekend with two other guys who are outside the friend group. We'll call them SideFriend #1 and #2, also married with kids. They got an Airbnb, the location is three hours away. Mark and Harry ride together, #1 and #2 live hours away in other directions and drive separately. They all arrive and everything seems fine. They golf all day Friday and all day Saturday, no issues. Saturday night comes and Harry and #1 want to go to the bars. Mark and #2 are sore and tired and want to rest at the Airbnb, so they drop Harry and #1 off and tell them to call when they want to be picked up. Here is where accounts of what happened differ:
HARRY'S ACCOUNT:
Harry and #1 stay at the bars until closing time and are now drunk. They meet a married couple at the bars and become friends. Harry invites them back to the Airbnb for more drinking. The married couple drives them back. Once they get to the Airbnb, Harry and #1 start drinking with the married couple in the living room. Eventually the married couple starts making out. One thing leads to another and the married couple start having sex, loudly, in the very room where #1 and Harry are sitting. Harry eventually feels awkward (he admits he stayed in there longer than he should have) and leaves to go to bed for the night. #1 stays and watches (lol).
MARK'S ACCOUNT:
Mark gets called at 1:15 AM to pick up Harry and #1 from the bars. #2 is already asleep. Mark drives out to the bar and calls Harry only to find out a random couple is driving them back to the Airbnb and they're almost back. Mark is annoyed but knows Harry is super drunk at this point and decides not to say anything. He drives back. When he gets there, there isn't just a married couple, but TWO women and a man in the living room drinking with Harry and #1. Mark goes to bed. At 3 AM he wakes up to the sound of "lots of sexual moaning". Mark is a Christian man who got married young and has been happily married for 20 years. He's the most morally rigid person in the group, we all know this and accept it. He becomes angry and knows he will be in trouble with his wife if she hears the boys-only golf trip turned into an orgy. He grabs his shit, says nothing, leaves out the side door and drives 3 hours home.
At 10 AM, Harry wakes up and notices Mark is gone. Mark's phone is off. Harry calls me freaking out. I look on find friends and see Mark drove back home already, leaving Harry stranded 3 hours away. I have a scheduled family photoshoot that day and cannot leave to go get him. One friend in the group offers to pick him up but Harry declines. Harry decides to rent a car and drive back, but has to call his wife to explain why Mark left him there and why he has to rent a car. Harry's wife is furious, but Harry maintains he "did nothing wrong". Harry has now left the friend group, and says he can no longer hang out with any of us because his wife is so mad and he needs to work on himself. Mark and Harry have both apologized to each other for their poor decisions but Harry says he is still angry and doesn't know if he can get over it.
This is all the information I have about the incident. Who is the bigger asshole? Harry for putting Mark in a situation that violates his known marital and moral boundaries or Mark by leaving Harry stranded 3 hours away with no notice in response?
Also whatever happened to the second woman that only exists in Mark's account? Did #1 bang her? We may never know.
HARRY'S ACCOUNT:
Harry and #1 stay at the bars until closing time and are now drunk. They meet a married couple at the bars and become friends. Harry invites them back to the Airbnb for more drinking. The married couple drives them back. Once they get to the Airbnb, Harry and #1 start drinking with the married couple in the living room. Eventually the married couple starts making out. One thing leads to another and the married couple start having sex, loudly, in the very room where #1 and Harry are sitting. Harry eventually feels awkward (he admits he stayed in there longer than he should have) and leaves to go to bed for the night. #1 stays and watches (lol).
MARK'S ACCOUNT:
Mark gets called at 1:15 AM to pick up Harry and #1 from the bars. #2 is already asleep. Mark drives out to the bar and calls Harry only to find out a random couple is driving them back to the Airbnb and they're almost back. Mark is annoyed but knows Harry is super drunk at this point and decides not to say anything. He drives back. When he gets there, there isn't just a married couple, but TWO women and a man in the living room drinking with Harry and #1. Mark goes to bed. At 3 AM he wakes up to the sound of "lots of sexual moaning". Mark is a Christian man who got married young and has been happily married for 20 years. He's the most morally rigid person in the group, we all know this and accept it. He becomes angry and knows he will be in trouble with his wife if she hears the boys-only golf trip turned into an orgy. He grabs his shit, says nothing, leaves out the side door and drives 3 hours home.
At 10 AM, Harry wakes up and notices Mark is gone. Mark's phone is off. Harry calls me freaking out. I look on find friends and see Mark drove back home already, leaving Harry stranded 3 hours away. I have a scheduled family photoshoot that day and cannot leave to go get him. One friend in the group offers to pick him up but Harry declines. Harry decides to rent a car and drive back, but has to call his wife to explain why Mark left him there and why he has to rent a car. Harry's wife is furious, but Harry maintains he "did nothing wrong". Harry has now left the friend group, and says he can no longer hang out with any of us because his wife is so mad and he needs to work on himself. Mark and Harry have both apologized to each other for their poor decisions but Harry says he is still angry and doesn't know if he can get over it.
This is all the information I have about the incident. Who is the bigger asshole? Harry for putting Mark in a situation that violates his known marital and moral boundaries or Mark by leaving Harry stranded 3 hours away with no notice in response?
Also whatever happened to the second woman that only exists in Mark's account? Did #1 bang her? We may never know.
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