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[White Man]

Maybe 5 days ago, I found out that one of my good friends back in PA has come down with cancer. I just got a chance to speak with him

It turns out they caught the cancer unusually early (leukemia - ALL). This means that they should easily be able to get it into remission and get the kid a bone marrow transplant. He could be living a relatively normal life within 2 years with that option.

But no, he's decided to not go for a bone marrow transplant even if he's eligible. After a bone marrow transplant, you have to be in isolation for about 3 months, and he couldn't possibly stand to be away from his girlfriend for that long (they've been seeing each other for about a half year)

Keep in mind, if he goes the chemo and radiation route rather than the bone marrow transplant, he likely won't be getting any stiffies for the next several years. He chances of ever having children will be greatly reduced. He'll spend the majority of the next several years prone and in pain. And it'll be an uphill battle, even though the cancer was detected early.

So, I pose the question to you, forum-goers: If you had cancer, and had the option of getting a bone marrow transplant, would you be willing to not see your girlfriend for 3 months if it meant a relatively easy victory over cancer?

 

[demon]

Wow, that's rational.

 

[Drexon]

Maybe you should inform him of this. 3 months without a gf instead of, you know, living? Heh.

 

[demon]

Also, I wonder if a girlfriend of only half a year would be willing to stick with him through all that crap for that long.

 

[Drexon]

Yeah, I'd definately say it's better for a relationship to not see eachother for 3 months (come on, noones That horny, or?) than pull your gf through your pain and misury for twice that. Anyways, try to convince him again, without using the word stupid.

 

[dskillzhtown]

Pussy - a powerful force

 

[rs7k]

He's made the right decision by removing himself from the gene pool. What a fucking idiot.

 

[FoneBone]

He's made the right decision by removing himself from the gene pool. What a fucking idiot.

I almost feel sorry for the guy, but if he goes through with it, I have to agree that yes, this is Darwinism in action.

 

[Chony]

I don't have a girlfriend, and if I did, I am sure which route I would take.

 

[White Man]

Don't be too harsh on the guy. He doesn't even know if he's a candidate yet. And even if he is, there's the rather difficult matter of finding a matching donor. Anyway, I'm sure his mom will guilt him into it.

I just wanted to see if anyone else would agree with him. What if they were seeing each otehr for 2 years, or something?

 

[Chipopo]

I would be completely enraged if I knew someone like this. It may seem like a "righteous" thing to do, maybe, for a few seconds...but more then anything it's a selfish ego-dominated mentality. He's not thinking about his family, his friends, and I'll bet dollars to donuts he's not thinking about the true nature of his relationship with this girl. Is she going to put up with years of him going through chemo?

Do you know what his girlfriend has said on the matter White Man?

 

[rs7k]

Yeah, maybe it's a bit too harsh, but surely anybody's rational enough to realize what making such a decision means. Force the guy to have the transplant

 

[White Man]

I've never met this girl. I moved before she entered the picture.

I guess you could say he's a pretty self-righteous person, though. He's the guy that kicked my ass in the one Tale of Depravity. Soon, I will be able to kick his chemo'd up ass.

 

[Incognito]

He's made the right decision by removing himself from the gene pool. What a fucking idiot.

that's fucking great. :lol :lol :lol

 

[Pochacco]

She must be all kinds of of hot...
Seriously though, sorry about your friend. Hope he makes a full recovery either way.
I can't imagine picking the 2nd route. Further, I can't imagine the gf LETTING him pick the 2nd route because of her.

 

[White Man]

She must be all kinds of of hot...
Seriously though, sorry about your friend. Hope he makes a full recovery either way.
I can't imagine picking the 2nd route. Further, I can't imagine the gf LETTING him pick the 2nd route because of her.

Well, my brother picked the 2nd route, but the circumstances were very different. His case of leukemia was anomalus (it was the second time he had ALL. . .you're only supposed to be able to get it once. It wasn't a relapse, either), and it wasn't reacting to chemo anyway, so he decided to not risk a bone marrow transplant that may or may not have worked. He chose to spend the time with his wife and son.

Now, down the road they learned how to properly fight the cancer. He did become a candidate for a bone marrow transplant, but a string of bad circumstances kept it from happening.