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[Kozak]

Hey GAF

Thought I'd just write out one of my observations I've made in my short time as a young-adult. Its probably nothing new and you guys probably have encountered it too.

I've noticed that there are two different types of men out there, men who talk to females on an equal level, and men who can only talk to females as if they're an object meant to be fucked.

Now, I'm not complaining. These guys who only seem to flirt with women don't really have success and after a while they build themselves up a shitty reputation too.

The only issue I have with these guys who talk to females in that way, is that they have no idea how to talk to other men either! They can't hold a simple conversation even if it meant there was a million dollar prize at the end! They can do one thing though, compare their dick size. Now I don't mean that literally, just that the only way they seem to get their kicks is by making themselves feel good by picking on a weakness you may have.

What are your thoughts on this GAF? Has anyone else come across this while out in the wild? Its not affecting my life in anyway, in fact, I'm glad for it. I get to have more friends from both genders while they only get a quick fuck (if that) and no real mates. Its just sad that someone can go through life without having any intimate bonds with males and females.

 

[TUSR]

Only 2?

Edit: On second read I've deducted you are oblivious to social situations yourself.

 

[jim-jam bongs]

It's not just men. Some people have no personality, so they begin to act out their idea of what is expected of them.

 

[Phatosaurus]

You need to observe more men if you think it comes down to just two types.

 

[Wiktor]

Is this a thread where a nice guy tries to convince himself assholes don't get success while flirting with women?

 

[Halcyon]

As a man I find this offensive.

 

[Malvolio]

I invented names for those two types: mature and immature. Feel free to use them.

 

[Dennis]

they seem to get their kicks is by making themselves feel good by picking on a weakness you may have

Can't really say I have encountered this.

 

[penis]

once you have creampie bareback inside a vagina, life is never the same

you might become a father and your biological imperative is complete

I find it more and more that I care less and less about socialization because of this

meh, talking is good and so is doing stuff together

but after that point you become just down for w/e really.

Well there is probably more to it then that the biological aspect, but what do you expect ? a million years of evolution and men have always been the same

it's SEX. thats it

 

[TUSR]

What just happened

 

[Sami+]

Is this a thread where a nice guy tries to convince himself assholes don't get success while flirting with women?

This.

It's okay OP, you can just tell us what's bugging you without tip-toeing around the problem. :V

 

[FluxWaveZ]

The irony.

 

[jon bones]

just don't act so thirsty gawd

 

[TheWarrior]

OP is in the friendzone right now

 

[joelseph]

Sounds like you got something bothering you personally.

 

[Arjen]

I can't even put it into words how much i disagree with this OP.

 

[daviyoung]

Is this a projection?

 

[KPJZKC]

I...have no idea what is going on here. Is this some kind of shneaky trap thread OP? Is it?

 

[Vermillion]

1) It's not just men
2) Not just two types
3) Pretty much any type of person can get laid

Etcetera

 

[Kozak]

Can't really say I have encountered this.

Well its not that serious or anything.

An example would be, today one of my male friends comes up to me and links me a Facebook profile. I check it out and its a gay dude who happens to be Turkish (I'm Turkish) and so my friend instantly makes the connection that I'm gay too and we should "munch each others cocks".

lawl

And to the guys thinking I'm a nice guy wondering why girls don't like me..c'mon bros, illchayz adlays. I have no issues with girls.

edit:

Woah all of a sudden I feel like I have to fax in proof that I'm not a "nice guy"

 

[Pollux]

By talking to them as an equal you mean you're putting it on a pedestal huh? If you're going to the bar to pick of a girl she doesn't want to have a nice conversation about politics, just because he's shamelessly hitting on her doesn't make him an asshole.

What's really bothering you, OP?

 

[Mechazawa]

It sounds like you're just meeting a disproportionate amount of vapid assholes.

 

[TUSR]

Well its not that serious or anything.

An example would be, today one of my male friends comes up to me and links me a Facebook profile. I check it out and its a gay dude who happens to be Turkish (I'm Turkish) and so my friend instantly makes the connection that I'm gay too and we should "munch each others cocks".

lawl

Wait, how is that relevant ?

 

[Walter Matthau]

I think you're over generalizing. There is a broad spectrum of male social personalities and I would say the vast majority of men do not fit the two categories you have proposed. However, I do feel a good portion of American young men lack some of the social skills their fathers possessed.

 

[Lkr]

men that can't discuss sports are weird. not on a personal level, just a statistical anomaly. they miss out on the easiest and most popular form of male socialization

 

[Drencrom]

I've noticed that there are two different types of men out there, men who talk to females on an equal level, and men who can only talk to females as if they're an object meant to be fucked.

:lol

Just watch this: You're Probably Not Really a Nice Guy

 

[Kozak]

Wait, how is that relevant ?

He was trying to make himself feel good by putting me down. Cause, you know, being gay is a bad thing.

Of course if you aren't an asshole, gay people don't actually bother you so it just becomes a "what are you trying to accomplish here?"

 

[AlexBasch]

I honestly don't give a crap about making female friends anymore. I have been so burnt out on trying to get along with women and not even dating, looking for sex stuff, I'm talking abou tasking something or trying to work with a female coworker, because they seem to think I'm hitting on them.

So yeah, my social skills are more directed to get along with guys, for some reason. Talking to women in a neutral sense is so tiring for me. I only get along with a girl I have known for about eight years and she might be one of the few women I can get along with.

As a man I find this offensive.

As a man, you don't get to be offended about anything.

Or so has Tumblr taught me these last few months.

Spoiler

I'm sorta kidding.

men that can't discuss sports are weird. not on a personal level, just a statistical anomaly. they miss out on the easiest and most popular form of male socialization

Heh, it's weird. I work as a reporter and I'm moving into (written) sports journalism. I love football and watch it religiously, but for some reason I can't seem to hold a decent conversation about it with people. I just found out about it a few weeks ago. It's strange.

 

[Messofanego]

Wait, how is that relevant ?

Kozak not getting enough chicks so his bro thinks he is close to being gay. I don't know.

 

[Lkr]

Well its not that serious or anything.

An example would be, today one of my male friends comes up to me and links me a Facebook profile. I check it out and its a gay dude who happens to be Turkish (I'm Turkish) and so my friend instantly makes the connection that I'm gay too and we should "munch each others cocks".

lawl

And to the guys thinking I'm a nice guy wondering why girls don't like me..c'mon bros, illchayz adlays. I have no issues with girls.

edit:

Woah all of a sudden I feel like I have to fax in proof that I'm not a "nice guy"

that sounds like normal male socialization to me...one of your friends just messing with you. disney wasn't far off in their commentary on male interactions in mulan...

 

[Astral]

men that can't discuss sports are weird. not on a personal level, just a statistical anomaly. they miss out on the easiest and most popular form of male socialization

Hey screw you. I'm weird because I don't talk about sports?

 

[daycru]

Hey screw you. I'm weird because I don't talk about sports?

You're weird because you're goddamn illiterate.

 

[Pollux]

He was trying to make himself feel good by putting me down. Cause, you know, being gay is a bad thing.

Of course if you aren't an asshole, gay people don't actually bother you so it just becomes a "what are you trying to accomplish here?"

It's a joke. I doubt he meant anything malicious by it. You're over-thinking this.

 

[Lkr]

Hey screw you. I'm weird because I don't talk about sports?

see:

You're weird because you're goddamn illiterate.

It's a joke. I doubt he meant anything malicious by it.

i'm just practicing my male social skills

 

[Astral]

You're weird because you're goddamn illiterate.

Huh?

EDIT: I didn't take it personally. I was kidding.

 

[Sami+]

Hey screw you. I'm weird because I don't talk about sports?

Weird is an ugly word but it's not like he's wrong. I'm left out of a lot of conversations at work between both coworkers and customers because I don't know jack shit about sports.

 

[CassidyIzABeast]

This seems like a thinly veiled I'm a nice guy but they like assholes thread

 

[TUSR]

OP your buddy that linked you the profile, you want to fuck his girlfriend right?

 

[Cizeta-Moroder]

OP is in the friendzone right now

What? If anything, OP sounds like he genuinely appreciates plain friendship.

 

[Pollux]

Huh?

Stop overthinking this shit and stop taking it so personally. Just go watch some SportsCenter and bitch about Chris Collinsworth with the rest of us. Grab a Yeungling on the way in and we'll drink shit beer together.

 

[Dennis]

How about those Packers?

 

[Kozak]

It's a joke. I doubt he meant anything malicious by it.

He did. Cause I know this person and thats how he gets on in life. Comparing himself to others and feeling better for it.

What? If anything, OP sounds like he genuinely appreciates plain friendship.

Yeah this guy gets it. I can still talk about how fucken amazing that chicks ass is, who I want to fuck etc. but when it comes down to it, I also want to be able to talk about real shit. If my life isn't going too well, I want to feel like my friends actually do give a fuck and that I can reach deep down and actually talk to them. Thats currently the majority of my friends and I have an amazing girlfriend who I can be honest too. I don't have to sneak behind her back about my lifestyle, I don't have to lie, and I can speak whatever the fucks on my mind no matter how crazy it is.

Sorry If it come off like I'm comparing assholes to nice guys, I really just meant people who can talk and people who can't but not in the sense of being socially awkward.

 

[Bony Manifesto]

He did. Cause I know this person and thats how he gets on in life. Comparing himself to others and feeling better for it.

Well gee, doesn't that sound familiar...

 

[TUSR]

He did. Cause I know this person and thats how he gets on in life. Comparing himself to others and feeling better for it.

He's. Not. Your. Friend.

 

[Interframe]

Hey GAF

Thought I'd just write out one of my observations I've made in my short time as a young-adult. Its probably nothing new and you guys probably have encountered it too.

I've noticed that there are two different types of men out there, men who talk to females on an equal level, and men who can only talk to females as if they're an object meant to be fucked.

Now, I'm not complaining. These guys who only seem to flirt with women don't really have success and after a while they build themselves up a shitty reputation too.

The only issue I have with these guys who talk to females in that way, is that they have no idea how to talk to other men either! They can't hold a simple conversation even if it meant there was a million dollar prize at the end! They can do one thing though, compare their dick size. Now I don't mean that literally, just that the only way they seem to get their kicks is by making themselves feel good by picking on a weakness you may have.

What are your thoughts on this GAF? Has anyone else come across this while out in the wild? Its not affecting my life in anyway, in fact, I'm glad for it. I get to have more friends from both genders while they only get a quick fuck (if that) and no real mates. Its just sad that someone can go through life without having any intimate bonds with males and females.

There is a word for these kinds of people that describes them perfectly and its not limited to the male gender. They're called narcissists.

 

[Pollux]

He did. Cause I know this person and thats how he gets on in life. Comparing himself to others and feeling better for it.

I mean that kind of shit sounds like normal "give your buddy shit b/c you're bored" crap. Maybe you should give him shit back.

 

[Lkr]

Weird is an ugly word but it's not like he's wrong. I'm left out of a lot of conversations at work between both coworkers and customers because I don't know jack shit about sports.

the problem is that there really isn't much of a better word than weird or different, but society has taught us that even if something is a statistical norm, you can't call it normal, so i have to explain what it all means. there is nothing wrong or bad about not following sports, you just have a smaller range of potential people to socialize with when making casual chit chat.

 

[ComputerMKII]

I've noticed that there are two different types of men out there, men who talk to females on an equal level, and men who can only talk to females as if they're an object meant to be fucked.

Why wouldn't the opposite situation exist, too?

 

[AlexBasch]

What was Wenger thinking sending Walcott on that early?

 

[RionaaM]

I think you haven't noticed men whose social skills are equally bad regarding both men and women. And there are probably many other types of men too. The world isn't divided in "nice guy" and "wants to fuck everything that moves" kinds of men.