And with that, whether it's replied to or not, whether it's even read or not, I'm over it and it feels good. I'd advise the same for everyone else.Don't bother burning yourself out on vitriol.
Very mature and respectable response to this whole situation. I doubt she would respond to that, but I do hope she at least reads it. I think your approach is ultimately the right way forward.
I'm not pleased with many (so so many) of the things that went down these past couple of weeks, from people on every "side" of this dispute. A lot of bad things were said by a lot of different people, and everyone used that as an excuse to wage a war of personal attacks and insults, collateral damage be damned.
But where we are now is not a very good place either. No one is discussing anything, merely yelling very loudly, because everyone is convinced that the other guys are hateful bigots who aren't "worthy" of discourse, and the situation just continues on getting more hateful. Actually, that's not quite true; there is actually a lot of interesting discussion that has come out during these events, but it's ultimately drowned out by all of the anger and spite. I think it's time everyone lays down their swords.
That doesn't mean stop pushing for better ethical policies and disclosure in games journalism. That doesn't mean stop fighting for better representation in games, games media, and acceptance of all genders, races, orientations, etc. among gamers. It probably means letting the other guy get away with scoring the last hit, instead of going in for one more "gotcha" though.
Because ultimately, the only way
anything at all is going to change is if people can actually talk to each other, rationally, and understand where the other side is coming from. That's not happening right now, and it will continue to not happen as long as people insist on "winning". You don't have to agree with what they have to say, and you don't even have to hold your tongue when they say something wrong. But if people can consistently be respectful in their discussions about these subjects, I think we'd have much more of an actual discussion.
Now I know some of you are thinking "but I was respectful about this, and then the other person insulted me." That was wrong of them, make no mistake. But if people use that as an excuse to turn around and harass them, it's never going to stop. Someone needs to break the cycle, and if it's not going to be them, it might as well be us. Think how weak their argument would look if they were going on about how bad gamers are, if gamers were respectfully disagreeing and not harassing them (note, I am not saying that the harassment they get is the fault of gamers as a whole, but they obviously feel that way when they write articles about it, and people harassing them over those articles do nothing to change their mind). Let's be better than they seem to think we are.