I just signed up to a dating site

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It's free, and I've found a ridiculous number of people around my area which is surprising. I've set myself up a nice profile, with some recent photos.

Anyone had any luck with these things? I've sent a few messages to people, and haven't heard back from any yet...but these things take time, of course
 
There's a thread about this in the community page.

I found my current GF online.

Send lots of messages. Seriously. Several per day. Attractive girls get lots of messages per day. My GF says she got around twenty different people messaging her per day. She didn't even look at the people who didn't message her.

You probably won't get a response from most of the girls. That's okay. You can't expect them all to be interested.
 
Abe Bly said:
There's a thread about this in the community page.

I found my current GF online.

Send lots of messages. Seriously. Several per day. Attractive girls get lots of messages per day. My GF says she got around twenty different people messaging her per day. She didn't even look at the people who didn't message her.

You probably won't get a response from most of the girls. That's okay. You can't expect them all to be interested.
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What about the people that post your messages on other websites for the purpose of riducle?
 
I signed up for one about two months ago. Sitting in the hair salon waiting on my girlfriend to finish getting her hair cut right now.

c:
 
I met my girlfriend (now a gaffer) on OKC a year and a half ago. We've been dating for a year this November. The sites work great if you're adamant about sending messages and make them interesting and not creepy.
 
I did this once. I got one response and closed my account.

I'm far too shy for this dating thing. I have accepted that I will be forever alone.
 
Met my gf of 7 months on okcupid. She's great and very independent. She even took me on a 7 day cruise with her a month ago to Bermuda.

One of the best decisions I've made.
 
Red Chocobo said:
I did this once. I got one response and closed my account.

I'm far too shy for this dating thing. I have accepted that I will be forever alone.
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i think my barrier is getting to the point where i actually care about some random person. i'll probably end up the same way :P
 
Did OKcupid this summer. Out of three matches, one found out she was a lesbian, (Still good buds though.), the second one it didn't work out since we weren't compatible. I talked to her recently and she's finding out she's a lesbian. The third girl was fucking crazy and harrassed me for a month straight after we had gone on two friggin' dates.. I would have feared for my life if she had anything like a car or a means to figure out where I lived.

All three of those girls were 85% match or higher.

I deleted my account.

So I say do it OP, it'll give you some life experiences you won't ever forget.
 
Deadly Cyclone said:
I met my girlfriend (now a gaffer) on OKC a year and a half ago. We've been dating for a year this November. The sites work great if you're adamant about sending messages and make them interesting and not creepy.
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What if she gets banned for going on a racist rant in a thread about a cop shooting someone?
 
I was way into OkCupid a few months before I met my girlfriend (who I met online but from like 9 years back.)

It wasn't for me, going between getting hit on people despite my profile saying I didn't want to do anything with someone far away from me to taking it personally when I'd have a decent conversation with someone and then they'd stop responding, or not replying at all. But my ego bruises like a banana so it's whatever. Kind of an interesting way of finding people who are around you, even if they're not interested.
 
I tried POF and OKC last year but I was not very successful. I had one date in a span of 3 months with my profile active in OKC mostly.

I posted an ad on Craigslist a month ago (after two tries) and received two responses. I received a response back with a pic and wow, she's cute: I thought it was one of those fake bots initially. So I rolled with it. We decided to meet up for dinner at a Korean restaurant after two weeks of emailing and texting. it's been awesome ever since.

These things do work, it's all about keeping an open mind like Canucked said.
 
Grats. We have. Thread for this already. I'd check it out and take their advice. Most people don't know how they're actuall presenting themselves so it's a good thing to get input on
 
richisawesome said:
Haha, nah I used myspace back in the day. This was before Facebook.

And eek, whats wrong with pof? It seems OK to me...
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Here's a quote from someone that describes the site from the last online dating thread:

POF tends to have trashier people in general - lots of people from the lower class, unemployed, or in dead end jobs. OKC has lots of those too but to a lesser extent - OKC has more hipsters and grad students, some working professionals. That's how it is in my area, at least - a major metro. Might be different in other places. Match.com probably has the highest quality in that regard, and might be the whole foods, if there was one.
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i always feel like i don't have any quirky details to sell myself with

im a pretty boring "i like movies, tv shows, music, books, drinking" guy

oh yeah and say hiking cause that makes walking on an incline sound really interesting

Reilloc Storm said:
Here's a quote from someone that describes the site from the last online dating thread:
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POF sounds right for me
 
Met my current girlfriend on Tinder -- I honestly was not expecting a real relationship from anyone using that app, but we just clicked really well and things have been going great so far. By "not expecting a real relationship" I mean I was more or less dating casually, until one day..

Also, fuck Okcupid. I had a number of dates through that, one turned into a long term relationship, but I'd just recommend using Tinder. I think it's a lot more interesting when you don't really know all that much about each other, with Okcupid it's like you write out this huge profile and 90% of the time people don't bother reading any of it.
 
blame space said:
i deleted my okcupid
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I'm about to do the same.

The experiences on these sites vary so much depending if you're male or female.

I get about 2 or 3 messages a month on ok Cupid. My female friend receives about 20 messages a day.

P.s. I send lots of messages out, I don't get many replies. I should write poetry or something.
 
If you are in great shape, make sure you have a naked upper body shot. Try not to make it look to doughy, but trust me it works in getting those replies!
 
Deadly Cyclone said:
I met my girlfriend (now a gaffer) on OKC a year and a half ago. We've been dating for a year this November. The sites work great if you're adamant about sending messages and make them interesting and not creepy.
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How exactly do you make these messages interesting?

The post below sums me up as well.

brianjones said:
i always feel like i don't have any quirky details to sell myself with

im a pretty boring "i like movies, tv shows, music, books, drinking" guy
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JBourne said:
What if she gets banned for going on a racist rant in a thread about a cop shooting someone?
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Hahaha, she's not quite that type. If she gets banned it'll be for being too sassy in some political conversation (she, as I am, is a hardcore democrat. I just never got deep into politics like she has).

Also if she were to go on a racist rant (she never would) it'd have to be about white people or something, as she's half Filipino, half Pakistani. :P

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Lothar said:
How exactly do you make these messages interesting?

The post below sums me up as well.
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I just used things in their profile to start a convo. The other half has to be willing as well though. Roxy replied right back to me and we got a good rapport going. After that we did coffee (easy way to see if your online date is crazy and you pay for yourself) then we moved onto dinner, and so on.
 
I send messages like "hey there, I see you listed haribo as an interest. I wouldn't mind if you bought me a pack. Thats all I need.and a relationship too and stuff.

Also I see you are looking for a man. I happen to be a man, going by the last time I checked.

Message me and we can talk!"
 
richisawesome said:
I send messages like "hey there, I see you listed haribo as an interest. I wouldn't mind if you bought me a pack. Thats all I need.and a relationship too and stuff.

Also I see you are looking for a man. I happen to be a man, going by the last time I checked.

Message me and we can talk!"
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No offense, but that's terrible. You're putting all the pressure on her. You're (jokingly) guilting her into doing something for you, you're pointing out the obvious is a cheesy manner, and you're not giving her anything that's easy to respond to.

The easiest thing to respond to is a question, so ask her something. Even if it's just which Haribo product she likes best. But make sure it's not something that was already answered on her profile.
 
richisawesome said:
I send messages like "hey there, I see you listed haribo as an interest. I wouldn't mind if you bought me a pack. Thats all I need.and a relationship too and stuff.

Also I see you are looking for a man. I happen to be a man, going by the last time I checked.

Message me and we can talk!"
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Tell them you post here, and then include a link. Oh...wait...you're trying to meet someone, not mentally scar them. Yeah, stick with your current message!
 
Pretty sure my first message to my girlfriend was about how she said in her profile that she ate fried butter at the state fair, and then I made some Paula Deen joke. :P
 
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