Why do people hate unconventional names for children?
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Zen_Arcade
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You shouldn't be naming your kid in hopes that the world suddenly will stop making fun of each other. You should name your kid for the reality they're going to have to deal with.
I mean, technically you're right. But that's not the way the world is and naming your kid something odd isn't going to change it. It's just going to make life harder for your kid.
gutter_trash
Banned
removing useless Hs from a name is one thing.
Like Sara or Cristiano. That H in a diffent language would change the sound, so removing useless Hs is okay
Let's say Jon Stewart is called Jon instead of John. That's okay,
but giving a name like Soda? eh no
Like Sara or Cristiano. That H in a diffent language would change the sound, so removing useless Hs is okay
Let's say Jon Stewart is called Jon instead of John. That's okay,
but giving a name like Soda? eh no
What's your point? Parent should only name their children "conventional" names because society deems it so?
I recall another study that found that feminine names for boys resulted in the boys having more behavior issues as well while the inverse wasn't true.
Also, don't pick a normal name and then try to make the spelling "Special" - they'll be having to correct people all their lives.
One of my cousins named his child Destynei. Destynei.
Then again he also has four children that he's paying child support, because he wasn't aware he was the father until he left the girls. Yeah I don't expect very good names from someone like that.
The Smoking Bun
Banned
Wait, Zelda is a real name? Though obviously people would think of the Nintendo series first. And, as far as Inspector Pilot or was it Pilot Inspector is concerned, yeah that's a dumb name.
Yeah that's the sad part. The "R" sound turns it masculine.
However, Alya or Alia are feminine names here.
Kai Dracon
Writing a dinosaur space opera symphony
It's a chicken and egg scenario, where a name that seems "unique" to the local culture around a family will supposedly earn ridicule, but naming a child Fred or Sally just reinforces that a only a limited range of names are socially acceptable.
I do think this is melting away in the internet age, as provincial thinking is gradually eroding. People realize there's a world beyond their little bubble and that so much we take for granted is just made up.
However to echo what I said in another thread I do think the practice should be that parents only give a child a middle name, and upon reaching adulthood everyone selects a first name of their own choosing, if they even desire one.
Therefore everyone is happy. A parent has a family name with which to refer to their children, but adults are free to name themselves whatever they wish under their own responsibility without jumping through legal hoops to prove they're not committing fraud.
I do think this is melting away in the internet age, as provincial thinking is gradually eroding. People realize there's a world beyond their little bubble and that so much we take for granted is just made up.
However to echo what I said in another thread I do think the practice should be that parents only give a child a middle name, and upon reaching adulthood everyone selects a first name of their own choosing, if they even desire one.
Therefore everyone is happy. A parent has a family name with which to refer to their children, but adults are free to name themselves whatever they wish under their own responsibility without jumping through legal hoops to prove they're not committing fraud.
Zen_Arcade
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They can name them whatever they want, but society deems what is socially acceptable and what isn't. So if your choice falls outside what society finds socially acceptable you have to account for how it's going to effect your child's life. And most people have no interest in these alternative names considering how many socially acceptable ones there are to choose from, so there is little reason to change their opinion.
It's not the most common name, but it existed long before video games were invented. There was a famous author by the name of Zelda Fitzgerald and she was born in 1900.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zelda_Fitzgerald
Which planet do you live on where children are nice and respectful of other children with names like Punch ?
What about adult Punch ? Ordering takeout, "What's your name sir"?
"My name is Punch"
"Excuse me" ?
"Punch" !
If you're setting your child up to have to repeat his/her name every godamn time someone asks for it, or having to spell it everytime, it better be meaningful and important, not some, I'm different for the sake of being different bullshit like Punch.
ZeroGravity
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The best names are ones that are uncommon. The kind where you'd walk into a room knowing there's a very low probability that anyone would share your name, but everyone would have still heard of it.
Why do you care if she names her child that? It has zero effect on your life.
So what about the other seven, then?
sir_kevith
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Generally,
Candy is a short name or nickname for Candace.
Three pages and no one pointed that out yet?
Any time the name is like a crazy variant on an existing name, it drives me crazy, and I can't explain why or rationalize it. Switching vowels or padding words with other vowels is a big one for me, but names that are just another name backwards (and their name isn't a palindrome) are like triggers for me.
Like, the Rehtaeh Parsons tragedy here in Canada was horrible, but whenever I hear her name it just grates on me. It doesn't really make me care less, but every time I hear it I just cringe.
Like, the Rehtaeh Parsons tragedy here in Canada was horrible, but whenever I hear her name it just grates on me. It doesn't really make me care less, but every time I hear it I just cringe.
Risible
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The "common" names aren't very common nowadays. When I was growing up there were a ton of Eddies around, but now my son is the only Eddie in his school. Likewise with my daughter Jane, she's the only one. This rush by parents to give their kids unique and memorable names has created a kind of name fatigue where when I hear one I go "OF COURSE your name is Dakota" while (internally) rolling my eyes.
Your name doesn't make you unique, your deeds do. I can think of tons of famous Johns or Dans or Mikes, they did just fine with a bog-standard name.
Zen_Arcade
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A lot of them would probably get the same reaction Zuko would. There are a few in there that I think were just from other cultures, and if you're white, live in the US and are naming your kid things like Katara, you're going to get some sideways looks. Because either the name is made up, or not from your culture.
sir_kevith
Member
Oh so I'm dumb
I searched "Candace" instead of "Candice"
Also, I will say that I actually like the name Candace but don't like the nickname Candy but I guess it works when you're younger.
dinazimmerman
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i'm being judgmental towards parents who give their children unconventional names. they have a right to do so obviously, but their children would be better off with a conventional name. pretty simple.
If someone named their child Katara I wouldn't really even bat an eye considering we have names like Katrina and Katarina that are extremely similar. I'm actually pretty sure you can do this for a good chunk of, if not all, of the names on that list.
Depends on the name. Sometimes it comes off as very contrived or "look at me". And depends on how it's handled: "NO! It's SINTHIA! With an "S", not Cynthia! Why can't anyone get that right?!?!" or "This is Ben!" "Oh how cute, how old is he?" "SHE!!! is 2 weeks old..."
I personally loved the name Dashel for a long time but only used it as my son's middle name rather than first. That had more to do with how the name flowed with my last name though. Ironically this year he has a boy named Dashiell in his class
I personally loved the name Dashel for a long time but only used it as my son's middle name rather than first. That had more to do with how the name flowed with my last name though. Ironically this year he has a boy named Dashiell in his class
Name your daughter Evelyn, Eevee for short.
A friend of mine did it and they straight up just call her Eevee.
If I have kids, I'll have to find names that are unconventional, because I have problems with associations. I know too many people with conventional and even some of the rarer names in here. Even my own family has done this-- I've got a boy cousin named Teagan for instance.
My parents gave me an unconventional name (it's not actually unconventional, it's one of the most common names on the planet it just happens to be Arabic so having that name effects me a lot living in a islamophobic society not to mention people never pronouncing it correctly) and I thank them for it. People shouldn't be ridiculed discriminated against or have their job application ignored because of their name or anything else. Telling people that they must conform to this or else essentially, is the antithesis of progress.
Random Painted HIghway
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worst name I've run across is Mystaka, or some variation of that I forget the exact spelling. poor kid.
As a litigation/criminal attorney, you come into contact with a lot of unique individuals out there.
I deal with a lot of Nigerians, a ton of whom have bibilical names which is always interesting to me, particularly considering the context upon which I interact with them.
As a litigation/criminal attorney, you come into contact with a lot of unique individuals out there.
I deal with a lot of Nigerians, a ton of whom have bibilical names which is always interesting to me, particularly considering the context upon which I interact with them.
Zen_Arcade
Banned
I highly doubt you're right. People are put off by simple things in names. I'd make a higher bet that if you named your daughter Katara she would have to repeat her name to a lot of people. They might even mishear it because it sounds so close to names they're used to hearing.
I have a friend named Dea, and without fail every time we go out she says her name and has to repeat it. Most people think she's saying "Dee". So having the name be close to a more common name doesn't mean people won't think the name is weird. In fact, they would probably just assume your daughters name is Katrina and have to correct people over and over like my friend does.
teruterubozu
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I hate it when I place an order and they ask for my name.
I also hate putting my name on resumes. As much as people claim equal opportunity, they like easy names in the office.
I also hate putting my name on resumes. As much as people claim equal opportunity, they like easy names in the office.
Tal Shiar Agent
Banned
June and August are good, strong Roman names. One should be proud to be connectdd to the Empire in such a way.
When my wife and I have a boy he will be named Julian after Emperor Julian the Apostate.
When my wife and I have a boy he will be named Julian after Emperor Julian the Apostate.
superdeluxe
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It's parents trying to play games with their kid/trying to be unique for being unique/ not understanding that their kids will be picked on for it.
A coworker is pregnant and we were on a business trip together recently. We were waiting at the airport and she was going through a list of the top baby names nowadays. This encapsulated my reaction:
I can't abide by these new popular names. Just can't do it.
But if they're that common then the kids won't have any problems.
Black-Wind
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I'll do that just to make you upset.
gutter_trash
Banned
What is the point?
You aren't naming your dog, you are naming your kid.
That kid is going to have to deal with the ridiculous name you gave them until they are old enough to change it. Why give your kid a daft name, just because, when that kid is the one who is going to have to deal with it for years.
You aren't naming your dog, you are naming your kid.
That kid is going to have to deal with the ridiculous name you gave them until they are old enough to change it. Why give your kid a daft name, just because, when that kid is the one who is going to have to deal with it for years.
teruterubozu
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Or 80s. Like Bob & Doug. Take off, hoser!
TheRagnCajun
Member
Ironically, I think the typical Judeo-Christain names are approaching 'unique' status. I don't see anyone using Paul, Sarah, John, Peter, Phillip, David, Mathew etc. anymore. It's all Sophia, Olivia, Caleb, Aiden, Logan.
It kind of feels like the trend is to be different now, but we're all trying to be different in the same way.
It kind of feels like the trend is to be different now, but we're all trying to be different in the same way.
Zen_Arcade
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Actually a lot of names have meanings. I hesitate to say most, but a large portion. Most of them religious in one way or another. My real name is translated from Hebrew for instance. That's why people say these unconventional names are "Made up".
Kids are going to make fun of your name no matter what. Can anyone say they've not had anyone make s silly rhyme with their name like "Dirty Dave" or "Smelly Shelly". Names are meant to be identifiers. We've all had to specify which Matt or Justin we were talking about at some point. Sure, please don't name your kid Aquaman but there is nothing wrong with something unique. The names we think are normal were unique a decade ago.
To be fair, I'm bias because as I've said before, my name sounds like It came out of a fan-fic name generator.
To be fair, I'm bias because as I've said before, my name sounds like It came out of a fan-fic name generator.
Talon Hampton
TheWarrior
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What about names that have gone out of style, like Mildred, Ethel, or Tiberius
VicDaMoan03
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I still like the name Leonidas Maximus {Last Name} for a boy. Surely that boy would not get bullied with a name like that.
gutter_trash
Banned
Sophia and Olivia are not new names dude, they are quite conventional
Phillip is Greek, not Judeo-Christian.
the weirdo names to me are Caleb, Aiden, and Logan... oh Wolverine
rokkerkory
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What's unconventional? I think names that are different is really cool but at the end of the day if the name is meaningful that's what matters.
I know I will give my kids dope names.
I know I will give my kids dope names.
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