Why do people hate unconventional names for children?
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it's just a habit thing, but once you accept that all names are made up, you shouldn't give a shit if your name is coming from the bible, from a modern book, or from complete fantasy.
Now, i admit i'd cringe to see someone name their son "Sayan Prince" or some shit, but i think it's not much different from a tattoo; you can name you child whatever you want, but try to do it with some thought behind it, not just the latest fad you're in love with.
Now, i admit i'd cringe to see someone name their son "Sayan Prince" or some shit, but i think it's not much different from a tattoo; you can name you child whatever you want, but try to do it with some thought behind it, not just the latest fad you're in love with.
DiipuSurotu
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A pet peeve of mine is names that don't make sense etymologically speaking. For example, Andrew comes from the Greek word for "man", as in a male person as opposed to a woman; yet there are people who name their daughter "Andrea". They're basically calling their daughter manly.
Ingueferroque
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Candy Dulfer man!
Also, Mercedes sounds anything but pretentious.
Stop the bullying!
TheChocolateWar
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Because it is arguably, and should be considered, child abuse.
HammerOfThor
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Because I don't want naming my kid Batman to be a self fulfilling prophecy
All people have to do is not be assholes about it.
I always liked Catherine as a name, if I have a daughter I'd probably suggest that. I don't really like going too far off the beaten path or picking something that might come back to bite my kids - my name is Sami and most people can't tell just from looking at me that I'm Arab, so I pretty much never have to deal with racism. I want my kids to have that advantage too, even though I do like the sound of some Arab names like Kareem, Omar, and Raneem.
Lone Wolf
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Good luck with that
Same could be said for any kind of ism.
CarpeDeezNutz
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I had a friend who is a speech language pathologist and she told me she came across a kid whose name sounded out is "uh-ZO-LEE" but spelled "Ashole".
Poor kid.
Poor kid.
Stereogatari
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If you can find legitimate names from reading historical/ancient literature, or hell even reasonable sounding names from video games, then I don't see the problem.
In some cultures the naming conventions have changed within living memory. In Turkey for example historically Muslim/Arab/Persian names were most popular, nowadays there are way more Turkish origin and even Mongol names.
In the English speaking world Christian names aren't as popular as they once were.
Aydın is a Turkish male name. It means enlightened.
In some cultures the naming conventions have changed within living memory. In Turkey for example historically Muslim/Arab/Persian names were most popular, nowadays there are way more Turkish origin and even Mongol names.
In the English speaking world Christian names aren't as popular as they once were.
Aydın is a Turkish male name. It means enlightened.
ClosingADoor
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I don't mind unconventional names that much. I do think it is stupid to take a name and then change the spelling to make it seem 'unique'. It's useless and just sets someone up for a lifetime of misspelled names and needing to spell it out for people.
All women are inherently manly!
I'd route her
Aeriscloud
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Her name is Snow, and she tastes amazing.
Yup I know. It's why we chose that name. It has similar meaning in many different languages including Irish and Persian. Wife's name means light so we felt it fit. Plus sounds and is unique in our family.
Aaron Strife
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Chezzymann
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My sociology teachers friend named her kids Lawasha and ladrya
Yeah and nine times out of ten it's not their real names. They tend to have stage names just like porn stars. Also i went to school with a girl named Candy nobody seemed to take issue with her having that name from what i remember. It's also a hell of a lot better than what my cousin named his son and my uncle named one of his sons.
Seriously, people. Naming your children after super heros may seem cool at the time, just keep in mind that they have to go to school with those names.
Slayer-33
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Shit makes me cringe so hard
theusedversion
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So naming your son Winter should be considered child abuse? Are you serious?
I named my son Odin. I never thought of it as pretentious.
Really? I'd love to know what makes you cringe about this (unless you are cringing at the Seinfeld episode/situation).
My daughter's name is Seven (has nothing to do with Seinfeld) and I've never met anyone who cringed or thought it was an awful name. In her class (and my son Captain's class) there are about 50% kids with conventional names an 50% without conventional names (Lala, Kevarus, Paralee, Royale, etc.). They haven't been teased by other kids and are very popular.
What I find to be strange is that people get so uptight about names, as if they actually matter. I am in charge of hiring people for my work and I've had a lot of applicants with interesting names. The person's name isn't even a factor in my decision. When I worked at Hewlett Packard, there were plenty of people with strange names high up the ladder and this was in the early 2000s.
People usually use excuses like: the kids will be bullied, it's not a "real name", how will he/she get a job, etc. They don't actually think about the fact that a name like Seven, Winter an other different names don't typically cause this issue. I think Seven is much more beautiful than most conventional names and my husband and I couldn't imagine picking a name that everyone else already has/has had.
A Virtual Duck
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I have a pretty conventional name and it DEFINITELY makes things easier (currently a high schooler). People with unconventional names catch a little flak (not as much as most schools though, we're pretty accepting here), but I'm so happy I don't need to clarify like some people.
Ajemsuhgao
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You named your daughter after a home, damn it. A HOME WITH A FAMILY.
dinazimmerman
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There is statistical evidence that names matter. And loads of anecdotal evidence to counter your lonely anecdote. People get uptight about unconventional names because they know how problematic they are either because of this evidence or from first-hand experience from being burdened with an unconventional name.
I would rather have an unproblematic conventional name than one that my parents think is beautiful. Children often do not share their parents aesthetic tastes. What's more, what you think is beautiful can be ugly or weird to a lot of people. Conventional names are much more neutral, however. They're like common words, neither ugly or beautiful. It's when names are used as a form of personal expression that people start having strong opinions about them.
poppabk
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There are approximately 150 kids called Seven in the US each year. There are approximately 200 per year called Sally. There are approximately 150 kids called Jackie per year.
I'm afraid you picked a fairly common name.
Buddha Beam
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My friend's wife is named November. But she goes by Sara.
My wife is pregnant now. If it's a boy, we're naming him Clark (Kent).
Girl? Talia. I thought Talia was kind of a unique name, but a bunch of people we've told so far have actually been like, "Talia? That's an old fashioned name!" Mostly older folks.
At which point I say, "No no, we're naming her after the Batman character!"
I think Talia for people in the 50's is an "old name" the way "Agnes" is an old name for my generation.
I guess everything gets recycled back into coolness sooner or later.
Your sister heard an urban legend and passed it on to you as fact. Usually it's La-a though.
Parmadillo Marshmallow
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I have 3 boys and they all have names that are short versions of full normal names. I don't want to post them here, but think along the lines of naming a kid "Mike" instead of "Michael".
Caleb is Judeo-Christian.
Logan and Aiden are old Celtic names, both are pretty common here.
shiftplusone
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a girl I went to school with named her son Jakxyn(like Jackson)
That kind of bullshit needs to stop right now
I went to high school with a Phoenix and a Skylar and they were the worst. Skylar avoided bath time, as Skylar's tend to do
That kind of bullshit needs to stop right now
I went to high school with a Phoenix and a Skylar and they were the worst. Skylar avoided bath time, as Skylar's tend to do
Dr. Black Jack
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My second daughter has an atypical name, but it's one that's easy to say/spell and was chosen without a hint of pretentiousness. My first choice was Rose but my wife thought it was too old-fashioned so we went with our second choice and gave Rose as her middle name. We thoroughly discussed the possible ramifications of teasing and whatnot, but everyone we brought the name up to said it was pretty and didn't think it sounded weird. We have yet to hear it mispronounced.
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