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Dating-Age |OT5| Halp me pls. In the bathroom.
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The date is part of getting to know you
After some smooth talking, and texting
First off, oh, okay. That answers my questions. I thought he was just getting the kids all be himself. That's good.
Second, the bat thing may be a bad idea (which I assumed you haven't done).
Third, just bail dude. If that jerk off keyed your car, what's next? This whole relationship is fucking nuts. Just stop, it's terrible for everyone involved.
*sigh* I give up. You're just justifying this relationship (that you're constantly iffy on regarding the insane jealously issues) and something tells me you're not going to listen to most people here when they say this relationship is fucking terrible. You can find plenty of other people that like bondage, are pretty, and have a good job... and guess what? They may not also have insane exs and emotional baggage! Doesn't that sound just dandy?
But hey, it's your funeral. And I hope I don't mean that literally.
Mobile Suit Gooch
Grundle: The Awakening
Ugh, girl I had awesome date with last Saturday is proving difficult to schedule a second date with. Shortened work week had her doing terrible shifts to see all their patients...and the weekend isn't looking good either. Monday's a no go...
Would it be too impatient to end contact if Tuesday come and goes without anything even scheduled? It'd be ten days at that point. I already feel a little foolish waiting this long, but I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt with shitty circumstances.
Would it be too impatient to end contact if Tuesday come and goes without anything even scheduled? It'd be ten days at that point. I already feel a little foolish waiting this long, but I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt with shitty circumstances.
Mobile Suit Gooch
Grundle: The Awakening
Nope, I'd suggest a firm date and location a few days in advance, and if she bails/cancels then go silent until she tries to schedule one. I don't care how busy you are, you can meet up for a drink/coffee within 2 weeks.
Lone_Prodigy
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Gray Matter
Member
So my friend wants to set me up with a friend of a girl he's fools around with. I use the term "fool around" very lightly.
Not sure how I feel about it, my first thought is to go through with it, but I haven't gone on a date... Ever.
Not sure how I feel about it, my first thought is to go through with it, but I haven't gone on a date... Ever.
Well you have to start somewhere. There is no easier way of going about a first date than actually going on it. You should do it.
War Peaceman
You're a big guy.
No time like the present
Conversations - and dates are a subgenre of them - require practice.
It is why I think people with dating issues should try to get involved in volunteering/societies whilst at uni. They are a great way to learn how to talk to people in different contexts.
Also, ask waiters for what to order. Make conversation through your day, every day.
Posted this earlier but I think I got lost in the last page.
So I've started seeing a girl,and things are going well. She's more experienced than me but I'm not to worried about that.
She's into some kinky stuff that I'm not sure I'm comfortable with, although I'm game to try some of it, I'm really unsure of how it'll go (agreed to try needles and I'm immediately regretting and dreading that one). She's used to being submissive with a dominant guy. I'm just not into the the sub Dom thing and I feel like faking it would just make things weird.
I'll probably talk to her about it and I'm sure it won't be to much of a thing but I wanted to see if anyone on gaf has been through something similar or has any advice.
Thanks in advance.
Tl;dr Girls into kink, I'm not. Are we doomed?
Ps Needles are a pain thing. Basically you run them through the upper layers of skin so you're not just bleeding everywhere or stabbing through muscle. Supposed to get your adrenaline and that jazz going
So I've started seeing a girl,and things are going well. She's more experienced than me but I'm not to worried about that.
She's into some kinky stuff that I'm not sure I'm comfortable with, although I'm game to try some of it, I'm really unsure of how it'll go (agreed to try needles and I'm immediately regretting and dreading that one). She's used to being submissive with a dominant guy. I'm just not into the the sub Dom thing and I feel like faking it would just make things weird.
I'll probably talk to her about it and I'm sure it won't be to much of a thing but I wanted to see if anyone on gaf has been through something similar or has any advice.
Thanks in advance.
Tl;dr Girls into kink, I'm not. Are we doomed?
Ps Needles are a pain thing. Basically you run them through the upper layers of skin so you're not just bleeding everywhere or stabbing through muscle. Supposed to get your adrenaline and that jazz going
I would say you just need to talk & come to an understanding with each other on what is allowed and what isn't. If you are willing to try things, try them, but if you don't like them for any reason, say that and try something else. As long as you aren't shutting down every idea presented you, you have areas to work with.
Has anyone ever used Badoo? I've used it for maybe a month or so and I hung out with a cute girl today at the park. We were pretty close. We didn't kiss or anything but a bit of touching. It was nice. She was with her two-year-old though which was kinda weird at first but I got used to it. She was a little distant at times though. One minute she's be laying on me on a slide, the next she moves over to sit somewhere else, the next she's hugging me from behind, etc. It was confusing. I think there was some sexual tension because we did sext a few times and she mentioned I blue balled her. She's pretty busy very often so I don't know when I'll see her again or if she wants to. Today's meet up just happened. I woke up and there was a message from her asking if I wanted to meet at the park asap. I do hope I see her again.
hydragonwarrior
Member
So I met this amazing girl on the bus (just a conversation we just started going back and forth) and managed to get her facebook.
I sent this message just now, and I'm wondering if it seems a bit much for a first message? Upon sending it, realized it was a huge chunk of space on facebook messenger so it looks pretty overwhelming.
If I was texting her, I would have just opened it with "Hey Selina, it's Bruce
" and in retrospect it's probably what I should have done. What say you, Dating-GAF?
I sent this message just now, and I'm wondering if it seems a bit much for a first message? Upon sending it, realized it was a huge chunk of space on facebook messenger so it looks pretty overwhelming.
Hey Selina, it's Bruce
I quite enjoyed our stellar conversations over Netflix, music festivals and white wine. If you care to repeat such an unforgettable experience at a really nice place like Cafe X, let me know.
PS some links you might like:
http://tinyurl.com/pmq98dq - kind of accurate?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OlMvLK21Dwo - kind of awesome
If I was texting her, I would have just opened it with "Hey Selina, it's Bruce
" and in retrospect it's probably what I should have done. What say you, Dating-GAF?Dont sweat it just try to have fun, in this last year I have learned about how much fun I have missed out on because I took things too seriously. Once you learn that what you think is "messing up" is usually not noticed and if it is noticed doesnt even matter.
Lone_Prodigy
Member
So I met this amazing girl on the bus (just a conversation we just started going back and forth) and managed to get her facebook.
I sent this message just now, and I'm wondering if it seems a bit much for a first message? Upon sending it, realized it was a huge chunk of space on facebook messenger so it looks pretty overwhelming.
If I was texting her, I would have just opened it with "Hey Selina, it's Bruce
You sent it already, don't dwell on it. I think it's alright.
Just do it and get the experience. If you're a good match, great! If it doesn't work out, it'll still be a good lesson and practice run!
If you're going to start being insecure about not having been on a date, you will screw up even if the 'perfect' girl falls on your lap and you panic/freeze from not knowing what to do. So correct that and gain some experience! What's the worst that could happen?
Why are you unsure? Because it's your first date or because your friend's situation with this girl's friend?
Gray Matter
Member
The former. I'm very oblivious, it's hard for me to pick up signs, I say weird things at the wrong time, just a lot things that aren't fun.
Also, not that it's a big deal, but the girl just graduated high school a few weeks ago, I've been out of high school for 3 years now. But this is usual me overthinking everything.
Exactly, this is why this will be a good learning experience!
As for the age thing, it doesn't matter. Don't overthink it! (Age/2)+7!
I don't know about that. Teenagers are pretty stupid.
MonorailCat
Member
A girl just last-minute cancelled our fifth date for this evening. The reason: She wants to cook with friends instead.
Our last three dates all were short public after work dates. So I was happy to finally meet for a long saturday evening/sunday morning date and she cancels last minute for cooking with friends.
Am I overreacting if I am a bit pissed and deleted her number? It just feels like she lost interest in me. On our first and second date she couldn't stop kissing me and was all over me wanting to have sex and now she is extremely lukewarm and she only has time to meet in public for an hour or two.
Edit: After thinking about it I probably overreacted. Next time I should think a bit more and calm down before burning the bridge.
Our last three dates all were short public after work dates. So I was happy to finally meet for a long saturday evening/sunday morning date and she cancels last minute for cooking with friends.
Am I overreacting if I am a bit pissed and deleted her number? It just feels like she lost interest in me. On our first and second date she couldn't stop kissing me and was all over me wanting to have sex and now she is extremely lukewarm and she only has time to meet in public for an hour or two.
Edit: After thinking about it I probably overreacted. Next time I should think a bit more and calm down before burning the bridge.
Haloid1177
Banned
So went to this restaurant last night with a friend, really felt like I hit it off with our waitress but being the cynical jackass I am assumed it was just flirting for tips, but I think I might have been wrong the more I think about it. She stuck around our table a lot talking about life and joking around.
So what's the deal with asking for a waitress' number? Always something I was against until now.
So what's the deal with asking for a waitress' number? Always something I was against until now.
Gray Matter
Member
I had the same experience last week. Cute waitress, super nice, flirting. My friend told me to ask for her number, but she's working, she probably gets hit on by most guys she serves, I would be no different.
stn
Member
I wouldn't say you over-reacted. A last-minute cancellation to do something else is very disrespectful. In fact, I'm kind of shocked she admitted she just wanted to cook with friends instead. Never hesitate to drop someone who doesn't respect your time.
I don't think it's generally appropriate to ask someone out when they're at work, but if you do it make sure it is very casual and there is as little pressure on them as possible. Make sure you give them an easy out and don't make them feel uncomfortable basically. I don't have experience asking someone out like that though.
Nah, you didn't overreact, in my opinion. That's a shitty excuse to bail on what could be your SO last minute.
DJ Jazzy J
Neo Member
Next time just leave your number on the receipt. She knows you're interested and the ball is in her court but she doesn't feel pressured or trapped.
Also, abt the girl that cancelled last minute. That's really rude. Drop her, she's obviously self involved and not interested.
hydragonwarrior
Member
Thanks! I guess it just looks like a crap ton to send at once. Still waiting on her reply but much less antsy now since I went out and got some numbers at a nearby pub.
Still gunning on getting a reply from her tho - she was cute and a nerd. Aghhh
Well I think I may have to break it off with this lady I've been seeing for a few weeks. I feel bad about it because at first things were well and we had nice sex on multiple occasions. Although now I feel like we don't have much in common or much to talk about other than small talk. This is where me needing a like minded lady comes into play, every time this happens I realize more and more that I desire a lady who has nerdy tendencies. Unfortunately any time I meet that kind of woman they're usually some brand of crazy. She also smokes a lot of cigarettes, even in her apartment so it's kinda gross and I wake up at her place congested from the stale air. I'm assuming I should call her and tell her but I'm dreading it, I'm sure she'll understand but I feel bad being the bearer of bad news.
No sense in keeping it going if you're not feeling it. One of the worst things you can do is lead someone on.
twinturbo2
butthurt Heat fan
I asked a matchmaker about pricing, and they quoted a minimum of $450. Obviously, that's waaaaaay over what I could afford. Are there any matchmakers that are cheaper than that? I don't want to go back to online dating.
Dude...
Either go out to bars, meetups, etc, or make another online profile and message girls. You are doing yourself no favors by wanting to just "buy" romance. Failure and learning are part of the process
twinturbo2
butthurt Heat fan
Working overnights makes it hard to do the former, and I just can't seem to make the latter work at all, no matter where I go.
Mobile Suit Gooch
Grundle: The Awakening
I got about five weeks left to do this, eh? I better ask her out without really asking her out.
stn
Member
Dude, no. Ask her out and be direct about it. No beating around the bush, it won't do you any favors. Also, don't wait 5 weeks or make it some long, drawn out project. The more you wait the more she loses interest. And the more she has potential to meet another guy. Stop the bleeding and get it over with. Trust me.
Mobile Suit Gooch
Grundle: The Awakening
stn
Member
Ideally you want tomorrow night for a drink. If not, mid-afternoon coffee. But yeah, just ask her out and get it over with. Be specific about it and just tell her you'd like to take her out for a drink on ___ day. Then, work out the specific time together. If she likes you, she'll accept. No need to wait five weeks. Fortune favors the bold.
Ideally you want tomorrow night for a drink. If not, mid-afternoon coffee. But yeah, just ask her out and get it over with. Be specific about it and just tell her you'd like to take her out for a drink on ___ day. Then, work out the specific time together. If she likes you, she'll accept. No need to wait five weeks. Fortune favors the bold.
This. If she is interested but can't really go, she'll try do reschedule.
Mobile Suit Gooch
Grundle: The Awakening
Ideally you want tomorrow night for a drink. If not, mid-afternoon coffee. But yeah, just ask her out and get it over with. Be specific about it and just tell her you'd like to take her out for a drink on ___ day. Then, work out the specific time together. If she likes you, she'll accept. No need to wait five weeks. Fortune favors the bold.
I get what you're saying, I don't drive tho.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
Member
Do you want to date her? If so, why would you "not really ask her out"?
Mobile Suit Gooch
Grundle: The Awakening
I don't want to scare her off. :/
stn
Member
That's okay. Just have her meet you at a coffee shop during the day. And you're not going to scare her off, dude. She's a girl, she's probably been asked out many times already by other men. She will either like you or not. Get it over with. Good luck.
Not the right mindset, man. Ask her out. Be direct and clear with your intentions.
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