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I'm 30 and have never moved out

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My questions for people who live at home are always:

1. Do you pay rent/utilities?
2. Do your parents make you meals everyday? Or do you cook sometimes for yourself/them?
3. Do you always do your own laundry?

1. Yes I give my mom money every pay period. Goes towards groceries and cable.
2. Mom doesn't cook everyday, nor is it expected. Pleasure when she does though. Everyone in the house are adults, and can fend for themselves.
3. Mostly. My mom often asks for my clothes when she's doing a load. It's more efficient.
 
Rent for a room per month is the same amount as I earn. I am stuck living at home forever and I can't really improve my situation.

Work hard in school it's far too late for me I'm stuck at my parents for rest of my life.
 
its a culture thing definitely being Hispanic we handle ourselves different than white folks.



this comes with the territory, being hispanic either you work or go to school.. if not you're getting kicked out.


I feel you. The only people who I've seen take the similar idea are my Filipino friends, but them seem like my long lost Asian relatives anyway in terms of cultural similarities.

Also work, school or out is on point lol.
 
It's not that I don't want to. My job doesn't quite make enough money. I've ran the numbers several times. Technically I make enough to get a cheap apartment, but my budget would be extremely tight. Plus, for my first place I would feel more comfortable moving out with someone else. I've tried several times to find a roommate (preferably someone I know) but to no avail. I guess there's no reason to rush these things. It'll happen when it happens.

Anyone else in their late 20's or early 30's that has never moved out?

If your parents don't drive you nuts and it's never bothered a date, stick with it. I was driven out more by the former lol
 
Change was forced upon me somewhat and I'm glad it did. Went from the house I grew up in for 28 years to a 1 bedroom apartment (she has the bedroom, I have an air mattress in the living room) once my parents divorced and sold their house. I'm also glad the house was sold and we moved. Yes I paid whatever bills I could.

Going back to school and getting a better job will be next and while it's several years late, oh well. Been working retail for the last six years and there's been too many changes for the worst with long time people being fired (some fairly and some not) and too many new rules being added as well. It's not the same sort of fun place I got hired at.

A lot of people I graduated with have decent careers but I hated where I went to high school, so I think that partially has to do with your success. I think where you live has to do with it partially.

But as I am learning now, I think the biggest contributor happened when either a lot of us were very young or not even born and that's trade agreements which depleted a lot of the manufacturing base in the United States and sent it to poorer countries. The second factor is the rising cost of college (which according to Bill Maher) having gone up 600% since 1980. It also doesn't help that every place wants god damn experience.

Well if you don't have experience, how can you find a job? If you don't have a job, how can you make money? If you don't make money, how can you save money? If you don't save money, how can you move out of your parent's basement?

We'll have a few of the "bootstraps crowd" coming in this topic as they always do but they'll probably fail to mention they had help along the way either a dad's friend helped them get their break or something along those lines. It doesn't mean they don't work hard now, it's a detail they fail to leave out.
 
Technically, I moved out at eighteen, to go to college, but I still came back for the summers. Those summers basically could act as a timeline for how my living habits rapidly diverged once I left my parents, to the point where after the last summer, we were all desperate for me to leave for good.

So, out at twenty-two. But I also got three roommates. Not because I particularly needed the extra money to afford an apartment, but because I just really like having other people around. Going home to an empty place always felt miserable to me.
 
Rent for a room per month is the same amount as I earn. I am stuck living at home forever and I can't really improve my situation.

Work hard in school it's far too late for me I'm stuck at my parents for rest of my life.
Roommates to split rent? Different, cheaper area? You have options.
 
What does one do if the propositions of ownership are inheritable?

Like, if I can share my personal experience, my dad likes me living with him, and wants me to have the house he bought. What I wish to get involved in as a vocation is literally 20 minutes from the house, so traveling is minutes, not hours. And if that goes off well, I could end up living there instead.

I have no reason to move out because there's nowhere else I feel I need to go or to change, because what I'm focusing on vocationally already promises a great deal of change in itself. It would kind of be a monastic life, which I'm sure is a far fucking cry from everyone else in this thread.
 
Rent for a room per month is the same amount as I earn. I am stuck living at home forever and I can't really improve my situation.

Work hard in school it's far too late for me I'm stuck at my parents for rest of my life.

god damn what a depressing post.

At 18 I went to the local UNI and continued to live with my parents while doing so.

The result? I didn't take it seriously. I didn't take anything seriously. I knew that if I stayed in the shit-city that I was raised in I would never get anywhere in life.

I had to make a change. I worked and penny pinched as best as I could and then ended up moving out at 20. 4 roommates later in a different city and now I'm 26 about to finally get my very own apartment in half a year. My brother (29) still lives with my parents (in a new city at least) and I don't think he's grown much as a person. It's definitely holding him back.

Moving out and stepping away from your comfort zone is a live altering, much needed experience.
 
Nah.

Better to live at home and save up to buy rather than leave and spend money renting. If his parents are cool with him being at home, I don't see what the problem is.

The idea of having to move out to gain independence seems like an outdated and unreasonable one considering the realities of the job and housing market in most major urban areas.
Pretty much my thoughts.

I'm still trying to work shit out instead of rushing myself into living elsewhere, and in my eyes essentially being trapped.

There's too much I want to do before I have more bills to pay.
 
We should probably also consider the parents in this situation. I'd consider having kids to be a 20 year room and board commitment. Anything more and you may be overstaying your welcome.

Most definitely. Honestly, unless you have some sort of disability you should be ashamed of yourself if you're 30+ years old, still working at an entry level job, have no/very little money in savings, not going to school, and still living with your parents.

This is one of my fears of becoming a parent. Raising them for 18 years and then having a freeloading "roommate" for another 10-15 years.
 
I think, on paper, staying at home is advantageous. You can save a lot of money and live comfortably, and you have a safety net in case you run into trouble.

In practice, though, I find that living on your own confers a lot of advantages by teaching you how to take care of yourself and forcing you to face and overcome your own shortcomings (don't like to clean? Well, then your home will be a mess, for example).
 
Roommates to split rent? Different, cheaper area? You have options.
This is with room mates when I say a room this is what I mean. Area wise not much choice as transport is so expensive I have to stay within the same zone.

I guess I'd a room mate would share a bed with me I could move out
 
I moved out and live with my parents at home now with my wife. Though being in India, that's pretty common.

And it's pretty fucking great. We built a 3rd floor on house that is like my place with kitchen. So, I get the benefits of staying at home with having my privacy.
 
I didn't move out until I was 28, and the day couldn't have come sooner. Too many of my siblings still lived at home, and the place was incredibly stressful.

The reason I had to wait so long was because it took me a long time to get through college; I could only afford going part-time while working in retail. By the time I was 24, I was eligible for financial aid, so I quit my job to focus on school, and graduated when I was 27. Got my job offer the day I graduated (enough to move out), and just had to wait until they were ready for me to start.

Skip to 7 months later, I was asked to start. My grandparents loaned me $1500 to help me move, and I've been here for the last 1.5 years.
 
When I was in my early 20s I managed to rent an apartment in Queens while working at shitty Sears and taking college courses online... There is almost no excuse not to live on your own by 20 if you have even a part time job unless theres a medical reason. Quit wasting money on junk.
 
I was pretty late at 25. Gave me a good chance to save up some money, but I should have done it sooner in hindsight. I love my parents to death but I can't imagine living with them anymore.
 
I moved out of my mom's house after high school and I've lived in a lot of different places since then. I lived in a house with friends for two years then rented an apartment and then a small house to myself. My parents put me through college.

I'm 29 now and hope to move out of the group home I'm living in now and get my own apartment.

My dad and uncle are middle aged and both live in a house with my grandma who is almost 90 years old. But my own mom just sold her house in Oregon and rented an apartment in California; she wants to live alone though.
 
Moved out when I was 27. That was 3 years ago.

But here in México the whole "moving out" is handled waaay differently than in America. No rush here.
 
I moved out at 17, bought my first house at 24, and started my business at 30. My mom is very strict/religious so moving out was my #1 priority back in high school. I don't regret it one bit but I do admit that it would have been harder for me to move out if I had a car note, phone bill etc............I moved out at 17 with no bills and only the clothes on my back.

Also, this thread reminds me of a buddy that's currently 34 and lives at home with his parents. If you see his room, you would think he was 16. It's complete with clothes under the bed, GnR posters on the wall, and a closet full of random items that will scatter if you open the door too quickl
 
i'd want my kids out at 18 making something of themselves

Me and my 3 siblings were all out at 18. 3 of us made it without having to move back in. One got into financial trouble with credit cards and had to move back for 2 years but learned a lot from that experience and has never had trouble with money again. It's good to do it at a young age while your parents can support you if it fails.

OP you need to get out and learn the life skills you need when you are on your own. You may think it'd be tight after running the numbers, but I'd be curious what your numbers include (TV? Huge cell phone bill?). Are you basing this on living alone? Get roommates, I had a high paying job and I still had roommates for 4 years after college to save up. You start to value things differently when you are relying on yourself for rent/food etc.
 
don't worry i am

At least you're aware that it's not a good thing. One of my best friends from high school still lives with his parents, and he's 30 years old. He has no shame. Dude just blows his money on bullshit, and has no money saved up. He's been working better than average jobs since 18. He could easily have $80+K in the bank if he was even remotely smart with his money. It's pretty sad.
 
I moved out for school when I was 18, moved back when I was 22, and moved out again at 24. I think the world of my parents, but I needed to grow as a person. If I had stayed home, I would never have gotten my current job, met the love of my life, or bought a home of my own. It hasn't always been sunshine and skittles, but I don't regret my choices.
 
My questions for people who live at home are always:

1. Do you pay rent/utilities?
2. Do your parents make you meals everyday? Or do you cook sometimes for yourself/them?
3. Do you always do your own laundry?

When I lived at home

1. No
2. No
3. No, but I'd do everyone's laundry when asked

I was a filthy freeloader.
 
I am 39 moved back in after my divorce and don't plan on moving back out until I am ready, my mother Husband died 2 years ago and she hasn't gotten past it yet, I don't feel comfortable leaving here alone, maybe in a year or 2..
 
Do seizures count as a medical reason? Not trying to find sympathy but I'm just wondering.

As for the dating situation, the biggest problem I have is finding girls who don't want kids. I've checked online dating sites and when you change the results from "wants kids" to "doesn't want kids" you get about 1% of the results you normally would.
 
Moved out when I was 27. That was 3 years ago.

But here in México the whole "moving out" is handled waaay differently than in America. No rush here.

Para qué se va de la casa. mijo? Mira quédate y ahorrar dinero!
Pls I'm just visiting ;-;
 
I just turned 36 and will be moving out for the first time next month. You're doing fine, OP.

living at home with 30 is definitely not doing fine, other people have been independent for 10 to 15 years at 30. You're totally limiting yourself, I would be downright embarrassed telling people I live with my Mommy at 30.

I couldn't take it anymore at 20, I also had to live with my sister in the same room though.
 
There's nothing wrong with living at home and being over 25. I feel a lot of people are being too harsh. Stuff happens. It's another story if you've been living at home all your life at 30 and have no education, social life or career goals. If I didn't have my parents to fall back on when I did I wouldn't have been able to make a career change as fast or smoothly as I did. I thought I had it all figured out at 18 and I didn't at all. It's great if you can move out young and have your life mapped out, but it's not always that simple. Being able to save up while at home is a godsend. If you're paying rent while at home then yeah it's absolutely pointless
 
living at home with 30 is definitely not doing fine, other people have been independent for 10 to 15 years at 30. You're totally limiting yourself, I would be downright embarrassed telling people I live with my Mommy at 30.

Whose independent for 15 years at 30?

At this point, living on your own for 5 or more years by 30 is an accomplishment.
 
Moved out at 17 when I went to college and I couldn't imagine moving back in with them. I love my parents and I love visiting them but I think I'd go crazy living with them as an adult. I'd hate trying to bring a woman back to a place I shared with my parents.

That being said, if you can't afford to move out then there's no shame in it I guess. I just know I'd be looking to move out as soon as possible.
 
Being in the military for the past 4 years and getting out to move back home for a year I can say I'm not looking forward to it. I've been in my own place for a little over a year now and it's fantastic. However it would be dumb of me to use all my savings to live on my own while going to school. Even dipping into them outside of school related funds will suck. So in essence I will move out again when I turn 26 and move back across the country but for now im enjoying it before I go back. Use the financial freedom while you have it and don't stagnate. No one looks down upon you. Just keep your head up and set your goals. However if you will just lose some financial freedom but affordable it's probably worth moving out imo.
 
Moved out at 18. Never looked back. Love my parents. I grew up with them fighting every now and then over finances. Funny, after all the three kids left they got more and more chill. Hahaha.

Start looking for a better job if you can OP. Aren't you able to save a lot of money living at home currently? Save up while you put together a resume and start searching. Find a better job anywhere and leave. It will be one of the best decisions of your life.


EDIT: You only have so many years to get out on your own. Before you know it, parents get older and then they are the ones moving in. lol.
 
I'm living the 20 something dream right now. Got the best of both worlds going on. I moved out of home at the age of 18 to go to uni, after which I found myself a good software engineering job and moved in with uni friends. I haven't moved back home since, but what really makes my situation great is that a year ago I was told by a friend of my family that they had a spare room going in central London, I snapped it up super quick. The rent I pay is basically nothing, (15% of my salary all bills inc) and I get absolute freedom. He's the most chill guy ever, he's away a lot too. I'm 24 now and I don't ever want to leave! That being said, even if I was paying three times the rent, i'd still never go back home, freedom is a must.
 
Hmmm... I'm in the same boat. I lived alone for a year in a sleeper, not even a studio. It was like an office space and a bathroom. I paid $285. I hated the town and I knew no one. I was also in nursing school and failed later on. I moved back in. I pay rent, the basement is basically my space, I help with groceries, I help with bills, I have payed a grand every now and then for emergencies, and I'm there if anything comes up.

I'm 30 years old. I like to help out. I clean, mow the grass, and I bought them another animal. I try and do my best and sometimes spend more than if I lived alone.

I'm kinda depressed. My space is larger, but I'm single. Not really any friends. I like what I do for a living, but I feel like I'm still alone.

I feel like there's some emotional stress because it's still family and we don't always see eye to eye. I want to be comfortable when I move and not just move to spend money.

They can depend on me, but it's like its own small hell at times.
 
living at home with 30 is definitely not doing fine, other people have been independent for 10 to 15 years at 30. You're totally limiting yourself, I would be downright embarrassed telling people I live with my Mommy at 30, hell I'd feel that way at 25.

I couldn't take it anymore at 20, I also had to live with my sister in the same room though.

15 years old and living on their own?

Living at home till 30 may also give someone the chance to save up for a house. I don't see anything worth shaming someone for staying that long, even though I couldn't do it.
 
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