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[Makki]

Dude, you already have some girl you met 3 weeks ago, who chose you as the rebound, sleeping at your place??? And she sleeps in the same bed with her ex because of missing pets???

 

[Soul Beat]

As someone who's gotten played before...You just got played son.

Spoiler

Ironically, she's working at Disneyworld now. Or was it Disneyland? Can't remember.

 

[Fliesen]

OP needs to move in there and assert his dominance.

this. piss in their bed.

 

[Solo]

There's an insanely high probability they're still fucking. Sad but true.

 

[TimeEffect]

So what ride in Disneyland did you meet on?

 

[Usobuko]

I fear the revelations she will shown in the next couple of weeks / months may be too much for one to handle.

The girl is in a mess and yes they usually only give away tidbits of it to reel you in. It's only harder to leave once you're invested.

 

[norm9]

If she's already spending 3 nights a week at your place, just have her move in already. It really sounds like fate has put you two together for a reason.

 

[arts&crafts]

wtf. this is sitcom material.

Isnt this pretty much 2 and half men, except OP moves in with OP's Girlfriend's Boyfriend?

 

[Kitoro]

As for the ex, yes, he's been in denial mode this whole time. He thinks she's just going through a phase and will settle back into her comfort zone in due time, despite the fact that she's openly been spending multiple nights at my house and going on numerous full-day/night dates on weekends.

Also, the reason they share such a small bed is because they just literally moved into the apartment two months ago and have been so busy that they haven't even really had time to properly unpack and shop for essentials like a bigger bed.

 

[Beefy]

Again I will say. Is there proof he is actually a ex ? Apart from her saying so?

 

[ATF487]

Move into that room and keep an eye on the bastard

 

[UnObtainium17]

Darn it's almost that r kelly and usher song but not really.

 

[Media]

She is choosing to sleep with him in a cramped twin bed rather than any other viable option. She is failing to establish any kind of boundaries whatsoever. Guy probably thinks the relationship is repairable or doesn't even know he is an "ex" and she is lying to the OP.

If this is truly an issue for her, she'll do one of the above: walk or call police. If not, she's just not that into you.

What I was gently trying to say. If she doesn't or hasn't taken these basic steps, she's screwing around.

 

[Kodros]

So what ride in Disneyland did you meet on?

It's a Small Bed after all.

 

[commedieu]

Rescue her op. Hire a lawyer.

You only get true love once.

 

[TimeEffect]

So, to clarify, are you guys suggesting that she wants off lease and wants OP to pay?

 

[WorldStar]

The fact that you're posting on GAF asking for feedback on a situation that is crystal clear while he's fucking "your chick" is 99% of the problem brah

Cmon brah, go put in work and right this shit

 

[off duty ninja]

If OP's story is legit and girl and ex are broken up, dude is already sexually assaulting her on the regular. It isn't uncommon for already abusive guys to do really bad things to women who try and end things romantically.

Again, this makes the huge assumption that the story OP is giving out is on the level. I don't understand why she wouldn't just break herself off the lease in that situation. I've done it myself for other reasons in the past, and paying three months rent is way preferable to living with someone you can't stand while paying twelve months rent.

I think OP's story is on the level in his own mind but who in their right mind would share a bed with someone on the reg after unwanted sexual advances? You are right about abusive situations but this doesn't exactly sound like one.

I think he managed to find the hot crazy chick. You know the one. She is fun, loves to fuck and swears that you are the only one for her

Spoiler

WHILE SHE IS SPOONING HER EX

.

 

[Veitsev]

As for the ex, yes, he's been in denial mode this whole time. He thinks she's just going through a phase and will settle back into her comfort zone in due time, despite the fact that she's openly been spending multiple nights at my house and going on numerous full-day/night dates on weekends.

Also, the reason they share such a small bed is because they just literally moved into the apartment two months ago and have been so busy that they haven't even really had time to properly unpack and shop for essentials like a bigger bed.

Buy a fucking cot

Buy a cheap air mattress

Sleep on the floor

Sleep on the couch

She is full of it man.

 

[lethial]

These comments are amazing, haha. I know it's a totally fucked scenario, and I'm really just reaching out to get an idea of the options she has as far as getting him out of the apartment, or at least getting herself out.

And we're not actually calling each other boyfriend/girlfriend yet; that's reserved for when we finally sort this out. I just wanted as simple a title as possible for the thread.

I know what she's going through; hell, it doesn't even come close to the shit show I had for the first half of 2016.

I've been there and beyond, and I got my shit sorted out, but not without the help of some friends (and friends with benefits) along the way. I'd like to help her through in a similar way to the ways in which my friends helped me through.

Have you done much dating since your divorce? Seems like you're moving and caring about some Disney chick you met a few weeks ago way too fast. I mean come on man you're 30.

 

[Raven117]

Like everyone else is saying.

Bro, effing run. This can only end in disaster...especially for you.

Back out now....DO IT...

 

[Krammy]

As for the ex, yes, he's been in denial mode this whole time.

It sounds more like you're the one in denial here, when there's so many options for the woman you're seeing to take, yet she keeps sleeping with her ex.

 

[Ninja Scooter]

If you really like this girl OP, give her some space and distance to let her fix her personal shit and to make sure you aren't just some rebound. Getting deeply involved in their business, or letting her move in with you when she's fresh off the baggage of a breakup, is a sure fire way to fuck things up. She's not going anywhere. If she is really as in to you as you are into her, she'll be there when the dust settles.

That said, thisisneogaf.gif so I totally expect this and any other sensible advice in this thread go ignored and the next update will involve an engagement ring and/or a pregnancy.

 

[John Kowalski]

A thousand for a room...? I'm not ready for big city life.

 

[Soul Beat]

Again I will say. Is there proof he is actually a ex ? Apart from her saying so?

For real. Did she at least update her facebook?

 

[xxracerxx]

What the fuck is this thread?

 

[Pizoxuat]

Get her posting on r/LegalAdvice, they deal with breaking leases all the time and will be able to give her some decent free advice depending on where yall live on how easy it will be to get her out of there. If both of them are on the lease, then she is leaving, not him.

 

[LegendofDragoonLives]

She's been staying over at my home most nights since we started dating 3 weeks back, and dreads going back there, because he constantly tries to kiss her, and she wakes up to him spooning her at night in the twin bed they share. She only goes back because she has pets there that she misses.

 

[arts&crafts]

For real. Did she at least update her facebook?

to at the very least "its complicated"

 

[Aizen.S.Kennedy]

As for the ex, yes, he's been in denial mode this whole time. He thinks she's just going through a phase and will settle back into her comfort zone in due time, despite the fact that she's openly been spending multiple nights at my house and going on numerous full-day/night dates on weekends.

Also, the reason they share such a small bed is because they just literally moved into the apartment two months ago and have been so busy that they haven't even really had time to properly unpack and shop for essentials like a bigger bed.

Sounds like he isn't the one in denial mode. Ok answer why can't she sleep on the floor or couch. Why does she need to sleep on a small bed with a guys dick in her back .
I know it hurts to hear but ask her and yourself this question.

 

[Earthstrike]

As for the ex, yes, he's been in denial mode this whole time. He thinks she's just going through a phase and will settle back into her comfort zone in due time, despite the fact that she's openly been spending multiple nights at my house and going on numerous full-day/night dates on weekends.

Also, the reason they share such a small bed is because they just literally moved into the apartment two months ago and have been so busy that they haven't even really had time to properly unpack and shop for essentials like a bigger bed.

They went from signing a year lease to being broken up. What happened that caused them to break up. That's a rather drastic shift. You might want to get some more information here. Also, "they've been so busy that they haven't even really had time to properly unpack and shop for essentials like a bigger bed."

You say that like it's still going to happen. What?

 

[Brazil]

Jesus Christ GAF can't catch a break

 

[MrToughPants]

As for the ex, yes, he's been in denial mode this whole time. He thinks she's just going through a phase and will settle back into her comfort zone in due time, despite the fact that she's openly been spending multiple nights at my house and going on numerous full-day/night dates on weekends.

Also, the reason they share such a small bed is because they just literally moved into the apartment two months ago and have been so busy that they haven't even really had time to properly unpack and shop for essentials like a bigger bed.

You're in denial mode.

If you really want to be the hero move in with her and sleep in the middle of them.

 

[Ray Wonder]

I'm all for finding the right girl that clicks with you, and wanting to put in effort to keep her. I've done it, and it's worked out, but (this part alone is enough) sleeping in the same bed is absolutely never acceptable, especially if you're actually dating. Like boyfriend/girlfriend.

 

[Makki]

Also, the reason they share such a small bed is because they just literally moved into the apartment two months ago and have been so busy that they haven't even really had time to properly unpack and shop for essentials like a bigger bed.

How does this excuse work? She doesnt need a bigger bed lmao, she just has to sleep somewhere other than the bed her supposed ex sleeps in. You are telling us she broke with her ex but is too "busy" to get an inflatable mattress on the way back from work?

I'm guessing you are eating these tales from her ass... I feel sorry for you.

 

[Kitoro]

Absolutely this. I hate to be a dick, but is this your first girlfriend? Im having a hard time understanding why you'd even entertain the idea of a relationship with her. Not just that, but going as far as letting her move in with you. I don't know you OP but you have to be better than this.

I've been dating numerous people over the last 6 months since getting divorced, and before that, I've been in multiple 2+ year relationships, in addition to my 6 year relationship/3 year marriage.

I'm not in the slightest bit desperate; I just really find this girl to be incredible, and, shit situation aside, is exactly what I've always hoped to find as far as personality, positivity, warmth, and beauty goes.

 

[Liu Kang Baking A Pie]

If you really like this girl OP, give her some space and distance to let her fix her personal shit and to make sure you aren't just some rebound. Getting deeply involved in their business, or letting her move in with you when she's fresh off the baggage of a breakup, is a sure fire way to fuck things up. She's not going anywhere. If she is really as in to you as you are into her, she'll be there when the dust settles.

That said, thisisneogaf.gif so I totally expect this and any other sensible advice in this thread go ignored and the next update will involve an engagement ring and/or a pregnancy.

OP, if you don't follow this advice, you will be ruined by this dumb relationship. Let her go and see if she comes back.

 

[Tagyhag]

OP, is this your first GF? I have to lend you a truck to hold all these flags.

I've been dating numerous people over the last 6 months since getting divorced, and before that, I've been in multiple 2+ year relationships, in addition to my 6 year relationship/3 year marriage.

I'm not in the slightest bit desperate; I just really find this girl to be incredible, and, shit situation aside, is exactly what I've always hoped to find as far as personality, positivity, warmth, and beauty goes.

Bruh, she willingly sleeps on the same bed as her ex. Him being a fucking creeper aside (She should get a restraining order if he doesn't stop), does that seem normal to you?

 

[Ninja Scooter]

As for the ex, yes, he's been in denial mode this whole time. He thinks she's just going through a phase and will settle back into her comfort zone in due time, despite the fact that she's openly been spending multiple nights at my house and going on numerous full-day/night dates on weekends.

Also, the reason they share such a small bed is because they just literally moved into the apartment two months ago and have been so busy that they haven't even really had time to properly unpack and shop for essentials like a bigger bed.

You don't sleep in the same bed as your ex. Why do you think he's in "denial"? What kind of signal is that sending? Either she's playing games with him or she's not being 100% open about the situation with you.

 

[shintoki]

OP, there are not enough red flags in the world for this shit.

You want advice?

 

[theytookourjobz]

It's a Small Bed after all.

lol

 

[Frozenprince]

If you really like this girl OP, give her some space and distance to let her fix her personal shit and to make sure you aren't just some rebound. Getting deeply involved in their business, or letting her move in with you when she's fresh off the baggage of a breakup, is a sure fire way to fuck things up. She's not going anywhere. If she is really as in to you as you are into her, she'll be there when the dust settles.

That said, thisisneogaf.gif so I totally expect this and any other sensible advice in this thread go ignored and the next update will involve an engagement ring and/or a pregnancy.

"She moved in with me while also still living there! Isn't it great!"

I can see it now.

 

[Ray Wonder]

As for the ex, yes, he's been in denial mode this whole time. He thinks she's just going through a phase and will settle back into her comfort zone in due time, despite the fact that she's openly been spending multiple nights at my house and going on numerous full-day/night dates on weekends.

Also, the reason they share such a small bed is because they just literally moved into the apartment two months ago and have been so busy that they haven't even really had time to properly unpack and shop for essentials like a bigger bed.

"Ignore the bad
Embrace the good
Hope you don't get fucked over"

I predict she randomly, one day, stops replying to your messages.

 

[Frozenprince]

I've been dating numerous people over the last 6 months since getting divorced, and before that, I've been in multiple 2+ year relationships, in addition to my 6 year relationship/3 year marriage.

I'm not in the slightest bit desperate; I just really find this girl to be incredible, and, shit situation aside, is exactly what I've always hoped to find as far as personality, positivity, warmth, and beauty goes.

This right here is the problem.

You're still idealizing.

Don't do that homie.

 

[Jarrod38]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wz-PtEJEaqY

 

[Kitoro]

How does this excuse work? She doesnt need a bigger bed lmao, she just has to sleep somewhere other than the bed her supposed ex sleeps in. You are telling us she broke with her ex but is too "busy" to get an inflatable mattress on the way back from work?

I'm guessing you are eating these tales from her ass... I feel sorry for you.

She's been sleeping on the couch some nights, but that's not good for anyone's back, and it's admitting defeat to the ex. He should be on that couch, as that's about what his rent contribution basically affords.

Either way, one of them needs to get out, for the sake of each of their own well being.

 

[commedieu]

Wait wait wait wait wait.



They share a bed?




Lol...


Marry her.

 

[onadesertedisland]

"Hey, this is fun, and I dig you a lot. But, this whole ex situation, you need to deal with that. I'm not one for games, and until that is all settled I think I'm just making it more complicated."

 

[Frozenprince]

She's been sleeping on the couch some nights, but that's not good for anyone's back, and it's admitting defeat to the ex. He should be on that couch, as that's about what his rent contribution basically affords.

Either way, one of them needs to get out, for the sake of each of their own well being.

Buy her a good air mattress.

See how that goes.

 

[Zelenogorsk]

Are both their names on the lease? And is the $700 amount she pays on the lease too? Because if that's the case then it's going to be tough getting away from that. Trying to sublease to someone when another person lives in the same room sounds impossible. Maybe she could live rent free while still paying rent on the lease. A shitty option but I don't see many other scenarios.