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Can attraction grow for a man?

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CrazyHorse

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Guys I need some help.

I met this girl who is a very ethical and intelligent person. My problem is that I don't find aspects of her face attractive. To the extent that it really puts me off. Other things are attractive. Her face is somewhat asymmetrical (one side puffier) and when she smiles I can see all her gums and and this is because her jaw is a bit protruded.

I don't want to reject her outright without giving it careful thought. I can see her being a good mother and supportive wife.

But can attraction grow?

I am better looking than her and it's not often that you see a husband with a less attractive wife. Things like this bother me: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/19/marriage-study_n_4299002.html
 
Think about it this way, women have been doing it since forever.

That aside, you get acclimated to people's facial features within weeks, you'll barely notice it.
 
Absolutely, at least it did for me. I dated a girl who at first I found somewhat attractive, but she didn't immediately catch my eye like most of my other girlfriend had. It turned out to be my best relationship; it lasted a few years. And over those few years, she came to be the most attractive out of anyone I had dated. Nothing changed about her, I just grew to love and appreciate her more.
 
It can and will. I think how they are inside can make those other qualities you speak of completely disappear.

On the flip side, I've found some physically beautiful women to be ugly after learning who they are.
 
Attractions can grow if you spend more time with someone yes, but that's usually just more emotional attractions.

Just reject her. I wouldn't want to be with someone who thinks I'm ugly and should be doing much better than me.
 
So, it's not just you don't find her attractive. It's also that parts of her face really puts you off.

Let her be.
 
Isn't it normal for attraction to grow if, as you get to know each other better, you learn things about them that you like?
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I'm far more attracted to my girlfriend now than I was when I met her 5 years ago, and even then, I felt like she was way out of my league in terms of physical attraction.
 
You are an alien tricking us into explaining how we work so you can understand us better and eventually blend in with us and destroy us from the inside, aren't you?
 
so you're not even dating her yet and you're already judging your response on whether or not her potential ability to be a good wife and mother outweigh the fact that you can see her gums?

one step at a time bro
 
You speak as if you are judging livestock. Personally, you can be a great person but I've never grown over time to be attracted to someone or have physical chemistry where there is none initially. But everyone is different. A big part of life is figuring out that aspect of yourself.
 
AGoodODST said:
You just met her and are contemplating on how good a mother and wife she will be?
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This, Super weird.

I really wouldn't want to date someone who made a public post like that about me before deciding if I'm worth putting the effort in. 'Eh, he's ugly and I'm way better looking, but maybe I'll get used to it because ugly guys can be good dads' sounds pretty off-putting OP

If this is how you're approaching a potential relationship, I'm thinking she'll be better off with someone else frankly. Ugly behavior.
 
You can absolutely warm up to a person's appearance, but based on your post I think you should let the girl live her life without you.

There'll probably be a better suited guy who's cool with her asymmetrical face.
 
CrazyHorse said:
I am better looking than her and it's not often that you see a husband with a less attractive wife. Things like this bother me: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/19/marriage-study_n_4299002.html
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It's also shown that men severely tend to overestimate their attractiveness and women tend to underestimate their own. You're not ready for a relationship if I'm being blunt, you should just date yourself. Don't mess with this girl and hurt her making another thread in few month's time saying "I thought I could look past it but I couldn't." Go find another woman.
 
I wouldn't date someone who I'm not really attracted to. I tried once and it just doesn't work. Attraction can grow but it won't go from 0 to 100.

It's also very weird that you are thinking what kind of mother and wife she would make this soon...
 
CrazyHorse said:
Guys I need some help.

I met this girl who is a very ethical and intelligent person. My problem is that I don't find aspects of her face attractive. To the extent that it really puts me off. Other things are attractive. Her face is somewhat asymmetrical (one side puffier) and when she smiles I can see all her gums and and this is because her jaw is a bit protruded.

I don't want to reject her outright without giving it careful thought. I can see her being a good mother and supportive wife.

But can attraction grow?

I am better looking than her and it's not often that you see a husband with a less attractive wife. Things like this bother me: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/19/marriage-study_n_4299002.html
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jfc
 
You already sound super judgemental about the way she looks, I wouldn't waste her time. Your post gave me Patrick Bateman vibes.
 
Breh you just met her and you're already thinking about her as your wife and the mother of your child, the hell
 
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