PopcornMegaphone
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Op you sound like a creep.
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My coworker thinks I'm stalking her because I found her home address on a website
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Chittagong
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"Found" her address vs "Searched for" her address
Samurai G0SU
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He stalked the Cat to the location on a porch. Waited nearby or on the front property in hopes the cat would come back from the Porch. (maybe fenced so he didnt go to porch)
Man/YourFriend stands there and waits for a Mother and Daughter to come out of their car. mother and Daughter do not leave the car and are scared because they see a man just staring at them, or their house, or their cat, waiting in thought.
hmmmm.......... i think you're just trolling everyone here now with these stories.
chillybright
Banned
It's not stalking.
It's e-stalking.
It's e-stalking.
The Salt Life
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No I just worked at a company for 14 years and saw all sorts of shit that would make your skin crawl and second guess humanity. Luckily.....Employee addresses were not accessible to some of these creeps.
Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
Born in July, OP?
See how fuckin creepy that is.
JrBaconCheeseburger
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I learned something new.
davidwhangchoi
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hahaha
John Kowalski
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Born in February, Ray Wonder?
jajaja. this got me pretty good.
Box of Kittens
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Sure, mentioning it to her is a big issue, not least because it's liable to make her feel at the very least uncomfortable, but I disagree with the replies that suggest this was the only problem.
Thinking that a coworker is signaling interest to you by asking if you have a girlfriend five minutes after meeting you is kinda weird and socially inept, asking her out the next day is another step.
Searching a database for info on her after you've asked her out and been rebuffed is creepy. Period. This isn't checking out someone who asked you on a date to make sure they're not dangerous, it's just creepy.
Thinking that a coworker is signaling interest to you by asking if you have a girlfriend five minutes after meeting you is kinda weird and socially inept, asking her out the next day is another step.
Searching a database for info on her after you've asked her out and been rebuffed is creepy. Period. This isn't checking out someone who asked you on a date to make sure they're not dangerous, it's just creepy.
Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
Born in September, John Kowalski?
lol I'm pretty easy to find. It's still creepy seeing you say that.
You messed up and I think everyone would be weirded to be told you looked them up on a site you needed to pay for.
On another note though I can understand retaining information from random innocent google searches and if you say them it would weird the person out even though it shouldn't. I find myself always playing forgetful because that's the social norm. Like I remember random embarrassing things coworkers said to me years ago in a conversation, then now they're railing against someone doing that exact same thing and I'm just there thinking I remember when it was you doing or saying something like that. If I pointed it out people would think it's weird. Having a good memory scares people, so I always pretend I don't know things.
On another note though I can understand retaining information from random innocent google searches and if you say them it would weird the person out even though it shouldn't. I find myself always playing forgetful because that's the social norm. Like I remember random embarrassing things coworkers said to me years ago in a conversation, then now they're railing against someone doing that exact same thing and I'm just there thinking I remember when it was you doing or saying something like that. If I pointed it out people would think it's weird. Having a good memory scares people, so I always pretend I don't know things.
Samurai G0SU
Member
well you look creepy, so good thing you do that!
PassiveObserver
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OP thinks his only fault was being "hyper" when he talks. Dude is hyper when he stalks.
hydrophilic attack
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you guys won't find my birthday!!!!
ScatheZombie
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At a certain point, yeah.
"Hey, your friend Amanda seems nice, can I get her number?"
"Umm, sure I guess."
"Cool, cool, while you are at it, can I get her home address too."
"Umm, Ok, that's a little much before you even ask her out."
"True, true... but, you know, while we're at it, what about her date of birth."
"Dude, why would you..."
"You know, I should also probably know the make, model and license plate of her car too."
"What does that even..."
"Actually, you know what, you should just give me her WIFI password since I'll be waiting outside her house anyway."
"No. No, you're a weirdo."
theaffection
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Is searching up info on a person you like stalking? No. Obsessive? Yes.
Is telling that person that you know info about them that they didn't tell you yet creepy? Yes.
Give me a break, high and mighty GAF. Acting like 75% of you guys haven't lurked a persons social media when you're digging her/him 🙄🙄
Is telling that person that you know info about them that they didn't tell you yet creepy? Yes.
Give me a break, high and mighty GAF. Acting like 75% of you guys haven't lurked a persons social media when you're digging her/him 🙄🙄
What the hell
ScatheZombie
Member
Some of us are old enough to have dated before social media. Back then you just followed them around in an unmarked, windowless van.
Well, for one, there's a difference between looking someone up on facebook, and looking up someone you recently had a short conversation with, and telling them to their face that you know their birthday and their home adress since you tracked it down after said conversation.
One is normal. The other is creepy.
BronsonLee
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This thread scares me
Jinfash
needs 2 extra inches
Where's this from?
closing your blinds isn't going to help
The Artisan
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i was watching this thread last night, you're like one of 3 people here saying he isn't a stalker
BronsonLee
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O.O
theaffection
Member
If a girl I like isn't creeping me on social media then I want nothing to do with her!! 😤😤
Welcome to the new digital world! No vans needed now 😈😈
You're totally right. Thats a damn good point when you put it like that. Just had to make sure you guys knew the difference! 😤😤😤
Checking out what someone chooses to share about themselves on social media is waaaay different then looking up their personal details (unless they share that stuff on social media)
Shadax the wizard
Member
You absolute madman 😂
theaffection
Member
To be fair the mere existence of a database like that where you can find someones info using just an email at the click of a button is insanely fucking weird
Mammoth Jones
Member
Yea. Personally I'd prefer they didn't exist or at the least made it illegal to monetize people's private information.
Gotta pay for premium membership to fucking stalk someone. Trash.
Messofanego
Banned
lolThis immediately came to mind:
Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
Both you and your sister's birthday is in February?
Deadly Cyclone
Pride of Iowa State
Incredible thread.
To add a note to your post, you'd be surprised what's out there. My wife has worked on political campaigns for a few years and campaigns have access to all the public info about you. That includes address, phone, voter status, demographic, etc.
Basically anything census-related or public record is out there.
Looking it up and telling someone you know where they live is still creepy, though.
PassiveObserver
Member
Think the girl being stalked also works there but that ending, lord.
Fantastapotamus
Wrong about commas, wrong about everything
Somebody probably pointed that out already but.....how did you hear what she said to somebody else in the bathroom....
Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
This is what I want to know. OP got so defensive and annoyed at our response to this, yet he won't say how he heard them in the bathroom.
oh gawd :O
StanleyStutters
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He explained it earlier in the thread. He's friends with the girl she was talking to in the bathroom. She relayed the info to him.
Mammoth Jones
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