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this day was the last day I could see my current crush :( my work office moved to other location

that person is the most good looking creature I've seen all my lifetime.. and when we see each other for the last time on the elevator,

I finally use my inner strength to nod after I try to avoid all this time, and that person responded by giving me a blank stare for like ten second and then smile a bit (we don't know each other).

I felt sad, dissapointed that I never make some move and angry that I couldn't bring myself to have a conversation and ask for number, but also excited about new ambience my new workplace brings

I felt weak but felt free at the same time that I start running anywhere in the new office and drank water like crazy

I know that everything was already happened and I just have to move on with life, but my emotion refuse to calm down, resulting in odd rush on brain. I really hope that I could control myself, not indulging myself in this kind of feeling and could step forwars.

so GAF, is it normal for a male to have this kind emotional rollercoaster and cannot control it or I am just depressed right now?

your stories and opinions are very appreciated right now
 
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10000 said:
(we don't know each other).

so GAF, is it normal for a male to have this kind emotional rollercoaster and cannot control it or I am just depressed right now?
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Over someone that you don't even really know? No, not really, that's a bit extreme. Sounds like you've got a "crush" on your own imagination. These situations, you have to actually talk to the person, see if it works out. If not, move on, if so, good luck. This in-between world where you crush on someone you don't even talk to, you're just wasting your time, thoughts and energy on something that doesn't exist.
 
Dont make a move. She is just beautiful but you have no right to hit on her.

Just kidding.

I know how you feel bro. Learn from that and try next time
 
Tesseract said:
go make a move, bub(sy)
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hey I played bubsy too on steam 😄
but yeah.. I should've do that....
Kingwingin said:
Why dont you go for it? You ugly? Fat?
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I don't have a thought that I am ugly (actually I'm a bit proud of my skin health 😂) and also not fat either, but I could get very nervous when I meet someone I liked/respect

Mossybrew said:
Over someone that you don't even really know? No, not really, that's a bit extreme. Sounds like you've got a "crush" on your own imagination. These situations, you have to actually talk to the person, see if it works out. If not, move on, if so, good luck. This in-between world where you crush on someone you don't even talk to, you're just wasting your time, thoughts and energy on something that doesn't exist.
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hey thank you for the rationalistic standpoint like this,

I have thought this months ago that it is an unhealthy imagination and just wasting of my precious life, but this thought wane over time. thank you for reminding me


GeorgPrime said:
Dont make a move. She is just beautiful but you have no right to hit on her.

Just kidding.

I know how you feel bro. Learn from that and try next time
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thanks bro, now I want to shape my courage like a killer ball for future crush
 
One of the most horrible feelings in life is wondering what could have happened in contrast to what actually happened. Shame we only have one life to make those crucial decisions within.
 
10000 said:
thanks bro, now I want to shape my courage like a killer ball for future crush
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It happened to my and my first crush too. I had never the courage to visit her and i sometime later i met her again when we were older. She had a boyfriend and said "My boyfriend has the same name like you, guess i kept the name close to me". And she is now a cute "Girl next door" type.

I was always the kind of guy who didnt realize when someone was in love with him. I was mostly introvert or shy. Dont know why so many girls had a crush on me. When i finally had my first girlfriend i found out that like 5 other girls where sad. xD

And iam not even "Beautiful" just average looking but nowadays i just have a lot of self confidence and charme.
 
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10000 said:
this day was the last day I could see my current crush :( my work office moved to other location

that person is the most good looking creature I've seen all my lifetime.. and when we see each other for the last time on the elevator,

I finally use my inner strength to nod after I try to avoid all this time, and that person responded by giving me a blank stare for like ten second and then smile a bit (we don't know each other).

I felt sad, dissapointed that I never make some move and angry that I couldn't bring myself to have a conversation and ask for number, but also excited about new ambience my new workplace brings

I felt weak but felt free at the same time that I start running anywhere in the new office and drank water like crazy

I know that everything was already happened and I just have to move on with life, but my emotion refuse to calm down, resulting in odd rush on brain. I really hope that I could control myself, not indulging myself in this kind of feeling and could step forwars.

so GAF, is it normal for a male to have this kind emotional rollercoaster and cannot control it or I am just depressed right now?

your stories and opinions are very appreciated right now
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You aren't "emotional". You're just anxious.

A common affliction of literally every modern human on earth, not just males. In fact, this concept you have that it's not something "men" are supposed to feel is only likely to fuel more anxiety.

Get some confidence, gain an ego and a sense of self worth. Then try again. You'll still be anxious but you'll do much better.


obligatory, "start lifting"

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The shame of "what if" is almost always going to be worse than "I tried but failed".

I mean unless you do something stupid like whip your dick out, because that has lasting consequences, don't whip your dick out
 
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Talk to people you like, OP. At worst, it won't work out, but at best. you can make all kind of friends, or as you want, maybe something more.

The worst thing that can happen... well, you just experienced that. Being rejected is much better than being trapped in your fears. That goes for a lot more than just relationships.

It's your life, you only get one, so make the most of it. Let this be a learning experience that guides you to be more courageous in the future.
 
Tesseract said:
to answer your question tho no, i usually ghost dudes who are grossly emotive
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Unless the emotion is anger, pure rage even!
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She dont know you, you gonna freak her out.
Can you tell us what you said to her ? Just so we can know if its possible to pursue or you did so much damage that you cant fix.
 
I fear for you OP, if you're suffering so much for a girl you never talked to, imagine if you knew her.
Or she is literally a godness on earth or you need to stop with these kinda of thoughts.
 
Follow the advice of God Emperor Trump. Just swagger up to her with all the confidence you have, and grab her by the pussy. The room will flood once you do that.
 
You were probably just bored at work. You'll find a new crush to make work slightly less boring soon.
 
GeorgPrime said:
It happened to my and my first crush too. I had never the courage to visit her and i sometime later i met her again when we were older. She had a boyfriend and said "My boyfriend has the same name like you, guess i kept the name close to me". And she is now a cute "Girl next door" type.

I was always the kind of guy who didnt realize when someone was in love with him. I was mostly introvert or shy. Dont know why so many girls had a crush on me. When i finally had my first girlfriend i found out that like 5 other girls where sad. xD

And iam not even "Beautiful" just average looking but nowadays i just have a lot of self confidence and charme.
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You live in an anime.
 
Is this "person" even a girl?

From your description, you could easily be talking about a 60-year-old chain-smoking Frenchman with a penchant for purple turtlenecks.
 
OP, as hard as this might sound, you're better off not going for that girl if you feel this way. The relationship would most certainly fail. This only ever works if the girl feels the same as you do. If only one of two (especially if it's the dude) feels this way, it doesn't work as he/she will behave in a very off-putting way to the other. TAKE MY WORD FOR IT.

You have to grow together into such an emotional state/feelings.
 
It's not normal, but based on what you put in the OP you kind of sound like a stalker...so good for them getting away before they end up in a hole in your basement?
 
OP to tell you the truth you sound a little immature, you really don't know her she don't know you.
A relationship/friendship has to be a 2 way street, you can't have ant sort of relationship if it's only a fantasy in your mind.
Maybe she's already dating , who knows.
Saying that we've all been there but it's what you do from your infatuation not what you don't , sometimes you just have to grow a pair.
 
I know it won't feel like it, but the simple fact is that expressing your feelings will make you feel a thousand times better than suppressing them, regardless of the outcome.
 
Imagine knowing someone from childhood, going through the girls have cooties phase when adults hinted at us ending up together, realizing as a teenager that she's the most beautiful person you know, having run-ins here and there, failing to make the right moves, being in your head and telling yourself you gotta be somebody before that destined approach, even though I was getting hints from her family that I should probably shoot my shot....then some dude sees her on facebook and they're married a couple months later.

I thought I'd be OK with it if it happened, but as times goes on.... nope. I fucked up, because if she rejected me, at least I could breath easy knowing it wouldn't have worked out.

Plenty of people in this thread have gotten it right.

just-do-it-gif.gif
 
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Just shoot your shot you never really know, then when you know youll feel better in the long run whatever the outcome
 
Cunth said:
She's a lesbian
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TheGreatYosh said:
Very odd if you haven't even spoken to her.
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DESTROYA said:
OP to tell you the truth you sound a little immature, you really don't know her she don't know you.
A relationship/friendship has to be a 2 way street, you can't have ant sort of relationship if it's only a fantasy in your mind.
Maybe she's already dating , who knows.
Saying that we've all been there but it's what you do from your infatuation not what you don't , sometimes you just have to grow a pair.
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AlteredForms said:
Describe her.
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GeorgPrime said:
Dont make a move. She is just beautiful but you have no right to hit on her.

Just kidding.

I know how you feel bro. Learn from that and try next time
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OP was talking about a guy. A guy that has a crush on a girl describes her physically.
 
You fell in love with a fantasy in your own mind. Learn from this and never ever do it again. It is ok to be attracted to someone and even think they have a good personality from afar, but the next step is to actually speak to them. If you find yourself playing out fantasies of life with them in your mind that is toxic to living your actual life.

It will also actually make it harder to interact in reality with the person, as you know both yourself and the person you are fantasizing about can't live up to the scenarios you create.
 
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