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Good story. I'm happy for you!
dragonlife
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So, if I read it right, you've fallen for a guy while you're in a relationship, and the guy you've been smitten with left you with a cliffhanger of an answer; so you're anxious about how to feel towards your boyfriend because you're unsure whether the classmate's answer is a "maybe I feel the same way" since he didn't flat out say "no." Is that about right? And because of this you feel guilty because you like the classmate more, right?
But, wait. I thought he left his girlfriend? Who's he in a relationship with now? Did I misread? I haven't slept in over 24 hours, so I'm going on what I remember reading.
Honestly, if what I said is right, I think it's unfair to your boyfriend. I'm assuming you won't be saying anything to him until the guy answers; but if he answers favorably, are you just going to dump your boyfriend right away? If he doesn't answer favorably, you're just going to stay with your boyfriend like the feelings never existed for the other guy? Will you tell your boyfriend about what you felt for the other guy if the guy says no, and let your boyfriend decide what he wants to do?
Some may say you've done nothing wrong because you haven't acted out these feelings out with sex/making out, but the feelings are there, right? Do you want to do those things with the classmate? To some extent I'd agree that it's not wrong, but it's kind of messed up. I mean, knowing you feel like this but are scared to share with the people that matter the most for fear of how they'd react is a tough spot to be in--especially if you still love them as a person and don't want them to be hurt.
Anyway, like I said, I haven't slept in over 24 hours. If it sounds like I'm rambling, it's probably because I am. I seem to be hyper when I'm tired. It's weird.
All I can say is good luck, because I wouldn't want to be in your situation. It's easy to keep potentially dangerous secrets to yourself because you're in control of them. If something goes wrong, it'd be like nothing happened.
He said the friend got a new partner in August. It sucks that he might be feeling bad about falling for someone. That should be a good thing, but the boyfriend probably won't take it as such a positive thing. It's like you're no longer allowed to feel anything because you have a boyfriend. I'm sure he loves his boyfriend and all, but that doesn't mean he won't fall for other people. I sometimes feel like boyfriends shouldn't get so freaked out at this possibility. Don't expect you're the only person he's ever going to love. Consider an open relationship, but for some reason that doesn't work. I don't know what's going on. I'm a horrible writer.
am i the only one that thinks all of those sonic mashups sound like trash? there's too much going on and half of the time it seems like it's out of key.
it's been a little over 2 months since my breakup. i wish i could say i was happy right now, but it's still hard. i'm not dwelling on it all day like i was before, which is great, but i do think about him sometimes and get pretty bummed. i've been talking to a few guys, but none of them are really my type. the ones that are my type and message me always live far away. i don't get that ha. oh well. i don't need to be in a relationship right away or anything like that, but it would be cool to at least meet some hot guys.
one of the guys that's been talking to me texts me all the time...like ALL THE TIME. i'm not sure what to make of it. he seems really chill, and we've both outlined how we got out of a relationship recently so we don't want one, but i don't have the attraction that he really obviously has for me. he continuously says things that i know are him gauging my reaction, and i kind of just shrug it off because i'm not sure what to say. we're going to meet sometime soon, which i'm totally cool with because he seems like he could be a chill friend, but i hope he isn't going into this thinking we're going to start dating. i'd feel really bad, but i've been upfront about my intentions, so i guess that's all i can do.
it's been a little over 2 months since my breakup. i wish i could say i was happy right now, but it's still hard. i'm not dwelling on it all day like i was before, which is great, but i do think about him sometimes and get pretty bummed. i've been talking to a few guys, but none of them are really my type. the ones that are my type and message me always live far away. i don't get that ha. oh well. i don't need to be in a relationship right away or anything like that, but it would be cool to at least meet some hot guys.
one of the guys that's been talking to me texts me all the time...like ALL THE TIME. i'm not sure what to make of it. he seems really chill, and we've both outlined how we got out of a relationship recently so we don't want one, but i don't have the attraction that he really obviously has for me. he continuously says things that i know are him gauging my reaction, and i kind of just shrug it off because i'm not sure what to say. we're going to meet sometime soon, which i'm totally cool with because he seems like he could be a chill friend, but i hope he isn't going into this thinking we're going to start dating. i'd feel really bad, but i've been upfront about my intentions, so i guess that's all i can do.
dragonlife
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I see.
So does that say something about their relationship or him? It hasn't been that long and he's interested in someone else. I'm no expert by any means, but if the relationship's good, it should be as if other men are just meant to be friends. Like, you'll meet someone and really connect quickly because you may have more in common with them than your boyfriend. Perhaps that's how it starts--friends. Then the flames die out in the relationship and the bonds with the friend grow stronger goddamn someone tranquilize me and things possibly escalate because it's easy. Everything's in place for a possible next step. The only thing in the way is this melatonin I'm gonna be taking to help me sleep. Relationships start really strong but they eventually slow down, yeah? I can't communicate what I think very well since I don't want to spend too much time thinking sleep sleep sleep, but this seems very fast.
I disagree to an extent. It's not unreasonable to feel like that after a certain amount of time has passed. September to now is not the time I mean at all, but it's early in the relationship and things are getting cozy (I assume), so why shouldn't he freak out? But "freak out" seems too strong for what I actually mean. I mean more like...stunned/surprised/kinda hurt. Even if he gets over it's still kind of a bitch of a situation he really has no control over (aka puppy's feelings). OF COURSE, this is a game of assumptions on my part. I don't claim to know anything about anything.
Shut up and buy me a peperoni pizza with a Subway sub on top.
Perhaps he's just being friendly. Genuinely friendly people always have it rough. Everyone thinks there's an ulterior motive beyond a simple testing of the waters. And by waters I mean simple things. Like how you react to a joke so he gets a feel for how he should act around you so you don't think he's interested in you. Stupid friendly fool...everyone will just think you're trying to get in their pants aaaarghgtsrhbrtgz njy.
What would you a consider the certain amount of time where it's reasonable to feel like that. Two guys should always be meeting new people and having their own social lives, and it's likely one of them will fall for someone else. Maybe love or maybe lust, but nowadays we're just meant to ignore that because we've made a promise, and that's respectable, but what's the harm in being honest about your feelings or opening up the relationship a little.
What would you a consider the certain amount of time where it's reasonable to feel like that. Two guys should always be meeting new people and having their own social lives, and it's likely one of them will fall for someone else. Maybe love or maybe lust, but nowadays we're just meant to ignore that because we've made a promise, and that's respectable, but what's the harm in being honest about your feelings or opening up the relationship a little.
I would say it's a respect thing. Yeah, entering into a relationship with someone doesn't turn off your brain and libido. That's totally normal and fine. But allowing yourself to get so close to a person that you start experiencing feelings of romantic love implies a level of emotional infidelity, and a lack of thought about the feelings of your partner.
dragonlife
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A year? Year and a half? Two? Fuck if I know. But let's assume you, _Isaac, are in a relationship for two years with no problems and everything's great. Would you not be surprised if the awesome relationship were in jeopardy because your partner was interested in someone else? That's all I'm saying. If you don't, does that mean you stayed in a loveless relationship for the sake of being in one? That's what you're saying people shouldn't do, right? Or something. Stop making me answer and then spread the conversation out. The next thing we discuss could be how you should all buy Irish Spring Intensify (it could have been Electrify) because it creates a pocket of cold air on your crotch that feels so good for a few minutes after a shower. Seriously. But, really, any length of time cut off is a slap in the face either way, I think.What would you a consider the certain amount of time where it's reasonable to feel like that. Two guys should always be meeting new people and having their own social lives, and it's likely one of them will fall for someone else. Maybe love or maybe lust, but nowadays we're just meant to ignore that because we've made a promise, and that's respectable, but what's the harm in being honest about your feelings or opening up the relationship a little.
By the way, I'm not saying people should stay together out of some form of obligation if it does come to it. I'm just saying it's a tough situation to be in. And by opening up a relationship you mean try an actual open relationship? If so that's a whole different thing.
dragonlife said:
24 hours and no sleep?
BITCH, GET TO BED NOW!
I am the same when I am about to "die" of tiredness (or when I haven't slept well).
It feels like the last sugar rush your body will give you before collapsing... like a back-up battery like will last only a few hours
Technically, yes, but it's a little slow tonight. lol commas
Yeah pretty much. You do it because it's a promise you've made to your partner, and you love him enough to respect that, but why does that person even choose to limit him like that. Why so selfish? We're not talking about whoring it up around town I'm just talking about falling for someone else every once in a while.
Yes. Open relationship. Of course, I'd be surprised, but I don't see why my relationship would be in jeopardy because my partner is interested in someone else. Just because he's starting to like some other dude doesn't mean he doesn't still love me. You guys have never loved multiple people? I can understand getting pissy if you had already agreed to stay faithful and monogamous, but I sometimes just think people should loosen up a little.
RatskyWatsky
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That guy sounds really great, puppy. I hope you get things sorted out. 
What's this? Does it feel like muscle rub? There was a GAF thread a while back, where someone discovered body wash that had that effect. I got some and the feeling was too intense so I gave it away.
What's this? Does it feel like muscle rub? There was a GAF thread a while back, where someone discovered body wash that had that effect. I got some and the feeling was too intense so I gave it away.
dragonlife
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I will in a bit.24 hours and no sleep?
BITCH, GET TO BED NOW!
I am the same when I am about to "die" of tiredness (or when I haven't slept well).
It feels like the last sugar rush your body will give you before collapsing... like a back-up battery like will last only a few hours
And, yes, that's exactly how I feel.
It could just as easily be the other way around, though. You'd be the selfish one for thinking they're selfish in limiting you from falling for someone else. But that wouldn't be the case if you aren't actually selfish and talk things through with them about how you like to do relationships. You're selfish if you don't bring it up and expect them to be okay with it. But, in this case, we're assuming it's a monogamous thing where neither is interested in an open relationship. That said, falling for someone and acting upon those feelings are two different things. But so are the circumstances I brought up above (The open relationship ice breaker). Was it talked about? Yes? No? I don't know what I'm saying anymore.
I think this is where you and I will have to disagree more than usual. I assume most people (and myself, running the scenario if it were me in the situation) would feel it's in jeopardy because the idea of an open relationship is just not for them, so it may as well be a loss. And I'd like to bring up that in my initial post to HappyPuppy, I brought up the possibility of having his boyfriend decide what to do. If it were me, I'd just cut it loose. It'd be such an easy thing because it's such a turn-off for me, personally. And since I'm dead inside I'd get over it pretty quickly and still be friends, I'm sure. But that's just me.
I have no idea what muscle rub is. Bengay? Tiger balm or whatever it's called? Those kinds of things?That guy sounds really great, puppy. I hope you get things sorted out.
What's this? Does it feel like muscle rub? There was a GAF thread a while back, where someone discovered body wash that had that effect. I got some and the feeling was too intense so I gave it away.
Anyway, it's a body wash, and it's not intense in any way. It's just refreshing. It doesn't last for very long, but you/I feel it the most in the crotch area. I don't feel as much in the rest of my body, though. Oh, and it smells great.
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dragonlife
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That's some high risk, high reward plan. If it doesn't work out with the risk you could end up with nothing. Unless you keep it from him. Would you do that? It'd be pretty easy to, but who knows.
I'd say good luck but I don't exactly agree with what you're doing. I'll say no more.
Report back.
I'd say good luck but I don't exactly agree with what you're doing. I'll say no more.
Report back.
dragonlife
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Soap leaves my skin super dry 
Soap leaves my skin super dry
That explains A LOT!!!!
AY DIOS MIO!!! NO PUEDO SUEGIR VIVIENDO EN ESTA VIDA! ME VOY A MURIR! AY PADREI've never posted a pic here but here I am... yer ultimate Britney fan in GAF. Be nice GayGaf, yeah?
Edit: did NOT notice inthezone was in here..... *fans self* you know we're totally compatible right? Godney connects us in so many ways *flutters eyelashes*
ZephyrFate
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So The Destroyer (bf's nickname for my cock) wasn't up for the challenge much tonight re: topping him, so I changed things up and fingerbanged him with two fingers.
He came in like fifteen seconds. He was shaking from it. He said that's never happened before.
Therefore I dub my fingers to be Magic Fingers.
He came in like fifteen seconds. He was shaking from it. He said that's never happened before.
Therefore I dub my fingers to be Magic Fingers.
RadioHeadAche
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I love when this happens.
Buttsecks is so intense sometimes. :$ Dat flip flop.
Never tried fingers though, hmm.
If you're on Android you can browse the SD card from your PC to hunt for the cache pics, they're on plain jpg.
HappyPuppy, I don't know you but I have to agree with dragonlife. Seeing someone and then confessing your affections for another person is like emotional cheating. Furthermore, the guy isn't even available since he himself is in a relationship. It's pretty obvious that you made the confession hoping he would reciprocate, so you wanted something to come out of it. My biggest problem is you kept calling yourself sincere, yet this is not something a sincere person would do.
Put yourself in the other shoe. I can't imagine you would be okay if your partner pronounces his love for someone else behind your back, or be the recipient of such affection because he was spending too much time with someone that isn't you.
I bear no ill will towards you and I wish you all the best in the situation. However, you should really know what you want and do it in a way that won't hurt others in the process.
If you have the other guy favorited his profile should always load up regardless of his online status. Thus allow you to look through your chat history with him.
Put yourself in the other shoe. I can't imagine you would be okay if your partner pronounces his love for someone else behind your back, or be the recipient of such affection because he was spending too much time with someone that isn't you.
I bear no ill will towards you and I wish you all the best in the situation. However, you should really know what you want and do it in a way that won't hurt others in the process.
If you have the other guy favorited his profile should always load up regardless of his online status. Thus allow you to look through your chat history with him.
I've never posted a pic here but here I am... yer ultimate Britney fan in GAF. Be nice GayGaf, yeah?
Too much shirt in this pic IMO.
He had such a stronger connection with the other guy though. You would seriously deny the chance from your boyfriend to find a love way stronger than yours?
That's not the issue Isaac, people fall for other people and that's just the way it is.
The issue is that he treats his boyfriend as a backup plan in case the guy he's into rejects him. Him not being able to be around his boyfriend is telling about the fact that the romantic relationship is most likely over.
If he were totally sincere/honest, he would break up with his current bf before pursuing the other guy. There might be no physical cheating but emotionally, he's already gone over.
It's neither good or bad, it's just the way it is. I would advise, out of respect for the boyfriend, to either tell him or to break up with him. No need to drag that along.
ZephyrFate
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Inthezone needs to provide shirtless pic to stay in GayGAF.
MidnightScott
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I've never posted a pic here but here I am... yer ultimate Britney fan in GAF. Be nice GayGaf, yeah?
Why hello there.
Erebus
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OK this is a part from an episode of the Greek "queer eye for the straight guy" show. It's not very long, so I think it's worth watching on mute just for the hot guy.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=DEsWjeg1jl8
I don't watch the show
but luckily a friend sent me that link.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=DEsWjeg1jl8
I don't watch the show
(it's ridiculously idiotic plus I can't stand some of these people in the "gay team")
ZephyrFate
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Those are some big nips.
MilesWebber
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Puppy, I think it's great that you were honest with your feelings to your friend. however, It sounds a little like you were trying to manipulate him out of a relationship with a woman he seems to really like.
I would be careful. Especially because if he's just curious, and you two do mess around, it could end very badly if he feels guilty. He could really end up hurting you. Then, he would have left his girlfriend to peruse something he's not really into.
However, It could go the complete opposite way and you two could be very happy together.
Now that you've opened up to him you have to let him make the next move. Give him time and don't pressure him. Maybe he will find out he feels the same way.
Either way it doesn't sound like you'll lose him as a friend if he says no.
I would be careful. Especially because if he's just curious, and you two do mess around, it could end very badly if he feels guilty. He could really end up hurting you. Then, he would have left his girlfriend to peruse something he's not really into.
However, It could go the complete opposite way and you two could be very happy together.
Now that you've opened up to him you have to let him make the next move. Give him time and don't pressure him. Maybe he will find out he feels the same way.
Either way it doesn't sound like you'll lose him as a friend if he says no.
OK this is a part from an episode of the Greek "queer eye for the straight guy" show. It's not very long, so I think it's worth watching on mute just for the hot guy.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=DEsWjeg1jl8
I don't watch the showbut luckily a friend sent me that link.(it's ridiculously idiotic plus I can't stand some of these people in the "gay team")
meh, tattooed, awful hair, and white which means he is probably cut. nope sorry
ZephyrFate
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Nathan Drake is cut.
Erebus
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Greek men are rarely cut.
Dead Prince
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Greek men are rarely cut.
so you're saying you're uncut. if i had to guess you're like a 7.25" IDK WHAT THAT IS IN OTHER MEASUREMENT.
Greek men are rarely cut.
well then, thumpsup.gif
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