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CHEEZMO™;32889891 said:
These Britney gifs keep reminding me of how unattractive she is these days.

Shame.

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Hmm I wonder if me and my friend will ever be more than just friends? I know he knows that I like him, but he is recovering right now and has a lot of bills to pay, so maybe he isn't ready to hop back in the dating scene.

I think about him all the time...*sigh*
 
Hmm I wonder if me and my friend will ever be more than just friends? I know he knows that I like him, but he is recovering right now and has a lot of bills to pay, so maybe he isn't ready to hop back in the dating scene.

I think about him all the time...*sigh*

I don't think you should put all of your emotions for just one guy. Have you talk to him about this? Also, why don't you try going out with other guys just to test the field?
 
Have you guys ever had self esteem issues when you're dating a guy that's so much better than you in every single way imaginable?
 
Yes and no. My boyfriend gives me the "You're ridiculous/You're joking/You're lying" every time I compliment him or romantically flirt with him. Then he returns it with "You're amazing" and bestows me with compliments galore.

I think we both have self-esteem issues... but are unwilling to face them when we want to please each other 100% of the time.
 
Every relationship has a "reacher" and a "settler."
I'm not sure I agree. I mean sure, on the outside looking in, one partner may look more attractive than the other.

I would think that in many relationships both partners think that the other is more attractive, or that they are both equally matched.

_Isaac, why worry about whether they are 'better than you in every single way imaginable', and use that energy to show them that you appreciate them, and just be happy that you're with someone you think is amazing? Perhaps direct those feelings into motivation to better yourself instead of letting it get to you.

Unless you just mean that you feel a little insecure? That's quite normal I think and a feeling that I hope would go away the longer you are in a relationship together. I'm assuming these feelings stem from a fear of loosing them?

I think we both have self-esteem issues... but are unwilling to face them when we want to please each other 100% of the time.
I don't think I follow you - do you mean you're more concerned about whether he is happy than if you're happy? Or just that working your issues out would take time away from just having fun together?
 
It's more that I think we don't really care about it and are content gushing about each other. It's not really become a big issue, although it's there.
 
okay, so I feel weird right now. I really love girls. I love to talk to them, to fuck them, etc... but I want to hook up with one of my dude friends. I'm not attracted to men at all, but there's something about that dude. He's gay. Him, myself and a bunch of friends are going to London this weekend. How do I hook up with him? GIVE ME TIPS.
I actually want to hook up with a chick I know there, as well. Should be a good weekend.
 
okay, so I feel weird right now. I really love girls. I love to talk to them, to fuck them, etc... but I want to hook up with one of my dude friends. I'm not attracted to men at all, but there's something about that dude. He's gay. Him, myself and a bunch of friends are going to London this weekend. How do I hook up with him? GIVE ME TIPS.
I actually want to hook up with a chick I know there, as well. Should be a good weekend.

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okay, so I feel weird right now. I really love girls. I love to talk to them, to fuck them, etc... but I want to hook up with one of my dude friends. I'm not attracted to men at all, but there's something about that dude. He's gay. Him, myself and a bunch of friends are going to London this weekend. How do I hook up with him? GIVE ME TIPS.
I actually want to hook up with a chick I know there, as well. Should be a good weekend.
Share the same hotel room, pretend you sleepwalk then go to his bed and kiss him.
 
Yes and no. My boyfriend gives me the "You're ridiculous/You're joking/You're lying" every time I compliment him or romantically flirt with him. Then he returns it with "You're amazing" and bestows me with compliments galore.

I think we both have self-esteem issues... but are unwilling to face them when we want to please each other 100% of the time.

My last bf would always pay me a ton of compliments and I never knew how to receive them so I'd kind of play it off. A lot of what he said, I didn't really think the same about him (or maybe I'm just not as expressive that way) but I honestly felt obligated to reciprocate half the time.

Some guys just don't know how to take compliments.. and when they're given all the time it doesn't help matters. Just my two cents.
 
CHEEZMO™;32911327 said:
unnecessary, but I'm just bi-curious I guess.
Share the same hotel room, pretend you sleepwalk then go to his bed and kiss him.
see, that's a good idea, but we're staying in a hostel.

My last bf would always pay me a ton of compliments and I never knew how to receive them so I'd kind of play it off. A lot of what he said, I didn't really think the same about him (or maybe I'm just not as expressive that way) but I honestly felt obligated to reciprocate half the time.

Some guys just don't know how to take compliments.. and when they're given all the time it doesn't help matters. Just my two cents.

I never give compliments to girls, and I still score. I get complimented alot though (clothes, cologne, etc...), and it makes me uncomfortable sometimes. so I understand what you mean.


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More tips, though, guys. I'm interested in what you have to say! :)
 
Is he single? If so, what do you exactly want to do with him? Without knowing the kind of friendship you have with him, simplest is to just be honest and tell him you want to experiment.

we are both americans studying in Paris, we're more of acquaintances. We've hung out a couple times, and had fun. I think hes single, but I'm not sure what I would do, really. probably just makeout.

a bit unrelated:
I played spin the bottle in front of the eiffel tower a couple weeks ago with hot girls and two gay dudes, and one straight dude. We all made out but I never felt anything when I kissed the dudes. Yet, I'm still attracted to that guy. It's really unusual, the situation I'm in.
 
It's really unusual, the situation I'm in.

It may not be as uncommon as you think (if we're all honest with ourselves). You don't have to like men sexually to feel attracted to certain guys. Regardless of the sexual orientation, some people just have great chemistry with each other. Whether they want to take it further, well, that's up to the individuals. In your case since the guy is gay, so he might not need a lot of convincing. I'd say just tell him what you want to try and take it slow. Whatever happens, I think at the very least you should get a better idea why you're attracted to him.
 
It may not be as uncommon as you think (if we're all honest with ourselves). You don't have to like men sexually to feel attracted to certain guys. Regardless of the sexual orientation, some people just have great chemistry with each other. Whether they want to take it further, well, that's up to the individuals. In your case since the guy is gay, so he might not need a lot of convincing. I'd say just tell him what you want to try and take it slow. Whatever happens, I think at the very least you should get a better idea why you're attracted to him.
You are correct. I am not a fan of the whole labels. I guess I'm just open to experimenting with people. I just like to enjoy life whether it be with this particular dude or a hot girl.

But, it's odd because I am mostly attracted to him because he is fucking good looking.
 
You are correct. I am not a fan of the whole labels. I guess I'm just open to experimenting with people. I just like to enjoy life whether it be with this particular dude or a hot girl.

But, it's odd because I am mostly attracted to him because he is fucking good looking.
You seemed to like my idea, I think I deserve some pics of your hot gay buddy.
 
Gay as a clutch purse on Tony night.

Bisexual? Thats just another word for greedy.

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Interesting. Alot of people here like to talk about their sexuality since neogaf is such a liberal--hell, even openminded place; but I never recall you mentioning your sexuality in threads. but to be fair, I still haven't read through this particular thread.

I'm almost 75% sure I'm not bisexual. I guess I'll find out soon enough. It would be interesting to see if I am.
 
On a random note, I've had enough of these guys online who constantly feel the need to make a point that they only want "masculine discreet dudes" or are "just checking things out". Half the time they're not masculine themselves in person (going by their definition) or are still practically in the closet and in some heavy denial about their sexuality.

Seriously, just be yourself instead of trying to maintain some kind of "image". Or you know, say what you have to offer rather than give a long list of demands and wants. /rant
 
On a random note, I've had enough of these guys online who constantly feel the need to make a point that they only want "masculine discreet dudes" or are "just checking things out". Half the time they're not masculine themselves in person (going by their definition) or are still practically in the closet and in some heavy denial about their sexuality.

Seriously, just be yourself instead of trying to maintain some kind of "image". Or you know, say what you have to offer rather than give a long list of demands and wants. /rant
It's funny because every time I visit gay dating sites I'm led to believe that there aren't any feminine gay guys out there because almost everyone defines himself as masculine and str8-acting.

I might. He's Jewish American (like me) and he's scruffy, dresses like me, but has a badass look to him---until you hear him speak (he can talk like the stereotypical gay dude)

but posting pics might be risky. I guess I need to be more active in this thread so that I can trust you guys more.
Heh, I was actually messing with you. I seriously didn't expect you to send pics of your friend to a random guy on a forum.
 
It's funny because every time I visit gay dating sites I'm led to believe that there aren't any feminine gay guys out there because almost everyone defines himself as masculine and str8-acting.


Heh, I was actually messing with you. I seriously didn't expect you to send pics of your friend to a random guy on a forum.

Haha, okay I'm really drunk and I've smoked some weed and taken some adderall. That's why I'm so chatty and autistic right now.

But I do remember quite a few people posting pics of their crushes in the past!

(no offense to anyone who has autism, I just think that's the most succinct word to describe what I'm feeling at this moment).
 
I don't think you should put all of your emotions for just one guy. Have you talk to him about this? Also, why don't you try going out with other guys just to test the field?

I just texted him to see what's up and I asked if he would be at his moms all weekend. And he told me yes and I said " oh :/" and he replied with "why you upset? It's not like I'm your's lol"

And I was like "we can discuss that in person someday. I'm glad you get to see your family as I'm sure it's been a while."

And he was like "yup :)"

I seriously hope we talk about this in person. I think about him all the time and I really hope he has feelings for me too.

*sigh* I think this is why I have avoided dating for so long. Sure I had two girlfriends but that was when I was 13/14 and it wasn't so serious like it is now.
 
My last bf would always pay me a ton of compliments and I never knew how to receive them so I'd kind of play it off. A lot of what he said, I didn't really think the same about him (or maybe I'm just not as expressive that way) but I honestly felt obligated to reciprocate half the time.

Some guys just don't know how to take compliments.. and when they're given all the time it doesn't help matters. Just my two cents.

Yeah that's more likely the problem. I don't think he has self-esteem issues, really. I sure do, though.
 
It's funny because every time I visit gay dating sites I'm led to believe that there aren't any feminine gay guys out there because almost everyone defines himself as masculine and str8-acting.

It would be funny if those sites didn't allow self descriptions but rather only published what other people think of you. Hehe.
 
It's funny because every time I visit gay dating sites I'm led to believe that there aren't any feminine gay guys out there because almost everyone defines himself as masculine and str8-acting.
What's funnier is how many guys define themselves as masculine, but aren't even close. I'm not talking about having feminine qualities, we all do, but being the on the complete opposite spectrum. It's like this one guy I dated who made himself out to be a big macho jock, and while he was a huge jock, he was not macho at all and it caught me off guard.

Not a big deal to me really, just amusing.
 
DarthWufei said:
What's funnier is how many guys define themselves as masculine, but aren't even close. I'm not talking about having feminine qualities, we all do, but being the on the complete opposite spectrum. It's like this one guy I dated who made himself out to be a big macho jock, and while he was a huge jock, he was not macho at all and it caught me off guard.

Not a big deal to me really, just amusing.
Yep that exactly what I said. Everyone has both masculine and feminine qualities regardless of their sexual orientation and gender.

The thing is when someone claims to be "totally masculine" and is demanding the same; then you eventually meet him in person and you can easily tell he's gay from a distance (not that this is a bad thing but it doesn't fit his description)... well that's amusing indeed.

red_13th said:
It would be funny if those sites didn't allow self descriptions but rather only published what other people think of you. Hehe.
Now that could actually work but only if they could filter out the hate comments from people you've rejected. :P
 
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