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Teh Hamburglar said:
Bisexual? Thats just another word for greedy equal-opportunity sluts.
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Fixed that for you. J/K bisexuals!

MidnightScott said:
I just texted him to see what's up and I asked if he would be at his moms all weekend. And he told me yes and I said " oh :/" and he replied with "why you upset? It's not like I'm your's lol"

And I was like "we can discuss that in person someday. I'm glad you get to see your family as I'm sure it's been a while."

And he was like "yup :)"

I seriously hope we talk about this in person. I think about him all the time and I really hope he has feelings for me too.

*sigh* I think this is why I have avoided dating for so long. Sure I had two girlfriends but that was when I was 13/14 and it wasn't so serious like it is now.
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You should never get too attached to someone you just know too quickly. You should also not getting too attached to people that you already know well unless you know for sure your attachment is reciprocated. There's only one person you can rely on and that's yourself. Doing otherwise will just set you up for unrealistic expectations and disappointment.
 
I don't know who to tell this to right now since it's very early in the AM and I'm restless, but out of nowhere I may have just gotten back together with my ex-girlfriend. Fucking incredible how things like this happen out of nowhere, especially since we hadn't talked in some time; there was some bad blood, but it's oddly been resolved. I don't even care about hooking up with anyone anymore as previously planned. I really just want to go back to to america and see her because when I do, I'm finally going to be content.

Fucking Life, how does it work?

i hope you guys/gals have more stable lives than I do. Shit changes so quickly, even the types of people I am interested in. I'm probably insane, to be honest. My life is can be defined by impulsivity and a constant change of mind. But alot of people find that attractive for some reason.

Oh, and I must apologize for the incomprehensible babble contained in this post.
 
MidnightScott said:
I just texted him to see what's up and I asked if he would be at his moms all weekend. And he told me yes and I said " oh :/" and he replied with "why you upset? It's not like I'm your's lol"

And I was like "we can discuss that in person someday. I'm glad you get to see your family as I'm sure it's been a while."

And he was like "yup :)"

I seriously hope we talk about this in person. I think about him all the time and I really hope he has feelings for me too.

*sigh* I think this is why I have avoided dating for so long. Sure I had two girlfriends but that was when I was 13/14 and it wasn't so serious like it is now.
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I don't know shit about gay relationship dynamics, but I'm really positive he was teasing you, and hoping you would reciprocate. Next time don't be so serious :)
 
Gonna leave this here for now. Me and the Boyfriend got into a fight because my boyfriend basically said "Ten weeks without my friends from school. I will be bored.". It felt really bad to me cause he seemed like I couldn't really entertain him enough (part of the whole long distance thing).

I decided to just squash the entire fight so we didn't leave on bad terms but it still kinda hurt me you know. Maybe i';m being silly and this is his first time getting friends close to him. This would be so much easier if I was there to take him out and stuff. One more year of waiting.
 
That gay 'friend' I mentioned in one of my posts just facebook inboxed me and told me he has a crush on me.

*sigh*

I don't know what to say. I never really thought of him in that way. I mean, he is pretty attractive but I just don't see him that way. Should I take the opportunity and probably ruin the friendship? Ugh, I can't handle this now I'm supposed to finish the last 3 pages on my 12 page essay due at 9. Fuck...
 
Replicant said:
You should never get too attached to someone you just know too quickly. You should also not getting too attached to people that you already know well unless you know for sure your attachment is reciprocated. There's only one person you can rely on and that's yourself. Doing otherwise will just set you up for unrealistic expectations and disappointment.
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Exactly. I doubt the guy is teasing you, he's probably just not interested in dating or doesn't see you what way (at least not yet). I don't know the whole back story but rather than have a talk with him about it so early on why not just continue hanging out and see how that progresses. Let it evolve naturally. If you keep pining for him at a distance you'll likely rush into doing or saying something and ruin your chances completely.
 
Delio said:
Gonna leave this here for now. Me and the Boyfriend got into a fight because my boyfriend basically said "Ten weeks without my friends from school. I will be bored.". It felt really bad to me cause he seemed like I couldn't really entertain him enough (part of the whole long distance thing).

I decided to just squash the entire fight so we didn't leave on bad terms but it still kinda hurt me you know. Maybe i';m being silly and this is his first time getting friends close to him. This would be so much easier if I was there to take him out and stuff. One more year of waiting.
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Don't worry about it Del. I'm sure he didn't mean it like that. Even though y'all are close, there's still just something about hanging out with your closest friends. You can still be entertained and stuff by someone else but miss hanging out with buddies :)
 
Scythe27 said:
Exactly. I doubt the guy is teasing you, he's probably just not interested in dating or doesn't see you what way (at least not yet). I don't know the whole back story but rather than have a talk with him about it so early on why not just continue hanging out and see how that progresses. Let it evolve naturally. If you keep pining for him at a distance you'll likely rush into doing or saying something and ruin your chances completely.
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Did I mention we already
had oral sex twice
but it's been a good couple of weeks since then...

Like I said he just got out of the hospital and stuff so I don't really want to do anything right away.
 
So about a month ago, my bf broke it off with me. The week before there was a change in his attitude/tone how he txted me and made an excuse he was bad so couldn't see me that week. So I knew something was up. I tried to be the usual how I txted him and tried to see his reactions to stuff like talking about past times together and future plans. But you could tell he was off with me. The week prior to that he was fine, we last saw each other on good terms and we never fell out for months... but as I say, he just changed. Then one day he just snapped and sent me quite an angry txt (yeah dumped by txt), saying how it's time to call it a day and I needed to stop pretending we had plans (even though he'd generally always suggest the stuff).

Now while I was expecting it from his tone, it still came as a shock. His reasons were it wasn't personal (though it felt it in his anger), that he needed someone more than a part time bf and he got lonely and his uni work would start building up now. It was all bizarre and totally out of the blue. It really felt as though I had done something wrong and was aiming this anger towards me. He didn't even end his txt with a "but I'd like to stay friends". It was so short and painfully sour, not giving me much to go on.

Anyways, I suggested there should be no reason why we couldn't be friends and he forcefully said he'd like to... so I tried to get on as "normal" given the circumstances. But of course I was completely upset and still couldn't comprehend why this was happening. So I kinda broke down and got emotional with him to see if there was a way to work something out. But that was obviously a mistake as it seemed to have made the situation worse. Now he knew my true feelings for him, he said he was uncomfortable trying to be friends, even though he didn't seem to want to anyways. So it kind of got a bit messy while trying to work out what the hell was going on. I then finally put it to him we should just try and make amends, because as far as I knew, we were 2 people that liked each other still and had lots of great memories etc. or just finish it for good.

But he's a stubborn person and still was showing lots of anger (almost hatred) towards me. He basically doesn't want anything to do with me. I've asked to meet up with him as a friend and do something like cinema, shopping etc. but keeps making excuses up he's busy all the time. He won't answer his phone to me, saying he doesn't like to talk over the phone and txting him is pretty much worthless. He'll txt back but is short and doesn't want to advance any conversations. I've really tried to move on and keep him as a friend but as I say he's making that pretty impossible.

Did he find someone else? I don't know, I don't feel he did, he didn't really have the time to, with always txting me, seeing me on his only full day off, and then being at work/uni the rest of the week. But sometimes that's one of the only reasons I keep coming back to as to why the hatred and him calling it off so suddenly.

So I'm still reeling and confused how I managed to lose a bf and then a friend just like that. I should be the one angry at him if anything (I gave him so much in that time, while getting little back than "just" a bf) but I don't want to lose a friend who I value and really need in my life, because he's pretty much the only gay guy I know in real life and to be able to talk and do things with him that I wouldn't with my other friends has left me lonely and sad.

Right from the off we got on like a house on fire. Talked about anything and everything and txted each other every minute of the day. We always managed to see each other once a week (due to distance, work, uni) but that's how I knew he liked it, because he didn't like to be clingy and it also gave him time for his friends (hence his break up reasons were bizarre to me). We had 3 holidays together in the 7 months we were together, always had a laugh when we were with each other. Sure there were times when we had little fall outs etc, but so does everyone. The relationship worked to the best of my knowledge.

But I just don't understand now why, after everything we'd done, he wants nothing to do with me at all. I just can't get near him. I feel being able to meet him would help break the ice and prove that we can still stay friends. I don't know if he's frightened of seeing me again he'll fall for me, or thinks I'd try to talk him round or do something... or what I don't know. I just don't want to lose a friend after he pretty much helped me out of such a dark time I was going through at the start of this year and to turn my life around... all for it to be taken away again for reasons I simply can't fathom. I just don't know what to do.
 
After a break up I find it's always best to not try and still be friends right off the bat. You need time apart to re-learn how to be on your own and sort out your feelings. You can't just switch from being boyfriends to being friends.
It's as much for you as it is for him. Give him space and if he wants to be friends, he'll come back. If not, although that sucks, there's no point in pushing it. It'll only hold you back and prevent you from moving on with your life.
 
DarkUSS said:
Yep that exactly what I said. Everyone has both masculine and feminine qualities regardless of their sexual orientation and gender.

The thing is when someone claims to be "totally masculine" and is demanding the same; then you eventually meet him in person and you can easily tell he's gay from a distance (not that this is a bad thing but it doesn't fit his description)... well that's amusing indeed.
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which makes it more interesting when you actually find a straight acting and looking guy.

I once had a boyfriend, was 6 feet tall, deep voice, lens, went to work in suit and tie and talked like a politician, in perfect british english. he didn't work out and was a pretty regular guy next door but I would MELT everytime I saw him undress and get hot. He was sooo not gay in his behavior, and he was not acting macho either, at all, he was kind, soft, easygoing and vulnerable.

I always felt I was having sex with a straight guy, which was somehow exciting.
 
i was TOTALLY right! the guy that i've been talking to that i previously had claimed liked me despite us both saying we didn't want a relationship right now...well, last night he texted me and said he likes me more than a friend. i straight-up said i was really flattered but that i'm not ready to feel that way about someone right now, but i liked him as a friend and am still completely down for meeting for tea.

he was fine with the response, but then he also said that he got mixed signals from me.... i was like UHHHH... he told me that i had been sending signals by "asking him to make me food" or something. he at times would say what he had made for dinner, then i would say it sounded good. then, he would say he would make it sometime for me. how the hell is that me asking him to make me food? lol i guess some people just have an idea in their head and they'll just bend what's actually happening into meaning something more. oh well, at least it's out in the open and he's fine.
 
Sai-kun said:
Don't worry about it Del. I'm sure he didn't mean it like that. Even though y'all are close, there's still just something about hanging out with your closest friends. You can still be entertained and stuff by someone else but miss hanging out with buddies :)
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Thanks Sai. I had time to calm down from it and yeah I blew up to much. I just didnt want him to be bored with me. Hopefully he wants to talk to me later...although he did end the call with "I love you." so yeah.
 
sphinx said:
I once had a boyfriend, was 6 feet tall, deep voice, lens, went to work in suit and tie and talked like a politician, in perfect british english. he didn't work out and was a pretty regular guy next door but I would MELT everytime I saw him undress and get hot. He was sooo not gay in his behavior, and he was not acting macho either, at all, he was kind, soft, easygoing and vulnerable.

I always felt I was having sex with a straight guy, which was somehow exciting.
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:O

:3
 
btkadams said:
i was TOTALLY right! the guy that i've been talking to that i previously had claimed liked me despite us both saying we didn't want a relationship right now...well, last night he texted me and said he likes me more than a friend. i straight-up said i was really flattered but that i'm not ready to feel that way about someone right now, but i liked him as a friend and am still completely down for meeting for tea.

he was fine with the response, but then he also said that he got mixed signals from me.... i was like UHHHH... he told me that i had been sending signals by "asking him to make me food" or something. he at times would say what he had made for dinner, then i would say it sounded good. then, he would say he would make it sometime for me. how the hell is that me asking him to make me food? lol i guess some people just have an idea in their head and they'll just bend what's actually happening into meaning something more. oh well, at least it's out in the open and he's fine.
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I'm glad it turned out fine, but it's hilarious how we force ourselves to see "signals" when we're crushing on me. "He looked at me! He wants me bad."
 
So it has been over a month now since he left me, I have only seen him once since, which was really a very painful dinner, because he just wasn't mine anymore, it just wasn't the same anymore, and I was so not part of his life, on his radar, and I was so out of the loop from this man I loved and shared my life with for 3 years.

I have my good and bad days, I can't help but have these silly thoughts that I won't ever find someone, I won't find someone as good as him. I feel like I have some kind of sense of the scene here in the Hollywood/West Hollywood area, and nothing has really caught my attention, nothing has attracted me to any of it.

I went on a date, they asked me out, I just knew from the get-go that it wasn't right for me, but I enjoyed the evening nonetheless. I called him again to hang out, which turned into a 20 minute conversation on him trying to shift around his entire life just to hang out and watch a movie for 2 hours. It was quite a turn off. I think I would only seek a friendship in this guy, but even then, I don't really feel very strongly that that is in the cards for us.

October was a very very rough month for me, my partner left me, work changed quite a bit, I came out to my mother. I am turning 25 next friday, I barely have any plans, I was so indecisive on what to do, I just want to have a happy birthday, but the only thing I want for my birthday is something I can't have.
 
RatskyWatsky said:
No, I thought your quote was surprisingly hot!
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and it gets hotter... he had a beautiful, thick penis with a huge head (sorry, just telling how it was, I don't mean to turn on everyone here). He would literally pick me up and bring me to his bed, which was relatively easy for him since I am slim 5,4 feet tall and he is exactly 6,5, pretty bold guy.

Needless to say, he was a top but not of the insecure or incompetent kind (I mean, those that DIE to be exclusive bottoms but can get their asses to get anything into them, so they offer you their "Top"-ness.. which just feel really odd, even if you give them the chance).

Until that time, I had always been top with my bfs and learning about the pleasures of bottoming with him was a blast, it really made sense at the moment and I learned to really enjoy both roles.

It only lasted 5 months because we belonged in different worlds.. or something.

but we write each other every now and then through facebook.
 
sphinx said:
and it gets hotter... he had a beautiful, thick penis with a huge head (sorry, just telling how it was, I don't mean to turn on everyone here). He would literally pick me up and bring me to his bed, which was relatively easy for him since I am slim 5,4 feet tall and he is exactly 6,5, pretty bold guy.

Needless to say, he was a top but not of the insecure or incompetent kind (I mean, those that DIE to be exclusive bottoms but can get their asses to get anything into them, so they offer you their "Top"-ness.. which just feel really odd, even if you give them the chance).

Until that time, I had always been top with my bfs and learning about the pleasures of bottoming with him was a blast, it really made sense at the moment and I learned to really enjoy both roles.

It only lasted 5 months because we belonged in different worlds.. or something.

but we write each other every now and then through facebook.
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Hmm...I'll brb.
 
inthezone said:
I've never posted a pic here but here I am... yer ultimate Britney fan in GAF. Be nice GayGaf, yeah?

WAPFW.jpg
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Oh My God. I want you
 
No offence, but I can't stand titles like that.

I'm trying to think of what I could say without spoiling it like you did for PD :lol

Edit: I could just title it "It's Time", but that might not get traffic.

Just have the link and let people start discussion.
 
I kind of resent being emotionally manipulated but that video wasn't bad, it didn't make me want to puke which counts as a plus (sorry, I'm just a blind pawn to my contrarian impulses).
 
I told my boyfriend I was falling for him a couple days ago. Shoulda seen the look on his face. I think he was about to start crying.

Afterward, I don't think we've ever shared more passionate kisses.
 
I see my boyfriend biweekly, although he doesn't live as far away... he just works all the time. I'm content with texting him, I don't really like long phone conversations.
 
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