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So, so good.
. . .I'm in the process of breaking up with him now...but god this is hard. I keep thinking back to how things used to be and how HE used to be, and wanting to think eventually he'll become that person again.
I just have to keep reminding myself that person never existed, it was just all a lie..
You don't have to think that. You don't have to forget about how good of a guy he used to be (key phrase: used to be).
But, like Alcoori said, you should never forget about the person he turned into. And you have to know that you're doing this for the good of your well-being. What he did is too much for anyone to have to deal with in a relationship.
Animal rugs are cruel and just well, tacky.
ETA: lol/love at you guys recognizing the gif. Fuck Francie.
Eh, not his house. Not even his little Puerto Rican wonder's house, but it was a good detail that set up the scene of the action.
Oh, I burst out laughing when I read it and it really is perfect in its description. I'd personally, however, bolt the fuck out after seeing that.
you're a good guy for giving him a chance and it's awesome that it worked out. i really don't know what i would do in that situation.
RatskyWatsky
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I meant to thank everybody here for the advice and/or comments over my situation I posted about a week ago (with the guy that lied and cheated with like 4 guys)..
I'm in the process of breaking up with him now...but god this is hard. I keep thinking back to how things used to be and how HE used to be, and wanting to think eventually he'll become that person again.
I just have to keep reminding myself that person never existed, it was just all a lie..
I know this probably won't help now because the feelings are so raw, but think of it as a learning experience. You'll be a lot more prepared going into your next relationship. Now you have a better sense of what works for you and what doesn't. You'll be a lot happier in the long run
SpaceBridge
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Thats so awesome. Amazing how in the end, he proved your preconceived notions incorrect.
Ill have to post a fun one night stand tale when I have the time.
Awesome story!
MidnightScott
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Damn the guy at work is so hot haha. He's got a v-shape backside, I kept wanting to like touch him haha but we are at work.
He is studying massage so he needs people to demo on, so I might volunteer for that because I really want a massage haha.
I'm probably still gonna go hang out with him this weekend because I need more friends. I sent him pics in my underwear this morning too haha, I might share them here if y'all stay nice to me lol.
I just need more friends and self confidence. I ain't givin it up until I'm ready. Sorry if I'm old fashioned.
He is studying massage so he needs people to demo on, so I might volunteer for that because I really want a massage haha.
I'm probably still gonna go hang out with him this weekend because I need more friends. I sent him pics in my underwear this morning too haha, I might share them here if y'all stay nice to me lol.
I just need more friends and self confidence. I ain't givin it up until I'm ready. Sorry if I'm old fashioned.
SpaceBridge
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Its like god himself intervened and placed a hot man who wants to diddle your hole at your work. I say, go for it.
MidnightScott
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He told me that yesterday he just wanted to hang out, no funny business. I really don't want to hook up with anyone. I'm meeting that guy tomorrow that I already like...
The guy I'm hanging with tomorrow isn't looking for just a hook up either, we have a lot in common and just wanna get to know eachother better, but he is a cutey lol.
The guy at work only said that I looked cute. I asked him why he posted those pictures on Facebook and he told me that when he was with his ex that he was always telling him no one would ever wanna be with you. So now that he has his self esteem back and looks great he posts his pics on Facebook.
The guy I'm hanging with tomorrow isn't looking for just a hook up either, we have a lot in common and just wanna get to know eachother better, but he is a cutey lol.
The guy at work only said that I looked cute. I asked him why he posted those pictures on Facebook and he told me that when he was with his ex that he was always telling him no one would ever wanna be with you. So now that he has his self esteem back and looks great he posts his pics on Facebook.
MidnightScott
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I don't see it as leading him on because so far I can tell he doesn't seem to have that interest in me. He doesn't touch me or hit on me or nothing.
I told him that I'm meeting the same guy I met a few weeks ago tomorrow after work but I didn't know what to do with him as far as hanging out. And he was like "oh I bet y'all will be doing something" and kept laughing at me.
The guy I'm meeting tomorrow told me he was gonna hang out with his ex before work on Saturday and I flat out told him "Is it wrong for me to be jealous?" and he was like no that's perfectly normal. I just hope that me and him click and become something more...
I told him that I'm meeting the same guy I met a few weeks ago tomorrow after work but I didn't know what to do with him as far as hanging out. And he was like "oh I bet y'all will be doing something" and kept laughing at me.
The guy I'm meeting tomorrow told me he was gonna hang out with his ex before work on Saturday and I flat out told him "Is it wrong for me to be jealous?" and he was like no that's perfectly normal. I just hope that me and him click and become something more...
Where is God when I need one of those?
He sounds hot MidnightScott. Go for it. Maybe you'll at least get friends with benefits.
SpaceBridge
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Im on your FB, send me a link of to his FB profile and let me give you well thought advice.
Edit: Here's one of my more interesting one night stands: When I first came out to the gay bar scene in my city, I went to an after hours club. There was a bar tender there who was super hot. Sleevless shirt with massive pipes, nice face and sexy UK accent. I went up to his bar to order a drink and he gave it to me free. I asked why, and he said I was cute. I was still very new to being out, so I was flabbergasted that this hot specimen of a man thought I was cute. We chatted a bit and then he asked me to hang around until after he was done work so we could chill. Fast forward a few hours and I was so nervous as we walked back to his place. I had very little in common with him, and he certainly wasn't the brightest person I had ever met, but he was super sweet. Anyways, we ended at his place, where we made out, and one thing lead to another. We didnt do anal (giving it or taking it) but lots of oral and then some dry humping until we both ended with stickiness on our bellies. We cuddled and fell asleep. Next morning we parted ways....until the week after where we met up again once nore. Anyways, sounds pretty normal right? Except he had an interesting appendage. Nice piece, but strangely, one of his balls was the size of a clenched fist, while the other was normal. So odd. Ive never encountered anything like that again.
You don't want to have a deeper relationship with the guy and yet you're sending him your underwear pics? That's kind of strange; it seems you're really giving him mixed signals.
MidnightScott, we're just telling you that because you said yourself you were new to all this.
Sending pics of yourself in your undies is definitely flirting. It does send a message and I just want you to be aware of that.
Being led on is an extremely unpleasant feeling (cf the famous friendzone) so don't be one of these people. That you wanna get to know these people is a good thing. However if you don't want to do anything else don't send pics of your ass, that's just not cool.
Sending pics of yourself in your undies is definitely flirting. It does send a message and I just want you to be aware of that.
Being led on is an extremely unpleasant feeling (cf the famous friendzone) so don't be one of these people. That you wanna get to know these people is a good thing. However if you don't want to do anything else don't send pics of your ass, that's just not cool.
To be fair to MidnightScott, many guys on Grindr sends pics of themselves on their undies but it doesn't mean they necessaily wants deeper relationship. Maybe just a meet up and some jackoff.
You do like your jackoff sessions don't you?
If you're on Grindr, it's different given what the aim of the app is.
Well y'know, it's free, it's relatively safe, painless, and for me it's more arousing than anal, especially when combined with kissing and frotting.You do like your jackoff sessions don't you?
Well y'know, it's free, it's relatively safe, painless, and for me it's more arousing than anal, especially when combined with kissing and frotting.
That sounds very awkward to me.
SpaceBridge
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Well y'know, it's free, it's relatively safe, painless, and for me it's more arousing than anal, especially when combined with kissing and frotting.
I honestly dont know why it seems you have a hard time meeting guys to date. Ive seen your pic, and youre a stud.
Well y'know, it's free, it's relatively safe, painless, and for me it's more arousing than anal, especially when combined with kissing and frotting.
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Chiming in to say that underwear pics are fairly benign. If the guy himself said he doesn't want to fool around, you aren't leading him on by sending him shots of you in your underwear. As long as he isn't creeped out by that; you guys could be underwear pals or something.
Thanks man! I appreciate that.
I find the show has really been blacklisted among gay friends and acquaintances. There's a blanket of hate all over it and I honestly can't figure out why.
People usually cite their anger with its over-sexualization of gay life, but man, the more time I've spent with my fellow gays, the closer to the mark the show's appeared to be.
I frankly think the show had plenty of stellar moments in direction and writing too.
I've never met a legit Brian type, but certainly all the others in one form or another. And many more interesting types to boot who probably would have made for fascinating characters on the show as well.
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Condoms and lube are not free (unless you go to gay bath house or skeezy places like that) and I don't trust the other party to have it.
Plus, it's annoying having to carry them all the time. It's easier to just say "I don't bring either, let's not do anal".You can also go get tested, these places always have free condoms and lube (at least that's where I get mineCondoms and lube are not free (unless you go to gay bath house or skeezy places like that) and I don't trust the other party to have it.
).RatskyWatsky
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Condoms and lube are not free (unless you go to gay bath house or skeezy places like that) and I don't trust the other party to have it.
you can get condoms for free in so many places. my school hands condoms out in the cafeteria haha. also, i use baby oil and one bottle lasts more than a year with regular sex! highly recommended (not for use with condoms though).
Mineral oil breaks down latex condoms, you should stop doing that.
But, yeah, you can find lube and condoms for free all over the place.
oh it was for when i was bare with my monogamous ex. after i posted that i remembered that the two don't go well together ha. well, lube is still not too expensive if you buy big generic bottles.
What kind of mess is this? You are basically asking for more than just pals
but if it is benign I expect underwear pics on my inbox from everyone here
lordfroakie
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I wouldnt share them on gaf. Never know if someone on here would spread them elsewhere...
Um what? Underwear pics are not benign. I think it sends a clear signal if you keep flirting back and forth and dont want to do anything. Just a waste of time.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
Shhhhh
Like if I wasn't weirded out enough by turning the big 30 last week, taking into account the fact that I'm completely inexperienced in relationships of any kind and that even the birthday passed by almost unnoticed if it wasn't for a couple of really good friends...
damn, I'm just fucked... :_: this thread and people in their relationships make it worse....
Sorry for the rant, I'm not usually like this.
Yeah I was starting to think about what a prude I am for not seeing how suggestive it is to send underwear pics. If you're not interested in sleeping with the guy, what's the point? Just flirting? Maybe I'm missing something here.
SpaceBridge
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Im 32, so I guess Im way passed my gay prime then.
CornBurrito
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I've seen pics of you. You don't look 32.
No he looks 40! Oh wait... That's me.
Stop fishing, you look great. I think the 35 and up crowd (me) need to tell the youngsters to ease up.
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