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I just told my mom I'm gay. I feel so relieved right now, pfff.

She was sitting at the table. I drank like 7 glasses of water before I walked up to her. I put my hand on her shoulders and she looked up at me. Talked about some stuff and she said that she noticed that something was holding me back and she asked me what was wrong. She asked me 3 more times, even asked jokingly if I murdered someone, lol, before I broke down and said I was gay. She said all the things you want a mom to say, that she still loves me, that a guy is welcome to our home, that they have no problem with it whatsoever. She hugged me and said that the next time I shouldn't bottle things up like I did.

Telling my dad tonight and my sis when she comes back from Paris.

God, I'm still trembling a bit. I'm so happy right now :)

Why I was so nervous to say it I don't know.
 
I just told my mom I'm gay. I feel so relieved right now, pfff.

She was sitting at the table. I drank like 7 glasses of water before I walked up to her. I put my hand on her shoulders and she looked up at me. Talked about some stuff and she said that she noticed that something was holding me back and she asked me what was wrong. She asked me 3 more times, even asked jokingly if I murdered someone, lol, before I broke down and said I was gay. She said all the things you want a mom to say, that she still loves me, that a guy is welcome to our home, that they have no problem with it whatsoever. She hugged me and said that the next time I shouldn't bottle things up like I did.

Telling my dad tonight and my sis when she comes back from Paris.

God, I'm still trembling a bit. I'm so happy right now :)

Why I was so nervous to say it I don't know.

Congrats. It's great that that your mom accepted you. Hopefully your dad and sister do that same.
 
I just told my mom I'm gay. I feel so relieved right now, pfff.

She was sitting at the table. I drank like 7 glasses of water before I walked up to her. I put my hand on her shoulders and she looked up at me. Talked about some stuff and she said that she noticed that something was holding me back and she asked me what was wrong. She asked me 3 more times, even asked jokingly if I murdered someone, lol, before I broke down and said I was gay. She said all the things you want a mom to say, that she still loves me, that a guy is welcome to our home, that they have no problem with it whatsoever. She hugged me and said that the next time I shouldn't bottle things up like I did.

Telling my dad tonight and my sis when she comes back from Paris.

God, I'm still trembling a bit. I'm so happy right now :)

Why I was so nervous to say it I don't know.

Well there's always the fear of being rejected right? Though you'll never know until you do it. But I always tear up hearing these kinds of stories. Really happy for you. I'm sure it'll go well with the rest of your family.
 
Oh congratulations Vic! :D

Anyway, I'm going to the guy I met on New Year's place. It's 25 miles away. We are gonna hang out in his room for a while and then go eat and stuff. Maybe go shopping? I don't know yet.
Wait, wait... even getting past your, um, interesting behavior towards your co-worker... you're going directly to somebody's place on a first date?
 
Still a long way to go, I guess :/

Reading/hearing comments like this I always wonder whether people who say those things (that homosexual sex is a sin and thus gays are doomed) masturbate, use contraceptives (the previous pope, John Paul II, was fully against them), have pre-marriage sex, have post-divorce sex with a partner other than the one they were married to, use in-vitro method etc.; according to the Church they are sinners too then, no lesser than gays.

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I just told my mom I'm gay. I feel so relieved right now, pfff.
Congrats :D.
 
I just told my mom I'm gay. I feel so relieved right now, pfff.

She was sitting at the table. I drank like 7 glasses of water before I walked up to her. I put my hand on her shoulders and she looked up at me. Talked about some stuff and she said that she noticed that something was holding me back and she asked me what was wrong. She asked me 3 more times, even asked jokingly if I murdered someone, lol, before I broke down and said I was gay. She said all the things you want a mom to say, that she still loves me, that a guy is welcome to our home, that they have no problem with it whatsoever. She hugged me and said that the next time I shouldn't bottle things up like I did.

Telling my dad tonight and my sis when she comes back from Paris.

God, I'm still trembling a bit. I'm so happy right now :)

Why I was so nervous to say it I don't know.
Well you have a set of cajones on you, I don't think I could do that at this time. However, I left this topic open on my computer and when they came over to help me with the map I bet they saw the topic name on the tab on firefox.

Wait, wait... even getting past your, um, interesting behavior towards your co-worker... you're going directly to somebody's place on a first date?

Once again it isn't a date, and we already met somewhere on New Years. I just want more friends right now although I do think he is cute. I mean I want to get to know him better to see if he is a possible boyfriend in the future but I'm not going to get my hopes up for that, I'll just let it come naturally I guess.
 
I just told my mom I'm gay. I feel so relieved right now, pfff.

Good on you man.
I hope I'll follow your lead soon.

It's weird that even though I'm 99.9% sure that everything will be alright, the words just don't come out. I have a feeling it might happen soon though since it's really bothering me in the past few days/weeks.


If we're still on one night stand stories, I'll contribute a small one.
While I was traveling I spent a week at Sydney, and on my last night I went to a gay dance bar. I met a Norweigen dude and we started fooling around. After a while we went outside, looking for a place to settle. We stopped every two minutes somewhere taking off some clothes, and eventually realising that the middle of the street is not a cool place to fool around. Then we entered an alley that led us to a somewhat spacious place, where we said fuck it and took our clothes off. However, no anal. Just BJ and stuff.
Damn, good memory. It was great...
 
I don't think it automatically means that - if sending pix automatically meant a fuck I'd barely be able to walk. But it's probably more that MidnightScott keeps talking about this guy's ass, sending him pix, wanting to grab this guys ass, sending more pix, and talking about his ass that makes everyone go 'huh?' when he's like 'Yeah not interested in hooking up, feels trashy'.

Mixed signals. If i was the other dude I'd be well confused by now.

Slut signed. I've had some truly random dudes from other places send me complete nudes, and I don't think I'll be getting with them anytime soon.
Why do I always send them something back though? :O Hint: It's cause I'm a slut.

Dad knows.

Same reaction as my mom.

Well, without the hugging and the crying :P

YAY! I'm glad things went so well with you and your mom & dad. It'll make talking to your sister all the easier.

Damn, good memory. It was great...

Gay clubs are where you can get into the most trouble :p.

I just started bursting out laughing when I read this because I was imagining it as if a straight girl had written it while talking about her male best friend.

Well, it's not that bad. Let's summarize MidnightScott's side of the story.

"There's this really hot new guy at work, and I think I might hang out at his place over the weekend. Maybe do some other stuff. While I'm over there, he said he might even try out some new massage techniques he learned! But we're just friends. Oh, and he sent me a few naughty pictures, and I might have sent a few back myself. He doesn't want to do anything though. I would know if he'd want to do anything with me, and he doesn't."

Hmm, I can see why people might be worried now. :-/ Unless it's not the whole story.
 
I just told my mom I'm gay. I feel so relieved right now, pfff.

Dad knows.

Same reaction as my mom.

Congrats!

I hope I'll follow your lead soon.

It's weird that even though I'm 99.9% sure that everything will be alright, the words just don't come out. I have a feeling it might happen soon though since it's really bothering me in the past few days/weeks.

This has been bothering me for the past few years. I'm not 99% sure that everything will be ok if I do tell my parents. I feel like if I don't tell them soon that they will miss out on knowing who I really am or knowing my partner. Just can't get over the fear of possibly losing them...
(sorry I know this isn't the coming out thread)
 
Well, it's not that bad. Let's summarize MidnightScott's side of the story.

"There's this really hot new guy at work, and I think I might hang out at his place over the weekend. Maybe do some other stuff. While I'm over there, he said he might even try out some new massage techniques he learned! But we're just friends. Oh, and he sent me a few naughty pictures, and I might have sent a few back myself. He doesn't want to do anything though. I would know if he'd want to do anything with me, and he doesn't."

You didn't help your case at all. :lol
 
Oh hahaha you guys are so funny, I'm falling out of my chair.

1) I'm not pursuing the coworker. I will just hang out with him because I don't really have any friends, he wants to help me with my self esteem issues, take me shopping, and just be a good friend.
2) I'm going to meet a guy again that I met on New Years, I want to get to know him better to see if he is possible boyfriend material.
 
Gay clubs are where you can get into the most trouble :p.


Troubles in what way? Good or bad...?


Congrats!

This has been bothering me for the past few years. I'm not 99% sure that everything will be ok if I do tell my parents. I feel like if I don't tell them soon that they will miss out on knowing who I really am or knowing my partner. Just can't get over the fear of possibly losing them...
(sorry I know this isn't the coming out thread)


That's something else though. I'm sure that if I had the fear of losing my parents it would cause me a major headache.
That sucks :\
 
1) I'm not pursuing the coworker. I will just hang out with him because I don't really have any friends, he wants to help me with my self esteem issues, take me shopping, and just be a good friend.
But you think he's really hot, and are exchanging raunchy pictures, and want to grab his ass, and he's going to give you a massage (because that never leads to anything sexual)...
2) I'm going to meet a guy again that I met on New Years, I want to get to know him better to see if he is possible boyfriend material.
But that's not a date. And you're going directly to his place to do it. Riiiiiiight
 
Shitty stuff is going on...about to see my bf to have a serious talk...i'm pretty positive this won't end well...i think i'm gonna cry... :(
 
Guys, need advice!

Okay, so I recently ended a really long relationship but I've rebounded a bit. I even think I have a new crush. I found this guy online and he is really nice, super cute, and a lot of fun. I met with him for the first time yesterday. Went to his place for some coffee, and what was supposed to be a 1-2 visit turned into 7 hour night of chatting, playing music, going out for dinner, and finally back to his apartment again to watch a show on TV.

Now, this is only my second time pursuing someone. The first was a 4-year relationship which ended only a few months ago, and that has been my only relationship, so this is still a bit new to me. My question is this: I don't know what he wants out of the relationship, but I think he was sending me some signals and I need help deciphering them lol.

Here's what you need to know: We met through Grindr (ew, I know, it's kind of a gross app because it's all hookups, but we didn't hook up because I actually care for this person right now--first person I met off Grindr, too, only got it a few days before meeting him in person), but we never discussed what each of us was looking for. He DID say he appreciates new friends and if it develops into something more, then that's great. I said I was ideally looking for a nice first date, but also love making new friends. That's about it. So throughout the evening he told me he was having a really great time, and I said I was, too. And when we came back to his place to watch a TV show after going out to eat, I noticed he sat very close to me. Prior to this, we hadn't even sat on the same piece of furniture. I just sat there next to him like a doofus. The night ended when the show was over because we both had to get to bed, but it also ended with a really nice hug. I thought about giving him a small kiss, but I thought that would be pushing things BECAUSE I DON'T KNOW WHAT I'M DOING.

My question: What was he trying to tell me by sitting so close to me!?!? I would have loved to snuggle with him or something, but I was too chicken to initiate. And he didn't initiate anything with me. I'm having problems reading him! What do you guys think?

Also, I tend to think he's a little out of my league, but I don't know for sure. He's gorgeous, and I'm only okay, but maybe he does think I'm cute enough to be with. I DON'T KNOW. I also am afraid to straight-up ask him through text messaging, too, because if he doesn't like me at all, it might make things awkward.

Okay. I'm done now :p
 
Pyrokai, having literally just met him, I'd say you're trying to read into things way too quickly. Instead of rocketing full-blast onto "oh god does he want to kiss me sleep with me is he perfect do i love him are we dating???" just enjoy getting to know him and let things progress naturally.
 
Guys, need advice!

Okay, so I recently ended a really long relationship but I've rebounded a bit. I even think I have a new crush. I found this guy online and he is really nice, super cute, and a lot of fun. I met with him for the first time yesterday. Went to his place for some coffee, and what was supposed to be a 1-2 visit turned into 7 hour night of chatting, playing music, going out for dinner, and finally back to his apartment again to watch a show on TV.

Now, this is only my second time pursuing someone. The first was a 4-year relationship which ended only a few months ago, and that has been my only relationship, so this is still a bit new to me. My question is this: I don't know what he wants out of the relationship, but I think he was sending me some signals and I need help deciphering them lol.

Here's what you need to know: We met through Grindr (ew, I know, it's kind of a gross app because it's all hookups, but we didn't hook up because I actually care for this person right now--first person I met off Grindr, too, only got it a few days before meeting him in person), but we never discussed what each of us was looking for. He DID say he appreciates new friends and if it develops into something more, then that's great. I said I was ideally looking for a nice first date, but also love making new friends. That's about it. So throughout the evening he told me he was having a really great time, and I said I was, too. And when we came back to his place to watch a TV show after going out to eat, I noticed he sat very close to me. Prior to this, we hadn't even sat on the same piece of furniture. I just sat there next to him like a doofus. The night ended when the show was over because we both had to get to bed, but it also ended with a really nice hug. I thought about giving him a small kiss, but I thought that would be pushing things BECAUSE I DON'T KNOW WHAT I'M DOING.

My question: What was he trying to tell me by sitting so close to me!?!? I would have loved to snuggle with him or something, but I was too chicken to initiate. And he didn't initiate anything with me. I'm having problems reading him! What do you guys think?

Also, I tend to think he's a little out of my league, but I don't know for sure. He's gorgeous, and I'm only okay, but maybe he does think I'm cute enough to be with. I DON'T KNOW. I also am afraid to straight-up ask him through text messaging, too, because if he doesn't like me at all, it might make things awkward.

Okay. I'm done now :p

Why don't you give him a call and say something like: I had a great time last night. Its been a long time since I connected with someone like that. Do you wannna go out this weekend on an official second date?

That way, he knows that you like him, you"ll find out if he likes you, and then when you guys go out on your second date, youre free to be romantic if wanted.
 
Pyrokai, having literally just met him, I'd say you're trying to read into things way too quickly. Instead of rocketing full-blast onto "oh god does he want to kiss me sleep with me is he perfect do i love him are we dating???" just enjoy getting to know him and let things progress naturally.

Yeah, I know....I worry too much. I worry that I'm gonna "omg ruin everything!!1!" or something. I know I probably won't, but like I said, I'm so new to this kind of thing despite dating for so long.

Why don't you give him a call and say something like: I had a great time last night. Its been a long time since I connected with someone like that. Do you wannna go out this weekend on an official second date?

That way, he knows that you like him, you"ll find out if he likes you, and then when you guys go out on your second date, youre free to be romantic if wanted.

He loves to cook, and I have no idea how to cook. I was thinking about asking him if I could come over and bring some ingredients and we could make a nice dinner together or something while I learn the tricks of the trade. I'd love to ask him to come over to my place instead but I live with my parents and it just wouldn't work well :p
 
He loves to cook, and I have no idea how to cook. I was thinking about asking him if I could come over and bring some ingredients and we could make a nice dinner together or something while I learn the tricks of the trade. I'd love to ask him to come over to my place instead but I live with my parents and it just wouldn't work well :p

That sounds perfect. Great idea.
 
Yeah, I know....I worry too much. I worry that I'm gonna "omg ruin everything!!1!" or something. I know I probably won't, but like I said, I'm so new to this kind of thing despite dating for so long.



He loves to cook, and I have no idea how to cook. I was thinking about asking him if I could come over and bring some ingredients and we could make a nice dinner together or something while I learn the tricks of the trade. I'd love to ask him to come over to my place instead but I live with my parents and it just wouldn't work well :p

Sounds great. Bring wine or beer too. But make sure you give him a call before making plans and let him know that you like his company last time and you would like to go on an official second date. You need to define the romantic parameters of the date, whethers its cooking at his place or going to the movies.
 
Shitty stuff is going on...about to see my bf to have a serious talk...i'm pretty positive this won't end well...i think i'm gonna cry... :(

Godspeed

Sounds great. Bring wine or beer too. But make sure you give him a call before making plans and let him know that you like his company last time and you would like to go on an official second date. You need to define the romantic parameters of the date, whethers its cooking at his place or going to the movies.

SpaceBridge is right. Don't try to divine or assume. Communication is key. Ask and Tell.
 
So I should definitely say something like "second date"? I'm not even sure if he considers what we did a "first date" or just "hanging out" with a new friend. Also, I did text him after I left last night to say that I had a ton of fun and thought he is an awesome guy. So I did that much :p

Also, even though I'd love to do the wine and beer thing, he doesn't drink. He used to be an alcoholic so he doesn't drink anymore.
 
So I should definitely say something like "second date"? I'm not even sure if he considers what we did a "first date" or just "hanging out" with a new friend. Also, I did text him after I left last night to say that I had a ton of fun and thought he is an awesome guy. So I did that much :p

Also, even though I'd love to do the wine and beer thing, he doesn't drink. He used to be an alcoholic so he doesn't drink anymore.

What was his response to the text?

And dont worry about the booze part then. Bring some fruits and make a yummy smoothie.
 
what a lovely day... got a new job in a new city, bought some new shoes, had a drink with a friend, met my father for dinner and got a message on manhunt from the HOTTEST bartender in my favourite london bar :)
 
Okay, so today I watched Weekend, and I have to say that I'm disappointed. I know a lot of people were saying that it was good movie, so I was kind of let down when the credits started to roll.

Maybe it was too low key for me, because I feel like nothing really happened.

Hold Your Peace, the movie I mentioned earlier, was terrible. It had bad acting, bad writing, and a terrible resolution, but liked it better. One of the reasons for that was because it moved.

Weekend had good acting and good writing, but it just felt stagnant--still. 1/5

Next up: Shelter.
 
What was his response to the text?

And dont worry about the booze part then. Bring some fruits and make a yummy smoothie.


He said: "Haha thanks :). I also had a really splendid time with you as well. Get together again soon for sure? Yes?"

That's pretty much verbatim. I said "Absolutely!"
 
Okay don't fuck with me guys...

The guy I was going to meet just canceled on me again (first time we were supposed to go shopping a few weeks ago) because he said he spent all his money yesterday and didn't want me to pay for him., even though I said he could just get me next time.

I used to be so shy before and now that I try to make an effort to even have friends they don't want to hang out for stupid reasons. I try to make friends and I just get shit on for it.

I'm sure all of y'all have probably already experienced this and that it is completely normal. :/
 
Okay don't fuck with me guys...

The guy I was going to meet just canceled on me again (first time we were supposed to go shopping a few weeks ago) because he said he spent all his money yesterday and didn't want me to pay for him., even though I said he could just get me next time.

I used to be so shy before and now that I try to make an effort to even have friends they don't want to hang out for stupid reasons. I try to make friends and I just get shit on for it.

I'm sure all of y'all have probably already experienced this and that it is completely normal. :/

You need to stop worrying about what others say. This is clearly a sign that you need to go fuck your coworker

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Shitty stuff is going on...about to see my bf to have a serious talk...i'm pretty positive this won't end well...i think i'm gonna cry... :(

Wait what! No, you seem to have one of the most successful relationships. I actually enjoyed reading your posts even though it just reminded me I was alone. I hope everything works out for y'all!
 
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