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[Miutsu]

Someone should make a MidnightScott OT

Spoiler

j/k

 

[ciD_Vain]

Sorry to hear that, ciD.

"For some weird reason I didn't know how to react to it so i just kind of accepted the fact so quickly... i didn't freak out, i didn't cry, i didn't get mad, i didn't really do anything...i calmly told him that i've always wanted nothing but the best for him. i told him that it was hard for me to understand him at times because he is so guarded, and that was one of our biggest barriers. I told him that if this is what he wants, then i will support him no matter what... he said that we still need to finish talking in person for closure and that we need to somehow plan that asap. i then finished my shift feeling good, feeling okay, and not letting it bother me at all."

Wow, it's like you're me. I told my ex the same thing. Holy shit dude, the rest of your story really resonates with me too. Shit fucking sucks, because you know the feeling are there, but other stuff just keeps you apart.

Fucking hell. I'm so sorry, cid. I want to hug you. <3

My advice is to have a solid cry, then put on some good music, call your friends, and play some video games with them or go out and eat with them, just do anything. Try not to isolate yourself, because at least in my case that led to me just letting my mind wander and it would inevitably end up on him.

Yes, it's not like we ever lost love for each other because we never ever did. It's because of so many other factors we couldn't really control all at once...and that plain out sucks.

I feel for you ciD. All things happen for a reason but I'm glad that the experience and relationship as a whole was positive. I agree with Sai-kun, that you should get out and try to keep your mind occupied on other things.

I too am glad that the whole thing was positive. He's the best that's happened to me in a very long time.

You know what ciD, your brother has it right. It ended the best possible way it could.

That doesn't mean that it doesn't suck hard, if anything it's even harder to come to term with because there's really nothing for you to focus on to tell yourself that it was for the best.

I don't know how much that can help you but all of my break ups involved elements that were out of my exes and my control. Either distance, a move half across the country or whatnot. My only advice is to allow yourself to grieve. People telling you to think about something else and keeping you busy are wrong IMO. You should think about it for a little while, remember all of the things you're gonna miss and allow yourself to cry as much as you want. You'll then see that after a while it hurts a bit less and knowing that you can't do anything about it is going to be slightly more bearable. That's when you should try and keep you busy with other things.
Obviously this grieving period can't last forever but I am convinced that it is necessary in order to healthily move on.

In the end you'll remember the good times you had and you will always have a special connection to that person. Hopefully you two are going to stay friends and you'll be able to move on and find someone who will be able to provide what he wasn't able to.

Hang in there, it will definitely get better as the time goes.

Thank you so much. It hurts so very very much. I've been crying nonstop since it happened. I've told the story to my brothers and my best friends and each time i cry more and more. It's horrible but it feel very relieving. I've been thinking a lot about everything we've shared and it makes me hopeful for my future with someone, for what i will experience with another person that will make me happy like that again.

I'll date you Cid lol.

I don't think i can date someone for a bit haha.

Yeah, ciD, at least things ended nicely; so not all is lost. Plus your smile turns all men gay, so.. keep smiling!

Always so positive, fernoca. You're awesome

 

[Vazra]

Someone should make a MidnightScott OT

Spoiler

j/k

Actually it would be interesting.

 

[Ollie Pooch]

I think my problem is that if I end up friends with someone I will end up developing feelings for them later on and getting hurt.

it's a risk you take, unfortunately.

 

[woodypop]

This was in another thread, but I think it's worth posting here as well.

When Mildred and Richard Loving married in Washington, D.C. in 1958, they didn't think they were breaking the law. Both were from the small town of Central Point, Virginia. Mildred was of African-American and Native American decent and Richard was white. They did know it was illegal for them to marry in their state-as well as 15 others--which is why they left to tie the knot. Within a month of returning home, police burst into their bedroom in the middle of the night and arrested them under the state's anti-miscegenation law. They were sentenced to a one-year in prison term that could be suspended if they left Virginia.

Banished to Washington, D.C., Mildred Loving, who did not consider herself a political person, wrote about her plight to Attorney General Robert F. Kennedy. The American Civil Liberties Union took up the case and brought it all the way to the United States Supreme Court. In 1967, in a landmark Civil Rights ruling, the court struck down America's laws against interracial marriage.

On the 40 th anniversary of the ruling, Loving issued a statement that read, "I am still not a political person, but I am proud that Richard's and my name is on a court case that can help reinforce the love, the commitment, the fairness, and the family that so many people, black or white, young or old, gay or straight, seek in life."

In 1965, Life Magazine sent photographer Grey Villet to photograph the Lovings and their three children. Writing for the New York Times, Villet's widow Barbara recalled that he approached the assignment with the aim of creating a tender family portrait, not an overtly political statement. "He chose as he did in every essay…to seek out the literal heart of the matter: a love story." However, the images were utterly groundbreaking exactly because of the intimate and emotionally transparent way they portrayed a taboo subject.

Filmmaker Nancy Buirski rediscovered Villet's photographs while making a documentary for HBO called The Loving Story. Twenty of the images are on display at the International Center of Photography in New York City from January 20 through May 6, 2012. The Loving Story will debut on February 14.

Such amazing people.

Thanks to Mr. and Mrs. Loving for having had the courage to stand by their love. Their strength and conviction were, and still are, admirable. And thanks to Mrs. Loving for being so sensible and inclusive in her words of support.

I have to wonder if my parents (white father, Vietnamese mother) had any negative experiences from society during the early 70s in Tennessee, one of the last states to abolish anti-miscegenation laws. I should ask my dad some time.


Article text from Sarah Weir's Yahoo article Tender Photos Unearthed from a Turbulent Time.
Photos from Lydia Warren's Daily Mail article.

 

[MidnightScott]

it's a risk you take, unfortunately.

Yep that's exactly what happened last year and I think it messed me up royally.

 

[lordfroakie]

Cid, sorry to hear about your situation. Things will get better soon

 

[Ollie Pooch]

Yep that's exactly what happened last year and I think it messed me up royally.

Thinking about and pursuing a relationship with this guy at work is gonna end the same. Especially when you already know he doesn't want a relationship (and has said so). If you start idealizing someone just because they make you feel comfortable/wanted etc its gonna end badly.

 

[ciD_Vain]

Cid, sorry to hear about your situation. Things will get better soon

I know it will


I'm using a new avatar post-relationship pic haha

 

[Jezan]

Yeah well I want to hang out with him for the potential for it to turn into a relationship. I've never been in one and want to experience it despite how crazy they are or how crazy I seem to portray myself as.

Vic - new years guy flaked out on me again yesterday. That ticked me off.

Isn't that the third time he does that? Stop trying, not worth it :/

And ciD, as Alcoori said, you will need to cry before anything else to release all those feeling f grief, you will feel better, that's when you start doing many activities and hang out with friends to stop thinking about it.

 

[Mystic Theurge]

I hope you feel better soon, ciD_Vain.

 

[lordfroakie]

I know it will


I'm using a new avatar post-relationship pic haha

Your new pic is cute<3

 

[Dead Prince]

/Creepy

Last night I dreamt of Kitchenmotors and CrumpetTrumpet. I was giving Crumpet a handjob and Kitchenmotors was like no but i went under the sheets with Crumpet anyways to suck face and all.

and yes. i've seen their faces so they were definitely the ones in the dream lulz D:

 

[CHEEZMO™]

/Creepy

Last night I dreamt of Kitchenmotors and CrumpetTrumpet. I was giving Crumpet a handjob and Kitchenmotors was like no but i went under the sheets with Crumpet anyways to suck face and all.

and yes. i've seen their faces so they were definitely the ones in the dream lulz D:

 

[Dead Prince]

if it helps Crumpet has a nice cock on him.

 

[lordfroakie]

if it helps Crumpet has a nice cock on him.

Well..nvm <_<

 

[Dr. Malik]

Marius_:

Spoiler

It's been 5 days since i got Starbucks guy's phone number... think he's been waiting long enough

Get that rebound sis

Spoiler

though you might be thinking about him on the first date

So today I kept touching my coworker like his arms and back. I told him to flex his muscle an I squeezed it and basically gasped haha. So now I think he knows I want him and stuff but I still feel like im in the friend zone. :/

Anyway he's off to San Antonio for the weekend so there won't be any hanging out.

I told him I was into Latinos and he was like well I'm into white guys. But yeah I can tell he doesnt see me that way.

San Antonio eh, give me his number I'll test drive him for you

 

[T.O.P]

Hello Gay-gaf !!!

Nicola from Italy, 21

I'm actually coming out to my parents by the end of the month so i'm kinda weird (suicidal) these days

But i hope to get back on track and start bitching with you asap <3



@got a crush on ciD since i started browsing gaf two years ago lol, you're gorgeous dude ^^ sorry for your situation btw ._.

 

[Prez]

/Creepy

Last night I dreamt of Kitchenmotors and CrumpetTrumpet. I was giving Crumpet a handjob and Kitchenmotors was like no but i went under the sheets with Crumpet anyways to suck face and all.

and yes. i've seen their faces so they were definitely the ones in the dream lulz D:

I had the same dream except it was a daydream.

 

[Ollie Pooch]

I had the same dream except it was a daydream.

I had the same dream except IT WASN'T A DREAM AT ALL.

brb.

 

[Dr. Malik]

Hey GAF. I've finally been approved and thought that I would stop by and introduce myself!

Hello Gay-gaf !!!

Nicola from Italy, 21

I'm actually coming out to my parents by the end of the month so i'm kinda weird (suicidal) these days

But i hope to get back on track and start bitching with you asap <3



@got a crush on ciD since i started browsing gaf two years ago lol, you're gorgeous dude ^^ sorry for your situation btw ._.

oh new batch of gay juniors

stick with me children, I'll show you the way

 

[Crumpet Trumpet]

/Creepy

Last night I dreamt of Kitchenmotors and CrumpetTrumpet. I was giving Crumpet a handjob and Kitchenmotors was like no but i went under the sheets with Crumpet anyways to suck face and all.

and yes. i've seen their faces so they were definitely the ones in the dream lulz D:

 

[Sai-kun]

oh new batch of gay juniors

stick with me children, I'll show you the way

hey this looks like a pose i did in yoga

 

[Alcoori]

Hello Gay-gaf !!!

Nicola from Italy, 21

I'm actually coming out to my parents by the end of the month so i'm kinda weird (suicidal) these days

But i hope to get back on track and start bitching with you asap <3



@got a crush on ciD since i started browsing gaf two years ago lol, you're gorgeous dude ^^ sorry for your situation btw ._.

Welcome and good luck with your coming out!

If you're feeling down please post here and don't do anything drastic.

 

[lordfroakie]

hey this looks like a pose i did in yoga

hnnnng

Edit: Hello TOP!

 

[Sibylus]

Greetings, new people! o_~ *lurk*

 

[CHEEZMO™]

I don't think that's really T.O.P, guys.

I'm onto you.

 

[lenovox1]

hey this looks like a pose i did in yoga

Yeah, years of dance have taught me how to do that, too. It doesn't even seem sexy anymore, but Shakira can pull it off.

 

[Dead Prince]

I don't think that's really T.O.P, guys.

I'm onto you.

way ahead of you bro.

 

[7threst]

@got a crush on ciD since i started browsing gaf two years ago lol, you're gorgeous dude ^^ sorry for your situation btw ._.

There so many (almost too many) handsome guys on GAF

 

[fernoca]

Wellcum T.O.P.!
Post

Spoiler

naked

pics!!

Though, why T.O.P?
Was F.U.R.I.O.U.S.B.O.T.T.O.M. taken?

 

[royalan]

Wellcum T.O.P.!
Post

Spoiler

naked

pics!!

Though, why T.O.P?
Was F.U.R.I.O.U.S.B.O.T.T.O.M. taken?

HAHA!!!

I'm assuming it's because T.O.P. (the guy in his avatar) is part of a popular K-Pop group.

 

[CHEEZMO™]

Wellcum T.O.P.!
Post

Spoiler

naked

pics!!

Though, why T.O.P?
Was F.U.R.I.O.U.S.B.O.T.T.O.M. taken?

Because T.O.P. is swagtastic:

 

[Dr. Malik]

ah I thought this was a top or bottom name, booooo banned this man

 

[fernoca]

Aww, I though the guy in the avatar was him! Fantasy ruined!!



Anyway, hope things work out well with your coming out this month, T.O.P. And don't feel weird/suicidal either way.

EDIT:
Missed doodle... :O .. ;D mm...

 

[Sagitario]

I thought MidnightScott was notorious for being an attention whore or something

That's definitely the impression he gives sometimes, at least to me.

 

[Dead Prince]

That's definitely the impression he gives sometimes, at least to me.

oh my

Spoiler

yes

 

[Dr. Malik]

100,000 Grindr users exposed in hack attack

 

[DR2K]

100,000 Grindr users exposed in hack attack

Bet all those "discrete" guys are in for a rude awakening, haha.

 

[neojubei]

Sorry to read what happened Cid. Hang in there.

100,000 Grindr users exposed in hack attack
G]

That's bad. Well I guess I shouldn't feel too bad about using a fake photo on grindr.

 

[Replicant]

100,000 Grindr users exposed in hack attack

FML

And Cid, sorry to hear about your BF. But that was one of the best breakup stories I've read.

 

[Cosmic Bus]

I posted a couple weeks ago about the steadily growing support for gay marriage in Washington state (and no one cared, but whatevs). Now we only need the vote of one more senator to pass the bill in the spring!

http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/two-votes-away-from-marriage-equality/Content?oid=11791839

The story has been updated to report that Senator Jim Kastama, who was undecided, announced on January 19 that he would support a marriage-equality bill. The bill now requires only one additional vote to pass the state senate.

Within the next few months, Washington could become the seventh state to legalize same-sex marriage—if just a few more votes can be found in the state legislature.

House Speaker Frank Chopp says he has the necessary votes to move a marriage-equality bill out of his chamber. "I believe the measure will pass the house," Chopp told The Stranger on January 12. But over in the senate—which, just like the house, is controlled by Democrats—it's a different story. Over in that chamber, the entire marriage-equality push could collapse.

State senator Ed Murray (D-43), who introduced the bill on January 13, says it's a nail-biter. "I think we have a very good chance," Murray says. "But we are not there yet. We could lose. There are a handful of votes we still need."

In other words, just a few hand-wringing state senators stand between marriage equality and no marriage equality.

Here's the hard math that's creating the cliff-hanger: Getting a marriage bill out of the senate will require 25 votes. But right now, according to a Stranger tally, there are only 24 reliable "yes" votes in the senate. Of those, 22 of them are Democrats and two of them are Republicans who only very recently came out in favor of marriage equality (Senator Steve Litzow of Mercer Island and Senator Cheryl Pflug of Maple Valley—big ups!).

Meanwhile, 20 senators are sure to vote "no" on same-sex marriage, including two anti-marriage Democrats who have long opposed full civil equality for gays and lesbians (Tim Sheldon of Kitsap County and James Hargrove of the Olympic Peninsula­—booooo!).

In a chamber of 49 senators, that leaves six votes still in play—more than enough to get to 25 "yes" votes, but only if at least two of the undecided senators come aboard.

 

[neojubei]

UPS finally came

bought some new shirts online.

 

[lenovox1]

. . .And Cid, sorry to hear about your BF. But that was one of the best breakup stories I've read.

Agreed completely.

I posted a couple weeks ago about the steadily growing support for gay marriage in Washington state (and no one cared, but whatevs). Now we only need the vote of one more senator to pass the bill in the spring!

http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/two-votes-away-from-marriage-equality/Content?oid=11791839

WHOO HOO! I left messages yesterday after I saw ivysaur12's thread, but why not leave 4 more? Or send a few emails? We're on the verge of something big here, and just like it happened in NY, we can make it happen in WA.

 

[The Abominable Snowman]

UPS finally came

bought some new shirts online.

is.. Is that YOU?

 

[MidnightScott]

Neojubei omg :O my mouth dropped hnng

Seriously I'm not some attention whore but I am a bit eccentric and crazy sometimes, forgive me.

Might hang out with my friend I messed around with last year soon. But I'm glad my feelings for him have gone away and that we can just be friends now.

I wish my latino heat was here though...

 

[runlikehell]

neo "i'm ugly" jubei?

...

 

[Dead Prince]

 

[The Abominable Snowman]

neo "i'm ugly" jubei?

...

you know how all the cute guys go "I'm ugly" in order to cheaply boost their ego and reconfirm their sexiness.

same same thing as those toothpicks or studs who go around crying "im so fat. I got so fat" and complaining to you, wanting a cheap boost "you're not fat at all you is so fine"

 

[neojubei]

Neojubei omg :O my mouth dropped hnng

Seriously I'm not some attention whore but I am a bit eccentric and crazy sometimes, forgive me.

I WISH that was me. Some cute UPS guy showing off I think.