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dragonlife said:
Sporadic posting is okay. Everyone jumping aboard the train and eventually crossing the line (Because it will always happen) is something I'd rather not see.
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Eep. I didn't realise that was frowned down upon. Ill photoshop some fake shorts in next time :P
 
woodypop said:
Is posting guys in undies okay? (Don't want to get the thread locked, or get banned.)
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Is not ban-worthy, but is not recommended to post them directly (or as dragonlife said, a lot). :p
The links, with "NSFW" warning if anything. Since "GayGAF" may not complain, but since this thread can be seen by everyone someone could contact a mod and wonder why there are undies of guys in the "gay thread".

And yeah, Delio posts that same guy a lot. :p

My "recent guy" is Matheus Esteves, but most of his pics are not safe for work. Though I mostly like this one because of his boy-ish face and he is relatively short (height :p)...really cute. :) :p
(he's "stocky" so there's some meat in those bones too :p)

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Mos of his pics are not safe for work, so that's the closest I can post ..and could find. :p

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Well,scratch that..he's 5'8"..so not "short" perse since I'm also 5'8". He looks shorter in the pics, maybe because of his body.
Still cute...and those lips!! :p
 
julls said:
Eep. I didn't realise that was frowned down upon. Ill photoshop some fake shorts in next time :P
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Well, I wouldn't say frowned upon, exactly. But it would suck to see the thread closed due to pics of dudes. Some here and there aren't so bad, as long as they don't show pubes in any way. If any of you feel like you have to absolutely share those "Let me tease you with my pubes 'cause I'm lowering my underwear" shots, just link them instead with a description or something.
 
_Isaac said:
You post that same kid a lot. I think I prefer your other twink that you posted a little while ago.
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You mean Chase? Thing is most of his pics involve...well him being fucked or fucking someone else. He's a porn star while Nikita (the one I just posted) is a model sooo.
 
Replicant said:
You make it sound like you've exhausted other possibilities or have tried your hardest at them. Go join the gym and don't say "I've joined the gym but I don't see any results". Well, you're not going to see results right away. Life style change is not some kind of a game where you shoot a monster and you get immediate gratification in the form of points. You have to work hard, sweat, contain the embarrassment that others may look better than you (and may always be one step ahead of you because they started first or work harder). But if you're persistent and work hard at it, in a year or two, you'll start to notice changes in your body and others will too. Along the way your self-image will also improve because you'd notice that others started to notice you instead of the other way around. Once that happens, the self-confidence will built up and up and even if you're not sure if you look confident to others, fake it until you make it.

At the same time, join other kind of classes that you like: language, cooking, sports, etc. Make friends with other people even if they are straight. So what if they are not gay? At least you'll find some company to be with: people who share the same interest as you do. At the end of the day, isn't that what people want? Sex is one thing but just having the company of others can be equally important things to have as well. And the socialization you'd have in the class will improve your happiness, outlook in life, and confidence to talk to others. From time to time, you'll feel lonely because these people also have their own life/love/people to come home too. But that's where you rely on your hobby like video gaming, reading, swimming, etc to keep you occupied and your mind busy. If your job is not where you want to be, re-educate yourself and that'd give even more things to occupy your mind.
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Bark252 said:
I thought about replying to Neo's post and felt like I should say nothing but it began to bother me. I don't know you or your life, just what you post here. I've lurked this thread for a while and I've seen positive as well as negative post from you. Everyone can see you lack the self confidence you should have. I used to be the same way though I admit not as bad. I was self conscience about my looks and the way people perceived me. This kept me in the house never wanting to go out and eventually I put my self in a bubble / rut. When I went off to college my roommate was an awesome latin guy that I had a major crush on even though he was straight. He didn't have a car and I did so I would take him places and go out with him. He really brought me out of my shell and taught me a valuable lesson about not giving a fuck what other people think. We're still friends to this day and he's like a brother to me. Every since then I've learned that most of the time people are thinking about what your thinking about them. I say all this to say you gotta live your life. I have seen you post on more than one occasion about offing yourself. That hurts because I know plenty of people who passed away in the past year who crave life and they weren't in love with anyone but they enjoyed their life. I feel sorry for you not because your alone, but because your not enjoying life. This is only my opinion, you gotta do you..
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This is some seriously great advice that I feel needs requoted.

krypt0nian said:
We're going to GALA, the gathering of gay choruses this year (every 4 years like the olympics) in Denver, and I cannot wait. Reminds me of being in State level choirs and being surrounded by people who are not only über talented, but people who want you to excel.
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Wow, it's like you're on Glee! You're going to regionals! Do you guys plan on writing an original song the day before your performance? ;p jk Congrats!

woodypop said:
Just stumbled upon this guy a few minutes ago, Heath Jordan. Guess he's in porn.
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Hhhnnnggg.
 
Just got back from hanging out with my friend that I had feelings for last year. I don't have those feelings for him anymore, which means I'm truly over him.

He even told me he went on a date a few weeks ago, but he didn't really like the guy. Then I told him about my new coworker friend...and he was like "Oooo, go get him." :D
 
MidnightScott said:
Just got back from hanging out with my friend that I had feelings for last year. I don't have those feelings for him anymore, which means I'm truly over him.

He even told me he went on a date a few weeks ago, but he didn't really like the guy. Then I told him about my new coworker friend...and he was like "Oooo, go get him." :D
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By last year, do you mean a few weeks ago?
You were so busy trying to stay faithful to this guy, and he was off having a date. Ha! Anyway, yeah just move on to the new coworker guy. You can keep this new years guy as a friend though. Nothing wrong with that.
 
_Isaac said:
By last year, do you mean a few weeks ago?
You were so busy trying to stay faithful to this guy, and he was off having a date. Ha! Anyway, yeah just move on to the new coworker guy. You can keep this new years guy as a friend though. Nothing wrong with that.
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Nope not even the guy on New Years, I'm talking about the friend I messed around with last year. I give up on the New Years guy lol. I want my coworker and he wants me, so that's that. :)
 
krypt0nian, I have to thank you for introducing me to the Major Spoilers DnD Podcast: Critical Hit.

It's an amazing show, and I'm glad I found out about it sooner than later.
 
Dead Man said:
Looks good man. In order to celebrate the shaving of my beard this week, I will repost a pic from the beard thread. Ignore the thinning hair :)

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It's about an inch longer at the moment. I will miss it, but damn it's hot at the moment!
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Until told otherwise, I would not have believed the two people above are one and the same. I like the beard, moreso if it were trimmed a bit. You wear it well.
 
+1 for Mr Zombie. I complimented him in the post your pics thread a few times before he started posting in here.

/hipster something

SpaceBridge said:
Aww, Sagi. Im flattered. Its not even my real pic though.
Ill have to post my top 5 gaygaffers tomorrow morning.
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UGH. Name ruined. Can never enjoy BKO again.

I hope you're happy, Saheetehreeo
 
If I end up dating this guy after all, I might be coming in here for a lot of advice and want to thank all of you before hand for any help you may provide in the future. Thanks!

But for now I'm just gonna try and take it slow with him and see where things go :)
 
dragonlife said:
+1 for Mr Zombie. I complimented him in the post your pics thread a few times before he started posting in here.

/hipster something

UGH. Name ruined. Can never enjoy BKO again.

I hope you're happy, Saheetehreeo
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Well, if it helps, you = Guillo. Can't play it without thinking about it.
 
Mystic Theurge said:
krypt0nian, I have to thank you for introducing me to the Major Spoilers DnD Podcast: Critical Hit.

It's an amazing show, and I'm glad I found out about it sooner than later.
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Hey no worries. I'm glad you like it. I'm about 5 eps behind so I look forward to playing catch up with a nice marathon.
 
Rez said:
I'm not saying throw yourself at anything that moves that's pathetic enough to want to fuck you, I'm saying either trying online dating or -- if you live in a major city -- going out and meeting people in the ridiculously diverse gay population, are very real options that will almost definitely result in you meeting someone interesting.

(this is a general rant, not directed right at you cosmic)

I see a lot of complaining in this thread. A lot of "oh woe is me, why won't the prettiest, perfect boy want to suck my dick", and it's ridiculously hypocritical. It's the nice-guy syndrome but for gay guys. Expecting beautiful people to lower their physical standards for you when you're unwilling to yourself. The way I see it, either lower your physical standards in a partner and try and find a genuinely compelling, interesting person who's going to remain interesting after the novelty of the sex wears off, or hit the fucking gym and then hope you can find a guy with both qualities.

While I'm at it, a lot of the talk here about an exclusionary gay community that expects certain things of you couldn't be any further from my own experience. If you surround yourself by vapid, shallow people and idolize them, of course you're going to become bitter. Again, maybe trying to make friends more interesting people but perhaps slightly less "attractive and/or INSTANTLY FUN" people might pay off in the long run.

The majority of any group of people are probably pretty fucking stupid. But I don't walk around saying "white males are all fucking dumb", because I know that while, you know, there are quite a few oxygen thieves out there, they certainly don't make up all of the white male population.
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Now let's discuss Rez' young age and how he's wise beyond his year. You know, new material to get depressed over.
 
Sad and awkward story, yesterday i was browsing some cool videogame reinterpretations vids on youtube and i fall on some asian piano player who looks HOT. I, of course, enter my furious stalker mode and soon discover he's indeed hot, as he was .. mister Singapore 2007 ( -_- ) and that he also died in an accident in 2009... ok...


Also today a friend told me he finally fucked and now dates a straight friend he had been fantasizing on for 10 years... Life is just unfair.

In my own small miserable life, i had a subtle "cool" moment two days ago. I was talking to a young handsome (like reeally handsome, but skinny..) guy and he was basically playing cold water with me for some time now. The kind of little trash who act like people are pieces of shit to him. The "hmmm i don't know, should i see you, i'm horny but i don't know.. hmm, i could see an other guy, it's not like you're hot or anything hmmm" you know. Tsss, but he always came back at me so i knew he liked me more than what he was saying. Saturday i finally came to his house and we played around. He was so into me lol, looking at me with his wonderful eyes like i was bhuda, whith my dick in his mouth. Felt good :p
 
i'm so drunk right now, i just got home from a bar/club with one of my friends. a guy asked me for my number and he was too fuckin cute to say no to. ahhhhhhhhh
 
Rez didn't get his tag for nothing, really, and I couldn't agree more. You know, people is not going to love you if first and foremost you don't love yourself. I can't really believe how some of you, who look much MUCH better than me have that serious self esteem issues. I am short, my skin is horrible due to all the scars and marks acne left in all the body and the constant eczemas when stress or cold kick in, I have some extra pounds I never seem to be able to get rid of, I have a very personal sense of fashion, I'm a geek and a bit dorky, I'm bad at matching colours, I have messy hair because I'm trying to grow natural dreads in the back part of my head and my penis is just average sized but guess what? I think I have a lovely smile, I love my eyes, I like my trashy look with all my piercings, ripped jeans, chains and dirty sneakers and I'm really sure that after all, I have some charm. And it's not like I had a perfect childhood, I have gone through a lot of fucked up stuff but still I managed to survive and reach adulthood pretty much sane, and still get more cock than I ever thought I could. Well, yes, maybe the guys I bang are not exactly the pornstar or hollywood actor kind but they (or at least most of them) are nice, intelligent, fun and most of them want to repeat eventually.

My best advice would be forgetting about hooking up for a while and building some OFFLINE friendships, how? it's up to you. If you surround yourself with nice people, even if they're absolutely not your type, you can be sure you will attract more and more nice people and eventually somebody interesting enough, even in the gay scene. Ignore the shallow people and just focus on those worth your time. Trust me, it's working for me, and that's taking into account I moved to Madrid 2 years ago and had to start my social life over completely from scratch.
 
orioto said:
Sad and awkward story, yesterday i was browsing some cool videogame reinterpretations vids on youtube and i fall on some asian piano player who looks HOT. I, of course, enter my furious stalker mode and soon discover he's indeed hot, as he was .. mister Singapore 2007 ( -_- ) and that he also died in an accident in 2009... ok...
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Are you talking about that guy who did the Shenmue Morning's Fog Wave on piano? Really sad story yeah :(
 
7threst said:
Are you talking about that guy who did the Shenmue Morning's Fog Wave on piano? Really sad story yeah :(
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If anything, that kind of story should remind people that stuff like that can happen at any moment, and their life is too short and fleeting to be sitting around feeling sorry for themselves.
 
julls said:
If anything, that kind of story should remind people that stuff like that can happen at any moment, and their life is too short and fleeting to be sitting around feeling sorry for themselves.
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Yeah I totally agree. Sometimes it's good to pity yourself for a moment, just to reflect on whatever it is that you feel sorry for yourself for, but life goes on.
For me, there is so much to enjoy and to do that the only thing I'm afraid for is that my life is too short for all those things that I want to do.

I used to be depressed regularly but then I forced myself to keep myself busy with things I could have and things I enjoyed instead on dwell over things I couldn't have (but things I wanted anyway). Not sure if this makes sense and I definitely don't want to downplay crises and depressions that other people go through but yeah, life is too short :)
 
beje said:
Rez didn't get his tag for nothing, really, and I couldn't agree more. You know, people is not going to love you if first and foremost you don't love yourself. I can't really believe how some of you, who look much MUCH better than me have that serious self esteem issues. I am short, my skin is horrible due to all the scars and marks acne left in all the body and the constant eczemas when stress or cold kick in, I have some extra pounds I never seem to be able to get rid of, I have a very personal sense of fashion, I'm a geek and a bit dorky, I'm bad at matching colours, I have messy hair because I'm trying to grow natural dreads in the back part of my head and my penis is just average sized but guess what? I think I have a lovely smile, I love my eyes, I like my trashy look with all my piercings, ripped jeans, chains and dirty sneakers and I'm really sure that after all, I have some charm. And it's not like I had a perfect childhood, I have gone through a lot of fucked up stuff but still I managed to survive and reach adulthood pretty much sane, and still get more cock than I ever thought I could. Well, yes, maybe the guys I bang are not exactly the pornstar or hollywood actor kind but they (or at least most of them) are nice, intelligent, fun and most of them want to repeat eventually.

My best advice would be forgetting about hooking up for a while and building some OFFLINE friendships, how? it's up to you. If you surround yourself with nice people, even if they're absolutely not your type, you can be sure you will attract more and more nice people and eventually somebody interesting enough, even in the gay scene. Ignore the shallow people and just focus on those worth your time. Trust me, it's working for me, and that's taking into account I moved to Madrid 2 years ago and had to start my social life over completely from scratch.
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dragonlife said:
It does help; Guillo is the best character in any JRPG ever <3 THX. I'm going to eventually do the hearts thing for Guillo as well.
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<3<3<3
 
Meh, the gay people I know offline are all stereotypes. Like, quite literally. It's funny in retrospect given they were all "WHOO YEAH I FUCKED A GIRL" in our high-school years, but all of a sudden they're really... feminine. :/
 
I'll have my fleeting moments of self image problems but in the grand scheme of things I just don't have time to feel sorry for my self anymore. Now when i'm at the club/bar I will dance without hesitation (badly of course) or approach guys no problem as long as I recognized the correct body language. It's funny how much more fun I have now, especially since it seems that a lot of guys don't expect someone as big as me to be so extrovert. It's opened up a lot more venues for me too.

Er, I digress. Hey gayGAF! Long time lurker first time poster.

Quick back story. I've known that I've been gay since I was 6. Came out to my brother at 13 and although coming out to the rest of my family was completely out of my hands I was able to get the best case scenario out of it. Two weeks ago I finally came out to everyone else with success, and at the same time I also quit smoking and starting a diet/exercise routine. Do everything at once has changed certain behavior patterns much faster than I anticipated so I'm really excited for whats down the road.

I was going to post here a couple of weeks ago asking for advice on crushing on straight guys, but I managed to sort it out with him and now we're as close as family. I got really lucky with this one haha.

I also finally have a one night stand story but I'll save it for some other time so this doesn't turn into a livejournal. It does involve my aforementioned buddy though (not what you think!!!).
 
beje said:
Rez didn't get his tag for nothing, really, and I couldn't agree more. You know, people is not going to love you if first and foremost you don't love yourself. I can't really believe how some of you, who look much MUCH better than me have that serious self esteem issues.

My best advice would be forgetting about hooking up for a while and building some OFFLINE friendships, how? it's up to you. If you surround yourself with nice people, even if they're absolutely not your type, you can be sure you will attract more and more nice people and eventually somebody interesting enough, even in the gay scene. Ignore the shallow people and just focus on those worth your time. Trust me, it's working for me, and that's taking into account I moved to Madrid 2 years ago and had to start my social life over completely from scratch.
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I am going to have to agree with every point of this.

You have to be a whole person yourself if you're going to be ready to give some of it to someone else in a relationship. Without the confidence in yourself, you wont get far. You really cant love someone else without love for yourself.

You have to build relationships offline, you have to find people who challenge you, are different than you, even the same, but people who can give you better perspective on life because their perspective is different.

I must also agree that if you want a guy with a 6-pack, you better have one yourself, and while some may want it for shallow reasons, others see it as a marker for the same dedication theyve put into their bodies and well being.

Since my ex left me in October, I have been focusing on myself again, I've dropped significant amounts of weight, I've been exploring the world of cooking and have been making some of the most delicious meals, I've signed up for a multitude of classes that will further educate and advance me as a person, and pretty soon I am going to start my weight training and yoga classes to get myself to the body I want, better than my soccer physique from years past, and then, when it is all over, then maybe then I will start seriously dating again.

I've come to realize recently that I am still very damaged goods, its barely been 3 months after the end of a 3.5 year relationship, but I know at the end of this going into the summer months, I will be the person I've wanted to be.
 
TheSeks said:
Meh, the gay people I know offline are all stereotypes. Like, quite literally. It's funny in retrospect given they were all "WHOO YEAH I FUCKED A GIRL" in our high-school years, but all of a sudden they're really... feminine. :/
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I think it's kind of common for some closeted guys to hide their femininity while they are, well, in the closet.

Masamuna said:
I'll have my fleeting moments of self image problems but in the grand scheme of things I just don't have time to feel sorry for my self anymore. Now when i'm at the club/bar I will dance without hesitation (badly of course) or approach guys no problem as long as I recognized the correct body language. It's funny how much more fun I have now, especially since it seems that a lot of guys don't expect someone as big as me to be so extrovert. It's opened up a lot more venues for me too.
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Quick back story. I've known that I've been gay since I was 6. Came out to my brother at 13 and although coming out to the rest of my family was completely out of my hands I was able to get the best case scenario out of it. Two weeks ago I finally came out to everyone else with success, and at the same time I also quit smoking and starting a diet/exercise routine. Do everything at once has changed certain behavior patterns much faster than I anticipated so I'm really excited for whats down the road.
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Welcome and congrats! That's the attitude! :D
 
B-Ri said:
Since my ex left me in October, I have been focusing on myself again, I've dropped significant amounts of weight, I've been exploring the world of cooking and have been making some of the most delicious meals, I've signed up for a multitude of classes that will further educate and advance me as a person, and pretty soon I am going to start my weight training and yoga classes to get myself to the body I want, better than my soccer physique from years past, and then, when it is all over, then maybe then I will start seriously dating again.

I've come to realize recently that I am still very damaged goods, its barely been 3 months after the end of a 3.5 year relationship, but I know at the end of this going into the summer months, I will be the person I've wanted to be.
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