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Sofo said:
I'd say it's an omen but maybe this one would clean that name from bad karma? :3
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Haha well i don't have anything against my ex. He's a great guy.
MidnightScott said:
Oh shit go for it! :O
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I definitely will, no doubt!
Alcoori said:
Firemen?
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One of the guys I had a huge crush on in high school ended up becoming a fireman and boy does he look super fine.
this is the same guy that i found asleep on my bed with me one morning and freaked out and posted about it on GAF lol
 
Hi guys:

STILL going through the breakup with the cheater... Every time I say it's done and walk away, he re-contacts me and convinces me to start communicating with him again. Like every single one of my friends suggests, I need to cease all contact I know...but he uses ploys to get me back (Like his sick grandma for one, who is so sweet).

After doing a little reading up on it and speaking with a therapist regarding why it's so hard for me to move past this, it kinda looks like the guy I fell for is a pathological narcissist. :( Every identifiable trait describes him to the letter, and how our relationship unfolded is a typical 'narcissist - victim' situation apparently.

This is one of the hardest things I've ever been through. It's been a month since I cut off physically seeing him, but he still calls and texts me if I try to get distant. It's like I'm stuck in a loop and can't get out.
 
Tritroid said:
Hi guys:

STILL going through the breakup with the cheater... Every time I say it's done and walk away, he re-contacts me and convinces me to start communicating with him again. Like every single one of my friends suggests, I need to cease all contact I know...but he uses ploys to get me back (Like his sick grandma for one, who is so sweet).

After doing a little reading up on it and speaking with a therapist regarding why it's so hard for me to move past this, it kinda looks like the guy I fell for is a pathological narcissist. :( Every identifiable trait describes him to the letter, and how our relationship unfolded is a typical 'narcissist - victim' situation apparently.

This is one of the hardest things I've ever been through. It's been a month since I cut off physically seeing him, but he still calls and texts me if I try to get distant. It's like I'm stuck in a loop and can't get out.
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I'm trying to remember your situation but i can't remember all the details. Are you the one that found out your guy was cheating on you with multiple people during your relationship?
 
ciD_Vain said:
I'm trying to remember your situation but i can't remember all the details. Are you the one that found out your guy was cheating on you with multiple people during your relationship?
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Yeah, I was the guy who was with this person for 9 months. Found out he had cheated once, we talked through it, and I took him back. Then the flood-gates opened one day and I found out he cheated with 3 or 4 more guys that I know of, and lied through 90% of the relationship. (This was the guy who had talked to me about getting married, having kids, spending the rest of our lives together, etc.)
 
Tritroid said:
[. . .]After doing a little reading up on it and speaking with a therapist regarding why it's so hard for me to move past this, it kinda looks like the guy I fell for is a pathological narcissist. :( Every identifiable trait describes him to the letter, and how our relationship unfolded is a typical 'narcissist - victim' situation apparently.

This is one of the hardest things I've ever been through. It's been a month since I cut off physically seeing him, but he still calls and texts me if I try to get distant. It's like I'm stuck in a loop and can't get out.
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Wow. I'm not a therapist, but obviously any relationship where one person thinks they're in "control" is. . . well, you're not the one that's fucked up here, it's your ex (and he will always be your ex).

I'd say, change your number, use a different email (if you can), and block him on Facebook. It sucks that he's affected your life in this way, but these things are the least you can do at this moment.

You have other gay friends, right? Or even straight friends in committed relationships? You should be around people that have a healthy idea about what a relationship is and how to go about it all. You're not stuck in your current position, and you know it. You've already gone to see professionals and friends about this, you know that none of this is your fault. Now, I think you honestly need to look at the kind of relationship you actually deserve.

And when's the last time you've gone out without being that evil dick's boyfriend? You have to prove to not only him, but to yourself, that you do not need his lying, deceitful, manipulative ass. Baby, you are much more than him, and he is now but a blip in the past, it's time to take some (or get some) action.

And if he's threatening you, if he's physically harming you, if he's doing anything that makes you worried about your safety, don't hesitate to pop him with a restraining order. With a restraining order, he would know that the next time he even types your number into his phone, his ass is heading to jail.

And, above all, good luck. It seems like you're doing everything you can right now. Make no mistake, it is going to take time for you to heal. But you're on the right track, and I hope that a week or so from now this douche is out of your life for good.
 
Tritroid said:
Yeah, I was the guy who was with this person for 9 months. Found out he had cheated once, we talked through it, and I took him back. Then the flood-gates opened one day and I found out he cheated with 3 or 4 more guys that I know of, and lied through 90% of the relationship. (This was the guy who had talked to me about getting married, having kids, spending the rest of our lives together, etc.)
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Oh man...seems like you're really emotionally attached to him despite the unforgivable things he did to you... Questions... Do you feel bad for him? Was this your first long-term relationship? How was your sex life with him? i think you should completely ignore him (change your number)...it's hard but it's probably the only way.
 
ciD_Vain said:
Had a really hot guy try to flirt with me at work today during my break. He was so fucking cute and we were both kind of nervous trying to talk to each other LOL. He asked for my name and I asked for his.......and it's the same as my ex's. WTF!! UGhhhh he's soooo cute. i hope he comes back soon haha.
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Heh, go for it and good luck! I wish my work enabled me to meet cute guys!
 
Why is it all dreary in here? We got more to talk about than break-ups and hook-ups! Maybe if I perform a song to brighten the mood.


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Well my man asked me if I wanted to go to a movie tonight when he gets off work. So I guess I will, just gotta figure out what movie we wanna see. Gonna stay the night again :)

We both kept messing up orders at work and he was like, "you seem distracted by love" I said "yeah I am..." and then he said I'm distracted by love too" :DDD
 
ciD_Vain said:
Oh man...seems like you're really emotionally attached to him despite the unforgivable things he did to you... Questions... Do you feel bad for him? Was this your first long-term relationship? How was your sex life with him? i think you should completely ignore him (change your number)...it's hard but it's probably the only way.
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I am still semi-attached to him yeah. I'm not as much as I was, but I'm still healing. In a way yeah, I do feel bad for him, in that he feels so insecure about himself that he has to mess around so much and lie about it..if that makes any sense.

Yeah, this was the longest relationship I've been in, and it was the deepest emotionally. For months we would talk 3 times a day, text in between, go on trips every weekend...Of course once the cheating and lying was discovered that started to trail off. The sex was great, before the cheating, then it dropped to nothing of course.

I'm currently working 2 jobs, both of which require heavy usage of my phone with multiple people unfortunately. If I were to change my phone number, it would be utter chaos. I've contemplated just blocking his number, but the downside is I do actually care about what happens with his grandma, and deep down cutting off all ties is painful because this was a person that I literally gave my whole heart to..

The weekends I do go out with friends, but I'll get a text that night asking who I'm with or where I'm going, and how long I'll be out, etc. Then the next morning I'll get a call at like 8 a.m. accusing me of 'talking to another guy', or messing around with other guys, when in truth I'm still too emotionally devastated to even consider being with someone else right now even if it's just for a quick rebound. Right now I'm just exhausted and I'm tired of trying to decipher if he actually really did/does care about me, if I was special to him at all, or if I'm just a pawn in his ridiculous game.

Lenovox: Thank you so much, that lifted my spirits a bit. :)
 
Tritroid said:
I am still semi-attached to him yeah. I'm not as much as I was, but I'm still healing. In a way yeah, I do feel bad for him, in that he feels so insecure about himself that he has to mess around so much and lie about it..if that makes any sense.

Yeah, this was the longest relationship I've been in, and it was the deepest emotionally. For months we would talk 3 times a day, text in between, go on trips every weekend...Of course once the cheating and lying was discovered that started to trail off. The sex was great, before the cheating, then it dropped to nothing of course.

I'm currently working 2 jobs, both of which require heavy usage of my phone with multiple people unfortunately. If I were to change my phone number, it would be utter chaos. I've contemplated just blocking his number, but the downside is I do actually care about what happens with his grandma, and deep down cutting off all ties is painful because this was a person that I literally gave my whole heart to..

The weekends I do go out with friends, but I'll get a text that night asking who I'm with or where I'm going, and how long I'll be out, etc. Then the next morning I'll get a call at like 8 a.m. accusing me of 'talking to another guy', or messing around with other guys, when in truth I'm still too emotionally devastated to even consider being with someone else right now even if it's just for a quick rebound. Right now I'm just exhausted and I'm tired of trying to decipher if he actually really did/does care about me, if I was special to him at all, or if I'm just a pawn in his ridiculous game.

Lenovox: Thank you so much, that lifted my spirits a bit. :)
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Wait, he's accusing you of being with other guys, meanwhile he was the one who cheated? Christ what a dick. Try to cut off all contact, block his number and email. He sounds like the kinda guy who needs to control others because of his own innate ability to control his life. He's toxic and you will have a harder time recovering from this abuse.
 
Tritroid said:
I am still semi-attached to him yeah. I'm not as much as I was, but I'm still healing. In a way yeah, I do feel bad for him, in that he feels so insecure about himself that he has to mess around so much and lie about it..if that makes any sense.

Yeah, this was the longest relationship I've been in, and it was the deepest emotionally. For months we would talk 3 times a day, text in between, go on trips every weekend...Of course once the cheating and lying was discovered that started to trail off. The sex was great, before the cheating, then it dropped to nothing of course.

I'm currently working 2 jobs, both of which require heavy usage of my phone with multiple people unfortunately. If I were to change my phone number, it would be utter chaos. I've contemplated just blocking his number, but the downside is I do actually care about what happens with his grandma, and deep down cutting off all ties is painful because this was a person that I literally gave my whole heart to..

The weekends I do go out with friends, but I'll get a text that night asking who I'm with or where I'm going, and how long I'll be out, etc. Then the next morning I'll get a call at like 8 a.m. accusing me of 'talking to another guy', or messing around with other guys, when in truth I'm still too emotionally devastated to even consider being with someone else right now even if it's just for a quick rebound. Right now I'm just exhausted and I'm tired of trying to decipher if he actually really did/does care about me, if I was special to him at all, or if I'm just a pawn in his ridiculous game.

Lenovox: Thank you so much, that lifted my spirits a bit. :)
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Wow, fuck that. I'm sure he does care about you to some degree (to what degree is a different thing), but that doesn't mean you should settle for it. You seem like a very big hearted individual. You shouldn't have to deal with such kind of bullshit in your life. You should block him off from your life. He's causing you ridiculous stress and eventually you will see that you'll be much happier without him. When the right guy comes along and treats you right, it will all be worth it.
 
So I told my friend I got molested and hit on by a drag queen. They flew off the handle, got mad at me and won't talk to me now because I did NOT hook up with the queen....
 
Marius_ said:
We are just getting closer to V-Day

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Is it really that much of a deal to everyone or are you guys just being half-funny about it? o: I'm honestly asking because when I was single I didn't care that much for it (and it's not like I care a whole lot now, I just treat it like a day to be cute and grateful!).
 
I'm straight, yet freshman college life was interesting so far (more interesting than high school)

Currently I have two bisexual female friends. One I have a crush on but both of them are currently dating each other, so I just hang out with them from time to time.

What do GAF?!?!!
 
Tritroid said:
I am still semi-attached to him yeah. I'm not as much as I was, but I'm still healing. In a way yeah, I do feel bad for him, in that he feels so insecure about himself that he has to mess around so much and lie about it..if that makes any sense.

Yeah, this was the longest relationship I've been in, and it was the deepest emotionally. For months we would talk 3 times a day, text in between, go on trips every weekend...Of course once the cheating and lying was discovered that started to trail off. The sex was great, before the cheating, then it dropped to nothing of course.

I'm currently working 2 jobs, both of which require heavy usage of my phone with multiple people unfortunately. If I were to change my phone number, it would be utter chaos. I've contemplated just blocking his number, but the downside is I do actually care about what happens with his grandma, and deep down cutting off all ties is painful because this was a person that I literally gave my whole heart to..

The weekends I do go out with friends, but I'll get a text that night asking who I'm with or where I'm going, and how long I'll be out, etc. Then the next morning I'll get a call at like 8 a.m. accusing me of 'talking to another guy', or messing around with other guys, when in truth I'm still too emotionally devastated to even consider being with someone else right now even if it's just for a quick rebound. Right now I'm just exhausted and I'm tired of trying to decipher if he actually really did/does care about me, if I was special to him at all, or if I'm just a pawn in his ridiculous game.

Lenovox: Thank you so much, that lifted my spirits a bit. :)
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No no no no no no no.
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No.

Like numerous people told you in this thread, you HAVE to cut all contact. Do not use the excuse of his grandma to tell yourself you cannot. You have to for your sake.

That it was you first relationship and that it was intense, I understand. However you have to realize that this is not what a relationship should be and that there are people out there who are infinitely better than this guy. Pity him all you want but you have to make yourself come first.

You had a good time before he cheated. You should cherish these moments and realize that the cheating ruined everything that was good in the relationship. He didn't fuck up only once, but numerous times. There is no going back and you should cut him out of your life until you are truly and fully healed. When you are able to think back on the relationship without longing, then yes you may contact him again.

Right now I'm just exhausted and I'm tired of trying to decipher if he actually really did/does care about me, if I was special to him at all, or if I'm just a pawn in his ridiculous game.
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Don't. He clearly has issues and you won't be able to solve them for him. Even if you were a pawn in his game, just take solace in the fact that you had a good time at the beginning. He is not worth agonizing over. Best case scenario he cared about you for a bit before trampling all over you by cheating repeatedly. Worst case scenario he didn't. Would that change anything? Not really. You gave yourself wholly to him. He wasn't able to do the same, that's on him.
Will you future relationships be easier? I hope so, they should. But for now work on yourself, heal and get to the point where you can start dating again. Once you do, then your healing process should be even faster and you'll be able to think back on that relationship and only remember the good things.
 
Tritroid said:
The weekends I do go out with friends, but I'll get a text that night asking who I'm with or where I'm going, and how long I'll be out, etc. Then the next morning I'll get a call at like 8 a.m. accusing me of 'talking to another guy', or messing around with other guys, when in truth I'm still too emotionally devastated to even consider being with someone else right now even if it's just for a quick rebound. Right now I'm just exhausted and I'm tired of trying to decipher if he actually really did/does care about me, if I was special to him at all, or if I'm just a pawn in his ridiculous game.
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Call the fucking cops and get a restraining order. jesus christ.
 
Sofo said:
Is it really that much of a deal to everyone or are you guys just being half-funny about it? o: I'm honestly asking because when I was single I didn't care that much for it (and it's not like I care a whole lot now, I just treat it like a day to be cute and grateful!).
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I think it's more of a region thing. I've observed spanish guys here like you, beje or me don't think of it as anything special. I think it's a common thing calling it "El Corte Inglés day", isn't it? At least, that's what I've been hearing all my life, and that's exactly what I think lol. In Japan, however, if I can trust all doramas & anime I've seen, people got pshycotic in Valentine's day. It seems like if you don't receive your chocolate, you're the lamest shit in the world lolololol

Said that, I'm not really sure what the majority of people in America think about it.
 
Marius_ said:
Thats nice and all
not sure if serious
but I been banned twice now so I might be walking a thin line, so I would appreciate it if you wouldn't copy my avatar because I wouldn't want one of your post associated with me due to an avatar.
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Mods look at your username, not your avatar dude.

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