Why I'm Making My Husband Miss The Super Bowl

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SteveWinwood said:
Oh I completely agree. I'm not taking her side at all. It's just the thread started getting side tracked by 'I don't get sports' and 'You can't talk about sports unless you've lived it' posts.
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You and me oughta rap about sports sometime, Winwood.
 
It's not clear if he actually gave up working at the Super Bowl or just watching it. If he had to give up working it that's kind of messed up. The freelance photography market is incredibly competitive and intentionally missing a job can lead to a client going with someone else in the future.

If it was just a matter of watching the Super Bowl for entertainment then I'd just watch it later. But I'm not an NFL fan so whatever. College ball 4 life.


RDreamer said:
And if you demand that you celebrate on one specific date and at a specific time during which an important event is happening that your spouse enjoys quite a bit, then you've got some problems too.
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True. The wife's refusal to even entertain the idea of compromise (and bragging about it to the Internet) is a bad sign. If they can't work out a happy solution for something this simple then they're doomed when confronted with REAL problems.
 
Wow, what an insecure control freak.

They should have just married in mid-february, and this would've never been a problem.

Every weekday, I get up before 6:30 am to take the dog out because Josh has trouble sleeping. Plus, he gets back/foot rubs almost any time he because I know that his photo work is very physical and requires lots of strength.
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Yeah, that sounds really exhausting. She's like a modern Mother Theresa!

Better grant him a blowjob flatrate until valentine's day.
 
Angry Grimace said:
I guess I'm the only one who thinks she sounds like an unreasonable ball buster. My wife would never attempt any kind of command like that because she isn't an asshole. We would just do it on Saturday because anniversaries have no independent significance and can be rescheduled, but the NFL isn't moving the final game.
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I think the majority of us think exactly how you do.
 
SteveWinwood said:
Oh I completely agree. I'm not taking her side at all. It's just the thread started getting side tracked by 'I don't get sports' and 'You can't talk about sports unless you've lived it' posts.
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I think you misunderstood what I was saying. All I'm saying is that GAF's semi-instinctual reaction of "Sports are dumb. Girl! Why sports when girl?!?!" is really grating.
 
I can understand why he wants to watch the Super Bowl but honestly, he's a Texans fan. And it's a pretty lame matchup regardless of your favorite team. I wouldn't have stressed out over missing the Steelers play the Cardinals because I'm a Redskins fan and I really would not have cared. Besides, it's their first year anniversary. It's a pretty special event. He can miss a damn sports game.
 
If he agreed to it it's fine, if it was THAT awful he should have had the balls to put his foot down. Plus she did agree to watch 90 minutes of the game with him at the sports bar, so it's not like he's missing it entirely.

But it's kind of weird that she finds it so offensive to merely move the anniversary dinner to the day before. Anniversary dinners can be moved. My parents frequently have anniversary dinners off the proper date to accommodate my fathers hectic work schedule. Sometimes I have to move my yearly anniversary to a different day, because I'm working overtime or something. It's about intent, not the day. You guys remember the day, so it doesn't matter if you actually do it on the exact day, exact hour, exact minute and exact second you got married.

But this guy works in sports, and it's quite clear from the article it is immensely important to him... maybe even the reason he got into sports photography. You can't move the superbowl. You can never have a second chance at seeing the sports history being made live on TV. It's just bizarre she would go into this marriage knowing this and not just shift the date by 24 hours.
 
Mr. Serious Business said:
I can understand why he wants to watch the Super Bowl but honestly, he's a Texans fan. And it's a pretty lame matchup regardless of your favorite team. I wouldn't have stressed out over missing the Steelers play the Cardinals because I'm a Redskins fan and I really would not have cared. Besides, it's their first year anniversary. It's a pretty special event. He can miss a damn sports game.
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Damn. You really aren't a football fan are you?
 
Angry Grimace said:
I guess I'm the only one who thinks she sounds like an unreasonable ball buster. My wife would never attempt any kind of command like that because she isn't an asshole. We would just do it on Saturday because anniversaries have no independent significance and can be rescheduled, but the NFL isn't moving the final game.
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nah, I kind of agree. It's probably not the first time she's laid out an ultimatum, either, so he's dug his own grave with that one.
 
Chichikov said:
The issue is not missing the Superbowl, it's keeping stupid tabs on what each person had to give up and who walked the dog when; this is an extremely unhealthy way to run a relationship.
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Yup. It seems that she's doing what I see an alarming number of women do and acting like kindergartners where the girl twists the guys ear to do what she wants. Definitely not healthy.

I don't really get sports, but I do get hobbies and I've yet to see a relationship where one partner tries to squash/trump other people's hobbies that doesn't end in divorce or infidelity or at least with one partner resenting the other.
 
I'm not married, and I don't give a shit about sports, but I really don't see what the big deal is about celebrating the anniversary the night before or something. She does sound like a control freak.

Insisting that the wedding (and anniversaries) be around the date of the superbowl when the guy's career revolves around sports is a little suspect.
 
She sounds pretty controlling. The whole article has this "Ha, I won! I forced my husband to give up something he likes just to please me!" attitude.

They both had reasonable, but mutually exclusive, desires, so somebody was gonna have to give something up. It just rubs me the wrong way that the title of the article is, "Why I'm Making My Husband Miss the Super Bowl," and not something like, "Why My Husband Gave Up the Super Bowl for Me". She should be bragging about her husband being a pretty cool husband for missing the Super Bowl this year just for her happiness, but instead she's bragging about herself being a cool wife for considering letting him have his way.
 
I guess I don't understand this as I am a woman who loves football, and my husband actually cares nothing for the sport. But since getting together with me, my husband has made it a point to learn more about it and even watch games with me. It means a lot when your spouse tries to show appreciati­on and participat­ion in something you enjoy. I have tried to repay that kindness in some of the things he enjoys that I am not as much a fan of. I think people place too much importance on anniversar­ies and holidays in general. I celebrate every day I am with my husband, I do not need it to be the exact day something happened years ago to make it special for me. But every person, and indeed couple, is different and must find their own balances and harmonies in life together. However, this path would not have been my own, but that is what makes humanity so diverse.
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This is the right comment, from the article's comments section. Hope the author reads them and learns a thing or two about REAL relationships so she can save her marriage.

I love how she is not only getting smack from doods on neogaf but is getting her ass handed to her by other GURLS on the site. GOLD
 
brucewaynegretzky said:
I think you misunderstood what I was saying. All I'm saying is that GAF's semi-instinctual reaction of "Sports are dumb. Girl! Why sports when girl?!?!" is really grating.
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I agree with that too.

I was just saying it could be about anything. The only reason its about the super bowl is because of today, and she'll get hits on the post. The overall thing here is that she is being unreasonable. Breakfast was always how my parents celebrated their anniversary because they would always have shit to do later.
 
My wife and I have two anniversaries.

One is on the day of our wedding, but we didn't actually sign any legal paperwork because we were dealing with immigration and whatnot. But after we got married and she was stopped at the border and had to go through with the Visa, I came back and we got married for real a week later.

So we have two dates for that, and it's somewhere in the middle when we actually celebrate.

And Valentines Day is the week after because we were doing long distance for our first V-Day, and she came out to visit me the week after.

Regardless, if I wanted to do it a day/week earlier/later, it would be fine. Who cares? It's a day.
 
peterb0y said:
Damn. You really aren't a football fan are you?
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I don't really care that much unless I have a personal investment in at least one of the teams playing. I wouldn't spend a Sunday afternoon watching the Browns play the Seahawks. Now I will agree wholeheartedly that her attitude sucks but both events are pretty special and she would clearly prefer going out for dinner.
 
Mr. Serious Business said:
I don't really care that much unless I have a personal investment in at least one of the teams playing. I wouldn't spend a Sunday afternoon watching the Browns play the Seahawks. Now I will agree wholeheartedly that her attitude sucks but both events are pretty special and she would clearly prefer going out for dinner.
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What is it that you care about in life?
 
As others have said, I don't see this relationship lasting for any more than a few years. When the whole relationship is based on keeping track of the "sacrifices" (walking the dog, not watching a football game), you know it's destined to fail eventually.
 
Mr. Serious Business said:
I don't really care that much unless I have a personal investment in at least one of the teams playing. I wouldn't spend a Sunday afternoon watching the Browns play the Seahawks. Now I will agree wholeheartedly that her attitude sucks but both events are pretty special and she would clearly prefer going out for dinner.
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Two things -- You seem to not be a big fan (which is perfectly fine), but this story isn't about football at all.

Second -- Celebrating their anniversary is obviously important to her, and probably to him as well. But why does that have to entail a dinner?
 
Amir0x said:
But it's kind of weird that she finds it so offensive to merely move the anniversary dinner to the day before. Anniversary dinners can be moved. My parents frequently have anniversary dinners off the proper date to accommodate my fathers hectic work schedule. Sometimes I have to move my yearly anniversary to a different day, because I'm working overtime or something. It's about intent, not the day. You guys remember the day, so it doesn't matter if you actually do it on the exact day, exact hour, exact minute and exact second you got married.
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This sound irrational to me, but so is watching the Super Bowl sounds to some people, so I'll grant her that.
But for fuck's sake, you should not be so joyful and proud when you make your spouse give up something that they really really like.
That's unhealthy.
 
She better put it on him once they get home, and then afterwards they can snuggle up and watch the game in bed.
She better be a Tigress, too.
I see nothing wrong with that scenario.
 
Don't understand why they didn't plan the marriage a week earlier or just celebrate on the day that it's not the Super Bowl.

I don't even care about football, and I can see why it's important. Like others have mentioned, it's not so much the game results as it is watching it with friends.
 
This is a horrible, horrible woman. Have anniversary dinner Saturday night, that way you can get drunk, stay up late, etc. Instead she insists it be on the actual anniversary, Super Bowl Sunday.

It's just a fucking game, but it's also just a fucking date on the calendar.
 
Gigglepoo said:
Two things -- The Browns can't play the Steelers in the Super Bowl, because they're in the same conference. You seem to not be a big fan (which is perfectly fine), but this story isn't about football at all.

Second -- Celebrating their anniversary is obviously important to her, and probably to him as well. But why does that have to entail a dinner?
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If you'll notice I said the Seahawks (who are in the NFC), not the Steelers. And from an objective standpoint, if she really doesn't like football then I don't see why her idea of spending the anniversary is so much worse than watching the super bowl. But I'm clearly in the minority here so I really don't want to be this thread's punching bag for the next page.
 
I don't give a fuck about football, the Super Bowl, or sports in general, but even I can relate to this guy. Sucks to be him.
I'm pretty sure my wife would be capable of working something out with me if I had something super-important to me going on one our next anniversary. Not only is there the option of planning it for the day before, but why not plan it earlier? Go out and have a nice dinner, then go watch the game together. Boom! Both people win.
I mean, planning the dinner during the event on purpose and then trying to seem like the good guy by saying "Oh, I'll let him watch 90 minutes of it at the bar?" Well, it's so nice of you to find it in your good graces to allow him even that. Come the fuck on...
 
Why don't people make a point when they first start dating for stuff like this? It's just a game but that's not the point--it's the principle of the matter.

I make concessions to make my girlfriend happy as she does for me.

Really, every ex I have can be attributed to stuff like this. It can't be all give from one side. Hell, I once dumped a girl because she gave me shit for playing Just Cause 2 the day it released. We spent the day before doing things she wanted to do with the understanding that the next day would be me time. After about two hours of play time, she came in to my den and started making catty comments about how the Xbox must be prettier than her.

I reminded her of our agreement, but she kept it up. After another hour of this, I told her to gtfo of my apartment and leave her set of keys. I recognize control issues when they come about.

Current lady friend is all about the 50/50. :)
 
Keep in mind that she specifically planned the wedding right around the time that the superbowl happens. They could have just had it a week or two later.

At first I thought she had some good reasoning. But when I read he was a sports photographer, I was on his side.
 
The dumbest part is where she actually believes she is being a "Cool Newlywed Wife" by giving him one highly unlikely scenario in which he could have escaped her own domineering directive, the date of which is entirely arbitrary (i.e., it's just 365 days after the day that was most convienent last year).

Why on God's Green Earth would it be so important to utilize that exact day to go out to dinner, as opposed to just doing it the night before?
 
Angry Grimace said:
The dumbest part is where she actually believes she is being a "Cool Newlywed Wife" by giving him one highly unlikely scenario in which he could have escaped her own domineering directive, the date of which is entirely arbitrary (i.e., it's just 365 days after the day that was most convienent last year).

Why on God's Green Earth would it be so important to utilize that exact day to go out to dinner, as opposed to just doing it the night before?
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And then she ROOTED AGAINST THAT SCENARIO.
 
Angry Grimace said:
The dumbest part is where she actually believes she is being a "Cool Newlywed Wife" by giving him one highly unlikely scenario in which he could have escaped her own domineering directive, the date of which is entirely arbitrary (i.e., it's just 365 days after the day that was most convienent last year).

Why on God's Green Earth would it be so important to utilize that exact day to go out to dinner, as opposed to just doing it the night before?
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Why not just go out earlier!?!? I still don't get why they can't do BOTH!? This girl makes no sense other than "I want to celebrate my anniversary." I get that. I really do. But why the hell does it have to be EXACTLY as she wants to? She's given up almost nothing and gotten almost everything she wants.
 
Actually, something just occurred to me.

Why can't they cook a nice dinner together at home and then watch the game together?

That way everyone wins.
 
brucewaynegretzky said:
I think they are certainly less qualified, and are generally worse at it if that's what you're getting at. There are certainly those who do it well, but they are far from the norm. Typically players/coaches are just better analysts. You wouldn't let someone who never operated machinery train factory workers unless you had a good reason to think they could. That's typically how I approach commentators.
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Played in the NHL for 8 years, is a nice guy but fucking sucks at being an analyst.
 
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