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[Opiate]

A few things:

1) I'm not particularly inclined to indulge predilections that are meaningless just because you happen to like them anyway. For example, if you had an absolute fascination with high fashion, I wouldn't consider it appropriate to blow off important events for that -- I don't mind people engaging in trifling entertainment as long as they recognize it for what it is, and plan accordingly. Similarly, an ultimately silly game like the Super Bowl is irrelevant when compared to other, more objectively meaningful activities.

2) However, this is not just a predilection for the man in question: he is a sports photographer, so this crosses over in to professional duty, to some extent. It is no longer simply trivial entertainment.

3) In addition, anniversaries are not important in themselves, either; they are a symbol of fidelity and love, but those admirable qualities could be celebrated at any time for any reason. In other words, fidelity and love are genuinely relevant qualities; a symbol of those qualities is not. I would be much more sympathetic to this woman if she felt that her actual love and fidelity were threatened in some way, rather than symbol of them.

 

[YuriLowell]

What a cunt.

 

[PBY]

3) In addition, anniversaries are not important in themselves, either; they are a symbol of fidelity and love, but those admirable qualities could be celebrated at any time for any reason. In other words, fidelity and love are genuinely relevant qualities; a symbol of those qualities is not.

^This is a great point.

 

[Sho_Nuff82]

First year in and she's already bitching about him watching sports?

I foresee a long and happy marriage.


Cause the game is so fucking sacred that no asshole man can miss it for the world!
Fuck significant others and friends, I have to watch men tumble.

If this topic was about the World Cup final and the writer was European, the responses would be exactly the same.

Going on a power trip in your first year of marriage is bad. "Keeping score" of chores and favors in a relationship is bad ("OMG I walk your dog every day, and you can't take me to ONE dinner?"). Guilt tripping is bad. Rooting against your significant other's favorite team out of spite is bad.

As it's already been said, celebrating an arbitrary milestone like a one year anniversary on the calendar day of the wedding doesn't strengthen your relationship any more than celebrating it on Saturday would have. But in the back of his mind (or even openly, if he's a dick), he will resent her for it.

 

[Onemic]

He gets to watch the game for 90min at a bar after the dinner, which she said would be early......soooo, what's the problem again?

 

[wenis]

Ok this guy figured it out there are no problems here, he married her so everything she decides to do he must conform to, mods close this thread please.

Seriously bro it seems like people change quite often when they get married, maybe she wasn't like this beforehand?

If she wasn't like this before the marriage than she's even worse than previously thought. She's duplicitous and manipulative. Really great signs for a partner in marriage.

 

[GhaleonEB]

Not a very healthy way to manage the relationship. In particular:

This year, as the season went along, I started to realize that Super Bowl might actually continue to be a threat.

A threat? Thinking of something your husband cares about and wants to enjoy as a threat - something in competition with you - is downright perverse. He agreed to that date for the wedding, but why she needs to hang it over him for every year thereafter I do not understand. It's such a strange way of managing a relationship.

Glad she compromised a bit, but that's a strange way to think of things.

 

[brucewaynegretzky]

A few things:

1) I'm not particularly inclined to indulge preferences that are meaningless just because you happen to like them anyway. For example, if you had an absolute fascination with high fashion, I wouldn't consider it appropriate to blow off important events for that. In other words, I don't mind people engaging in trifling entertainment as long as they recognize it for what it is, and plan accordingly.

3) In addition, anniversaries are not important in themselves, either; they are a symbol of fidelity and love, but those admirable qualities could be celebrated at any time for any reason. In other words, fidelity and love are genuinely relevant qualities; a symbol of those qualities is not.

The connection bolded between these two is pretty relevant. The Superbowl isn't "important," but neither is the anniversary really. The only "importance" either has is what each person places on each. The man not wanting to celebrate on the exact day doesn't say anything about how he feels about his wife.

 

[Mushroom021]

If my husband and I's anniversary was on Superbowl sunday I would of had dinner the night before in case they lost and it really upsets him and ruins a night of dinner or sex. Its a big game, I know thats what makes him happy and I wouldnt take football away from him.

 

[Blair]

Actually, after reading the article again, I will admit I was wrong. Maybe it was the Kim Kardashian reference. Maybe it was when she actually admitted that she rooted against her husband's favorite team. Or maybe it was when she stated that she specifically wanted the wedding on February 5th when she easily could have had it on, say...February 12th. Okay, fine. She wants to have a winter wedding because Texas is hot enough already. Sounds fair. But last I checked it's still about the same temperature on the 12th of February versus the 5th. I can understand her wanting to have dinner on her anniversary and all but she seemed to have known this would be a problem even before they married. She didn't even compromise back then.

My mistake. I am now on team Super Bowl.

yeah that bit made me laugh the most

My husband's immediate response to this date: "But wait, Babe, the next day is the Super Bowl. We need to think about this." Josh has been a freelance photographer for Sports Illustrated and ESPN the Magazine and has actually been on the field for a Super Bowl, so I understood that this was a big deal for him. And yet I wasn't going to let a football game -- even the football game -- get in the way. We went ahead with that plan

"BUT BAAAABE" lol nope

 

[tranciful]

Paltrow mentioned that she comprises a lot in her marriage this week. I had to google it.

I'm just baffled as to why random celebrities are chosen as this lady's moral compass.

 

[BronzeWolf]

He gets to watch the game for 90min at a bar after the dinner, which she said would be early......soooo, what's the problem again?

There is literally no need for compromising.

 

[apana]

It's not the end of the world either way but this wife should chill out a bit.

 

[LordCanti]

He gets to watch the game for 90min at a bar after the dinner, which she said would be early......soooo, what's the problem again?

That's not even half the game if you add in the half time show, and all the pre-game stuff.

 

[kevm3]

just a bullshit petty test she is putting him through. i would have a knock-down drag-out fight with my gf if she tried to pull something like this.

Yeah, pretty much it's one of those nonsense tests women put a man through to gauge the level of control in a relationship. He gives in here and she's going to keep on pressing. Watch next year, she'll probably pull the same thing.

 

[Aesius]

I fucking love it when these self-entitled brag rants completely blow up in the author's face.

I hope she feels like an idiot now after seeing all of this backlash.

 

[Yaboosh]

He gets to watch the game for 90min at a bar after the dinner, which she said would be early......soooo, what's the problem again?

It isnt about the game, it is about everything surrounding the game. He will be missing that stuff because he is at the restaurant.

 

[BertramCooper]

I can't wait for the follow up "Why I divorced my controlling harpy of an ex-wife" post. Wonder if Huffington will publish it.

Of course HuffPo will publish it.

It's not like they have, you know, standards or anything.

 

[Bellamin]

Her article has nothing to do with the Super Bowl. She's bragging about having her husband whipped. To add insult to injury, she let everyone know by writing about it on HuffPo. This has fuck-all to do with sports. It's about her gleefully bragging about having dominance in their relationship.

 

[Onemic]

There is literally no need for compromising.

True, I would think he wouldn't care as much because his Texans lost and he'll probably be getting some for missing the first half of the game and going to dinner instead. It's a worthwhile trade.

If they truly wanted to fit both in they should just have dinner at the restaurant at 5. I highly doubt they would stay there long enough for him to miss the opening of the game.(7:30)

 

[shadowsdarknes]

How dare she?
You know how much this means to him. If she really cared, she would let him be happy. Your anniversary can be celebrated the day before or after. You don't DVR a Super Bowl game. SMH at those comments.

Yes, a wife is more important than a super bowl, but this is not like she's going in for surgery and needs his support on Feb 5. No. Nothing even remotely close. How can you take something that means so much to someone? Marriage is about compromise, and this is certainly an easy fix.

 

[Plexirvones]

He can still watch all this.

 

[SoulPlaya]

This woman seems a little too preoccupied with celebrity marriages, and has a fucked up definition of what a "sacrifice" is.

 

[LordCanti]

He can still watch all this.

O_O

I must watch this.

 

[freenudemacusers]

maybe she wasn't like this beforehand?

A show like Bridezillas demonstrates otherwise.

 

[BronzeWolf]

True, I would think he wouldn't care as much because his Texans lost and he'll probably be getting some for missing the first half of the game and going to dinner instead. It's a worthwhile trade.

There is no trade. She is giving up nothing. He is probably giving up camaraderie with his pals

 

[Xeke]

Hmmm...I went to high school with a girl who is a friend of hers on facebook. So I know a girl who is "friends" with her...

 

[akira28]

uh you know the aniversary next year would be a tuesday right? Not every aniversary they have will be on the superbowl or during superbowl weekend.

lies.

 

[WanderingWind]

I fucking love it when these self-entitled brag rants completely blow up in the author's face.

I hope she feels like an idiot now after seeing all of this backlash.

No way. She'll call misogyny on the male detractors, ignore the women calling her out and laugh at all the hits she's getting.

 

[BronzeWolf]

lies.

She will want to go out on sunday cause Tuesday is busy day

 

[akira28]

She will want to go out on sunday cause Tuesday is busy day

She'll like the ambiance of the almost deserted restaurant, and will make it a tradition, since she loves feeling like they're the only two people on Earth.

 

[Xeke]

Prediction for the night. He refuses to budge from the bar once that 90 minutes is up and has had a lot to drink, huge fight. She storms out. He stays at the bar drinking more and they are divorced in a month.

 

[Aesius]

No way. She'll call misogyny on the male detractors, ignore the women calling her out and laugh at all the hits she's getting.

Yeah, that negative attention really worked well for the "I packed my lunch for work once, OMG it was HARD!" NYC socialite and the "I know how to succeed as a poor black kid" fat white guy in Forbes.

HuffPo will "benefit" from this controversy, but this bitch won't.

 

[bengraven]

I hate people who say "it's a sports thing".

Fuck you. Some people take sports waaaay too seriously.

 

[Risible]

just a bullshit petty test she is putting him through.

Yeah, I have to kinda agree with this.

I don't give two shits about sports, but this guy obviously does. Hell, it's part of his job.

And then she decided she just has to have that particular wedding day and has to celebrate on what is arguably the biggest sports-related day in the U.S.? C'mon, son.

 

[LordCanti]

Prediction for the night. He refuses to budge from the bar once that 90 minutes is up and has had a lot to drink, huge fight. She storms out. He stays at the bar drinking more and they are divorced in a month.

My prediction: He asks her to put the leather dress on a bit early. In the heat of the moment, he rips it off of her, and they make sweet, sweet love. Afterwards, he informs her that the reservations have been canceled, that he wants a divorce, and that he's going to a friends house to watch the Super Bowl.

 

[Onemic]

There is no trade. She is giving up nothing. He is probably giving up camaraderie with his pals

The thing about this though, is that they are both situations that are one time things. If you miss the superbowl, that's it. You have to wait until next year, taping it and watching it later isn't the same. The same goes for an anniversary celebration, if you miss it, the feeling and sentiment that came from that day is gone and you'd have to wait until the following year to experience it again.

The wife was dumb for suggesting a wedding date that is so close to the superbowl and the husband is dumb for going along with it. In a situation like this they should both compromise to some degree so that they both get what they want. If she really wants a dinner, it should be early enough for him to not miss any significant time from the superbowl, if any at all. A dinner isn't even necessary even, they could just do something special together that she would love that doesn't encroach on the time that the superbowl starts.

Please excuse my rambling. I'm ultimately for the dude on this one, I just understand where the wife is coming from.

 

[Opiate]

How dare she?
You know how much this means to him. If she really cared, she would let him be happy. Your anniversary can be celebrated the day before or after. You don't DVR a Super Bowl game. SMH at those comments.

Yes, a wife is more important than a super bowl, but this is not like she's going in for surgery and needs his support on Feb 5. No. Nothing even remotely close. How can you take something that means so much to someone? Marriage is about compromise, and this is certainly an easy fix.

A question: why couldn't this argument be exactly reversed?

He knows how important the anniversary is to her. If he really cared, he would make her happy. You can DVR a Super Bowl Game. You don't celebrate your anniversary days afterwards; SMH at those comments.

Your husband is more important than an anniversary dinner, but this is not like he's going in for surgery and needs her support on Feb 5. No. Nothing even remotely close. How can you take something that means so much to someone? Marriage is about compromise, and this is certainly an easy fix.

Just to be clear: I'm not necessarily endorsing this point of view (in fact, I definitely am not). I just don't endorse your position, either.

 

[Orayn]

I hate people who say "it's a sports thing".

Fuck you. Some people take sports waaaay too seriously.

It's far too late now. This thread has passed the event horizon.

 

[brucewaynegretzky]

I hate people who say "it's a sports thing".

Fuck you. Some people take sports waaaay too seriously.

O yeah and this entire message board isn't a testament to people taking a hobby "waaay too seriously." ::

 

[Vice]

What an asshole. Her next article is probably going to be "How I killed my husbands career by making him miss shooting the NBA playoffs for my Birthday"

 

[CliqWriter]

I wonder if he knows she wrote that article.

 

[Deleted member 22576]

I didn't even know it was the super bowl until now.

 

[DY_nasty]

"Just ask Kim Kardashian."

No, fuck that.

 

[freenudemacusers]

I hate people who say "it's a sports thing".

Fuck you. Some people take sports waaaay too seriously.

*posts links to review score meltdowns*

 

[Sho_Nuff82]

I wonder if he knows she wrote that article.

I wonder if she really thinks her audience can't deduce that she was rooting for the Bengals and/or Ravens.

 

[Takao]

He can still watch all this.

FINALLY

 

[SonnyBoy]

"Why I'm making...". That's the part that I'd have an issue with. You make a child do stuff, adults come to a compromise. I wouldn't have a problem with this if we discussed it and came to an agreement. But what won't happen is you telling me what I'm going to do, Lolol. Cus you will be told to to go kick rocks.

 

[DY_nasty]

"Why I'm making...". That's the part that I'd have an issue with. You make a child do stuff, adults come to a compromise. I wouldn't have a problem with this if we discussed it and came to an agreement. But what won't happen is you telling me what I'm going to do, Lolol. Cus you will be told to to go kick rocks.

I love how she starts by talking about compromise too.

 

[Sho_Nuff82]

Any wife who brags about back rubs and foot rubs probably doesn't give head.