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I can't believe so many people take V-day seriously. I say we petition to get it cancelled, it looks like its only function is to make the single people depressed.

Lets focus on the real celebration that's round the corner............. Pancake day!

So how does everyone eat their pancake. I have it with some lemon juice and lots of sugar.
 
Peanut butter, strawberry or peach jam, and a bucket or two of syrup.

Absolute favourite pancakes have to be blueberry buttermilk, so rich and the tang of the berries is lovely.
 
GothPunk said:
I watched a bit of those Kaya videos you linked, damn that is one glamorous man, haha! I'll make sure to check out more of their back catalogue, it's just so pricey. Some of these guys have amazing voices alright. Then you have bands like Nightmare and The Gazette who I listen to more for the music than the singers vocal talent (as their vocalists are nothing special really).
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Indeed, Glamorous, talented, and gorgeous. Kaya is just....amazing. (especially his laugh)


*hugs Cheezmo* What's wrong buddy?
 
Koomaster said:
Why hello thar other pokemustache avatar! ^___^ /
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Good day sir! And what a fine moustache you're wearing.

Do you think one day you'll evolve into this?

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GayGAF, would you continue conversing with someone who gives passive answer to almost every one of your question? This guy contacted me a week ago and while I'm lukewarm about him, I was quite happy to reply to him. But then I find out that his response seems kind of short/lazy and not conducive to conversation. Am I wrong to assume that he's no longer interested? The thing is, he contacted me again this week. But again, if I ask something, he just gives short answer instead of responding with another answer or elaborating it/encouraging me to ask something else.

I've had bad experiences with guys who just answer when they're being asked and swore to myself not to ever bother much with those kind of people because usually all they talk about is themselves aka they never bother to ask about the other person's life. To me some of the best people I know are the ones who throw questions/jokes at me in the same frequency as I ask them questions/jokes. I think that shows that not only the person likes you, he wants to know about your life. Is it wrong not wanting to be in a situation where you're the one who keeps initiating the conversation?

Is it wrong to assume that short answer usually means the other person is not as invested in the convo? In that case, why should I even bother? But this morning, I saw that the guy checked my page again and I feel guilty for not responding to his last short answer message.

/livejournal
 
CHEEZMO™;35141437 said:
Sounds kinda like me.
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LOL. Yes, that's the kind of response that I got. Short and....leading to nowhere, which frustrates me.

When you do that, are you actually not interested in the convo or you just don't know how to converse more?
 
SomeoneCool said:
I can't believe so many people take V-day seriously. I say we petition to get it cancelled, it looks like its only function is to make the single people depressed.

Lets focus on the real celebration that's round the corner............. Pancake day!

So how does everyone eat their pancake. I have it with some lemon juice and lots of sugar.
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either this or with maple syrup
 
Replicant said:
GayGAF, would you continue conversing with someone who gives passive answer to almost every one of your question? This guy contacted me a week ago and while I'm lukewarm about him, I was quite happy to reply to him. But then I find out that his response seems kind of short/lazy and not conducive to conversation. Am I wrong to assume that he's no longer interested? The thing is, he contacted me again this week. But again, if I ask something, he just gives short answer instead of responding with another answer or elaborating it/encouraging me to ask something else.

I've had bad experiences with guys who just answer when they're being asked and swore to myself not to ever bother much with those kind of people because usually all they talk about is themselves aka they never bother to ask about the other person's life. To me some of the best people I know are the ones who throw questions/jokes at me in the same frequency as I ask them questions/jokes. I think that shows that not only the person likes you, he wants to know about your life. Is it wrong not wanting to be in a situation where you're the one who keeps initiating the conversation?

Is it wrong to assume that short answer usually means the other person is not as invested in the convo. In that case, why should I even bother? But this morning, I saw that the guy checked my page again and I feel guilty for not responding to his last short answer message.

/livejournal
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I hate that kind of people, what kind of possible future could you have with someone who doesn't even know how to have a conversation early on?
These people have made me stop contacting others on dating sites, I just let them come to me, considering they are interested, they should know how to keep the conversation alive. If they can't, good riddance.

Anywho, you should not feel guilty for not responding, he should feel guilty for not giving you something to respond to.
 
He could just not be a talker.
Some people like to keep conversations short and sweet.
You could try and goad a full conversation out of him.
If he has a topic he really likes, he'll begin to open up.
 
Could you provide an example? Did you both talk online or over the phone?

There are people that don't like talking a lot online, but overt he phone or in person are completely different and talk way more. So, who knows.

If in's in person, well.. I'm usually in the position were I'm the one that even when I'm don't like talking much, I still end doing the talking, looking for topics and conversations to try to get the other part interested. Then end been seen as desperate for that; so ..I don't know. :p


Though, agree with Ace.
In the end, some people just dont talk much; so in that aspect it will be you the one that has to start topics and eveyrthing, to have him open up about stuff.
 
King Endymion said:
I hate that kind of people, what kind of possible future could you have with someone who doesn't even know how to have a conversation early on?
These people have made me stop contacting others on dating sites, I just let them come to me, considering they are interested, they should know how to keep the conversation alive. If they can't, good riddance.

Anywho, you should not feel guilty for not responding, he should feel guilty for not giving you something to respond to.
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AceBandage said:
He could just not be a talker.
Some people like to keep conversations short and sweet.
You could try and goad a full conversation out of him.
If he has a topic he really likes, he'll begin to open up.
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Okay, two opposite suggestions...damn it, what to do? I am tempted to just be honest and tell him about this. But I don't want to offend him but oh well, if he can't take honesty at this stage of whatever this is, then I don't see the point of continuing this.

EDIT: I gave him the benefit of the doubt and just told him what I thought. If I can talk about it to you guys, I should be able to to talk about it to him. Thanks again for the comments and suggestions.

fernoca said:
Could you provide an example? Did you both talk online or over the phone?

There are people that don't like talking a lot online, but overt he phone or in person are completely different and talk way more. So, who knows.

If in's in person, well.. I'm usually in the position were I'm the one that even when I'm don't like talking much, I still end doing the talking, looking for topics and conversations to try to get the other part interested. Then end been seen as desperate for that; so ..I don't know. :p


Though, agree with Ace.
In the end, some people just dont talk much; so in that aspect it will be you the one that has to start topics and eveyrthing, to have him open up about stuff.
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That's the thing, I don't like trying too hard when the other person isn't trying. I did that with a few people few years ago and I swore off never to do that again. Unless there's equal reciprocation, I don't see how there can be any communication.
 
I don't think Google can decide whether I'm gay or straight. Sometimes the ads for "Singles in your area" are men (even when not in this thread) and sometimes they're women.

If they could see my full internet history there would be no question.
 
Replicant said:
Okay, two opposites suggestions...damn it, what to do? I am tempted to just be honest and tell him about this. But I don't want to offend him but oh well, if he can't take honesty at this stage of whatever this is, then I don't see the point of continuing this.

EDIT: I gave him the benefit of the doubt and just told him what I thought. If I can talk about it to you guys, I should be able to to talk about it to him. Thanks again for the comments and suggestions.
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Yeah, definitely talk to him about it.
If he's offended, then he's not worth it.
Otherwise, he'll probably say something like "Oh, sorry, I'm just not good at this."
 
Fantastical said:
I don't think Google can decide whether I'm gay or straight. Sometimes the ads for "Singles in your area" are men (even when not in this thread) and sometimes they're women.

If they could see my full internet history there would be no question.
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Nearly all my ads are "dating services" for whatever type of woman.

Yesterday I got one for Cosmo :|

Edit: lololol, just got "Chat to men!"
 
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Stupid PSN store needs to update. Raaaage.

Google ads at least stay out of the dating range for me. Guess they know I'm going to die alone and unloved.
 
@Replicant - Some people just aren't that good with small talk really, I'm a bit like that, some one would come up to me to chat and I either just agree with them or laugh, or say something that's not conductive to the conversation whatsoever, it's only after they've walked away that I've thought a better reply, but by then it's too late
And you also said he's shown interest again in talking to you? Like coming to you and then not being responsive when you respond back to him? Maybe it's just like how I said, he's interested but isn't a big talker

Or, he could just be an attention whore and like when you show an interest but he's got no interest in replying himself (and if so, has nothing worth saying anyway!)
 
Replicant said:
GayGAF, would you continue conversing with someone who gives passive answer to almost every one of your question? This guy contacted me a week ago and while I'm lukewarm about him, I was quite happy to reply to him. But then I find out that his response seems kind of short/lazy and not conducive to conversation. Am I wrong to assume that he's no longer interested? The thing is, he contacted me again this week. But again, if I ask something, he just gives short answer instead of responding with another answer or elaborating it/encouraging me to ask something else.

I've had bad experiences with guys who just answer when they're being asked and swore to myself not to ever bother much with those kind of people because usually all they talk about is themselves aka they never bother to ask about the other person's life. To me some of the best people I know are the ones who throw questions/jokes at me in the same frequency as I ask them questions/jokes. I think that shows that not only the person likes you, he wants to know about your life. Is it wrong not wanting to be in a situation where you're the one who keeps initiating the conversation?

Is it wrong to assume that short answer usually means the other person is not as invested in the convo? In that case, why should I even bother? But this morning, I saw that the guy checked my page again and I feel guilty for not responding to his last short answer message.

/livejournal
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Lemme ask you this: when your interested on someone don't you take the effort to ask questions, answer questions, converse about all kinds of topics, try to keep the conversation going cuz the thought of ending the interaction makes your heart sink? If the other person isn't doing the same and acting in a mutual way then he's not interested. Don't waste your time.

Btw: wish me luck guys. About to meet up with the ex
 
Replicant said:
GayGAF, would you continue conversing with someone who gives passive answer to almost every one of your question? This guy contacted me a week ago and while I'm lukewarm about him, I was quite happy to reply to him. But then I find out that his response seems kind of short/lazy and not conducive to conversation. Am I wrong to assume that he's no longer interested? The thing is, he contacted me again this week. But again, if I ask something, he just gives short answer instead of responding with another answer or elaborating it/encouraging me to ask something else.

I've had bad experiences with guys who just answer when they're being asked and swore to myself not to ever bother much with those kind of people because usually all they talk about is themselves aka they never bother to ask about the other person's life. To me some of the best people I know are the ones who throw questions/jokes at me in the same frequency as I ask them questions/jokes. I think that shows that not only the person likes you, he wants to know about your life. Is it wrong not wanting to be in a situation where you're the one who keeps initiating the conversation?

Is it wrong to assume that short answer usually means the other person is not as invested in the convo? In that case, why should I even bother? But this morning, I saw that the guy checked my page again and I feel guilty for not responding to his last short answer message.

/livejournal
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If its in person, it could be shyness. If it's via text, don't waste your time. Unless you're looking for a quick fuck, which he's probably waiting for you to suggest.
 
SpaceBridge said:
Lemme ask you this: when your interested on someone don't you take the effort to ask questions, answer questions, converse about all kinds of topics, try to keep the conversation going cuz the thought of ending the interaction makes your heart sink? If the other person isn't doing the same and acting in a mutual way then he's not interested. Don't waste your time.

Btw: wish me luck guys. About to meet up with the ex
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Hope it goes well, Space.
 
SpaceBridge said:
Lemme ask you this: when your interested on someone don't you take the effort to ask questions, answer questions, converse about all kinds of topics, try to keep the conversation going cuz the thought of ending the interaction makes your heart sink? If the other person isn't doing the same and acting in a mutual way then he's not interested. Don't waste your time.

Btw: wish me luck guys. About to meet up with the ex
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That's exactly why I'm hesitant. I mean I'm not actually that interested in him but I took the time to word my answers so if he can't do the same then that indicates disinterest at the very least. Oh well, I've told him about it so the ball is in his court.

Good luck with the ex!

Rez said:
If its in person, it could be shyness. If it's via text, don't waste your time. Unless you're looking for a quick fuck, which he's probably waiting for you to suggest.
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It is via text. And that's something I didn't consider. In that case, I'd say "No, thank you". I'm not that desperate for sex plus it sounds like he already has a partner but I didn't want to ask because it may be considered rude.
 
Well since the BF lives an hour away we decided to celebrate valentines during the weekend, we took at trip out to KC and went to dinner at McCormick & Schmick's and stayed up there for the day. Felt kind of weird being that, he remembers going out to eat with his EX there which kind of left a bad taste, but he said he didn't want to gamble going somewhere else... Though thoroughly enjoyed spending quality time with him. Grr exes.
 
ayeorkean said:
Well since the BF lives an hour away we decided to celebrate valentines during the weekend, we took at trip out to KC and went to dinner at McCormick & Schmick's and stayed up there for the day. Felt kind of weird being that, he remembers going out to eat with his EX there which kind of left a bad taste, but he said he didn't want to gamble going somewhere else... Though thoroughly enjoyed spending quality time with him. Grr exes.
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Exes are exes for a reason. If he's with you now that's because you're better than his exes.
Probably shouldn't have told you he went there with his ex though.
 
Alcoori said:
Exes are exes for a reason. If he's with you now that's because you're better than his exes.
Probably shouldn't have told you he went there with his ex though.
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He had mentioned he ate there before. So it piqued my interest and I asked with who, he didn't really want to say. Trying to put myself in his shoes, seeing if I would do the same. It's that feeling when you really want to know, but you know you shouldn't.
 
ayeorkean said:
He had mentioned he ate there before. So it piqued my interest and I asked with who, he didn't really want to say. Trying to put myself in his shoes, seeing if I would do the same. It's that feeling when you really want to know, but you know you shouldn't.
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If he told you he hated it without giving a reason then its possible he knew he was open to tell you that even before :P
 
I just got a Valentine's Day greeting pix message text from a friend and it was of a man's balls, sitting on top of his legs, in the shape of a heart. LOL. It definitely lit up my mood.
 
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