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I am too. It's what got me this way. But things have picked up and I've been feeling better about myself. I just don't know what caused this mood swing these past few days. I think it's for the better because I'm coming more to terms with myself.
 
AceBandage said:
Adelaide?
She does a fundraiser for herself now?
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Naw, it's just her signature drink.

trimon said:
I'm 25. I've fooled around with a few guys before but, nothing serious.
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Come the fuck out. Make an OKC account. Find a dude to have a relationship with.

I'd tell you to stop being such a pussy about it, but I'd probably get banned. Even if you're not fully comfortable exploding the door of your closet with an m-80 like I did, you can always just make the okcupid account and let potential partners talk you into coming out. I got two guys uncloseted like that this year :P

I might sound like kind of an asshole, but you're overdue here. It's time to forget the past, forget any regrets about not coming out earlier, and start having relationships.
 
Lucario said:
Come the fuck out. Make an OKC account. Find a dude to have a relationship with.

I'd tell you to stop being such a pussy about it, but I'd probably get banned. Even if you're not fully comfortable exploding the door of your closet with an m-80 like I did, you can always just make the okcupid account and let potential partners talk you into coming out. I got two guys uncloseted like that this year :P

I might sound like kind of an asshole, but you're overdue here. It's time to forget the past, forget any regrets about not coming out earlier, and start having relationships.
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You... might?
Plus, you basically said "I won't say you are a pussy, but you are a pussy" :\

Not everyone's situation/family/environment is the same. He should do it at his own pace, not rush into things as long as he feels at ease with himself and has support when needed.

Friendships before relationships sounds like a good plan, trimon.
 
Sagitario said:
You... might?
Plus, you basically said "I won't say you are a pussy, but you are a pussy" :\

Not everyone's situation/family/environment is the same. He should do it at his own pace, not rush into things as long as he feels at ease with himself and has support when needed.

Friendships before relationships sounds like a good plan, trimon.
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I see this far too often in the computer science industry and in graduate students to not react to it strongly. The fact of the matter is, many people who haven't come out by college feel like it's too late to come out, like their lives will change massively for the worse afterwards.

Aside from a few cases of people from highly religious or bigoted families, coming out doesn't hurt anything. I've helped more than my fair share of guys through the process, and a bit of pressure is a good thing. I just hate to see otherwise happy people living a lie due to bullshit social pressures and fear of change. Trimon; do not think any of the anger in my posts is directed at you. It's anger at the fearful society we live in where gay bashings are massively publcised, where homophobia is rampant in parts of society. I'm not going to lie and say you won't face hardships down the line. I do not come from a wealthy neighborhood, I've lost track of how many times I've been confronted and called a faggot on the street or at school. Sometimes people are just assholes; it's a fact of life you'd have to live with closeted or uncloseted.

The bottom line is, however, you want to come out and start to have meaningful relationships, and now should be the time to do it. You are ready. You're fearful, but you're ready, and it saddens me that people are effectively suggesting for you to continue living a lie if that's working out for you.

I don't care how you come out, how comfortable you are with it, or how slowly you ease yourself into it. Just come out. Unless your parents are religious zealots, your life will get no worse, and you'll finally be able to live a natural life without lying to your friends about thinking "that girl over there sure is hot" or not.

The fear of coming out is how 40 year old republican homophobes drilling holes in bathroom doors are made. Don't turn yourself into one of them.

(my apologies if this is full of spelling and grammar errors. My computer is broken so I'm typing this out on a phone.)
 
I'm new to this thread :P I'd like to talk but I'm uncomfortable doing it in a public forum like this one. Do you guys have a chatroom or something like that?
 
hxa155 said:
I'm new to this thread :P I'd like to talk but I'm uncomfortable doing it in a public forum like this one. Do you guys have a chatroom or something like that?
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Yeah we have a skype chat room, add my tag ricky.bailey6. I will add you to the group chat

Welcome to the thread and don't be uncomfortable, besides the minor drama that happens in this thread you're surrounded by good people :)
 
I've never really had a close friend to talk serious with, so the problem I've always thought is who to come out to. I really want to avoid the parents for now. I think I'd get more support from maybe my sister and brothers.
 
trimon said:
I've never really had a close friend to talk serious with, so the problem I've always thought is who to come out to. I really want to avoid the parents for now. I think I'd get more support from maybe my sister and brothers.
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You'll know.
Either you'll feel is the right time, you'll know is the right time; or you'll think is.. :p
One of the first..."friends" I told, thinking that the friendship would be better since we already had a great time and I wanted to stop the whole "girls you like" kind of talk; he ended not only using my shoulders and legs as a punching bag, or screaming insults every time he could; but also using me as a wallet to pay everything he wanted. On top of his mother using

Or could just happen..casually.
The 4 main friends I have which I've known for over 15 years, they all knew. :p
2 of them talked about it when we were hanging out at the beach and started asking me about guys I liked; the other 2 asked me while hanging out randomly (one while we were driving to his house to play Xbox 360; the other while we were out with his wife and daughter.

And they all too kit and talked about it as t was something normal, rather than "OMG you are?!!"
 
hxa155 said:
I'm new to this thread :P I'd like to talk but I'm uncomfortable doing it in a public forum like this one. Do you guys have a chatroom or something like that?
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Most of us are on the neogaf tinychat thing at night, I think the channel name is tinygaffers. Usually half or more of the people there are gay men.
 
When I came out to everyone else this year I had this devious plan where I would tell certain people and the word would hopefully get out through gossip. Turns out everyone I told was respectful to my privacy. Assholes lol
 
Masamuna said:
When I came out to everyone else this year I had this devious plan where I would tell certain people and the word would hopefully get out through gossip. Turns out everyone I told was respectful to my privacy. Assholes lol
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lol, that's what I thought too. I was like "Oh, didn't you know?" turned out, they didn't! I thought I was pretty obvious too. I mean, being 20 and never had a girlfriend or commenting on the womenz? You'd think my friends would figure it out, but nope!

Also, I do play SoulSilver atm, but I kinda suck and Lugia is a bitch to catch/keeps suiciding on me.
 
I guess I could take my guy out for some steak tomorrow for his birthday. But that would be implying a rather short itinerary for after dinner affairs....

That and i'm still broke and I can't cook. BAH!
 
BeesEight said:
So... when do you guys ever play games?
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My gaming habits shrunk dramatically for the past few months. Trying to get back into it now that things have evened out. Let a buddy borrow SC5 after Final Round and i'm piddling about with SFxT at the moment. Started Asura's Wrath last night and Tales of Graces shipped today :)
 
Ever since I got an Iphone Ive been neglecting my handhelds (3ds and Vita). I keep buying games and just shelve them. Such an idiotic thing to do too.

I am going through Mass Effect 3, and before that cleared FF13-2. So my consoles still get some attention from me.

edit: so just wanted to update my experience with that Badoo app/site. I was under the impression that while there was dating aspects to it, i thought you could make friends too. Well I was wrong. Most of the messages I got was guys looking for dating or hook ups, even though I was pretty explicit I wasnt looking for either. I didnt really go out of my way to seek out friends since most of the gay guys on there were looking again for sex/dating. I was also really uncomfortable with the way that you could see who was nearby to you and vice versa. So, I guess when Im ready to date I may try it out, but to look for friends, well not so much. *sigh*
 
It was fun finally meeting someone from gay gaf, the movie (Safe House) was shitty so we just talked and fucked around on grindr the whole time.

Then we went to Barnes n Noble and my inner geek came out as I saw Mario plushes & figures, I wanted to buy them but it was best for me not to lol.

Rafa <3
 
Sagitario said:
Guys, get Tales of Graces &#402;!
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I kinda want to but I barely played Tales of the Abyss so not sure if I really like the series yet even though they are different games. Hope it doesn't become rare by the time I buy it! :/

Anyway today...

I was at work today and this cute guy walks in and I give him "the look" and I can tell he is interested in me. Then he says "You're Scott, right?" and I was like "Yeah I am. Am I supposed to know you or something?" and he whispered "It's me Robert, from grindr." I didn't recognize him because he looked way thinner than his display pic and on there his name was his middle name.

I remember I told him where I worked but I got so red in the face lol. Anyway, I wrote down my phone number on a piece of paper and gave it to him. When he was leaving we kept smiling at each other.

Then I went back on grindr and reinstalled the app because I wasn't sure if it was him or someone else and it turns out he messaged me right when I got on it again saying he was surprised that I was there today at work lol.

Anyway, supposed to go "hang out" with him next week. :)
 
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