Was it the singlet that made you fall in love?
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Does he, too, have a pink furry avatar?
Seems like a good opportunity to join a gym/Greko-Roman wrestling class.
Can't you just fuck CHEEZMO and get it over with? lol
Cosmic Bus
pristine morning snow
But that would mean other people touching me. Ew.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
*poke*
Push in quick before he notices
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
I'm in...okay what now?
MOVE THEM HIPS GURL
oh god
That just means you'll be easily susceptible to anyone's touch. Since you haven't been touched in a long time, you'll be paralyzed by human contact.
That -- I remember that feeling. The warmth. Oh god. No. I feel . . . good.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
Bel Marduk
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GayGAF please help me.
I'm in a bit of an awkward situation. I'm going to visit my grandparents in a couple months and my grandpa has no idea I'm gay. He's the only person who I never told and its because he's not only homophobic but extremely racist. I always tried to avoid the subject but now I am married and feel like I can no longer hide it and that I shouldn't hide it. I want to bring my husband but I'm afraid he's going to freak out because I'm gay and he is Latino.
I've always seen it as a moral obligation for all gay people to come out.. and I'm feeling like a major hypocrite for not doing this but I don't think there's any way to change his mind about this.. he's 90 years old and this may be the last time I see him.
Ugh.. so conflicted. Any advice?
I'm in a bit of an awkward situation. I'm going to visit my grandparents in a couple months and my grandpa has no idea I'm gay. He's the only person who I never told and its because he's not only homophobic but extremely racist. I always tried to avoid the subject but now I am married and feel like I can no longer hide it and that I shouldn't hide it. I want to bring my husband but I'm afraid he's going to freak out because I'm gay and he is Latino.
I've always seen it as a moral obligation for all gay people to come out.. and I'm feeling like a major hypocrite for not doing this but I don't think there's any way to change his mind about this.. he's 90 years old and this may be the last time I see him.
Ugh.. so conflicted. Any advice?
That good, huh?
I know, let's all post pictures of ourselves in our singlets (assuming you have one)!
I'm not going to post a picture of myself in a singlet
I've only had one grandparent growing up, and she's still around today. I've never told her I'm gay and I don't plan on it. Partly because she barely speaks English and I wouldn't really know how else to explain it to her. I don't even thinks she knows of the concept of gayness. Soo... errr... do what feels right.
I have the same situation with my grandmother.
I decided to never tell her. We aren't that close, and if she's homophobic or it'd really disappoint her, I really don't feel like it's morally right to burden her with news she may not care for this late in life.
It's too late to tell her now, since she doesn't even remember who I am at this point... =\ Do I regret it?
... Kind of.
This wasn't very helpful. I'm sorry =\ It's a tough moral decision.
Naw. I decided to be a lesbian with Cheezmo. Two supersubmissive girly twinks can work as a relationship dynamic, right? XD
Oh lawd. I have such a thing for men in wrestling singlets.
I have literally nothing else to add to discussion. Sorry 'bout it.
He's still texting? Guy's truly a grade A douche. I'd probably just block him. You can block people on cellphones right?
Well, if you want to tell them then go for it.
But if you're only telling them because of some principle and not because you actually want them to know, I have to wonder about your motivations. I don't think you would be considered "in the closet" if only your grandpa isn't informed. As you said, he's far too old to be changing any of his world views at this stage. Personally, I wouldn't bother, but then again all my grandparents are already dead.
So, I guess my advice is do what you want but I don't think you're a hypocrite if you don't tell them.
Bel Marduk
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Thanks for the advice, everyone. I think I won't do it.. because it may be the last time I see them and I want it to be pleasant for everyone.. Grandma already knows but she has Alzheimer's and I have to tell her each time she asks me why I don't have a girlfriend.
MidnightScott
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Wow I am nervous...my stomach is hurting lol.
I have a date tonight with a 36 year old man. I find him attractive and funny, but damn I am so nervous. I trimmed my body hair and I'm fixing to go get a haircut. (I've never done this stuff before)
Gonna wear my jeans, dress shirt, and my dockers.
We are gonna go eat somewhere, get some drinks, and maybe go back to his place for more drinks and a movie later on.
I have a date tonight with a 36 year old man. I find him attractive and funny, but damn I am so nervous. I trimmed my body hair and I'm fixing to go get a haircut. (I've never done this stuff before)
Gonna wear my jeans, dress shirt, and my dockers.
We are gonna go eat somewhere, get some drinks, and maybe go back to his place for more drinks and a movie later on.
Fixed that for you.
Have fun though, and remember to wear a condom or make him wear one if fun is to be had.
GasProblem
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Have fun Scott 
MidnightScott
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Yeah we might fuck, only if there is chemistry though. He said he isn't looking for a hookup and I said neither am I. But yes I'll make sure he wears a condom, I felt trashy after last week.
SpaceBridge
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Uggh... I've been dating recently and I'm having the hardest time. I posted an ad on Craigslist and i've gotten a few hits back but nothing that sticks. Anyway, I have gone on a date with one guy and we get a long really well. We're both sarcastic and progressive people but physically he is not my type. I have another date with him tonight and I don't really want to go but i'm trying to not be superficial.
I have found this dating process to be so difficult that I have asked myself what if I can't find better? and I end up alone, but at the same time I feel like I don't want to settle either.
Is anyone else is this boat? What do you guys think I should do? Pursue it or move on?
Thank you.
I have found this dating process to be so difficult that I have asked myself what if I can't find better? and I end up alone, but at the same time I feel like I don't want to settle either.
Is anyone else is this boat? What do you guys think I should do? Pursue it or move on?
Thank you.
lordfroakie
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Guess all that stuff about "never hooking up", "just looking for friends", were lies after all.
RatskyWatsky
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Last week you had sex with someone and didn't use a condom?
You're not feeling it so it's better not to lead him on. If you got along with him and think you could be friends, tell him just that. You can't fake attraction and don't settle, not only would that be mean to him, but it wouldn't be fair to you either.
I think some people should cut Scott some slack and stop being all holier than thou. He's young and inexperienced and the only way he will gain relationship/dating experience is by putting himself out there and actually meeting up with guys IRL.
I think it's a good thing that he's exploring what's out there and goes out on dates. As long as he's safe and feels like it, there is also nothing wrong with hooking up with the people he's dating.
Also Scott, and I can't stress it enough, ALWAYS use a condom when you have sex with people. You should go get tested if you haven't done so yet just to be sure you didn't catch nasty STDs.
Bel Marduk
Banned
Yeah it really sucks..
lordfroakie
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Dead Prince
Banned
leave him alone bro.
Hecatonchires Custom
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So one of my coworker/friend asked me if I wanted to be a dad since she wants another kid and I'm with a guy and we obviously can't. That came out of fucking nowhere.
Dead Prince
Banned
maybe she wants a gay smart kid?
Hecatonchires Custom
Member
A hot gay smart kid you mean. But seriously, it took me completely off-guard and creeped me out a bit.
You've never gotten a hair cut? Get on that, hippy!
But in all seriousness, have fun.
The first time I read this, I thought she was offering one of her own kids. Very strange.
Why do you guys care so much about Scott's life? Not sure if I'm seeing only half of the issue here, since I don't use Skype, but I guess he's just not looking for a relationship. He'll get tired of his current rythm of dating/hooking up sooner or later (hopefully STD-free) and mature.
What bugs me of him is that he's treating these hook ups as a relationship, when he even knows they're not that. I just get mixed signals of what he wants, which is really annoying if you have to give any advice.
Anyway Scott, have healthy fun and share the pics with fernoca.
What bugs me of him is that he's treating these hook ups as a relationship, when he even knows they're not that. I just get mixed signals of what he wants, which is really annoying if you have to give any advice.
Anyway Scott, have healthy fun and share the pics with fernoca.
I think you just answered your own question.
Bel Marduk
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;D ...like everyone should.
Eh I had my reasons for caring. Known him for years before he was here along with vic. So having him just not listen to anyone and do whatever even If It hurts him kinda got to me. But as others said here he's grown he can do whatever he wants. I wont say anything to whatever he does.
Well, I just think people would be happier if they didn't care that much for what others do. I'm relatively new to GayGAF as a poster, but I think we tend to judge (and I include myself here) others too often.
I know it's easy to get annoyed at some posters who whine, complain, are self-centered, but I think some people just complain about them to jump into the bandwagon and fit in. I'm not going to lie, I get annoyed by some of the posters here (who doesn't!?) but I refrain myself out of respect of others. This is supposed to be a community and maybe I'm being too naive to think that we should help/motivate each other. The world is mean enough without support!
I know it's easy to get annoyed at some posters who whine, complain, are self-centered, but I think some people just complain about them to jump into the bandwagon and fit in. I'm not going to lie, I get annoyed by some of the posters here (who doesn't!?) but I refrain myself out of respect of others. This is supposed to be a community and maybe I'm being too naive to think that we should help/motivate each other. The world is mean enough without support!
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DR2K
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Already beat you to it.
Went through a whole drawer of socks last week!
And this is why we love you Alco. How long ago was it that Scott came out? Almost everyone does silly things when they have their sexual awakening, including not wearing a condom.
YES it's a stupid thing to do and YES we should remind each other to always practice safe sex, but the fact is that it DOES happen from time to time. People get drunk/high and have sex, lust clouds their judgement or maybe you just trust, perhaps naively, that the guy is clean.
We all make mistakes.
Yes and yes. There are more judgements being handed down here than in the Supreme Court at times, and usually the only crime being committed is going out there and living your life.
Not that I support snap judgement of people (or those who are mean for the sake of being mean). However, if you choose to post about your private life on a public forum, you are in essence giving anyone who bothered to read it the right to respond, be it positive or negative. Not to mention the fact that a lot of these discussions are stuff I bet they wouldn't reveal to their friends and family. So if you're going to post, don't take the replies personally. Otherwise don't bother and save your fragile ego. It's really simple.
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