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Now we're on the subject.

I recently saw Christopher and his Kind. It's about a British writer living in Berlin during the 30s, when you've got this weird mix of complete decadence and a breeding ground for culture and arts, and on the other hand the growing underlying intolerance that's growing and the Nazi's gaining popularity.

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It isn't a masterpiece or anything, but I enjoyed it anyway. Partly because I find Germany in the Interbellum fascinating, partly because the story and some of the characters are engaging, partly because there's some man candy in there...
 
Haha - holy shit Weekend is depressing.

I was just about to recommend that; it's good, though. I had to turn on the subtitles at some points because they speak so quietly, but overall I enjoyed it.


While we're on the subject, I remember people saying you really enjoy either Regular Show or Adventure Time, but not both equally and I think it's true. I definitely enjoy Regular Show far more, but I think the art style of Adventure Time is better.
 
Sorry but you're stereotyping.

I lost 35lbs last year, and being physically fit and healthy is important to me.

If you just wanna lay around and eat del taco when I wanna do yoga and go hike runyon canyon, there are issues.

I didnt say he wasnt attractive, I said it might not look like he takes his physical fitness seriously. I am not asking for 6 pack abs, but I am expecting a level of personal care.
Then you phrased it poorly. If you're looking for someone who's more physically active, then you'll have to get to know what his routine is first and go from that. Going from looks alone is not really enough.
 
I didn't like Adventure Time, then I saw that Future Finn cosplayer, now I'm in love. <3

So many Finn cosplayers.... The last con I went to, they were outnumbered only by pikachus. I really had no idea Adventure Time was so popular, but it apparently is either that or Finn's is a very easy costume to make.
 
I was just about to recommend that; it's good, though. I had to turn on the subtitles at some points because they speak so quietly, but overall I enjoyed it.



While we're on the subject, I remember people saying you really enjoy either Regular Show or Adventure Time, but not both equally and I think it's true. I definitely enjoy Regular Show far more, but I think the art style of Adventure Time is better.

I can honestly say that I enjoy both of them equally but its kind of difficult to compare because besides both being cartoons, they're completely different. If I had to pick though, it would probably be Adventure Time. Or not.. it's very difficult to choose.. Good thing they come on right after each other on mondays.
 
Happy together is like my favourite movie of all time <3

And Love Of Siam had me crying like a byatch for how pure and real it felt

Also, if i can give some suggestions

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Also kinda enjoyed Scud's "Permanent Residence" and "Amphetamine" (Byron Pang, is like, PERFECTION, just look for the shower scene, jesus) and the third movie should be coming this year "Love Actually Sucks" <3
 
I was just about to recommend that; it's good, though. I had to turn on the subtitles at some points because they speak so quietly, but overall I enjoyed it.



While we're on the subject, I remember people saying you really enjoy either Regular Show or Adventure Time, but not both equally and I think it's true. I definitely enjoy Regular Show far more, but I think the art style of Adventure Time is better.

AT has a far more coherent story and world than RS. And that is what pushes it ahead for me.
 
Best feeling in the world to me.
Definitely, my arms are still aching from yesterday's workout, I love it. I think I shall call it 'swag-pain'. #SWAG

The best is when you do deadlifts and you feel that tightness in your back that makes you have great posture all day.

As for gay movies, the last one I watched was last year some time, called 'Shank'. I think I've posted about it before in this thread. It has some hot 'almost scoring my 'straight' friend' scenes, and when the main character (a British chav) meets his love interest (a French student who is more confident in his sexuality) they have some very cute scenes - e.g showering together.

Warning though, it does get a bit fucked up towards the end (Don't read if you're planning to watch the movie, plot twist spoiler!)
The straight guy rapes his friend in front of all their mates in an abandoned yard... yeah.

Even though the acting is a bit poor at times, it's worth it for watching a relationship develop and seeing the reactions of a gang to a gay member. The blow back scene between the main character and his 'straight' friend is also worth mentioning - no wonder I think blow backs are so hot now that I think of it.
 
Shank..the cover was quite bad (at least the cover around here..) but the movie was good. And the twist (not the one posted by GothPunk :p) about the teacher;
which turned out that his partner that was beaten to nearly death, was by the same group of friends of the main character
was interesting.

Made me remember about..Strapped. Really cool movie, came out of left field. Because for a low budget movie around a hustler trying to find the exit of an apartment one might expect it to be boring, etc. but it was not only well filmed, and well acted..but quite good too. And the main actor was quite great, really liked how he changed his character depending on who he was talking to.

And another vote for C.R.A.Z.Y. (plus like Call of Duty Black Ops, any ...media with 'Sympathy for the Devil' as part of the soundtrack gets bonus pints.. :p).
 
Damn I've had Mysterious Skin sitting on my shelf for 2 months now, must really get around to watching it. And JGL is unbelievably hot.

The film Beautiful Thing is pretty good, been years since I've watched it though. It's pretty realistic and has some sweet moments.
 
I was just about to recommend that; it's good, though. I had to turn on the subtitles at some points because they speak so quietly, but overall I enjoyed it.

I really liked Weekend. The hyperrealism style really punches you in the gut with it though. Thankfully, the ex was online and also really liked it so I was able to talk about it afterwards. We both had different takes on the final message though, but that has mostly to do with our different perspectives.

Definitely, my arms are still aching from yesterday's workout, I love it. I think I shall call it 'swag-pain'. #SWAG

The best is when you do deadlifts and you feel that tightness in your back that makes you have great posture all day.

Yeah, I absolutely love the sore feeling after a good workout. Maybe that just makes us all masochists, but I wouldn't trade it for anything else. Though, I think it might take some getting used to if you've never workout before.
 
Thanks. I doubt I'll still be this enthusiastic after my first time and having muscle aches in places I didn't know that existed.

It's a feeling you hate at first, but begin to love after few visits to the gym. :D

I remember the next day after my first workout I could barely move. In the bus, when I was sitting down and then, on the end stop, standing up, I was moving like an old man - slowly and carefully, while clutching a back rest :lol.
 
Haven't been keeping up with this thread very much recently, the other gay thread
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seduced me away with all the gifs.

But I see the current topic of conversation is weight, and that's relevant to me, so I thought I'd pop back in. I'm unfortunately in a situation that doesn't look too good with regard to my weight. My university started keeping tracking of it about a month ago because they thought I was underweight to the point of it being a health risk, and said they would send me home if I didn't get it up. The truth of the matter is that I'm on some medications that are making me lose the weight faster than I can put it on even though I'm really trying at this point.

At last week's weigh-in I was 1.2 pounds away from hitting the number where they finally tell me that I need to leave the school. Since they started evaluating me, I have only continued to lose weight, and I feel like I feel/look thinner right now than I did last week despite taking in significantly more calories this week. Getting weighed in a few hours and I have a feeling it's not going to go so well. =(

I will gif myself to make myself feel better and liven this place up.


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At last week's weigh-in I was 1.2 pounds away from hitting the number where they finally tell me that I need to leave the school. Since they started evaluating me, I have only continued to lose weight, and I feel like I feel/look thinner right now than I did last week despite taking in significantly more calories this week. Getting weighed in a few hours and I have a feeling it's not going to go so well. =(

Just to be clear, they want you to leave the school temporary, just so you can get better in home, not leave entirely?
 
Hi Gay-GAF!!!

I'm kind of new around here -actually, it's been almost a year but I just post occasionally here and there- though it's nice to read other people's stories. Right now I just need to get something off my chest so I come to you fellow GAFers looking for some words of advice if anyone has been in a similar situation. I just want to get this off my chest because it's been killing me for some time now.

I've been in a 5 year relationship with my BF. Things are pretty good, we love each other very much and have actually been living together for 8 months now. We do occasionally get into arguments but then again, who doesn't?.

Here's my situation: There's this guy a friend introduced me to around two years ago, we were at a party and just chatted for a bit about the Spice Girls and that was pretty much it (I'm a HUGE spice girls / Melanie C fan, he's a fan too so that's why my friend introduced us). I didn't really talk to him after that, though we followed each other on twitter.

In march 2011, I asked on twitter if anyone could bring me a 3DS from the USA, since things here in Venezuela are really expensive (around 3 times more expensive than importing). He replied to me, he was in the states until april because he was studying something. I thought it was an extremely nice gesture from him since we barely knew each other, but I trusted him because of my friend. We added each other on Whatsapp and then started chatting in a more regular basis. After a couple of weeks I got the feeling that he was kind of into me. I thought maybe I was just imagining things because he's been on a relationship too for about 3 years I think.

But he was writing me almost everyday and just being extremely nice/friendly to me, asking about "How my day has been" and stuff like that. We also talked about other things like TV, Music, etc. That went on for a few weeks until he arrived here. He went to my workplace to drop my 3DS off. He was with his Boyfriend which I thought was kind of awkward.

After that we didn't really talk much again (I was too busy not playing games on my 3DS) just occasionally. A couple of months ago we started chatting more often once again. One day we were talking about Spice Girls DVDs and he told me he didn't have a couple of DVDs that I have so I told him maybe we could do a spice girls marathon someday. He invited me to his apartment and that kind of freaked me out, because he didn't mention any of our boyfriends though maybe he was implying they would be there too. I usually do almost everything with my BF so I thought it would be kind of rude if I told him that I was going to this other guy's apartment on my own.

I let things cool off a bit, then we saw them (him and his BF) at his birthday and kind of started getting closer again. My boyfriend likes him a lot too since they share a lot of interests too. So we've been to the cinema a couple of times with them, which I thought was nice since we don't really have a lot of gay friends.

Now the real problem: for a few weeks there have been days I just can't stop thinking about him, which makes me feel really guilty and confused. I've had a couple of guys flirting with me in the past but I just didn't really give them attention and they faded off the radar after a while. I don't really know why I have been giving him more attention than the others, I think probably because:

1. He has a BF so I thought he wasn't actually flirting with me.

2. As I said we have a lot of things in common, maybe even more than I have with my BF, which is a rare thing since we already have so much in common.

3. Because my BF knows him and his BF and likes him.

I feel really bad sometimes because I feel I'm kind of cheating on my partner which is something I thought I would never ever do and was not in my nature. I don't even think I have feelings for him because I actually don't know him well enough. It's just some kind of weird chemistry. And every fucking TV show / movie we watch is always talking about true love, cheating, leaving an unhappy relationship for someone else and it makes me feel even worse.

I don't really know what to do. I do think the guy has feelings for me. Should I just cut off communication with him? Should I just give myself some more time and let it fade away? I just don't know how much longer I can take feeling this way. At least I think I feel slightly better now that I let it out of my system.
 
Temporarily, so you can get the medical help at home (if needed) and then go back to school when your weight returns to norm.

In theory, I suppose. But it would be very hard to come back. They'd want to put on something like 20 pounds, improve my grades at a community college, and possibly even go to some eating disorder rehab program. None of these are really feasible options for me.

I can't maintain my weight right now, so I don't imagine I'm going to be able to start putting on 20 pounds anytime soon. The medications I'm on could be switched, but that's highly unlikely. The rehab thing I wouldn't be willing to go to because I do not believe myself to have an disorder, so paying an exorbitant amount of money to treat a condition I don't have doesn't make sense to me. I'm paying for my own education (private school, ugh) so I'm already in debt and not looking to take on more unnecessarily. Going to community college doesn't work because I'm a senior and the only classes I still need to take are the specific ones within my major that the school requires me to take there, for the most part. Additionally, because my school is on the quarter system and all the community colleges around me are on semesters, the way that units transfer between them is uneven, which would result in me possibly having to take a full year of classes at community college before being able to return to my school.

It would just be a costly, time-consuming disaster in every sense if I were ousted now, but they've made it quite clear there's zero leeway in this situation. With a few hours before my weigh-in, I'm eating Nutella straight out of the jar, which has become customary for me now. The fact that I have to eat it makes it less delicious than you might think.

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In theory, I suppose. But it would be very hard to come back. They'd want to put on something like 20 pounds, improve my grades at a community college, and possibly even go to some eating disorder rehab program. None of these are really feasible options for me.

Drink LOTS AND LOTS (and lots) of water right before your weigh in. It should give you some added weight so maybe you can scrape by.
 
Drink LOTS AND LOTS (and lots) of water right before your weigh in. It should give you some added weight so maybe you can scrape by.

Good idea, but these guys are hardcore. I have to give a urine sample before every weigh-in so they can see if its content has an extremely high water content from doing exactly that. I also have to strip down completely and put on this thin hospital down (closer to a sheet), so that they know I'm not somehow attaching or carrying extra weight on my body. No anal cavity searches...yet. My hair been in dire need of a haircut for a while now, but I'm literally afraid of how much weight that will take off (The strands themselves are thick, and it's very dense).

Even if I do make it through this week's weigh-in, I have to actually start increasing my weight very soon if I want to make it through subsequent ones. And yes, I'm aware of how pathetic this all sounds, haha.
 
Good idea, but these guys are hardcore. I have to give a urine sample before every weigh-in so they can see if its content has an extremely high water content from doing exactly that. I also have to strip down completely and put on this thin hospital down (closer to a sheet), so that they know I'm not somehow attaching or carrying extra weight on my body. No anal cavity searches...yet. My hair been in dire need of a haircut for a while now, but I'm literally afraid of how much weight that will take off (The strands themselves are thick, and it's very dense).

Even if I do make it through this week's weigh-in, I have to actually start increasing my weight very soon if I want to make it through subsequent ones. And yes, I'm aware of how pathetic this all sounds, haha.

I saw it on a TV show once. An anorexic girl had to go to a weigh in, and that's what she did. lol

But damn, those guys do sound hardcore. Honestly, their protocol sounds a little excessive. Do you go to some sort of high security military academy or something?
 
This really sounds bad.

However, you sure that the medication you're on is the sole reason of the weight loss? Because it's really worrisome that you constantly keep loosing weight even despite eating more calories. I wish you that you manage to pass the exam, but I think you should really see a doctor anyway, because that sounds dangerous.
 
Damn I've had Mysterious Skin sitting on my shelf for 2 months now, must really get around to watching it. And JGL is unbelievably hot.

The film Beautiful Thing is pretty good, been years since I've watched it though. It's pretty realistic and has some sweet moments.

He absolutely is.. and its a great movie. Really disturbing in parts, but the character development is wonderful.
 
Haven't been keeping up with this thread very much recently, the other gay thread
Pop-GAF]
seduced me away with all the gifs.

But I see the current topic of conversation is weight, and that's relevant to me, so I thought I'd pop back in. I'm unfortunately in a situation that doesn't look too good with regard to my weight. My university started keeping tracking of it about a month ago because they thought I was underweight to the point of it being a health risk, and said they would send me home if I didn't get it up. The truth of the matter is that I'm on some medications that are making me lose the weight faster than I can put it on even though I'm really trying at this point.

At last week's weigh-in I was 1.2 pounds away from hitting the number where they finally tell me that I need to leave the school. Since they started evaluating me, I have only continued to lose weight, and I feel like I feel/look thinner right now than I did last week despite taking in significantly more calories this week. Getting weighed in a few hours and I have a feeling it's not going to go so well. =(

I will gif myself to make myself feel better and liven this place up.


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Can they even do this? I've never heard of a university keeping track of students' weight.. You should explain about your medications but really its not any of their business. Hope everything goes well for you.. but I'm pretty sure they can't legally kick you out for being underweight.
 

Hi !
Hmmm, that's a weird situation. You are asking yourself a lot of questions, and you feel like you cheat on your BF.
As far as I read, you didn't do anything that would qualify as cheating. However, you feel that way, and you can't stop thinking about him... So, pardon my questions, but are you happy with your BF ? Is he happy with his own BF ?
If both answers are "no", then yes, you may have an explosive situation on your hands.
If both answers are "yes", then you don't have to worry at all. Just view him as a cool friend and stop over-thinking things. Note: if it turns out he and his BF are in an open-relationship, you may want to clarify things with him if he truly flirts with you.
If yes/no : you may need to set up some distance between him and you, in order to calm down and focus on your couple, since he may put your relationship into jeopardy.
If no/yes : you're in a lot of trouble, and you definitly need to put some distance between the two of you, because there are good chances that this won't end well for you.

Overall, if you feel ill-at-ease with him and if you're positive he has feelings for you, you have to put some distance or clarify the situation with him, in order to avoid misunderstandings.
 
Hi Gay-GAF!!!

Hi! Welcome!

I think first and foremost, communication with your boyfriend is an absolute M-U-S-T. But, if this is something you think you can get over yourself by distancing yourself from this person, and it would save you more trouble by stopping things now before they get out of hand, then that's what you should do and save all parties involved a lot of explosive drama should things escalate.

However, if you think things are only getting worse, and if this guy continues to pursue you...then absolutely sit down and talk with your boyfriend. You guys have been together 5 years? It should be semi-easy to have a heart to heart with him, and if he's mature and not the jealous type, he should be willing to work things through it.

Either way, whatever you do, please do NOT, DO NOT, think you can sneak behind your boyfriend's back and have 'fun' with this guy without him finding out. One way or another he will find out, and probably know about it soon after it happens simply based upon your body language/attitude. I'm not at all saying you'd do something like that, I've just seen way too many instances in my personal experiences of gay guys that have this shitty attitude in relationships: "If they don't know, it won't hurt them". Be loyal to the guy you profess to love, because remember you can literally crush him with the choices you make.
 
Damn I've had Mysterious Skin sitting on my shelf for 2 months now, must really get around to watching it. And JGL is unbelievably hot.

The film Beautiful Thing is pretty good, been years since I've watched it though. It's pretty realistic and has some sweet moments.

He is ridiculously hot in that movie which makes it really strange considering what a fucked up character he plays. Movie is hard to watch at some parts.
 
So, pardon my questions, but are you happy with your BF ? Is he happy with his own BF ?
Yes, I am happy with my BF. I don't really know about him, he hasn't mentioned anything about that to me. I have no clue if he's in an "open relationship" either.

Hi! Welcome!
I think first and foremost, communication with your boyfriend is an absolute M-U-S-T. But, if this is something you think you can get over yourself by distancing yourself from this person, and it would save you more trouble by stopping things now before they get out of hand, then that's what you should do and save all parties involved a lot of explosive drama should things escalate.

However, if you think things are only getting worse, and if this guy continues to pursue you...then absolutely sit down and talk with your boyfriend. You guys have been together 5 years? It should be semi-easy to have a heart to heart with him, and if he's mature and not the jealous type, he should be willing to work things through it.

Either way, whatever you do, please do NOT, DO NOT, think you can sneak behind your boyfriend's back and have 'fun' with this guy without him finding out. One way or another he will find out, and probably know about it soon after it happens simply based upon your body language/attitude. I'm not at all saying you'd do something like that, I've just seen way too many instances in my personal experiences of gay guys that have this shitty attitude in relationships: "If they don't know, it won't hurt them". Be loyal to the guy you profess to love, because remember you can literally crush him with the choices you make.
I think the wisest thing to do might be staying away from him and seeing how I feel after a while.
I'm not so sure about talking to my BF about this, at least until I've got a better idea of what I'm going through. I do believe he's very mature and would probably understand but at the same time I think he would be devastated. He's always had some self-confidence issues and can be a bit of the jealous type at times, which might not be a good combination.

But I would never ever sneak behind his back like that. I've been really hurt by men in the past so I understand what it feels like, even if I wasn't actually cheated on.

We saw him yesterday at a club, he came over a few times where we were and danced with us for a bit. His BF was there too but we only said hi to him when he passed by us and didn't really see him again. I have to admit it was a bit awkward for me having him dancing there with us, even though we've danced with other friends in the past.

I just kept thinking about him for the rest of the night. That was kinda what got me to actually come here and talk about it.

I don't understand why I enjoy having someone else's attention while I already have my boyfriend's. My BF is extremely loving and kind to me. Am I just getting bored?

On the other hand I enjoy having someone else to talk sometimes. I don't really have many friends. I distanced from my high school friends when I met my BF. My friends from college are all gone except for one (due to our shitty economical/political situation).
 
Good idea, but these guys are hardcore. I have to give a urine sample before every weigh-in so they can see if its content has an extremely high water content from doing exactly that. I also have to strip down completely and put on this thin hospital down (closer to a sheet), so that they know I'm not somehow attaching or carrying extra weight on my body. No anal cavity searches...yet. My hair been in dire need of a haircut for a while now, but I'm literally afraid of how much weight that will take off (The strands themselves are thick, and it's very dense).

Even if I do make it through this week's weigh-in, I have to actually start increasing my weight very soon if I want to make it through subsequent ones. And yes, I'm aware of how pathetic this all sounds, haha.

I hate to be that guy... but I feel like we're missing a large part of this story. I know medication can cause weight-loss but you made it sound like they already are aware of your meds. And if that's the case, they should be taking it into account for watching your health. Furthermore, these tests of theirs sound very specific. Also, it seems strange that you would be eating lots of nutella to try and increase your weight when something like pastas, carbohydrates and protein would be far more effective than the empty calories of a spread.

I have to ask - what is your regular diet? What do you normally eat throughout any given day? What are your views on your body image?

In other news:

Just finished watching C.R.A.Z.Y. It is very much a French film. But also very well done. The characterization of most of the family was excellent. Though, the numerous allusions kept making me think that I was watching a movie for film class. I would also really recommend it as well though. And once Zachary got that tan...
 
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/04/21/chris-evans-on-gay-marriage_n_1442704.html?

Actor Chris Evans is currently in the middle of a publicity blitz for the film "The Avengers," in which he reprises his role as Captain America.

Among his many promotional interviews, Evans recently chatted with Playboy about everything from losing his virginity to his dental hygiene.

The actor, whose brother, Scott Evans, is gay and who Chris accidentally outed in an interview with The Advocate, also sounded off on his support of marriage equality and his disappointment that gay men and women are still unable marry in most states.

When asked about his feelings on marriage equality Evans stated:

"Are you kidding me? It's insane that civil rights are being denied people in this day and age. It's embarrassing, and it's heartbreaking. It goes without saying that I'm completely in support of gay marriage. In 10 years we'll be ashamed that this was an issue."

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I can't stand his acting, but I love the man.
 
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