RadioHeadAche
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I liked him in Scott Pilgrim.
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If you're starting to develop feelings for this guy (which seems possible/probable if you keep thinking about him), I think distancing yourself is a good idea unless you want to screw up your relationship (and screw up your partner).
Developing feelings for someone even if you're in a committed relationship isn't that uncommon, but you should handle the situation in a way that's respectful towards your partner. If possible, I think you should consider letting your BF in on all this. I think that's the responsible and mature way to go.
I don't like his films (though I definitly need to watch Scott Pilgrim), but...
Eye candy ! Me gusta !
Wait, this is the same Chris Evans as Captain America? He looks much better in this picture. Course, I may also be saying this because he kept his shirt on too much in the movie.
Just saw the Avengers. It was fun, if a little heavy on the comic book
Not a fan of the Skrull being the main focus of a potential sequel.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
I think it's his gay brother.
kitchenmotors
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Pretty much.
Really?
Man, I was just in the "If gay marriage should be legal, why not polygamy as well?" thread and... ugh. It's baffling that people would consider polygamists equivalent to homosexuals. Even after I tried explaining it, there were posters who thought that a woman loving a married man is the same love as same-sex.
I just... don't understand stupid people.
Well, despite my rather grim expectations, I not only 'passed' the weigh-in, but for the first time since I've been having to do it, my weight went up a little bit. It was a huge sigh of relief, but I've now begun to worry about my next one, likely Wednesday, sine my metabolism is probably increasing as I'm eating more. With only 2 pounds separating my current weight and the weight at which I would be asked to leave school, there is basically zero room to slide backward for any reason.
Well, it's a private school, so they get to make-up their own rules, and the school is pretty small too, which means they can feasibly track students in these situations. They are well aware of what medications I'm on, and have been in contact with my doctors, so it's not like they are ignorant to their effects. They never disregarded my explanations about the side-effects being the cause, they just had no way to of knowing it was the only cause.
As for the legality of the question, they are saying that if I drop to this particular weight, I will be putting myself in real danger because of anorexia's often times very harmful, permanent organ damage. If I am "allowing" myself to wither away from the effects of a very low body weight, they can then say I am an actual 'Danger to Myself' and likely have me committed for treatment.
I think I covered the first half of your post above, but let me know if you're still curious about something.
Their tests aren't specific to me at all. It's just their protocol for eating disorders here. Although I characterize the doctors are being "hardcore" about these tests, if they weren't being thorough and consistent in administering them, neither would the information be accurate nor would the monitoring prove useful if results could be easily manipulated. The Nutella thing has nothing to do with a doctor's recommendation. For one thing, I love that stuff, and I can use the small amount of 'mandatory' dollars on campus cafeterias/stores. As I mentioned, I'm a senior, so I burnt out on dorm food long ago, but since I have to spend some money, I might as well buy some things I can stick in the shelf for whenever. I'm not a busy person by any means, but I am very lazy, and rarely can be muster the energy to prepare myself something more respectable. One thing that made Nutella appealing to me as something to keep eating all the time was that each jar contains exactly 2,000 calories, which helped me gauge my intake for the day. It's not the only thing I eat, by any means, and I do eat healthier stuff as well, as long as it's super-quick!
I spend most of my time lounging and looking flawless, no time for cooking anywhere.
The doctor has also talked to me about nutrition and has encouraged me to drink Gatorade now, so I've got some massive 64 oz. plastic bottle I'm always working on. Not that I was thinking this at the time, but wouldn't empty calories be the ideal ones to be consuming for pure weight gain? Keep in mind I am not even "allowed" to exercise/try to build muscle because the increased physical activity would increase my metabolism as well, and cause my body to burn more calories before my starts requiring additional calories as my body adjusts to being moderately physically active.
My regular diet for the past five months has basically been whatever I feel like (usually not well though!). My body weight has hovered within the same range of about five pounds that entire time, no matter how much or how little I eat. The body image thing I guess a bit of an strange issue for me.
Prior to taking the medications that I am on now, I was on a different pair of anti-depressants. I had tried many other anti-depressants that either had no effect on me whatsoever or had awful side-effects that would drive my doctor to prescribe me a different one. From June 2009 until October 2010, I took these two medications that did help with my feelings of depression. It didn't happen right away, but after being on the medications for about two months, I noticed I had gained some weight. I didn't attribute it to the medication because side-effects usually occur very soon after starting a new medication. I attributed it to me being lazy, my poor diet, my metabolism slowing down now that I was done with puberty, and other rational explanations.
But by the end of the year, I realized the medications were causing my weight gain as the pounds started piling on at an unbelievable rate. In such a short span of time, the weight had turned me into a person who resembled nothing like my normal self. Because of the nature of one of the drug, despite my doctor's agreement about switching to a new one, I had to stay on for several more months to ensure I did not experience any withdrawal symptoms. From roughly February through September 2010, I was once again being cycled through anti-depressants to try and find one that would for me without causing me to gain weight.
On a personal level, I became a lot more reclusive because I was ashamed of how I looked, and even did try quite hard to lose weight through diet and exercise, but never saw any results. I prevented all of my Facebook friends from seeing my photos because I didn't want them see how large I had become. To this day, my photos still cannot be seen by others because I've had a few incidents where people have uploaded/tagged photos of me from that time now. (Assholes!) Similarly, I shied away from opportunities to hang out with friends because if I had not seen them for some time, like my college friends, I did not want them to see me like that.
By October of 2010, I had been on a new pair of medications for a little over a month and I could feel the medications starting to work now. As they reached maximum effectiveness two weeks later, this pair was helping with my emotional management in a way that made me realize that I had finally found my winning combo, and would probably have been satisfied with that. However, behaving almost exactly in same way as the fat-mads had, only in the opposite direction, I started losing weight without doing or changing anything. I suppose switching to numbers might be easier to follow than speaking in general terms.
Before the first medications, I was roughly 135 pounds (5'8" tall). While on them, I reached an all-high of 176.5 pounds. By the end of 2010 (2-ish months on new medication), I was down to 140 pounds. Those first 40 pounds which brought me back to my previous weight came off very quickly, but the rest of the weight loss was much more gradual. Over the course of 2011, I gradually continued losing weight until the very beginning of 2012. My weight has remained more or less fixed at 100 pounds this entire year.
Knowing how bad it felt to feel overweight is definitely something that still sticks with me, but I'm not looking to drop a few vanity pounds anytime soon or anything. I do fear for what will happen if/when I have to change or come off of my medications.
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Wow, sorry about that. I didn't realize I had written you a damn thesis in response to a few things you were wondering about until I hit "Preview Post" just now. Apologies for having those poorly integrated gifs, but this would be among the worst Wall of Texts I've ever seen if I didn't try to break it up somehow.
Well, it's a private school, so they get to make-up their own rules, and the school is pretty small too, which means they can feasibly track students in these situations. They are well aware of what medications I'm on, and have been in contact with my doctors, so it's not like they are ignorant to their effects. They never disregarded my explanations about the side-effects being the cause, they just had no way to of knowing it was the only cause.
As for the legality of the question, they are saying that if I drop to this particular weight, I will be putting myself in real danger because of anorexia's often times very harmful, permanent organ damage. If I am "allowing" myself to wither away from the effects of a very low body weight, they can then say I am an actual 'Danger to Myself' and likely have me committed for treatment.
I think I covered the first half of your post above, but let me know if you're still curious about something.
Their tests aren't specific to me at all. It's just their protocol for eating disorders here. Although I characterize the doctors are being "hardcore" about these tests, if they weren't being thorough and consistent in administering them, neither would the information be accurate nor would the monitoring prove useful if results could be easily manipulated. The Nutella thing has nothing to do with a doctor's recommendation. For one thing, I love that stuff, and I can use the small amount of 'mandatory' dollars on campus cafeterias/stores. As I mentioned, I'm a senior, so I burnt out on dorm food long ago, but since I have to spend some money, I might as well buy some things I can stick in the shelf for whenever. I'm not a busy person by any means, but I am very lazy, and rarely can be muster the energy to prepare myself something more respectable. One thing that made Nutella appealing to me as something to keep eating all the time was that each jar contains exactly 2,000 calories, which helped me gauge my intake for the day. It's not the only thing I eat, by any means, and I do eat healthier stuff as well, as long as it's super-quick!
I spend most of my time lounging and looking flawless, no time for cooking anywhere.
The doctor has also talked to me about nutrition and has encouraged me to drink Gatorade now, so I've got some massive 64 oz. plastic bottle I'm always working on. Not that I was thinking this at the time, but wouldn't empty calories be the ideal ones to be consuming for pure weight gain? Keep in mind I am not even "allowed" to exercise/try to build muscle because the increased physical activity would increase my metabolism as well, and cause my body to burn more calories before my starts requiring additional calories as my body adjusts to being moderately physically active.
My regular diet for the past five months has basically been whatever I feel like (usually not well though!). My body weight has hovered within the same range of about five pounds that entire time, no matter how much or how little I eat. The body image thing I guess a bit of an strange issue for me.
Prior to taking the medications that I am on now, I was on a different pair of anti-depressants. I had tried many other anti-depressants that either had no effect on me whatsoever or had awful side-effects that would drive my doctor to prescribe me a different one. From June 2009 until October 2010, I took these two medications that did help with my feelings of depression. It didn't happen right away, but after being on the medications for about two months, I noticed I had gained some weight. I didn't attribute it to the medication because side-effects usually occur very soon after starting a new medication. I attributed it to me being lazy, my poor diet, my metabolism slowing down now that I was done with puberty, and other rational explanations.
But by the end of the year, I realized the medications were causing my weight gain as the pounds started piling on at an unbelievable rate. In such a short span of time, the weight had turned me into a person who resembled nothing like my normal self. Because of the nature of one of the drug, despite my doctor's agreement about switching to a new one, I had to stay on for several more months to ensure I did not experience any withdrawal symptoms. From roughly February through September 2010, I was once again being cycled through anti-depressants to try and find one that would for me without causing me to gain weight.
On a personal level, I became a lot more reclusive because I was ashamed of how I looked, and even did try quite hard to lose weight through diet and exercise, but never saw any results. I prevented all of my Facebook friends from seeing my photos because I didn't want them see how large I had become. To this day, my photos still cannot be seen by others because I've had a few incidents where people have uploaded/tagged photos of me from that time now. (Assholes!) Similarly, I shied away from opportunities to hang out with friends because if I had not seen them for some time, like my college friends, I did not want them to see me like that.
By October of 2010, I had been on a new pair of medications for a little over a month and I could feel the medications starting to work now. As they reached maximum effectiveness two weeks later, this pair was helping with my emotional management in a way that made me realize that I had finally found my winning combo, and would probably have been satisfied with that. However, behaving almost exactly in same way as the fat-mads had, only in the opposite direction, I started losing weight without doing or changing anything. I suppose switching to numbers might be easier to follow than speaking in general terms.
Before the first medications, I was roughly 135 pounds (5'8" tall). While on them, I reached an all-high of 176.5 pounds. By the end of 2010 (2-ish months on new medication), I was down to 140 pounds. Those first 40 pounds which brought me back to my previous weight came off very quickly, but the rest of the weight loss was much more gradual. Over the course of 2011, I gradually continued losing weight until the very beginning of 2012. My weight has remained more or less fixed at 100 pounds this entire year.
Knowing how bad it felt to feel overweight is definitely something that still sticks with me, but I'm not looking to drop a few vanity pounds anytime soon or anything. I do fear for what will happen if/when I have to change or come off of my medications.
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Wow, sorry about that. I didn't realize I had written you a damn thesis in response to a few things you were wondering about until I hit "Preview Post" just now. Apologies for having those poorly integrated gifs, but this would be among the worst Wall of Texts I've ever seen if I didn't try to break it up somehow.
100 pounds?! I'm not surprised they'd send you home. A weight that low can't be healthy. I really hope you can get to a healthier weight soon.
Heck, even at my lowest (when I think I may have been 15 or 16) I weighed slightly more than that, and I was probably a couple of inches shorter back then as well.
Heck, even at my lowest (when I think I may have been 15 or 16) I weighed slightly more than that, and I was probably a couple of inches shorter back then as well.
Mystic Theurge
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No, this is his gay brother.
He played the delectable Oliver Fish on One Life To Live
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
No, this is his gay brother.
He played the delectable Oliver Fish on One Life To Live
Ahh, okay. He looks so young in that pic that I thought it was someone else!
No, this is his gay brother.
He played the delectable Oliver Fish on One Life To Live
You know... I'm still okay with this.
You're metabolism will probably adjust when you stop taking those medicines. You should worry about the present and try to gain weight like everyone has told you. I know it's not as easy as most people seem to think "just try to eat a little bit more" and all that stuff, but it seems like you don't have any options.
Right now I'm less than 100 pounds and even if I try to eat anything to gain weight I just can't. Maybe it's because I'm too lazy to try a proper diet plan
Damn gurl, werk! I was not able to enjoy life in the "Double Digit Club" before the weight observation period began. I hope you value it even more now knowing how quickly it can be taken away from you!
If I do end up being forcibly withdrawn over this, I'm going to be pretty damn upset. However, I do believe that it's much classier to be kicked out of school for being a renowned skinny bitch rather than just dropping out in any number of the "normal" ways you see all the time.
If the school thing doesn't work out, I'm headed for the runways of Milan where they are sure to appreciate my look. I've been told by my friends that my runway walk is practically flawless already.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
Details. How did it happen?
Playing around in the shower by myself when things went oh-so-wrong. Wasn't any pain, it just felt like something slipped and then there was blood everywhere. After applying pressure for 10 minutes and thinking 'fuck fuck fuck what do I do fuck fuck fuck' I investigated and could see this huge split where the frenulum connects. Tried dabbing away at the blood with a wet piece of tissue paper which was going fine until the tissue paper touched the actual split part. I literally gasped in pain. I then followed that up with a non-fun trip to the doctors.
Also, I learnt that one can go flaccid remarkably quickly as soon as they see blood pouring out of their penis.
Edit: No sex or masturbation until it has fully healed.
I kind of want to investigate the damage, but I don't want to reopen any wounds by pulling on things down there.Well, yeah, that's structural support you're leaking!
Respect for Cap..... and kudos to Whedon for showcasing this:
<3 Equal-opportunity pandering. If straight guys get their Natasha's butt scene, it's only fair that we got the above.
dragonlife
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wat
Haha. That's pretty mesmerizing.Respect for Cap..... and kudos to Whedon for showcasing this:
<3 Equal-opportunity pandering. If straight guys get their Natasha's butt scene, it's only fair that we got the above.
Bel Marduk
Banned
Really?
Man, I was just in the "If gay marriage should be legal, why not polygamy as well?" thread and... ugh. It's baffling that people would consider polygamists equivalent to homosexuals. Even after I tried explaining it, there were posters who thought that a woman loving a married man is the same love as same-sex.
I just... don't understand stupid people.
Yeah that thread really made me cringe. Polygamy isn't really consentual all the time and a lot of these people marry brides who are extremely young. I really thought there weren't that many homophobes on GAF.. looks like I was wrong..
Bel Marduk
Banned
Icicle.. you should change your medications... If you're taking antidepressants, a lot of those can cause you to gain weight (like a ridiculous amount of weight) but some of them are weight-neutral like Effexor. I thought that your school was being irrational at first but it seems like you really do have a problem. Hope everything works out for you.
Pft. You, maybe.
I wouldn't say they are homophobes (I seriously think the word is overused here on GAF), more like idiots/ignorants with a really weird train of thoughts, who try way too hard to justify polygamy by using a nonsensical comparison.
I'm glad you've managed to pass the test. But seriously, 100 pounds with your height is really shocking; I can't even imagine how thin you must be. I consider myself rather fit, and you're just 0.16" shorter than me and almost half my weight D:
Have you maybe talked with a nutritionist (or someone who knows this kind of stuff) about what you should eat to both maintain a proper weight and not eat trash food? Eating Nutella jars and other food with just empty calories isn't really healthy in the long run, even if your metabolism allows you to do it right now.
One man's pain is another man's bifurcation fetish?
When I was a teenager I had the surgery to prevent this (my skin would never go "too far" or all the way down because of the frenulum). I'm glad reading this that I underwent it, as it wasn't pleasant at all. It sucks though, that it looks bad, because I have a bit of skin attached to it still. Also sometimes it hurts because there's like a bit of skin that always feels like burning O: So when pee gets in there (if I spread the base gland), it hurts. ): It's been like this for like 10 or 8 years, so idk! It's not that much of a bother.Playing around in the shower by myself when things went oh-so-wrong. Wasn't any pain, it just felt like something slipped and then there was blood everywhere. After applying pressure for 10 minutes and thinking 'fuck fuck fuck what do I do fuck fuck fuck' I investigated and could see this huge split where the frenulum connects. Tried dabbing away at the blood with a wet piece of tissue paper which was going fine until the tissue paper touched the actual split part. I literally gasped in pain. I then followed that up with a non-fun trip to the doctors.
Also, I learnt that one can go flaccid remarkably quickly as soon as they see blood pouring out of their penis.
Edit: No sex or masturbation until it has fully healed.
Saw "Weekend" last night and I really enjoyed it. The whole movie, aside from few scenes, is basically one long dialouge between two main characters; a dialogue about relationship, gay sex, coming out, gays' place in nowadays society and other, non-important, things. Everything about that movie felt so natural and real: the characters, their acting, their talks. Sometimes (thanks to the script, camera work and cuts) it even looked like a documentary, as if someone was just filming two random guys spending their weekend together, doing various things, and then made a movie out of it.
I really hope that this is in jest.
I'm not going to say much on this, but you really need to speak with your doctors. You should work out an eating regime that will, at the very least, get you back up to your original 135 lbs weight while on your medication. Your health and well-being is not worth this skinny look.
I suspect, though, that this advice will go unheeded.
Yeah, I don't think I'd necessarily say they're homophobes but it is really remarkable how ignorant they are of the issue. What really was getting to me though, was their refusal to listen when someone would explain why their comparison was wrong. But I suppose that's going to be pretty common for people who really don't have to deal with the issues beyond a philosophical exercise.
The movie itself was also very well structured. I'm no film critic by any means, but it was remarkable how well the director paced the script and utilized the filming technique to really drive home his vision. I was really impressed with it since it was a good movie, period. Though it won't receive any widespread popularity because it is about homosexuality
.Though it won't receive any widespread popularity because it is about homosexuality
So was "Brokeback Mountain", and yet the movie is rather popular (
I think "Weekend" would be better if the sex scenes were cut, or at least if there was a version with those scenes removed. I suppose for straight people, especially men, while seeing a movie abut homosexuality is acceptable, very few can stomach seeing two guys having sex. So that probably limits the audience this movie can get.
And I agree with RadioHeadAche, subtitles for this movie is a must because very often it's really hard to hear what they are talking about.
Uh, no. No it didn't. That movie was like 2-3 years before his death/TDK. It was a sensation at the time because of the whole "down low" thing being taboo and all that rot more than "LOL GAY COWBOYS" I wager.
Well, I think you already hit it on the head. I haven't seen Brokeback but I suspect it's very much a "safe" Hollywood film. The cast itself has some weight, it probably doesn't do anything more risqué than a kiss and I remember the marketing around it being very... directed. Don't know how to describe it any other way, but I remember the sense that the movie was depicted as an Oscar contender which generally will bring more people out.
Weekend, however, has nudity and "those awkward sex scenes" which I'm not sure you could cut without digging into the artistic integrity of the movie. I didn't have too hard a time hearing the actors, personally.
CHEEZMO
Obsidian fan
Playing around in the shower by myself when things went oh-so-wrong. Wasn't any pain, it just felt like something slipped and then there was blood everywhere. After applying pressure for 10 minutes and thinking 'fuck fuck fuck what do I do fuck fuck fuck' I investigated and could see this huge split where the frenulum connects. Tried dabbing away at the blood with a wet piece of tissue paper which was going fine until the tissue paper touched the actual split part. I literally gasped in pain. I then followed that up with a non-fun trip to the doctors.
Also, I learnt that one can go flaccid remarkably quickly as soon as they see blood pouring out of their penis.
Edit: No sex or masturbation until it has fully healed.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
Playing around in the shower by myself when things went oh-so-wrong. Wasn't any pain, it just felt like something slipped and then there was blood everywhere. After applying pressure for 10 minutes and thinking 'fuck fuck fuck what do I do fuck fuck fuck' I investigated and could see this huge split where the frenulum connects. Tried dabbing away at the blood with a wet piece of tissue paper which was going fine until the tissue paper touched the actual split part. I literally gasped in pain. I then followed that up with a non-fun trip to the doctors.
Also, I learnt that one can go flaccid remarkably quickly as soon as they see blood pouring out of their penis.
Edit: No sex or masturbation until it has fully healed.
Well, that's shitty. Are you uncirced?
I'm having a really hard time sympathizing here.
Have you perhaps tried finding a gay group that shares some similar interests? Only thing I can think of is like joining a gay sports team since if you find something you can share in then you have an immediate connection to socialize over. And if there's a bunch of guys there surely you'll find some that are already in a relationship or won't want to jump your bones.
I'm having a really hard time sympathizing here.
They're never my type and not good looking enough for sex, so I do not like it at all.
I've been to a meeting of a gay group two weeks ago, but it wasn't anything special. Everyone seemed to lack self confidence and was socially awkward. And it felt like everyone was still in high school, even though they were about my age (23). They still enjoy playing games and football in the park. I'm too old for that shit
There was also this one guy I had seen before and I made clear from the start I'm just looking for friends. Afterwards I heard this guy wanted more after all. I really hate turning down people, too much bullshit to deal with.
So that was kind of a bummer, I was hoping to find some people with similar interests. Turns out I'm much more likely to find straight people with similar interests.
Cosmic Bus
pristine morning snow
They're never my type and not good looking enough for sex, so I do not like it at all. ... it felt like everyone was still in high school, even though they were about my age (23). They still enjoy playing games and football in the park. I'm too old for that shit
So that was kind of a bummer, I was hoping to find some people with similar interests. Turns out I'm much more likely to find straight people with similar interests.
You're not exactly doing yourself any favors by coming off as such a judgmental person, but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume it was said in a (somewhat) lighthearted manner.
Anyway, if you're just looking to befriend people with similar interests and not after sex/relationships, then why should it matter if they're straight? Friends are friends, that's as complicated as it needs to be. We queers don't have quotas of gay acquaintances to meet.
How is that judgmental? If a guy is not my type, then he's just not my type. Are you suggesting that if someone's not my type I should try having a relationship with him anyway?
Also I don't mind at all what the people at the meeting enjoy, but I enjoy entirely different things. I don't feel obligated to be friends with people who are entirely different than me.
Of course I'm looking for a relationship, but it has to be my type. I can't go out alone and every friend I used to go out with ended up liking me, so I couldn't really go out with them anymore :/ These are just 2 people, so it's not like everyone falls in love with me
A compliment is a compliment though. If people find you sexy, that's a good thing no matter the source (unless you're like 9... ok pedophile joke probably not the most appropriate).
I've been to a meeting of a gay group two weeks ago, but it wasn't anything special. Everyone seemed to lack self confidence and was socially awkward. And it felt like everyone was still in high school, even though they were about my age (23). They still enjoy playing games and football in the park. I'm too old for that shit
You can never be too old for football in the park
.What kind of meeting was it? If it was a support group, I could see that giving a different impression than meeting them in another setting. Maybe you just need to give them a little more of a chance or find a group with a specific interest you share. Though, this will also likely depend on where you're living since if you're in a small city the gay population will certainly be very limited
True, but it is nice to have some friends who can understand the things you're going through. I've noticed that my lack of someone that can sympathize with my life has really held me back in some areas. And straight friends can only help you so far. Though, I'm sure there are some gay people who don't need anyone else like them around but after 27 years of that, I've realized that I do need something a little like me to talk to.
It's a compliment, but I hate turning down people and hurting their feelings. It's more painful for me than being turned down.
And okay, I seem like a judgmental person, but I'm in desperate need of friends with similar interests. There are so many things in life I love but I can't find anyone who's interested in any of those things
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