I don't know. I wish I even had the option to be in a fraternity, would be cool to know they want me to be a part of their group. I like your suggestions man, they really appeal to me. I used to actually do photography when I was in high school but I got some negative reactions from people carrying a camera around all the time so I stopped. I also like going to concerts and stuff but it seems like everyone goes with a friend or group, like you got your brother to go with you.
I'm gonna you a reality check about fraternities: Don't rush one if you know you're not gonna be able to afford it in the long run. Fraternities are a freakin' expensive! I didn't realize that until I got voted in, paid $195 to join, and then learned that there's more crap to pay on top of that. Fraternities aren't gonna make your social problems disappear instantly as I've come to learn; you still have to socialize on your own outside of it.
It's its own government meaning that you get fined for missing meetings, not going to "Brotherhood" events, and shoulder the burden of a massive fine because the chapter was short one member who didn't show up to a conference. It's a hell of a commitment you're making once you pay the money and get pledged in. That said, if you're considering join one, then your college's fraternities will no doubt be out in full force trying to recruit people in the fall.
I'm still thinking about quitting because it's financially demanding, and I feel a little bit like an outsider. But I'm going to try to ride it out for a semester before I make a decision. If I get overwhelmed by it mid semester, I'm going to resign.
Never let people that say negative things or that you can't do something stop you from doing what you want to do. Chances are they're either jealous, insecure, envious, or all of them. There's people that I know that envy me just because I'm fit and ripped; I can sense it. Those are the type of people are people that I don't like to be around because they try to prove themselves to me and try to "Alpha male" me which is not cool.
So take up photography because like any new hobby and skill, you get better with practice. Photography can be a social thing too. Ask people to pose for you and stuff like that.
Or go to a gaming event that it's in your town/city. You'll be guaranteed to meet people there. I met a bunch of new people at a Capcom event a few years ago that I went to on my own. We had a ton of fun, took pictures, and whatnot.
lol Nah dude. But I do remember you mentioning it somewhere.
So let me ask you this, and maybe it's my jealousy talking but HOW THE FUCK CAN YOU BE BORED IN NEW YORK?
like, what?
At worst just go around walking in and out of random stores, making small talk with everybody. You don't even have to go anywhere to met women. But I simply can't comprehend how someone can be bored in New York. If that's the case there's no hope for anyone, anywhere. (Maybe L.A)
New York isn't all fun and roses; it costs money to go out for the most part (there's several free things to do as well that I'm aware of). I barely go out on the weekends because of that and I have social anxiety. I don't have many friends that are willing to go out beyond the fraternity (I don't trust those guys to go out with them).
Like Devo said, living in such a big city feels kind of lonely at times because it can be hard to find friends who the time hang out because they're working most of the time and it's hard to meet people in general. That's why many people turn to online dating websites and forums.
The older you get, the less time people have time to do things. Who do you think has the time of day to hang out on a week day? Not too many people do. It's the same thing when I go volunteer; I have to spend $4.50 on subway fare to go and get myself back. I get "paid" with vouchers and snacks. It's work and it's socializing yes, but it's still work.
I do the things that you're talking about but it's so boring because I'm not really doing anything. I people watch too and draw people. I see what you're getting at though and I agree. Being out in the sun beats staying home but it comes down to getting outside my comfort zone and approaching a woman which I'm afraid of doing. There's some days when I'm sociable, and some days when I'm not.
My brother has it too, and my father. Even my sister to a lesser extent. It stems from my father's mother's side.
So, literally the afternoon after my date (that resulted in there not being a 2nd date) another girl on OkCupid responded to my message. We chatted back and forth for a few hours, and a bunch today. She then gave me her # so that we could text. Here's one of her last messages
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