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[Vermillion]

Welcome to the club. (Except I'm just a closet nerd; never would think about talking about that shit with friends.)

Need to find at least one person that shares your interests. And the more you hide, the harder it will be to find an actual relationship match.

 

[Coconut]

Oh boy, thanks for the advice guys. Pretty good feeling nothing is going to happen, but people do stupid shit when they're drunk. I'll think about this some more and possibly figure out a way to tell her I'm a bit uncomfortable with the situation and try not to come off as an insecure prick.

The other guy has a GF too, met her on Friday. They haven't been dating long though. She isn't there because she has a 1 year old.

the ones saying its a hookup situation make me wish I didn't ask lol

Dude the more you say, the more it sounds like you are just being really insecure. Just leave it alone this is coming fro ma dude who has gone down this dark road of jealousy and it ends with you being alone in a cabin fortwo months thinking about stuff and listening to a lot of Grizzly Bear.

 

[Log4Girlz]

come come, have a suckle from my teet of confidence

*imbibes curiously thick milk* Wait a second, this is no teet. I knew I shouldn't have agreed to a blindfold!



Hair is growing from my chest at an alarming rate.

 

[Jackben]

Behold, the chronicle of Maxrpg:

SUP BITCHES??? I'm back from date with Girl #3. I'm done man. Don't need to look any more.

I started the date by sitting in my car for like an hour surfing GAF (lurking, really) while texting her near 8 PM (our meeting time).

So I get there, she's gorgeous, I'm trying not to jump her fucking body right as soon as I get there.

We walk through the grocery store as if we've already been dating a long time. It just felt incredibly natural and comfortable being around her. Remember, this is the 99%. I could sense she felt that way too.

After getting into her apartment and starting dinner I slowly grab her hand, and she remarks,

"What are you doing?"
...
"I just wanted to hold your hand. I can't explain it."

She looks back at me, smiles and blushes hard, and fixes the handhold into the fingers intertwined as one and goes "okay" and blushes even more.

Fucking ACE.

After a couple more kisses on the cheek, seeing that the first was the go ahead, she turns in the middle of mine and we full ON make out in the kitchen.

FUCK YEAH.

LIKE A BAWZ. That's how I felt when I left up out of there.

Sometimes those women can be bosses and monsters man, you gotta level up past it.

Okay, PART 2 TIME.

Last time on Romantic Ball Z, Maxrpg had just scored first base with the woman of his dreams.

Will he continue his reign of romance and innocence belying a true deceptive sexual nature? Find out, on ROMANTIC BALL Z.

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She really wanted to eat the food but really enjoyed kissing and I felt like I was in a dream. I literally hovered in the air two feet, I think, and I could tell she was in a haze too.

We sat onto her couch with our food, and made out some more before eating, during eating... it was magical. Like our bodies were meant to be this close always.

You know you've found the perfect nerdy girl of her dreams when she grabs her Wii remote, queues up Netflix, and we start watching The IT Crowd. Later on, she puts on some Louie C.K. It was absolutely hilarious.

We finish eating, and we dispose of the dishes (it's all a blur right now), and then we made our way back to the couch (the main event, I could feel it).

We start just eating each other's face, I couldn't believe how well our lips and tongues intertwined as if they knew each other before, I've never kissed anyone so passionately in my entire life.

This lead to her getting on top of me on the couch, and I could go into it in more detail, but suffice to say, it started with head, then progressed to sex.

Seven Times. I have never, ever had that much sex in my entire life in one day. With ANYONE. She was absolutely blown away with how well we, like.... merged.... and just kept wanting it. I wasn't going to deny this woman anything, I told her she can have everything of me, and she offered herself in return. It was blissful and peaceful just being near her, really it was.

And that's my story. I was there until 5 AM this morning, when I got back an hour later and I got chik fil a. Needless to say, my body is fucking sore. But it was entirely worth. EVERY. SINGLE. WAIT.

Don't stop looking people. Keep grinding, you will find the one that matches you. I guarantee it as long as you keep your heart open and continue to look for love.

Grinding because because that shit be clickin', and grinding until you find the one that clicks.

Tonight's the night zlatko. Around 1 AM I'll be in her arms again (among other things). ))))))))))))))))))

Did you get some? If so, fuck yeah man.

Tonight's my next date. We're spending the entire time on her bed. Infer what you will.

So if any of you have been haunting the okcupid thread (holla, Exodus and Lead), you might know that I have a new girlfriend now. And she's absolutely entirely my match. It's really unreal how comfortable I am around her.

I'm going to be seeing her again on Wednesday night, so when I do, I will get you guys pictures

next meet up time, Wednesday after Midnight, Same Bat Time, Same Bat Channel.

OKC Profile will be deleted. I'm going to do it right in front of her

 

[Vermillion]

That's opening Padora's box and can easily backfire.

Also, I didn't post that insane story. My fucking roommate is an idiot and now I remember why I shut my laptop off when I go out.


Only if the nerd hobbies are important. I don't tell people openly I play games or watch anime. Those things aren't important to me and aren't things I look for in women.

Neither do I. I'm saying that hiding it does you (and her) no favors. She finds out and doesn't like it, and that ain't helpful.

 

[Vermillion]

Behold, the chronicle of Maxrpg:

I love this man already.

 

[Minamu]

Where's this from? :lol

 

[Jackben]

Where's this from? :lol

NeoGAF! He posts over in the OKCupid thread. You can follow the quotes over to any one of his goldmine posts.

I like your style, sir. I have many people tell me I look like McLovin.

However, I will say one thing: every person is different, and every relationship is different. What works for one doesn't work for another.

Sunday was a very limited time spent with her - we met, we ate, we coalesced, haven't you ever heard of love at first sight?

I'm fine guys. In fact, right now we're watching inglorious basterds and putting together legos.

 

[Vermillion]

I skimmed it before, and it was awesome, now that I've fully read it, I want to cry.

I-it's so beautiful...

 

[Coconut]

Funny stuff, anyone buying it?

 

[Syracuse022]

Dude the more you say, the more it sounds like you are just being really insecure. Just leave it alone this is coming fro ma dude who has gone down this dark road of jealousy and it ends with you being alone in a cabin fortwo months thinking about stuff and listening to a lot of Grizzly Bear.

And Bon Iver. Don't forget Bon Iver.

 

[Izick]

Need to find at least one person that shares your interests. And the more you hide, the harder it will be to find an actual relationship match.

I mean some of my fiends like games and stuff, but not like nerdier stuff. I do have a friend that likes nerdier stuff, but I don't really dig hanging out with them that much.

 

[Coconut]

And Bon Iver. Don't forget Bon Iver.

Not a fan.

I mean some of my fiends like games and stuff, but not like nerdier stuff. I do have a friend that likes nerdier stuff, but I don't really dig hanging out with them that much.

Dude it doesn't matter the Nerdy stuff, those are just things you like. Not the person that you are. Just find like minded people.

 

[Vermillion]

I mean some of my fiends like games and stuff, but not like nerdier stuff. I do have a friend that likes nerdier stuff, but I don't really dig hanging out with them that much.

Mm, I have two friends who like nerdier stuff, but it's not like we talk about it often. We're regular people who share an interest.

 

[Izick]

I don't know, I guess that the people that enjoy some of that stuff aren't the kind of people I lie hanging out with as much. I'm not stereotyping all people like that, I'm just saying in my own personal experiences.

 

[ClovingWestbrook]

*Paging ClovingWestbrook!!*

Calling is better for 3 reasons too:

1. It makes you look confident, since you are not afraid to hide behind a text.

2. You can judge the girls interest level in her voice. Text is impossible to gauge any kind of tone in a persons attitude.

3. It's the adult thing to do.

And if you don't reach her the first time, you chill out. You don't call 40 times. So no, there's no crazy stalker approach just because you call. That's only if you call a million times like an idiot.

I will say it again: texting should be avoided at all costs. If the chick is texting you, you can text back, but try to initiate a phone call. If you can't speak to a person on the phone, you're going to find it very difficult to speak to them in person.

 

[Coconut]

I don't know, I guess that the people that enjoy some of that stuff aren't the kind of people I lie hanging out with as much. I'm not stereotyping all people like that, I'm just saying in my own personal experiences.

I'm a mod on a reddit subreddit and people setup a lot of meet-ups and I'll go to some and show a little community support. I would not hang out with a vast majority of these peopel even though we have a lot in common at face value. Same probably holds true for most gaffers.

 

[Cubsfan23]

People don't talk on the phone anymore. At least half the time, you'll get their voicemail. Even businessmen and women use texting more and more every day.

and yes, you use any form of communication to set up meetings and such. This "overcommunicating" phenomenon you guys like to have just sabotages you.

 

[Vermillion]

I don't know, I guess that the people that enjoy some of that stuff aren't the kind of people I lie hanging out with as much. I'm not stereotyping all people like that, I'm just saying in my own personal experiences.

Oh, well that sucks. I'll be honest, though - I played videogames rarely enough that people were surprised when I did. If the people are more like you than stereotypical geek, it's better. If not... well that sucks.

 

[ClovingWestbrook]

People don't talk on the phone anymore. At least half the time, you'll get their voicemail. Even businessmen and women use texting more and more every day.

and yes, you use any form of communication to set up meetings and such. This "overcommunicating" phenomenon you guys like to have just sabotages you.

Wut? Overcommunication? What are you going to do when you see them in person? Text them? Such terrible advice.

 

[Sarye]

Wut? Overcommunication? What are you going to do when you see them in person? Text them? Such terrible advice.

cubsfan is talking about people overly texting and talking on the phone before you even meet them. Problem is, you run out of things to talk about when you do finally meet them in person. Or more commonly, someone gets bored before the meeting ever take place.

I don't understand what's so hard to get about that.

Point is, people should limit phone and text to only setting things up until you finally meet them in person. I've been reading in this very thread of people chatting on okcupid, then to skype or text before even meeting her. That's the overcommunication that cubsfan is talking about.

 

[Cubsfan23]

yep so terrible the nytimes says texting will surpass phone communication in 2 years http://www.nytimes.com/2011/03/20/fashion/20Cultural.html?pagewanted=all

Meet anybody with a great social life and I guarantee they spend more time texting than talking.

 

[chizmiz]

Wut? Overcommunication? What are you going to do when you see them in person? Text them? Such terrible advice.

I guess for some people relationships and actually relating to the other person only starts when you enter them.

 

[Tess3ract]

Time to ok cupid!

*messages every girl that looks interesting*

There was this one cute transgirl though, I hope she messages me back.

Also as soon as I see the words "My son" or "my kid" or some version I immediately close the tab.

 

[Jackben]

I guess for some people relationships and actually relating to the other personally only starts when you enter them.

 

[ianp622]

Okay, I had a really bad date tonight. Not my fault, but there was just no chemistry. I had to prop up the conversation and she really just didn't seem too interested in me.

What's the nice thing to do? I didn't offer a second date and she didn't ask - should I say anything?

 

[ClovingWestbrook]

yep so terrible the nytimes says texting will surpass phone communication in 2 years http://www.nytimes.com/2011/03/20/fashion/20Cultural.html?pagewanted=all

Meet anybody with a great social life and I guarantee they spend more time texting than talking.

I text my wife. I didnt text her wen i was getting to know her. There is a difference.

 

[UFRA]

Okay, I had a really bad date tonight. Not my fault, but there was just no chemistry. I had to prop up the conversation and she really just didn't seem too interested in me.

What's the nice thing to do? I didn't offer a second date and she didn't ask - should I say anything?

You're all set then. Don't do anything and move on.

I had a bad date back in early spring. Nearly the same situation as you. I am normally a quiet person, and here I was doing all the talking.

At the end of the date, we said bye and basically "talk to you later" sort of generic comments. I never heard from her, nor did I attempt to contact her again. No hard feelings.

 

[Jhoan]

You're all set then. Don't do anything and move on.

I had a bad date back in early spring. Nearly the same situation as you. I am normally a quiet person, and here I was doing all the talking.

At the end of the date, we said bye and basically "talk to you later" sort of generic comments. I never heard from her, nor did I attempt to contact her again. No hard feelings.

This. I had my first online date meet up last summer and it went the same as both of your experiences. I took her to sit and chat at a park. She was pretty surprised by it because when we passed by a movie theatre and we were talking about movies, her face lit up. We had a decent conversation, but she kept looking at her phone every so often. It didn't help that she had it on the table the whole time; I checked out women that passed by every so often.

Unfortunately, while she was interesting online, there wasn't any chemistry in person. It didn't help that she looked a little bit better in her pictures. Eventually, she cut it short and said that she had to go. I walked her to the subway station, said it was nice meeting her, and then I deleted her number after leaving her. I never heard from her again, nor did I decide to message her. I deleted the messages later that night to be sure.

 

[Tess3ract]

sent out like 50 messages, got a few messages back almost immediately, one is still talking to me but she's also poly.

And she thinks i'm cute.

 

[Coconut]

sent out like 50 messages, got a few messages back almost immediately, one is still talking to me but she's also poly.

And she thinks i'm cute.

Poly?

 

[Tess3ract]

polyamorous. she says she's "available" meaning she's "with" someone else.

I don't really mind, I don't know what I'm looking for per se in terms of that, but I'm okay with it if I know going into it.

also now we're flirting lol

 

[Vermillion]

Poly?

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polysexuality

I think that's what it is

EDIT: Evidently not.

 

[Coconut]

polyamorous. she says she's "available" meaning she's "with" someone else.

I don't really mind, I don't know what I'm looking for per se in terms of that, but I'm okay with it if I know going into it.

also now we're flirting lol

Sorry earlier you mentioned a trans person I thought it might be something a long those lines.

 

[Tess3ract]

Sorry earlier you mentioned a trans person I thought it might be something a long those lines.

No.

I'm kind of bummed there aren't more transpeople on okc.

 

[Nerds with Guns]

Story.

Midnights, I want an update. Did you do it?

 

[subversus]

Unfortunately, while she was interesting online, there wasn't any chemistry in person.

the biggest downside of online dating

 

[SlipperySlope]

Well, my depression is developing into a combination of depression and deep anger. Broke my lamp and almost broke my cell phone. Guess I'm progressing :/

 

[OddSpoon]

Situation:

My girlfriend is in town, she had to stay with her parents in a hotel. I miss her so much, and will only be with her for a week - than she has to go back to her home town. We don't know/haven't planned the next time we will see each other again.

Seeing her tomorrow and for the rest of the week, but this just has me thinking. If I feel this lonely and miserable without her for ONE NIGHT, how will I react to her being away from me for a longer period of time?

Not sure if I can handle it. Obviously we will keep in touch through skype/text etc.

 

[Kalnos]

If I feel this lonely and miserable without her for ONE NIGHT, how will I react to her being away from me for a longer period of time?

Not sure if I can handle it. Obviously we will keep in touch through skype/text etc.

How did you meet her? How long will you be apart (max)? My suggestion might be to breakup with her depending on all the circumstances.

 

[UFRA]

Situation:

My girlfriend is in town, she had to stay with her parents in a hotel. I miss her so much, and will only be with her for a week - than she has to go back to her home town. We don't know/haven't planned the next time we will see each other again.

Seeing her tomorrow and for the rest of the week, but this just has me thinking. If I feel this lonely and miserable without her for ONE NIGHT, how will I react to her being away from me for a longer period of time?

Not sure if I can handle it. Obviously we will keep in touch through skype/text etc.

-how old are you
-how long have you been together
-how long is she going away
-i dont understand how you survived before this? If she's from another town and is just now in your town, then weren't you apart from her before?

 

[FO-totality]

I feel like I'm in a really weird position.

I've been on a few dates with this girl and we've gotten pretty close. I enjoy her personality, we share similar interests, and I don't mind her physically, but I don't feel like I'm really as attracted to her I think I should be, y'know? I feel like my nagging, two-sided brain is giving me mixed signals like "you rushed into this too far too fast, it's not worth it in the long run" and "Don't be a dick and just break up for something stupid, she's not that bad. She wouldn't deserve that."

Basically I think its because I'm pretty novice at dating and any dates I ever get are few and far between, so I'm not sure if I'm trying to "cash in too early" (so to speak) and I'm afraid I'll miss other, potentially better opportunities, or if there actually won't be many other opportunities for me, so I should just take what I can get.

Or I'm just overthinking everything.

 

[low-G]

I feel like I'm in a really weird position.

I've been on a few dates with this girl and we've gotten pretty close. I enjoy her personality, we share similar interests, and I don't mind her physically, but I don't feel like I'm really as attracted to her I think I should be, y'know? I feel like my nagging, two-sided brain is giving me mixed signals like "you rushed into this too far too fast, it's not worth it in the long run" and "Don't be a dick and just break up for something stupid, she's not that bad. She wouldn't deserve that."

Basically I think its because I'm pretty novice at dating and any dates I ever get are few and far between, so I'm not sure if I'm trying to "cash in too early" (so to speak) and I'm afraid I'll miss other, potentially better opportunities, or if there actually won't be many other opportunities for me, so I should just take what I can get.

Or I'm just overthinking everything.

Similarish situation to you. You know what? I'm just going for a girl I really think is attractive (in addition to everything else) now. I'm shooting for the sky. Because if you're not feeling it, you're just not feeling it, right?

I'm not gonna speak for you, but I know if I'm at the very start of a relationship and I'm feeling 'meh' how am I going to feel in a few years? I would be tempted by that hot girl that I want to have a relationship. Not gonna settle. Not fair to anyone if I do.

I've dated over a dozen girls and I'll date 50, 60, or even 100 if I have to do that many to find someone I feel just right about.

 

[Tess3ract]

a cute girl on okcupid goes "I mean... you seem geeky and fun, yet nice to look at. Be my friend?"

well since you put it that way

 

[UFRA]

Similarish situation to you. You know what? I'm just going for a girl I really think is attractive (in addition to everything else) now. I'm shooting for the sky. Because if you're not feeling it, you're just not feeling it, right?

I'm not gonna speak for you, but I know if I'm at the very start of a relationship and I'm feeling 'meh' how am I going to feel in a few years? I would be tempted by that hot girl that I want to have a relationship. Not gonna settle. Not fair to anyone if I do.

I've dated over a dozen girls and I'll date 50, 60, or even 100 if I have to do that many to find someone I feel just right about.

This 100%. The last girl I dated had a lot of interests and stuff in common with me, but physically I was just not attracted to her. Finally I realized I can't keep this up. It's not fair to her, and its wasting both of our time. So that was that. Ended and moved on to the next one.

a cute girl on okcupid goes "I mean... you seem geeky and fun, yet nice to look at. Be my friend?"

well since you put it that way

She seems weird. Who asks someone to be their friend as an opening message? What does that even mean?

 

[Tess3ract]

I don't know, I'm just rolling with the punches here

 

[FO-totality]

Similarish situation to you. You know what? I'm just going for a girl I really think is attractive (in addition to everything else) now. I'm shooting for the sky. Because if you're not feeling it, you're just not feeling it, right?

I'm not gonna speak for you, but I know if I'm at the very start of a relationship and I'm feeling 'meh' how am I going to feel in a few years? I would be tempted by that hot girl that I want to have a relationship. Not gonna settle. Not fair to anyone if I do.

I've dated over a dozen girls and I'll date 50, 60, or even 100 if I have to do that many to find someone I feel just right about.

This 100%. The last girl I dated had a lot of interests and stuff in common with me, but physically I was just not attracted to her. Finally I realized I can't keep this up. It's not fair to her, and its wasting both of our time. So that was that. Ended and moved on to the next one.

Yeah, I get that. I mean, I guess the only issue between me and you guys is I have very shitty and very short history in getting dates, let alone anything even remotely lasts this long, though I don't know if that's for the right reasons.

And also, while I'm not totally attracted to her, I feel that she's pretty heavily attracted to me and enjoys being around me probably more than I do around her, and I don't want to hurt her by just saying just out of the blue "Hey sorry, I'm just not really into you, sorry for like leading you on" or whatever. And it's not that I don't like her, but still.

 

[Nerds with Guns]

a cute girl on okcupid goes "I mean... you seem geeky and fun, yet nice to look at. Be my friend?"

well since you put it that way

Tell her you can be friends who fuck.

On a serious note; I don’t see why a girl would be on a website like that if she just wanted a “friend” instead of a relationship.

 

[UFRA]

Yeah, I get that. I mean, I guess the only issue between me and you guys is I have very shitty and very short history in getting dates, let alone anything even remotely lasts this long, though I don't know if that's for the right reasons.

And also, while I'm not totally attracted to her, I feel that she's pretty heavily attracted to me and enjoys being around me probably more than I do around her, and I don't want to hurt her by just saying just out of the blue "Hey sorry, I'm just not really into you, sorry for like leading you on" or whatever. And it's not that I don't like her, but still.

Yeah but let's face it. What's going to hurt her more? You dragging it on longer to the inevitable end, or getting it over with early before she's too attached. She'll feel much more led-on if you end it 2 months from now and have had more physical intimacy, etc. than if you ended it now.

It's a tough situation, no doubt. But if you honestly deep down don't see it going anywhere, don't keep something going that is destined to fail.

Tell her you can be friends who fuck.

On a serious note; I don’t see why a girl would be on a website like that if she just wanted a “friend” instead of a relationship.

I exchanged messages with a girl a few times on OKC who revealed to me she only uses the site to chat with people and learn new stuff about people. She said she never meets anyone in person and didn't want a relationship. Yet, her profile listed long term/short term dating, etc. What a tease.

She was really weird too. I responded like 8 hours later to one of her messages randomly at 1230am one day, and she popped online instantly after I sent it, and replied in minutes. I gtfo of there.

 

[scotcheggz]

She seems weird. Who asks someone to be their friend as an opening message? What does that even mean?

Maybe she's trying to be cute. Roll with it if I was you and see where it goes, nothin to lose.