Rice-Eater
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Well I just had a not so great 4 day experience. First let me get some facts out of the way. I'm 29, I'm planning on getting married next year. I am in a long distance relationship, so my GF isn't around for any of this. But I don't want that to be the topic of this thread. My cousin is 27, he just finished college this past Spring semester. His whole life he's had a history of having others(including myself) treat him. He has also been unemployed for the past 2 years while concentrating on school. I've talked to his older brother about it(who is the same age as me), and he's not too happy about him always asking for money. But anyways, I'm just his cousin so for a while now I've always been treating him when we go out and get a bite to eat. I'll tell him stuff like "hey, you're a poor college student right now, I got no money issues, don't worry about it" and "you're welcome to come hang out anytime you want on my days off, it's cool". So every now and then he comes over and hangs out, sometimes we stay up all night watching movies or playing games. But it never got to a point where I felt it was too much.
I just hoped that he appreciates my generosity and never takes advantage of it or cross a certain line that I wouldn't feel comfortable with(purposely or unpurposely). And he just did this the past four days. First off I work 4 days a week, I'm off Sat, Mon, and Tuesday(he also knows my work schedule). So I used a vacation day to have 4 straight days off. On Saturday I'm relaxing and he calls me up to ask if he can come over, I say sure, that's cool. So his brother drops him off at my place. We're all hanging out with my younger brother. He said since I work tomorrow, I won't be able to go help him get a new car that he just bought. At first I thought about whether I should say anything in front of my cousin. I was worried that if I said I had the day off, he would sleep over at my place. Not just one night, maybe he would stick around all 4 days. But I figured that's foolish, he wouldn't do such a thing. As soon as I tell my bro I had Sunday off my cousin tells me that since I do, he'll just sleep over and continue hanging out with me. My fears were confirmed, he slept over. And he slept over Sunday night and Monday night. He finally left about 8 hours ago around 10pm Tuesday night.
I am somewhat in disbelief at what he just did. First off, I've known him nearly my entire life, basically since we were little kids. I don't think he did this with ill intention. I think he really believes everything was cool, except it wasn't. Having to share my bed and my stuff for 4 days was really fucking annoying. Besides that he continued rubbing me in the wrong way. When my brother and I went to go get the car he bought, my cousin decided not to come with us. He rather stay at our house alone with my younger bro's wife and use my PC and things while we were out for about an hour and a half. If that wasn't bad enough, his bro called to ask him for a favor and he practically volunteered me to go do something for him that I had no responsibility for. So I told him to tell his bro to do it himself as I was getting kind of fed up.
I'm really disappointed at how childish my cousin is being and how unaware he is to how he might look right now in my eyes or my families eyes. He should know better, but somehow didn't. He stayed at my house and ate our food for four days. We're not teenagers anymore or even in our early 20s. We're both nearing our 30's and I wouldn't expect this kind of behavior from him. This is the first times he IMO has overstayed his welcome and I hope it's the last. Honestly, I don't know what's going on in his head right now. Like I said, we've known each other forever and we're family. I didn't want to bring it up and embarrass him. But I hope somewhere in his mind he finally comes to the conclusion that he overdid. I rather he do figure it out himself then us having to have that talk because it's one I'd rather avoid.
Sorry for the blobs of text. This was really a vent more than anything else. I did vent to my girlfriend, but I just wanted to release some more. If you have some stories then please share it, I could use a laugh right now. My 4 day weekend was pretty much ruined and now I have to go to work this afternoon at 5pm Eastern
I meant the title to have a "or" and not "and", but I guess that's too late now as I don't know if that can even be changed. I hardly make threads.
I just hoped that he appreciates my generosity and never takes advantage of it or cross a certain line that I wouldn't feel comfortable with(purposely or unpurposely). And he just did this the past four days. First off I work 4 days a week, I'm off Sat, Mon, and Tuesday(he also knows my work schedule). So I used a vacation day to have 4 straight days off. On Saturday I'm relaxing and he calls me up to ask if he can come over, I say sure, that's cool. So his brother drops him off at my place. We're all hanging out with my younger brother. He said since I work tomorrow, I won't be able to go help him get a new car that he just bought. At first I thought about whether I should say anything in front of my cousin. I was worried that if I said I had the day off, he would sleep over at my place. Not just one night, maybe he would stick around all 4 days. But I figured that's foolish, he wouldn't do such a thing. As soon as I tell my bro I had Sunday off my cousin tells me that since I do, he'll just sleep over and continue hanging out with me. My fears were confirmed, he slept over. And he slept over Sunday night and Monday night. He finally left about 8 hours ago around 10pm Tuesday night.
I am somewhat in disbelief at what he just did. First off, I've known him nearly my entire life, basically since we were little kids. I don't think he did this with ill intention. I think he really believes everything was cool, except it wasn't. Having to share my bed and my stuff for 4 days was really fucking annoying. Besides that he continued rubbing me in the wrong way. When my brother and I went to go get the car he bought, my cousin decided not to come with us. He rather stay at our house alone with my younger bro's wife and use my PC and things while we were out for about an hour and a half. If that wasn't bad enough, his bro called to ask him for a favor and he practically volunteered me to go do something for him that I had no responsibility for. So I told him to tell his bro to do it himself as I was getting kind of fed up.
I'm really disappointed at how childish my cousin is being and how unaware he is to how he might look right now in my eyes or my families eyes. He should know better, but somehow didn't. He stayed at my house and ate our food for four days. We're not teenagers anymore or even in our early 20s. We're both nearing our 30's and I wouldn't expect this kind of behavior from him. This is the first times he IMO has overstayed his welcome and I hope it's the last. Honestly, I don't know what's going on in his head right now. Like I said, we've known each other forever and we're family. I didn't want to bring it up and embarrass him. But I hope somewhere in his mind he finally comes to the conclusion that he overdid. I rather he do figure it out himself then us having to have that talk because it's one I'd rather avoid.
Sorry for the blobs of text. This was really a vent more than anything else. I did vent to my girlfriend, but I just wanted to release some more. If you have some stories then please share it, I could use a laugh right now. My 4 day weekend was pretty much ruined and now I have to go to work this afternoon at 5pm Eastern
I meant the title to have a "or" and not "and", but I guess that's too late now as I don't know if that can even be changed. I hardly make threads.
Once, my friend wanted me to stay longer than I planned to but he was so boring that I had to get out of there =p
