Whenever someone asks "top or bottom?", I can't help but roll my eyes because to me it somehow relates to the whole question of masculinity vs. femininity. I realize that if you're hooking up it's a valid question and it doesn't necessarily imply anything beyond "will I be able to hook up with you and enjoy myself?" but bear with me.
In the recent years, I have grown annoyed at traditional gender roles and sentences such as "women are so complicated", "men are all horn dogs". I admire and applaud individuals who defy these traditional gender roles and who do not fit in the general consensus of how should men/women act. For example, like many gays, I love strong women and I cringe every time such a women manifest a typical "girly" characteristic. I also cringe whenever I see guys doing stereotypical "manly" things.
This is exacerbated by (more often than not) right-wing religious pundit claiming that various atrocities about fem boys/tomboys and how being gay is because of an absence of a dad, yaddy yadda.
It's come to the point where I have HUGE preconceptions about people which almost prevent me from interacting with them in a neutral way. I used to pride myself in being open-minded and non-judgmental but after I got into a heated discussion with my boyfriend about "white straight male" vs. minorities, I realize that the way I was seeing the world was totally biased and that I needed to tone down my irrational dislike traditional gender roles and their place in society.
What do you guys think? Do you tend to think that traditional gender roles are true because of inherent biological dispositions or is it a direct result of a long standing patriarchal society?
