If I only wanted your friendship, I'd post here. ...Waiiiiiit.
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If I only wanted your friendship, I'd post here. ...Waiiiiiit.
More like a wretched hive of scum and villainy. But no one's lost an arm there... yet.
excelforward
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Yessir. I know you were there for a while, as well, and we had a mutual friend as well. I don't think I ever met you (unless my memory is playing total havoc with me).
Also, thanks for the compliments, boys!
Spiritreaver
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This is very accurate. ;P
Cosmic Bus
pristine morning snow
i'm pretty certain there are signals, but you're just overlooking them
I'm positive there weren't any. Believe me, I was watching for one the entire night. It's going to be over a week before we can get together again, so now I'm going to be over-analyzing this the entire time. Bleah.
Hmph. Mutual semi-drunken ass grabbing already happened the night we first met... it's why I felt encouraged enough to ask him out in the first place.
remember months back when I was dating guys in Germany and I was frustrated? this is EXACTLY what happened to me back then.
I was whining about how germans can't bond and how it was hard to do a move and everything and you said I was being irrational because it was way to early to expect anything (something like that can't remember, the exact words)
I still have troubles handling the situation you are going through right now, that's why I quitted dating since then but maybe you can understand me a litte more. Back then it wasn't about everyone declaring their love to me, I just wanted them to be up front and clear about what they wanted.
I prefer a small message saying "hey you are nice but it didn't click, thanks" than people agreeing to a 2nd meeting only to get friendzoned and/or misled.
either way, I hope it turns out the way you want, best of luck.
Cosmic Bus
pristine morning snow
Heh, yeah, it's not as easy for me to talk now that the proverbial shoe is on the other foot.
In this instance, it isn't so much that he's being evasive or shutting me out... we get on wonderfully, have no problem talking for hours, texting throughout the day, etc. Because I'm completely inexperienced in dating, I honestly don't know how to transition from conversation into "hey, this is where we start making out, ok?"
I just don't want him to think there's no physical interest on my part (because, good Lord, there is so much) and make a shift -- consciously or unconsciously -- from going on dates with me to simply hanging out periodically.
well, the fact that he went out with you again was a sign. he's probably waiting on you to make a move
especially if you were ass grabbing on the first night.if he wasn't interested in that, he probably wouldn't have gone out otherwise.
Hah. Same thing happened to me.
I love this.
This is only the second time you've hung out with him right? Man, I'd think the butt grabbing would be a pretty good signal, and if he didn't respond to that who knows what it'll take. Just keep on the butt grabbing and the touchy feelyness as long as you're both comfortable with it. Hopefully, he'll start reciprocating a bit and you can move on from there.Heh, yeah, it's not as easy for me to talk now that the proverbial shoe is on the other foot.
In this instance, it isn't so much that he's being evasive or shutting me out... we get on wonderfully, have no problem talking for hours, texting throughout the day, etc. Because I'm completely inexperienced in dating, I honestly don't know how to transition from conversation into "hey, this is where we start making out, ok?"
I just don't want him to think there's no physical interest on my part (because, good Lord, there is so much) and make a shift -- consciously or unconsciously -- from going on dates with me to simply hanging out periodically.
Hey y'all! I've been a lurker on neogaf for quite a while now and this thread always had my attention. Just wanna leave my little story since I'm new on this relashionship thing and just broke up with my first bf 
.
I always knew I was gay, at least since I was 14/15, but I never acted on it (except to fap
). I lived most of my life ignoring this and sporadically having casual sex with girls until my 20-somethings. I wasn't happy with this, obviously, but then i started college and my gaydar kinda beeped on this friend of mine (let's call him James), though he never opened up with me so I didn't do anything about it. After I graduated, I started hanging out more with him and one other friend from our class (my gaydar beeped for him too , let's call him John). And one day, before carnival, he called me to a very famous gay club here in Rio. Nothing happened (though James told me he was gay (duh!)) but it was a good experience, and then we would go out like once a month or something, always to these lgbt parties. I started opening up on the idea to actually do something about my sexuallity and all and then, in one of these parties, I casually flirted with this friend of John's (very cute, educated, a little older than me (I'm 26, he's 32, let's call him Leo), has a nice job, yada yada yada) and, obviously, I was OMFGOOOODnervous that the moment was finally happening . We live near each other so he asked me if I wanted him to take me home, and I said yes. The pussy that I am, I must have been frozen solid all the way, he passed his hand on my thigh, I ran my fingers on his hair a little, caressed his hands and than we were at my door, so we had to say our goodbyes, and I gave him a kiss, a very nervous kiss, probably, and then went home.
Next day he sent me a text, said I was a very nice guy, that he wanted to meet me again someday and that was that. We texted for a while but it was hard cause he works all day so he only answered back like many hours later, and he doesn't like the internet, no facebook, no msn, no nothing (which I think now must be a plus...), so getting in touch was kinda hard since my phone plan doesn't cover many minutes :/. It went like that for a while, the weekends passed and he didn't ask me out, still exchanging messages normally though.
3 or 4 weeks went by and I had this little party at a friends house, I had already looked through the people invited on facebook and there were this really hot guy (let's call him Hottie). I flirted a little with him there and then we went to a club, where things got a little more physical, we slept at a friends house and had 'sex' (grinded a little, oral). Next weekend was his birthday so we got together again and, since we live nearby, we started going to the beach, movies etc. This was november/december, and Leo would still call me to have a chat and everything but again never invited me for anything, he sounded like such a nice guy though, great laugh and my frind John idolizes him .
Than it went on and on like this for quite awhile, I would go out with Hottie friday-saturday-sunday every week, the new years came up and we went together to a party (we had been going out for like 1 month and a half), got really drunk but i kinda felt he was a little distant that night, to make things worse this 'ex' of his appeared from nowhere at the party (yeah right), he didnt enter, initially, Hottie wasnt with me at the moment and went to the door to see this guy, I was talking to some other people somewhere else. So I went to the kitchen to get more drinks and a saw them kissing, and drunk as I was, I took off crying. We were both really really drunk so things kinda escalated in my mind. He didnt know I saw him kissing this guy, so before going home he asked me to go with him and, crying, I said no so I slept there, and later texted that things wouldnt work out, that it was better if we didnt see each other anymore. The following day, he asked me what went wrong, why I texted him that and, through facebook chat ¬¬, I poured it all out, that I thought we were at the party as a couple, not as friends, that we were getting to a point in our relatinship that demanded a little more from each other and than I asked him if he knew why I got so mad there all of a sudden, and he told me this guy was special to him because of this or that, that when he saw him there he couldn't resist kissing him cause he helped him through all this shit that happened in his family some months back AND he was drunk, and thought I hadn't seen him with the guy. He said he never imagined I liked him so much, that it wasn't clear to him, and yeah, we were'nt really going out for THAT long but i'm not the kinda guy who goes out with more than one person.
So yeah, I forgave him, we remained in touch and the next weekend I had nothing to do, he didn't either, so we went to a restaurant. Before leaving him at his house, I went for a kiss and we ended up getting back together, though not officially commited. Months passed like that and, in march, after a little discussion I asked him where we were in our relationship, cause we were going out for 4 months and still weren't official. So we were now boyfriends
.
We broke up 2 days ago. Since may I thought we weren't really getting closer, as any couple should. He wouldn't ask me about my life, about my family, about what I wanted with my life, my fears etc etc, and, when I tried to open up a little, I felt he didn't really wanna listen, wasn't really invested on it. The day I told my sister I was gay (no one in my family knows, only her and her husband), he texted me something back but didn't even call or anything and I expected him to be a little more sensitive about that (he isnt out to anyone but his gay friends), he never even asked me if he should meet her. At the same time, the sex was getting worse, we weren't really connecting. Problem was, I wasnt out, he wasnt out, so I couldn't go to his place and he couldn't go to mine, so basically we had sex in the car, which can get boring fast, and doesnt have that many room for doing whatever we wanna do, or I (only me) payed for a motel. And I'm not fond of motels since there's no spontaneity but I paid once in a while. Plus I dont have that much money.
So there's that, the sex was getting worse and i didn't feel he was in love with me, as i didn't feel in love with him either, it was like one day I would think things could get better and he could be right for me and the others I would just feel it just wasnt supposed to be this hard.
I was feeling we were 'on and off' all through june, july, august. Things weren't terrible, he has parts of him i was (am) completely in love with (he really likes kids, wants to get married and have a family someday, loves movies, we make each other laugh, etc etc) but than there was the insecurity in what we were feeling for each other.
So this friday, he called me, started normally but quickly turned to a little discussion, he started saying things like 'its being really hard for me, i think about our relationship all day, when i wake up, when i go to sleep, its been really stressfull. I get irritated with the way you are sometimes , as you get with me, and I know we are not going to change'. So i asked if I could go pick him up so we could talk (in the car, obviously).
As I left I was sure we were breaking up, since it was now obvious he felt the same as I. So... we broke up. And god did I cry... He asked me not to disappear, cause I was a really good person, a really good friend, and he has very few true friends. Then, this time, he started crying, he said he will be all alone, he's going to be very lonely cause he knows whats out there for him (he is not close at all to his family), that it's going to be easier for me since he was only my second guy, so there was a lot of things to experience. Then he made it clear that he would like for us to still be friends, so we could go see a movie one day or go the the beach and all and I said I don't really know since these things are hard, it's near impossible to separate our feelings I think, maybe it would be harmful.
And that was it. (jesus I wrote a little too much, i hope SOMEBODY reads it at least)
Now I ask of you:
Do you think this is possible, staying friends with an ex? In my mind I think, with time, you can stay in touch but to actually be friends... I imagine the ramifications when I'm going out with someone else for exemple, and that person discovers one of my friends is an ex-boyfriend, and that we go to the movies and to the beach alone. I surelly wouldn't feel good about it...
And sorry for all the typo's! English is not my first language.
.I always knew I was gay, at least since I was 14/15, but I never acted on it (except to fap
). I lived most of my life ignoring this and sporadically having casual sex with girls until my 20-somethings. I wasn't happy with this, obviously, but then i started college and my gaydar kinda beeped on this friend of mine (let's call him James), though he never opened up with me so I didn't do anything about it. After I graduated, I started hanging out more with him and one other friend from our class (my gaydar beeped for him too , let's call him John). And one day, before carnival, he called me to a very famous gay club here in Rio. Nothing happened (though James told me he was gay (duh!)) but it was a good experience, and then we would go out like once a month or something, always to these lgbt parties. I started opening up on the idea to actually do something about my sexuallity and all and then, in one of these parties, I casually flirted with this friend of John's (very cute, educated, a little older than me (I'm 26, he's 32, let's call him Leo), has a nice job, yada yada yada) and, obviously, I was OMFGOOOODnervous that the moment was finally happening . We live near each other so he asked me if I wanted him to take me home, and I said yes. The pussy that I am, I must have been frozen solid all the way, he passed his hand on my thigh, I ran my fingers on his hair a little, caressed his hands and than we were at my door, so we had to say our goodbyes, and I gave him a kiss, a very nervous kiss, probably, and then went home.Next day he sent me a text, said I was a very nice guy, that he wanted to meet me again someday and that was that. We texted for a while but it was hard cause he works all day so he only answered back like many hours later, and he doesn't like the internet, no facebook, no msn, no nothing (which I think now must be a plus...), so getting in touch was kinda hard since my phone plan doesn't cover many minutes :/. It went like that for a while, the weekends passed and he didn't ask me out, still exchanging messages normally though.
3 or 4 weeks went by and I had this little party at a friends house, I had already looked through the people invited on facebook and there were this really hot guy (let's call him Hottie
). I flirted a little with him there and then we went to a club, where things got a little more physical, we slept at a friends house and had 'sex' (grinded a little, oral). Next weekend was his birthday so we got together again and, since we live nearby, we started going to the beach, movies etc. This was november/december, and Leo would still call me to have a chat and everything but again never invited me for anything, he sounded like such a nice guy though, great laugh and my frind John idolizes him . Than it went on and on like this for quite awhile, I would go out with Hottie friday-saturday-sunday every week, the new years came up and we went together to a party (we had been going out for like 1 month and a half), got really drunk but i kinda felt he was a little distant that night, to make things worse this 'ex' of his appeared from nowhere at the party (yeah right), he didnt enter, initially, Hottie wasnt with me at the moment and went to the door to see this guy, I was talking to some other people somewhere else. So I went to the kitchen to get more drinks and a saw them kissing, and drunk as I was, I took off crying. We were both really really drunk so things kinda escalated in my mind. He didnt know I saw him kissing this guy, so before going home he asked me to go with him and, crying, I said no so I slept there, and later texted that things wouldnt work out, that it was better if we didnt see each other anymore. The following day, he asked me what went wrong, why I texted him that and, through facebook chat ¬¬, I poured it all out, that I thought we were at the party as a couple, not as friends, that we were getting to a point in our relatinship that demanded a little more from each other and than I asked him if he knew why I got so mad there all of a sudden, and he told me this guy was special to him because of this or that, that when he saw him there he couldn't resist kissing him cause he helped him through all this shit that happened in his family some months back AND he was drunk, and thought I hadn't seen him with the guy. He said he never imagined I liked him so much, that it wasn't clear to him, and yeah, we were'nt really going out for THAT long but i'm not the kinda guy who goes out with more than one person.
So yeah, I forgave him, we remained in touch and the next weekend I had nothing to do, he didn't either, so we went to a restaurant. Before leaving him at his house, I went for a kiss and we ended up getting back together, though not officially commited. Months passed like that and, in march, after a little discussion I asked him where we were in our relationship, cause we were going out for 4 months and still weren't official. So we were now boyfriends
. We broke up 2 days ago. Since may I thought we weren't really getting closer, as any couple should. He wouldn't ask me about my life, about my family, about what I wanted with my life, my fears etc etc, and, when I tried to open up a little, I felt he didn't really wanna listen, wasn't really invested on it. The day I told my sister I was gay (no one in my family knows, only her and her husband), he texted me something back but didn't even call or anything and I expected him to be a little more sensitive about that (he isnt out to anyone but his gay friends), he never even asked me if he should meet her. At the same time, the sex was getting worse, we weren't really connecting. Problem was, I wasnt out, he wasnt out, so I couldn't go to his place and he couldn't go to mine, so basically we had sex in the car, which can get boring fast, and doesnt have that many room for doing whatever we wanna do, or I (only me) payed for a motel. And I'm not fond of motels since there's no spontaneity but I paid once in a while. Plus I dont have that much money.
So there's that, the sex was getting worse and i didn't feel he was in love with me, as i didn't feel in love with him either, it was like one day I would think things could get better and he could be right for me and the others I would just feel it just wasnt supposed to be this hard.
I was feeling we were 'on and off' all through june, july, august. Things weren't terrible, he has parts of him i was (am) completely in love with (he really likes kids, wants to get married and have a family someday, loves movies, we make each other laugh, etc etc) but than there was the insecurity in what we were feeling for each other.
So this friday, he called me, started normally but quickly turned to a little discussion, he started saying things like 'its being really hard for me, i think about our relationship all day, when i wake up, when i go to sleep, its been really stressfull. I get irritated with the way you are sometimes , as you get with me, and I know we are not going to change'. So i asked if I could go pick him up so we could talk (in the car, obviously
).As I left I was sure we were breaking up, since it was now obvious he felt the same as I. So... we broke up
. And god did I cry... He asked me not to disappear, cause I was a really good person, a really good friend, and he has very few true friends. Then, this time, he started crying, he said he will be all alone, he's going to be very lonely cause he knows whats out there for him (he is not close at all to his family), that it's going to be easier for me since he was only my second guy, so there was a lot of things to experience. Then he made it clear that he would like for us to still be friends, so we could go see a movie one day or go the the beach and all and I said I don't really know since these things are hard, it's near impossible to separate our feelings I think, maybe it would be harmful. And that was it. (jesus I wrote a little too much, i hope SOMEBODY reads it at least
)Now I ask of you:
Do you think this is possible, staying friends with an ex? In my mind I think, with time, you can stay in touch but to actually be friends... I imagine the ramifications when I'm going out with someone else for exemple, and that person discovers one of my friends is an ex-boyfriend, and that we go to the movies and to the beach alone. I surelly wouldn't feel good about it...
And sorry for all the typo's! English is not my first language
.it is possible to stay friends with an ex, but sometimes it's very tenuous. I've tried it with several ex's, and in many cases there's still feelings there which makes it really tough on their side of things.
recently, one kept taking my friendly offers as a sign i was still interested despite me repeatedly and explicitly telling him otherwise...
recently, one kept taking my friendly offers as a sign i was still interested despite me repeatedly and explicitly telling him otherwise...
I am not sure what this first portion has to do with your overall story, but it's great you have an accurate gaydar.Hey y'all! I've been a lurker on neogaf for quite a while now and this thread always had my attention. Just wanna leave my little story since I'm new on this relashionship thing and just broke up with my first bf
I always knew I was gay, at least since I was 14/15, but I never acted on it (except to fap
Next day he sent me a text, said I was a very nice guy, that he wanted to meet me again someday and that was that. We texted for a while but it was hard cause he works all day so he only answered back like many hours later, and he doesn't like the internet, no facebook, no msn, no nothing (which I think now must be a plus...), so getting in touch was kinda hard since my phone plan doesn't cover many minutes :/. It went like that for a while, the weekends passed and he didn't ask me out, still exchanging messages normally though.
I absolutely do think it's possible, but then again this is coming from someone with very little experience in this department. You have more experience than I do. Anyway, yes I think it's possible to stay friends with an ex. I think it would probably be a nice thing. It kinda shows how both of you got something positive about the whole relationship and you're not holding on to old scars. Of course, for it to work, both individuals have to want to stay friends, and this is where the problem usually happens. If the break up was primarily one sided then it's possible that the other person still has strong feelings, and staying friends is going to be incredibly difficult. If that person knows that staying friends is not going to be an option, then I guess it's the correct thing to do for the other person to respect that and give him that space. He probably just needs the time to heal, and even then it's possible that you two just will never be friends again. I just find that terribly sad, but it's just the way it is sometimes. From your story, it seems like both of you weren't feeling the love anymore, so the break up didn't seem too one sided. I could totally see you two maintaining this friendship. I bet that would be a nice thing for him since he's supposedly alone, but really you two are the ones that would know if that's truly a viable option. If you want, you can just take some time off from each other and then see how you two feel.3 or 4 weeks went by and I had this little party at a friends house, I had already looked through the people invited on facebook and there were this really hot guy (let's call him Hottie
Than it went on and on like this for quite awhile, I would go out with Hottie friday-saturday-sunday every week, the new years came up and we went together to a party (we had been going out for like 1 month and a half), got really drunk but i kinda felt he was a little distant that night, to make things worse this 'ex' of his appeared from nowhere at the party (yeah right), he didnt enter, initially, Hottie wasnt with me at the moment and went to the door to see this guy, I was talking to some other people somewhere else. So I went to the kitchen to get more drinks and a saw them kissing, and drunk as I was, I took off crying. We were both really really drunk so things kinda escalated in my mind. He didnt know I saw him kissing this guy, so before going home he asked me to go with him and, crying, I said no so I slept there, and later texted that things wouldnt work out, that it was better if we didnt see each other anymore. The following day, he asked me what went wrong, why I texted him that and, through facebook chat ¬¬, I poured it all out, that I thought we were at the party as a couple, not as friends, that we were getting to a point in our relatinship that demanded a little more from each other and than I asked him if he knew why I got so mad there all of a sudden, and he told me this guy was special to him because of this or that, that when he saw him there he couldn't resist kissing him cause he helped him through all this shit that happened in his family some months back AND he was drunk, and thought I hadn't seen him with the guy. He said he never imagined I liked him so much, that it wasn't clear to him, and yeah, we were'nt really going out for THAT long but i'm not the kinda guy who goes out with more than one person.
So yeah, I forgave him, we remained in touch and the next weekend I had nothing to do, he didn't either, so we went to a restaurant. Before leaving him at his house, I went for a kiss and we ended up getting back together, though not officially commited. Months passed like that and, in march, after a little discussion I asked him where we were in our relationship, cause we were going out for 4 months and still weren't official. So we were now boyfriends
We broke up 2 days ago. Since may I thought we weren't really getting closer, as any couple should. He wouldn't ask me about my life, about my family, about what I wanted with my life, my fears etc etc, and, when I tried to open up a little, I felt he didn't really wanna listen, wasn't really invested on it. The day I told my sister I was gay (no one in my family knows, only her and her husband), he texted me something back but didn't even call or anything and I expected him to be a little more sensitive about that (he isnt out to anyone but his gay friends), he never even asked me if he should meet her. At the same time, the sex was getting worse, we weren't really connecting. Problem was, I wasnt out, he wasnt out, so I couldn't go to his place and he couldn't go to mine, so basically we had sex in the car, which can get boring fast, and doesnt have that many room for doing whatever we wanna do, or I (only me) payed for a motel. And I'm not fond of motels since there's no spontaneity but I paid once in a while. Plus I dont have that much money.
So there's that, the sex was getting worse and i didn't feel he was in love with me, as i didn't feel in love with him either, it was like one day I would think things could get better and he could be right for me and the others I would just feel it just wasnt supposed to be this hard.
I was feeling we were 'on and off' all through june, july, august. Things weren't terrible, he has parts of him i was (am) completely in love with (he really likes kids, wants to get married and have a family someday, loves movies, we make each other laugh, etc etc) but than there was the insecurity in what we were feeling for each other.
So this friday, he called me, started normally but quickly turned to a little discussion, he started saying things like 'its being really hard for me, i think about our relationship all day, when i wake up, when i go to sleep, its been really stressfull. I get irritated with the way you are sometimes , as you get with me, and I know we are not going to change'. So i asked if I could go pick him up so we could talk (in the car, obviously
As I left I was sure we were breaking up, since it was now obvious he felt the same as I. So... we broke up
And that was it. (jesus I wrote a little too much, i hope SOMEBODY reads it at least
Now I ask of you:
Do you think this is possible, staying friends with an ex? In my mind I think, with time, you can stay in touch but to actually be friends... I imagine the ramifications when I'm going out with someone else for exemple, and that person discovers one of my friends is an ex-boyfriend, and that we go to the movies and to the beach alone. I surelly wouldn't feel good about it...
Regarding the question about going out with someone whose friend is an ex-boyfriend. Hopefully, you can get to a point where you know this guy a little better and you can understand exactly what kind of relationship he has with his ex. Every situation is different. In some cases, he might still be friends with his ex and that's it. Just friends. Other times there are probably boyfriend feelings still there. Really, it's on a case by case basis, but I would hate to be in a position where I'd want to keep my boyfriend away from his friends. Sorry, if I don't have a lot of advice, but I did read your whole story, and I just hope you feel better soon. [:
No worries. Your English is great for not being a native speaker.And sorry for all the typo's! English is not my first language
Heh, yeah, it's not as easy for me to talk now that the proverbial shoe is on the other foot.
In this instance, it isn't so much that he's being evasive or shutting me out... we get on wonderfully, have no problem talking for hours, texting throughout the day, etc. Because I'm completely inexperienced in dating, I honestly don't know how to transition from conversation into "hey, this is where we start making out, ok?"
I just don't want him to think there's no physical interest on my part (because, good Lord, there is so much) and make a shift -- consciously or unconsciously -- from going on dates with me to simply hanging out periodically.
what Isaac and Soco say its true, there are definitely positive signals but you can't rely on that and waste feelings, efforts and time in the process. Sadly, there are people who do things out of courtesy {FUCK THEM, I despise that attitude more than anything in the dating topic) and you gotta make sure the interest is mutual and he isn't thinking he is doing you the favor of hanging out with you or talking nice over the phone.
My advice would be to send a message stating in a casual manner how you feel and what you are looking forward to. It's hard to find with the right words, because you can come off as desperate or pushy, depending on how you formulate your thoughts.... but I think it's the best thing you can do, put the ball on his side.
either that or play along the waiting game...
congrats if you manage to do that, I couldn't, so no more dates for me for the time being.
Escape Goat
Member
Yessir. I know you were there for a while, as well, and we had a mutual friend as well. I don't think I ever met you (unless my memory is playing total havoc with me).
Also, thanks for the compliments, boys!
Ah, yes. I thought you looked familiar. I think you were dating whatshisface from Estonia. I used to be friends with his landlord but I haven't talked to anyone from Indy in years. I kind of miss it actually.
excelforward
Member
Ah, yes. I thought you looked familiar. I think you were dating whatshisface from Estonia. I used to be friends with his landlord but I haven't talked to anyone from Indy in years. I kind of miss it actually.
Yup, and as I found out it was less dating more friends-with-benefits sort of deal with Hanno. I miss Indy every once in a while, but it's only a 3 1/2 hour drive for me, so I make a trip for a few days every six months or so.
Staying friends with an ex?
I suppose some people can manage it, but I know I sure as hell can't. As much as I'm totally over my last relationship (and it pains me to admit this, really), I am still bitter as fuck about it and it would just be impossible for me to not blow up and say something eventually or just be super passive aggressive because asfj;lkjas;flkajsf;kljasf;j
So basically this:
I suppose some people can manage it, but I know I sure as hell can't. As much as I'm totally over my last relationship (and it pains me to admit this, really), I am still bitter as fuck about it and it would just be impossible for me to not blow up and say something eventually or just be super passive aggressive because asfj;lkjas;flkajsf;kljasf;j
So basically this:
if it's someone just going along, it doesn't matter anyway. as you say, fuck them. i don't think making a move is necessarily wasting feelings or effort, especially compared to waiting
worst case you get shot down, but then you know. if he's younger, then someone has to make a move and that almost always falls on the older person...
Cosmic Bus
pristine morning snow
Was afraid of that, haha. I had hoped with him being 21 that he'd just jump on top of me, but alas, neither of us is especially aggressive.
Am going to try not to stress about this today; after a full day, I think it'll be on my mind less.
He's got a big one, eh?
Giiirl, not all of us are size queens!
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
SpaceBridge
Member
He's got a big one, eh?
For someone so obsessed with size, I wonder just when was the last time you got one of any size.
Soco and HylianTom, thanks for answering!
Since there weren't any strong feelings in the end, I don't think this could be a problem for us.
_Isaac, thanks for the compliment! That intro was just for you guys to get to know me a little, how I started my first 'real' relationships .
That part about the other guy, Leo, was just because he texted me again this week, and he seems like a really nice guy, I think I'm gonna try and get to know him a little more, now that I'm free to do it, but i don't really know when I'll be 'ready' to get back in the game.
After I submitted my story I went for a little walk/jogging on the beach and who do I run into? Yup, the ex. He was just riding his bike so we both stopped and, as we complimented each other, I could see he was emotional, as I was, so we started talking about what we were doing, what we did the day before to cope with the break up and then we came back together all the way near my house. I felt very relieved by having this conversation, we talked a little more about why we didnt work out and we agreed on everything, that it was just too hard in the end for both of us. As we said our goodbyes I got a little emotional, we hugged and went our ways.
Our break up definitely WASN'T one-sided, so that leaves the possibility of these boyfriend-feelings being forgotten with time and only the friendship remaning.
So yeah... maybe I can, someday, be friends with him. I don't know about the part where we go to the beach/movies whatever, maybe it would be easy for now, when we're not seeing other people, but I can see it being really complicated for a future boyfriend of mine to be totally ok with it. I would be a bit insecure if it was the opposite, I'm sure.
And Sai-kun, I agree that if we had broken up like that, with all the angst, anger etc, I wouldn't want to stay in touch, I would want that person to disappear completely from my life, eternal sunshine from a spotless mind-style!
Since there weren't any strong feelings in the end, I don't think this could be a problem for us.
_Isaac, thanks for the compliment
! That intro was just for you guys to get to know me a little, how I started my first 'real' relationships . That part about the other guy, Leo, was just because he texted me again this week, and he seems like a really nice guy, I think I'm gonna try and get to know him a little more, now that I'm free to do it, but i don't really know when I'll be 'ready' to get back in the game.
After I submitted my story I went for a little walk/jogging on the beach and who do I run into? Yup, the ex. He was just riding his bike so we both stopped and, as we complimented each other, I could see he was emotional, as I was, so we started talking about what we were doing, what we did the day before to cope with the break up and then we came back together all the way near my house. I felt very relieved by having this conversation, we talked a little more about why we didnt work out and we agreed on everything, that it was just too hard in the end for both of us. As we said our goodbyes I got a little emotional, we hugged and went our ways.
Our break up definitely WASN'T one-sided, so that leaves the possibility of these boyfriend-feelings being forgotten with time and only the friendship remaning.
So yeah... maybe I can, someday, be friends with him. I don't know about the part where we go to the beach/movies whatever, maybe it would be easy for now, when we're not seeing other people, but I can see it being really complicated for a future boyfriend of mine to be totally ok with it. I would be a bit insecure if it was the opposite, I'm sure.
And Sai-kun, I agree that if we had broken up like that, with all the angst, anger etc, I wouldn't want to stay in touch, I would want that person to disappear completely from my life, eternal sunshine from a spotless mind-style!
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
So he's sub 4 inches? I'm so sorry!
I'm just yanking your chain. <3
You're just gonna have to keep on wondering, sis. ;0
lordfroakie
Member
It is totally possible to be friends with an ex. It obviously depends on the situation and on the individuals involved, but in my case all of my exes are friends. I don't have any lingering romantic feelings toward them and that's probably why we are friends. I have had wonderful relationships with them which helped me grow into the person I am now and I'm thankful for that. That said, it ended for a reason so I don't want to get back with them at all.
It usually took some time to be really friends though. It didn't happen overnight and it has been hard at times.
It usually took some time to be really friends though. It didn't happen overnight and it has been hard at times.
Your "afro" looks fine. I also have to say that third picture with the 90s comedy vhs cover pose is pretty awesome.
This GIF is amazing!
Yes, I believe that's what's gonna happen with me and him. Of course, I "care" for him, want him to be happy and have a great life, and am pretty sure that's what he wants for me but, the way things ended, I don't think there's a possibility of us getting back together, unless it's like in 10 years or something. In the last 3 months of our relationship I was really struggling with the idea of ending it all or not, always looking for a sign to continue or not and, since he's a really good company in a friendly way (likes most of the same things I do, we talked about everything, our only problems were when we talked about our relationship itself), I would always give us some more time. Things don't magically change, though, so it was always the on and off thing, one day I would be happy when thinking about him, the other I would question if I was actually in love with him still or not.
MyAbsolution
Member
The camera is not the best and my afro is terrible but I really like these pictures.
D'aawwww.
Such a cute couple
And thats an afro? If it is, then I really like it.Please post more cute couple pics.
I asked that question. He must have you on his brain. ;P
Mystic Theurge
Member
It's not. SomeoneCool is just a huge tease.
You definitely couldn't keep a chocobo in that.
Oh look at THESE cuties.
dragonlife
Member
Labrys's story mode: why can't I hold in all these yawns?
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Cry more about your robogirl not being in a relevant JRPG series, bb.
#slayed
#Persowned
dragonlife
Member
It was just really predictable if you played any of the other characters' stories before (which you have to, anyway, in order to unlock hers).
SpaceBridge
Member
Please no P4A spoilers guys. I just started today.
I wasn't sure where to post this, cause there is a thread for real pics and all that...but since I didn't like my last pic here and the pic topic seems to be still on a roll, I hope you guys allow me to post here.
Went skating with friends, last time we did was... like 3 years ago. It was great, lots of exercise! and I got to do some moves I did back then when I was taking lessons.
Went skating with friends, last time we did was... like 3 years ago. It was great, lots of exercise! and I got to do some moves I did back then when I was taking lessons.
Spread Eagle
about to land a "single loop"
the "Check Out" (position you have to hold after landing a jump, this one's a bit crappy, free leg should be way higher)
dragonlife
Member
I've only been ice-skating once in my life when I was very young. I'd love to try it again sometime, though.
wat
...then why's he hinting at stuff about a game you barely started? He specifically told you.Please no P4A spoilers guys. I just started today.
wat
SpaceBridge
Member
I dunno. Seks knows I just started. I have no idea what he's referencing.
I am not Space, but...
Just search for "the art of Nickie" on Google.
I would link to his blog, but it's NSFW: nickieryhmeswithhickie.blogspot.[CANYOUGUESSWHATWORDSHOULDBEHERE?]
¡No hay problema!
I do like how Nickie draws faces... mainly noses, jaws and eyes. I always notice those, specially because I used to draw when younger. Every once in a while I draw a face
(Fake spoiler but just for Space to avoid)
To be fair, all the stories are pretty much the same if you even played arcade mode. I feel no effort really went into the story of this even in story mode. Aigis and Labrys are the only two so far that aren't "me-too"-y.
Aigis and Labrys are the only two so far that aren't "me-too"-y.- Status