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Gay and Bisexual thread |OT2|Bears and Twinks and Otters. Oh My!
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VICTORsaurio
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I don't think I actually believed it was my fault it's just that I never got closure from that "relationship". I'm probably not going to do anything about it but if I ever bump to him on the streets I might say hi (I would have avoided him like the plague before).
The fact is that I didn't date anyone else than him and my ex so I just feel sort of out of the game (which I never was a part of to begin with). So it seems easier to go back to someone I know, that I liked and that (seemed to) liked me back instead of venturing out to the unknown.
I should just get some balls and go out there. It's only been 5 months since I broke up with my ex so I'm in no hurry.
Exactly. I understand the appeal of something familiar. However there is no hurry for you to get settled and find someone. Being content on your own is tantamount to you being happy with someone else.
PowderedToast
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hey gaf, i think i just had the most polite and stress-free break up of all time
my gf and i discovered together that i was bi about a year ago (it's never been a problem), but after a year of long-distance, we've both just realised that the lack of intimacy wasn't working. i still love her, she's gorgeous in every possible way. this is p fucking crazy idk. 30 mins ago i was envisioning a long term future, now i'm single and i don't feel very sad at all
so yea, that's the really abbreviated version - we'd actually broke up once before for the duration of two months, i posted about it here iirc. the difference now is that it couldn't have been more mutual or natural. i've never experienced anything like this before
anywho the main point is that i think i'll be pursuing a guy this time round, which is crazy/exciting/idk how the fuck to go about it. i might be asking for help in the future! i haven't come out to my parents and i don't know how or when i will do it (i just turned 21), but it probably have to happen soon
but yea, this is a really nice community and i wanted to share my brief b/g in case i start posting here on the regular
my gf and i discovered together that i was bi about a year ago (it's never been a problem), but after a year of long-distance, we've both just realised that the lack of intimacy wasn't working. i still love her, she's gorgeous in every possible way. this is p fucking crazy idk. 30 mins ago i was envisioning a long term future, now i'm single and i don't feel very sad at all
so yea, that's the really abbreviated version - we'd actually broke up once before for the duration of two months, i posted about it here iirc. the difference now is that it couldn't have been more mutual or natural. i've never experienced anything like this before
anywho the main point is that i think i'll be pursuing a guy this time round, which is crazy/exciting/idk how the fuck to go about it. i might be asking for help in the future! i haven't come out to my parents and i don't know how or when i will do it (i just turned 21), but it probably have to happen soon
but yea, this is a really nice community and i wanted to share my brief b/g in case i start posting here on the regular
Henchmen21
Banned
Hey guys. How's everyone doing?
Not too shabby. Enjoying that football player thread.. those pics are excellent! Watching USC-Notre Dame with the bf (he likes #80 on Notre Dame; his nickname for this player is "The Tripod").
I'm on neuro call, so we can't do much. Once football is over, we'll play some Mario and go to bed. A pretty decent Saturday night.
Escape Goat
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hey gaf, i think i just had the most polite and stress-free break up of all time
my gf and i discovered together that i was bi about a year ago (it's never been a problem), but after a year of long-distance, we've both just realised that the lack of intimacy wasn't working. i still love her, she's gorgeous in every possible way. this is p fucking crazy idk. 30 mins ago i was envisioning a long term future, now i'm single and i don't feel very sad at all
so yea, that's the really abbreviated version - we'd actually broke up once before for the duration of two months, i posted about it here iirc. the difference now is that it couldn't have been more mutual or natural. i've never experienced anything like this before
anywho the main point is that i think i'll be pursuing a guy this time round, which is crazy/exciting/idk how the fuck to go about it. i might be asking for help in the future! i haven't come out to my parents and i don't know how or when i will do it (i just turned 21), but it probably have to happen soon
but yea, this is a really nice community and i wanted to share my brief b/g in case i start posting here on the regular
Why are you deciding which gender to date? Why not decide on a person by person basis instead of taking turns? Also, why do you have to come out to your parents soon? Don't rush things and just deal with things as they come and when you're ready.
PowderedToast
Junior Member
i've never been with a guy before, and after just finishing a 4 yr relationship i really feel like i need to discover myself. anything could happen, but it's not in my plans to get with another female
the situation with my parents is just frustrating. i'm carrying a lot of stress because i'm repressing my opinions and behaviour around them. i also wear bits of makeup occasionally but don't apply it unless i'm in a friends house or out etc. just really crap things like that. wouldn't be as big of a problem if i wasn't living at home, but alas that's all my financial situation allows atm
Henchmen21
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But didn't your mother ever teach you to take turns?
Teh Hamburglar a selfish lover confirmed?That get's me to thinking. A question for Bi gaf. Which sex do you feel more inclined towards? Like if you could see yourself settling down with someone (assuming you haven't already)? Just curious.
RatskyWatsky
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I don't have an inclination towards one or the other to be honest. I can just as easily picture myself with a man as I can with a woman.
But didn't your mother ever teach you to take turns?
That get's me to thinking. A question for Bi gaf. Which sex do you feel more inclined towards? Like if you could see yourself settling down with someone (assuming you haven't already)? Just curious.
Historically my long term relationships have been mostly with girls, but my sexual partners are about an even split. Don't know what that says, if anything. I have had a great relationship with a man, but it didn't work out for the same reasons all the others didn't
As for the future? I currently have a gf I love very much, but I have no preconceived ideas about what any future partner would have between their legs.Henchmen21
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Cool. Thanks for the replies guys.
Lol think I'm starting to get a fetish for bi guys.
Lol think I'm starting to get a fetish for bi guys.
Exterminieren
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Genuinely little to no preference. The majority of my romantic life has been with girls, due to only recently realising that I was bi, but I'd be more than happy to be in a relationship with anyone at the moment.
Hmm. I remember one time when I was young seeing a bi bf of mine bf crankin' it to naked women online. I completely couldn't relate to him, and it was enough of an ick factor to get inside my head and undermine things.
I was in the wrong on that one; it was my problem. Young and stupid I was (and too damn insecure).
But didn't your mother ever teach you to take turns?
That get's me to thinking. A question for Bi gaf. Which sex do you feel more inclined towards? Like if you could see yourself settling down with someone (assuming you haven't already)? Just curious.
I've always thought I'd eventually settle down with a woman, but I'm very boy crazy right now. I think the lack of stable gay couples in my life also plays a role. Two men who aren't insecure and happily together tends to feel like a myth sometimes.
That sucks man, don't be too hard on yourself though. That is pretty common experience for women who date bi men too, although at least they can relate to liking dick
But it is hard to feel like you are providing what your partner wants when they are looking at the opposite gender to yourself.Henchmen21
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That sucks man, don't be too hard on yourself though. That is pretty common experience for women who date bi men too, although at least they can relate to liking dick
That's my biggest fear about dating a bi guy. It's not like I believe he wouldn't be monogamous. But that I'd feel guilty about him closing off a part of himself for me.
I think I feel like this. I'd say I have a very clear preference for guys, but it's not like I can't appreciate an attractive woman. The latter eventuality just seems so much more real, I guess.
Doesn't help that I'm stuck at the miserable (though picturesque) ends of the earth and there just aren't many decent guys around, I guess.
PowderedToast
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i think i'll call up a friend soon and go out with him into town. i'm not typically a nightlife guy, but i want to check out the gay spots in my city so i can get a feel of them and see whether they're my bag
any advice for first timers? i'm not a social recluse or anything btw, just prefer quiet nights over loud ones
any advice for first timers? i'm not a social recluse or anything btw, just prefer quiet nights over loud ones
MyAbsolution
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Only advice I can give:
Just know that its not for everyone... if you don't like what you see, THATS OK. Thats normal. You can be into dudes but not into the more "scene" aspect of nightlife or clubs. In case you were worrying which I don't think you were tho
Annnddd ummm, try to have fun?Just be safe and make sure you stay with your friends. Also, there's no shame in bailing if you get overwhelmed.
PowderedToast
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thanks guys
now i'm somewhat scared :x
i will likely post my experience (if it's worth writing about)
now i'm somewhat scared :x
i will likely post my experience (if it's worth writing about)
Cosmic Bus
pristine morning snow
I'm actually having sex dreams about a girl in my classes now. This is getting ridiculous... >:|
I don't mean t be cruel but I actually lol'ed.
I had a sex dream this past friday and it was pretty much perfect, at least when you woke up from your dream you felt relieved it was just a dream, I felt crushed.
CHEEZMO
Obsidian fan
I'm listening.
Exterminieren
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Well, that's true for any relationship with anyone, to a certain extent.
Partners don't have to share likes and preferences.
Exterminieren
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yayyyyyyy
Go get those girls, Emilie.
Go get those girls, Emilie.
I found OKCupid's stock, crazy optimistic emails more annoying than anything. The site was starting to flood my email account.
Dead Prince
Banned
flood you with dicks bro.
freenudemacusers
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Bro are we gonna have to get your groove back by force next time I'm in town?
And I don't mean me damnit :0.
But girls want me SO BAD
Huh, gay men want me SO BAD too. This was before I had uploaded a photo or anything, so the very idea of an average freshman college student must have had men chomping at the bit. It's hard being me sometimes.
dragonlife
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Multiple dreams, huh. I've had one or two dreams in my life about sex with women. They were weird, to say the least.
You giveth and taketh in one swoop.Bro are we gonna have to get your groove back by force next time I'm in town?
And I don't mean me damnit :0.
Cosmic Bus
pristine morning snow
It's okay. I think he intends to offer luckyboyceo as a sacrificial lamb of sorts...
dragonlife
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Best friend ever, that macuser.
Bro are we gonna have to get your groove back by force next time I'm in town?
And I don't mean me damnit :0.
i'm not sure how to interpret that sequence of smileys...
Henchmen21
Banned
I don't remember my dreams usually. Which is weird cause one time I woke up crying and I didn't know what the hell I was dreaming about.
So what you're saying is that you just told all gaygaf you like to top
P.S. I don't think the rudolph nose works with your avvy but that's just me.
Delio said:
So what you're saying is that you just told all gaygaf you like to top
P.S. I don't think the rudolph nose works with your avvy but that's just me.
Padawan of Windu
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Only advice I can give:
Just know that its not for everyone... if you don't like what you see, THATS OK. Thats normal. You can be into dudes but not into the more "scene" aspect of nightlife or clubs. In case you were worrying which I don't think you were tho
Absolutely this. When I was in high school I couldn't wait to go to a club when I was in college ( which in hindsight was silly, as I didn't like dancing or loud music, and was straight edge.) When I actually did go with people from my dorm freshman year, it was a horrid, unpleasant experience for the most part. I ended up outside calling my boyfriend because I couldn't handle being there.
xxczx
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im (kinda) seeing a bi guy right now. last time i saw him he said he loves kids and wants three of them.
kinda depressed me a little tbh
but thinking about it now makes me laugh, cus i really like this guy and refuse to admit that whatever I have with this guy won't last. that just confirmed it i guess.
You don't want kids at all?
xxczx
Member
Nope. Don't feel like I would be a good parent.
Cosmic Bus
pristine morning snow
Black Spark is finally doing new videos after several reclusive months. Thank Jebus I'm on the path towards impure gay thoughts again.
freenudemacusers
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lol there are plenty of boys in the SEA.
Henchmen21
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lol there are plenty of boys in the SEA.
Calling out my own naivete here. What's SEA?
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